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Honestly, I find the pregnancy testimonies very unbelievable, beg for tins and cry, it's so funny oooo and scary I don't wanna go beg for corn ooooo

I agree with this approach, this can take care of unseen future circumstances.. [quote author=xcuggs_m]Please! Please! Please! Children of Nairaland. Let an elder speak:
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My opinion is that the poster should tell her junior sister BUT not the whole truth. This telling process should be played out in a conversation like this:
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Poster: My darling sis. I hope u will not kill me for what I want to tell you now. I know I should have told you long time before.
Sis : what is it?
Poster: it's about ur fiance oo. I used to know him in long time ago when we were in School and he even tried to ask me out but nothing happened. And we lost contact.
Sis : Ee eh! Why didn't u tell me all this while if really as u said; nothing happened?
Poster: Haba sis! I didn't want to spoil ur mind towards him knowing how u think at times, And the guy is a good guy and loves and adores u.. Am sure he too has not mentioned the fact that we have met before. Oh well, as we didn't actually date each other, I guess its neither here nor there. I just feel u should know.
Sis : But u should have told me before now?
Poster: Why? So u will flog him for eyeing ur senior sister in the past? Abeg i! Go marry ur husband joor! And don't go querying the poor guy oo! Ha ha! ha!
Sis : ok. (But be sure she will still istill ask him)
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Once this has been done. Poster should call the guy and tell him thus: "My inlaw, I told ur wife today that I have met u before when we were in school and that u were eyeing me at the time BUT that we did not date and we lost contact. So when she asks u, just toe the same story line. Ok?"
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Obviously, the guy will be alarmed; "Why did you have to do that, now? Do u want to spoil our marriage?.
Poster: 'Spoil ur marriage? On the contrary, I am trying tidy up uneven areas for u. I feel its better my sister knows we have met in the past so that the issue will not arise in the future and catch everybody unawares . Surely, one day she may run into someone who has seen us together in school. So it will not be as if we were hiding something from her"
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I think this approach should tidy up things for everybody.

BUT the Poster should kill and give up whatever feelings she might have for the guy.
No "Okafor's Law" Please!![/quote]

This is so funny WT*

zaimeg: Reality ma'am.

Are you for real

zaimeg: Many yeye men do it. My neighbour then asked his wife to open her hand while kneeling down. He would then go on to flog her some strokes of the cane like a primary school teacher. I nicknamed him "Headmaster" thereafter.
What women endure in marriage!

That's why I have kept quiet but I am worried about her,and don't even know the best way to go about it..

djeezy: @op, all you can do is talk to your friend about your worry and fears and make her see reasons with you. Remember she still has to make her own choice. Be careful how you go about it or it'll be so apparent to your friend that you're jealous. I'm sure you don't want that.

Lmao,I am sure that's a joke..

Lionbite: The is truth is that you are not concerned about them...... You are just jealous cos they are moving on

Thanks, I have not even said anything to her, I am used to the way ladies think, seeing sincere advice as some1 dat doesn't wish them well, but deep down I am troubled. The guy even tried hitting her once in my presence, it's scary.

Wu Zetian: You're right but there's nothing you can do.

Just keep your mouth shut, as long as her life isn't in danger. At times, people just have to learn for themselves, if you do too much she might start seeing you as "enemy of her perceived progress".

I am not concerned abt them meeting on a website,i am concerned abt the fact that she doesn't know anything abt this guy,families or friends and I am also worried my inner spirit told me the guy has a child and upon seeing my friend he confessed dumping a lady wit his child simply because she became rude and arrogant. Moving in together,i fear the guy can leave one day and we can't even trace him, I have not aired how I feel to my friend cos am the type that thinks over an issue b4 airing it.. Quote author=Kirinwa]

People met on site are also human.Give them a chance. [/quote]

She doesn't feel comfortable with the baby fat and we are hoping she'll lose it than having to live with it in the future.

