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Pedagogue: This is rather lame.

It is evident that the Op does not wan2 marry her...so,why are u wasting the poor girl's time!

Many think the girl is desperate ..how is that so? The Op has probably been feeding the gal with lies 2 mak her believe the world starts and ends at her doorstep ! Since the gal is a virgin (and probably inexperienced in relationship matters) , she thinks d Op is her much awaited husband!!!

And why are ppl so quick to label d girl a confusionist ? I think , in actual fact, d gal mite have heard from God...and to earlier posters that said d Op must hear from God too? I beg to disagree also ! God does not relate anyhow with ppl...Do we know the Op's relationship with God? If the Op has not been 'hearing' from God b4 now, how can he hear from Him now?


Methinks its high time d Op stopped deceiving the gal...if u don't like her enough to marry her, kindly let her go!!! Believe me, d gal mite be your God ordained wife...but since u dnt love her enough, God in His infinite mercies can give her a replacement !
1 thing u should however not do is to marry her because you think she's your God ordained wife...ONLY MARRY ON D BASIS OF LOVE! What some people label as 'God's voice ' might be a powerful familiar spirit at work!

Cheers

noted sir.

Pedagogue: This is rather lame.

It is evident that the Op does not wan2 marry her...so,why are u wasting the poor girl's time!

Many think the girl is desperate ..how is that so? The Op has probably been feeding the gal with lies 2 mak her believe the world starts and ends at her doorstep ! Since the gal is a virgin (and probably inexperienced in relationship matters) , she thinks d Op is her much awaited husband!!!

And why are ppl so quick to label d girl a confusionist ? I think , in actual fact, d gal mite have heard from God...and to earlier posters that said d Op must hear from God too? I beg to disagree also ! God does not relate anyhow with ppl...Do we know the Op's relationship with God? If the Op has not been 'hearing' from God b4 now, how can he hear from Him now?


Methinks its high time d Op stopped deceiving the gal...if u don't like her enough to marry her, kindly let her go!!! Believe me, d gal mite be your God ordained wife...but since u dnt love her enough, God in His infinite mercies can give her a replacement !
1 thing u should however not do is to marry her because you think she's your God ordained wife...ONLY MARRY ON D BASIS OF LOVE! What some people label as 'God's voice ' might be a powerful familiar spirit at work!

Cheers

noted sir.

omiobo: Guy,ignorance can make you lose what you will never regain in your life,and in the course of being ignorance you can cut your life short. In a situation like this,you don't need to come on nairaland because it is a polluted forum. All you need is to be prayerful and listen to your inner man,he is a great campanion and best adviser I ever know,and if possible meet a father in the Lord for a godly advice.

Hmm. This is not an easy ride

D-Explorer:
This is where the problem lies. God does speak to men but how many singles hear from God? That's the ONLY way to have personal conviction. I hope the OP has been hearing from God before now, else, you subscribe to a Pastor.

I think she has got familiar spirit, only them talk and boost like that. Mind you, they are good people but just don't hurt them. Go check yourself up dude.

Ok dude

sweet-tease:
Thats cool but keep a close eye on her and make sure you don't get manipulated into doing what you don't want to do. Goodluck!

Thanks dude

Thanks for your advice guyz. I am a bit confused abt this whole thing. I almost called off the relationship yesterday, but on a second thought I changed my mind and decided to wait and see what crops up next.

I really don't want to make a bad decision regarding my future.

Hello peepz, your candid advice please.
I met this girl few months after my youth service, and we became acquainted shortly after. Not more than one month since we started dating and she told me something very scary. We were together in my house and the following conversation ensued.
she: I have prayed for many people and they become successful.
Me: that's great.
She: and you know what, they usually come back asking me to marry them
Me: so why didn't you marry any of them
She: I didn't like any of them. I know who I am going to marry.
Me: how is that possible
She: I know because I have "seen" him even before we met physically. He was revealed to me.
Me: and who is this man
She: you. I have known you would husband even before we got to know each other.
At this point, I had some ill feelings and scary sensation.
She continued: I am a very spiritual person, and as a matter of fact, I am doing prayers for you. Just keep attending church service and weekly programmes as well, you will see a very big change in your life. The day I catch you with any other woman, I am gone. You have been ordained to marry me.
Now, being scared was an understatement. In my heart, I shouted - holy ghost fire.
The truth is I like this girl. She is nice, God fearing and obedient, but she is not really my kind of a woman when it comes to marrying. She is timid, a little bit naïve and a virgin as well (@ 25). I have been thinking about this whole thing or bullshit rather.

Hello peepz, your candid advice please.
I met this girl few months after my youth service, and we became acquainted shortly after. Not more than one month since we started dating and she told me something very scary. We were together in my house and the following conversation ensued.
she: I have prayed for many people and they become successful.
Me: that's great.
She: and you know what, they usually come back asking me to marry them
Me: so why didn't you marry any of them
She: I didn't like any of them. I know who I am going to marry.
Me: how is that possible
She: I know because I have "seen" him even before we met physically. He was revealed to me.
Me: and who is this man
She: you. I have known you would husband even before we got to know each other.
At this point, I had some ill feelings and scary sensation.
She continued: I am a very spiritual person, and as a matter of fact, I am doing prayers for you. Just keep attending church service and weekly programmes as well, you will see a very big change in your life. The day I catch you with any other woman, I am gone. You have been ordained to marry me.
Now, scared was an understatement. In my heart, I shouted - holy ghost fire.
The truth is I like this girl. She is nice, God fearing and obedient, but she is not really my kind of a woman when it comes to marrying. She is timid, a little bit naïve and a virgin as well (@ 25). I have been thinking about this whole thing or bullshit rather.

