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Sonnobax15:
Haaaaaaa . This thing get as e be oh...It seems she's very desperate . You just have to be careful of all these despirados flooding the social media platforms .

27 be like 30 already

czarr:
Hope you guys talked in the phone or did video call, if not you could be talking to slawomirr and his likes.

She wants to travel and see you, is it with her money?

Yes we did video calls.
As for the travelling issue the transport sef no be my issue just that I'm not interested in her as a lover.

Sonnobax15:

Op,this part of the world we live in,women believe men are birthed with the wooing right . That's the kind of mentality they've been impacted with..

Btw,how old is she?

She's 27

Ok guys I'm back again... I had a funny experience recently. For a while now I've been trying to get a suitable match for dating and possibly marriage much later. However it's been a while since I used my skills to attract my desired women. I don't woo girls as a rule I only have some skillful intelligent conversations with them and they trip. I used this to get several women back then but however as one keeps advancing in age, responsibilities become priotized hence I "lost" touch greatly with the dating world and things became a bit rusty when I wanted resuming. Lol.

Now here's the thing...since I haven't found a suitable mate physically, I decided to go the online way, something I've never fancied as I had always felt it was purely scam. I've met couple of people there so far with different interests

So there's this lady I was matched with, although not within my location, and we got chatting. I considered her a very funny person because she was really lovely and social. We chatted casually just for few minutes the first night and then the next day she started professing love to me. Initially I thought she was joking. Now, note that I'm physically attractive and I'm always in control (not negatively) when talking with the opposite sex and this has made lots of girls like me from afar while few of them had the guts to tell me directly or indirectly. Lol. The average guy would be excited when a girl likes him and goes ahead to woo him but that's not me. I don't know why but I've never considered it a big deal as I see it as just a babe expressing her intentions nothing else. I make it a rule to only date who I like whether na me toast you or na you toast me. To me it's the same. I've accepted some ladies before while I've turned down others but in a very humane manner because I know how rejection feels like and I wouldn't want anyone feeling that way.

Now after this lady started expressing herself strongly I knew she may be serious and so I had to ask her if she really meant everything she's been saying so far? She said yes. She's very pretty and as such she expected me to say "ok, I'm in" but instead of saying that I started trying to avoid her advances because to be honest she's not my type but I couldn't tell her that because I was only interested in her as a friend. And then even if you want to be In a relationship with me, you don't expect to chat with me last night and confess love the next day and I'd say yes. You do not know anything about me yet neither do I know anything about you. She started telling me she loves me and went ahead to force me to say same to her. At first I resisted and after a couple of hours she did same again and I was forced to say " I love you too." Those words were so heavy in my mouth. Now she was was about going offline and told me to say something sweet to her. I said "you are beautiful and have an attractive personality." She said no that's not what she wants to hear. Ha! I said something else which I can't remember right now she still said no! She then went ahead to say she was giving me the last chance to say something to her before she goes offline. But I still refused. So she went offline and has refused to reply me messages or calls anymore. She even started charging her status to pass a message across to me all in a bid to let me know that I messed up by not reciprocating the love she showed me under one and half day. She had even requested I invite her from where she so that she can travel down to where I live so we can spend time but I smartly turned her down. As it stands now I think she dislikes me for turning her down because she even went ahead to post a status that talks about how that if she loves someone and the person doesn't cooperate she can hate the person right away. Naso I weak.

Now the question is.. why do ladies find it hard to handle rejection? Why do they believe that every guy they're interested in must become interested in them too? Don't guys have the right to say no to the advances of a lady? How about when they say no to lots of guys in sometimes very hurting manner and act like it's nothing? Do the guys go ahead to start renting? I really don't think this selfish mindset is nice.

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FreeIgboho:
As an introvert, I don't know what you talking about

Your wahala plenty.

FreeIgboho:
Well, everybody can't be introvert. More likely, they don't know the definition or don't know other options

Introvert get grades

FreeIgboho:
Too many people start with "As an introvert..."
It's become annoying

They recognise themselves as introverts. If they describe themselves as such it's probably because they really are.

Kobojunkie:
Read my response and compare to your response there.

You mentioned that the accounts of my exes are valid abi? And me I dey tell you say na babe wey no wise dey depend on hear say. What if my exes and I weren't compatible? Does that mean that me and the new babe will not be? Abi I no go marry because say I get some exes wey no talk good about me because I refused to dance to their tune? A man should never allow a woman's manipulations control him.

Kobojunkie:
Intelligent people are humans beings especially where it has to do with relationships and where relationships are concerned, the accounts of your Ex'es are considered valid, not hearsay.

So if you want to attract intelligent women, you may want to start laying down a more intelligent trail that leads to you.