Love, at least, in the society we live in, is imaginary not real. @op it is possible to love 2 persons but at different levels or rates. It is impossible to love pple equitably. Take it or leave it.

@op
1.This is the most useless thread I have seen so far.
2.This shows how much antiquated you are
3.This shows how much of a liability you are going to be to your husband

This advice goes out to all ladies who think the sole reason of getting into a relationship is to make money.

Relationships are not business firms that investors expect a profit. It is not a gold mine where you dig up gold.

For the records, it is a union of two persons who share common feelings, emotions etc., and express them the best way they can without any phony motive.

So, criminally minded ladies; go and get a life, and be less dependent. The funny truth is that you do not know how much dependency syndrome speaks low of you in the short run, and kills your esteem in the long run.

Be independent - be highly esteemed.

mama-gee:
Is this statement correct?

"Anytime they talk about money, my head started spinning"

What do you all think?

it can b corrected by changing d tenses.

Anytime they talk about money, my head starts spinning.

Each time they talked about money, my head started spinning.

donadexco: this is stupidity!!

of d highest order

@op, there is no logic in this. It is just a matter of combining letters dat have high numeric counterparts. It is no where near reason and reality. E.g PROMISCUITY
16+18+15+13+9+19+3+21+9+20+25 = 168. Op, u beta stop deceiving pple.

Mine goes like this. One afternoon, i was haven fun with a neighbours daughter in my room, when suddenly i heard a knock on the door. I hesitated asking who was there. D knock persisted without any response, so i left her on the bed, and in my boxers with a sweaty body i went to the door. When i opened, it was her mother staring at me as though i was guilty of murder. She asked me if her daughter was in my room and i said no, dat i had never seen her dat day, then suddenly, she looked down and saw her daughters foot wear. I was electrocuted to the bone marrows. Then she bent over and collected d foot wears and left. The funny thing was dat, my friends and other neighbours were just watching, and after few minutes, the girl came out bare footed with her hear shabby. Kai, dat day i felt like i should remain indoors for the rest of my life. I later found out who the snitch was.

In movies, we notice dat some characters are just 2 smart and brainy such dat we begin 2 wonder if actually such level of smartness can really b in existence.
For example, Micheal Scofield in Prison break. I think he is d brainiest fictional character ever.

Share ur views, pls.

Love can b defined as an unconditional feelin dat binds 2 seperate pple 2geda makin dem inseperable. If i go by d 9ja setting and d def. Above, then love does nt exist. If u luk at most relationships and marriages, u wud find out dat there is always a conditional factor dat keep d union goin, i.e money, class, beauty, belief/religion, etc. If the conditional factor is taken away, so does love. Dis contradicts d concept of love. Only God is love, dat is y Christ sacrificed his life for all, and even if it was just 1 sinner, he wud have still given his life. Pls 4get d fictional romeo and juliet, mark anthony and cleopatra etc. Love is ideal not real.

T. A. Orji - a man who can not speak for himself, a man who has bought almost 20 percent of Abia state, a man who is as foolish as a donkey, a man who blames his weakness and stupidity on others, a man who has d highest propaganda, a man who is scared of d press, a man not fit 2 b a sec. sch. teacher, a man who indirectly mocks his stupidity, a man who stood up 2 tell abians dat he won d election witout their votes, a man whose mental capacity is exactly dat of a goat. A clown witout make up. T. A. Orji is a fool of d highest order.

T. A. Orji - a man who can not speak for himself, a man who has bought almost 25 percent of Abia state, a man who is as foolish as a donkey, a man who blames his weakness and stupidity on others, a man who has d highest propaganda, a man who is scared of d press, a man not fit 2 b a sec. sch. teacher, a man who indirectly mocks his stupidity, a man who stood up 2 tell abians dat he won d election witout their votes, a man whose mental capacity is exactly dat of a goat. A clown witout make up. T. A. Orji is a fool of d highest order.

The truth is this.
If true love really exists, then u can find it as many times as possible only if u open ur heart to love again after going tru those negativities of love. D choice is urs, open ur heart, forget d past, embrace love once again and all ur wounds will heal. Its a rare tin sha.

A second read of ur post got me thinking sumthin else.

What can u do 2 make a guy initiate a relationship?

Nothin other dan living ur normal life. If he wants u, he's gonna ask u out whether u act dis or dat way.

If he doesnt initiate a relationship, it means he either does nt like u or he is probably being cautious.

If u lyk him, y dnt u initiate one?

There is absolutely nothing wrong in a lady initiating a relationship. D problem is with life style and sociological background. In the west, a lady can freely ask a guy she likes out and d guy can oblige without havin any iota of pride, power or dominion over d lady. Everything remains balanced.
In our own society, a guy wud often treat a lady with disdain if she asks him out. He accepts, feeds on her, and off he goes. In our own society, it is expected that a man initiates a relationship, even though i do not approve of it. In any case, i wud advise u go up 2 dat man and let him knw dat u like and want him 2 b a friend. U can start 4rm there, but remember, do nt forfiet ur value just because u are tryn 2 let sumone knw u like them.

I had a little argument sometime ago with my 4rnds over the cause of homosexualism. Some said it was as a result of witchcraft/spiritual manipulations, while others said it was as a result of association or environment. I did a little research which revealed that homosexualism is biological. It states that, if a baby is male and while in the womb draws more than necessary genes from its mother over its father's, the baby would eventually have more xteristics of a female than male, and is more likely to be sexually attracted to males, and, vice versa. Could this be true? If not, what do you think?