So you're saying not allowing a woman toy with me reduces my chances of getting hooked to a good woman just because the one I "discarded" may be friends with the one I'm trying to get hooked to?Dude chill. If the good one sef no wan get sense make she sef follow the friend dey go. No be do or die affair. I'm in charge of my mental health and I won't let anyone spoil that for me.

Kobojunkie:
Imagine an intelligent woman, let's call her Sandy, is friends with some of the women you have devalued her. When Sandy sits and talks with her friends and the topic is you, do you think Sandy would want anything to do with you from what she hears of you from her friends?

Patience is a virtue but also have go be careful what you put out there about yourself for others to see. Intelligent folks like to do their own research on those they link up with, women too. And my guess is there are intelligent women in your vicinity, only the reason they distance themselves from you maybe because of the vibes you have been putting out there.

If intelligent is what you truly desire, then start acting intelligently.

Bros an intelligent person will do their findings themselves not just relying on hear-say. That's why it's called intelligence.

Godada:




Patience is not just a virtue but a quality of gods.

Life is in itself is not even simple.

When it comes to women, things are supposed to be done in phases except you are negotiating a hook up.

I am not saying you should get all emotionally and financially invested but wisdom of the sages places a premium on patience.

But in adherence to patience. If the bitch sweats you, kick her out.

If you get her over the finish line, pull her to your bumper, pump her and dump her.

But stay woke.......while you are at it, you may meet a rare gem. Keep that gem and keep rinsing and watching.

Guy you're right. If I meet a rare gem while searching I don't mind chasing, getting and keeping her. Why stress me if you don't have anything to offer?

GoldenJAT:
You are exactly like me! U see that woman stress! Count me out.
Some of them na just coconut head them get, nothing de inside.

Lol. I think say na only me. I even try to engage them in conversations regarding current happenings na so dem go sharply change the topic to celebrity talk and social media nonsense. How will their kids become intelligent if the mama no gree upgrade herself at this stage?

Myzubby:
ofcourse you will always get along easily with your type
it is disgusting to know that most ladies and young girls olny think and talk about phones fashion and celebrities even a good communication one can hardly have with them now.

This was too painful to read.

FreeIgboho:
Everybody just dey claim introvert. Who now come be extrovert and ambivert??

Claim? Is there money attached to claiming introvert? Na everything una dey find fault.

Myzubby:
well who still wastes time in chasings a girl? I concur with some things you say . Some ladies feel special because alot of boys and sex hungry dudes are after them so they try to place a worthless value on themselves

on the otherhand , some girls who are intelligent and has invested in them selves as in they have developed themselves mentally and psychologically sound will not only seems to be hard to get but also priceless their type are few
I love Godly Displined Smart and Intelligent Ladies .

Intelligent women are smart. They know what they want. If they see their match, they align with him. Even if na those type stress me, I no mind because I know say na gold I dey pursue. Not all these ones that can hardly answer one question in current affairs. Always making videos of themselves with heavy makeup and turning head like standing fan on social media.

This matter? I no know wetin to talk. My concern is not that he married a young girl... My concern rather is how long he has been eyeing her. Maybe since she was 2 or 3 years old? Seeing that he waited to marry a girl whom he carried as a baby makes me cringe.

My submission is that if you must stress me, make sure say na oil dey your head so that my chasing will not be in vain. No carry ogogoro for head still dey stress me.

Hello guys I'll try to be brief.
I'm an introvert by nature, (although not chronic) handsome and love pursuing knowledge whenever I can. Because of these I have observed overtime that I can enjoy my self with or without being in a relationship. Now, getting girls have never been a problem but the problem however is that I don't have patience with women. No matter how much I'm tripping for a babe, if I notice that she's trying to make things hard for me by either forming or playing hard to get even though she likes me, I can make a U-turn in few days as if I've never been interested in you at all. At this point, the babe in question may become confused as to why I turned my back on her even though I showed visible signs of interest. Truth is I believe that life should be simple. If you like me and I like you why stress me? I'm a redpiller (No apologies) and I also don't believe in a woman wasting my time as I believe that there are better things to achieve than hanging around a babe that's confused. I love intelligent women but the problem is that I hardly come across them. Even if a woman wants to stress me let it be that she's coming to add value to my life and not all these fine-faced but empty headed babes littered everywhere. I'm not saying this to berate women it's just that I've noticed that the intelligent ones are rare and they actually know what they want. If they see a man they connect to, they don't stress the man... Because they're smart. But you see all these ones that are sworn to a life of makeup without brain, they're the ones that make you keep chasing them and in the end the only thing you can get is different styles of sex. No reasonable value from them to you. So the question is... Is cutting off a woman suddenly because she's playing hard to get even though she likes me wrong?