Vivly: She's still a preteen and children at that age might have not yet lost thier baby fat. She shouldn't be pressured to engage in strenuos exercises to lose weight but to stay healthy.
Her exercise regime should be- joggings in the mornings and evenings, skipping and swimming. She should be an outdoor child because she can even lose weight playing with friends.
She should also avoid junk food and eating in between meals. It's a slow killer. Late night foods should be a no-no. Just as doels said, tell her with love. No extra pressures. Don't compare her to her slim friends.

Thanks so much.

deols: I don't know what the weight is but I hope a teenager isn't being pressured about what she looks like.

It should be the least of her worries right now. I hope she is not focused on something that can totally damage her self esteem.

That said, I think she can be engaged in a lot of activities including skipping, and swimming. They should be things that are fun to her and that she can keep to.

But she should not go on an extreme diet. But can cut her carbohydrates intake and eat more vegetables.

she should be spoken to about the need to lose weight in the best way and with love so that she would keep to it and not be ashamed of herself.

I wish I can express myself better on this. I do

A friend of mine met a guy on tagged site, they are both in different countries, few months later the guy moved to our base and they started living together. Before my friend met the guy I was a bit biased because she doesn't know any relation/friends and coupled with the first day I saw his picture I told her the guy has a child,upon his arrival he told my friend he has a child but dint marry the mother cos she was rude..... I think they are moving too fast and it's scary,I see this as desperation on the part of my friend. Is this normal?

If you have good intentions I don't see why you shld b worried,make your intentions know n to her elder sister than playing hide and sick games..

Lovely write-up...

I am currently on braids... and i'm loving it! It's worth it

It's that way because of the way guys behave,hardly would you see a serious guy at age 27,and a lady at 27 is ready to settle down, so best a lady goes for a man advanced in age that is ready to settle down..

Blackteeth: Its only in Nigeria where a guy MUST be older than a lady before the lady dates him.
Its only in Nigeria where age is an issue in a relationship.
That part of the world really sucks.

He is seeing some1 else #simple

I AGREE

alutacontinua: I hate to say it nd i wanna apologize in advance to all my nairaland paddies but the truth remains most guys are ugly!

9yrs and 1/2 isn't much it's VERY PERFECT!!!

Androgen daisy: u with bootylicious they gimme hope.
u with bootylicious they gimme hope.
u with bootylicious they gimme hope.

I get your point

sexkillz: [color=#000030]That doesn't make her a bad choice really. People are different, but the truth is that if a lady shows such level of care to kids who aren't hers, animals and plants some deem inconsequential, you can only imagine how caring she'll be to her man. If kids irritate you, chances are that you get irritated at the slightest provocation. [/color]

Thank you

4tunebest: Eat less and avoid snacking in-between meals. It is really that simple if your weight is fat related and not caused by big bones. Make healthy food choices and minimize your consumption of fat laden foods and junks(pastries, ice cream, etc). Cultivate the habit of starting your day with @ least a glass of water and eat plenty of oats. Oats fill you up quickly and for a long time so that your hunger pangs are delayed. Whenever you feel like snacking in between meals, snack on fruits. However, you wont get results if you are not consistent. Consistency is the key to a successful weightloss regimen. Wish you the best

Thank you

4tunebest: For exercise you can use skipping rope since you are a teenager. Skipping for about 20 minutes everyday will give you tremendous result if combined with the aforementioned

Exactly my point.. hez just not into sex

mayten30: since you said u already know he does not like sex right from day one then I don't expect u to complain,u already know his problem,but honestly if he naturally does not like sex which sounds odd then u may not be able to make him like it no matter what but u can only make him force himself to have sex with u and that does not make sense because u are his wife and u guys should have sex has husband and wife and not him sleeping with u because u are always forcing him,for example when u do not like a particular food you may never like that food and no matter how much u are persuaded to eat the food u will not just eat it,good-luck though

Please,can you give any efficient weight loss skill ,exercise or diet technique that a teenager can use to slim down? The person is in need of it is a 12-14yrs old female. Its very important pls...

Must every1 like s*x? I have a male friend that is not gay, doesn't cheat on his Gf but he doesn't like sex and when asked he says he believes the energy used on s*x can be used for acquiring knowledge,he loves reading... my best friend dissolved her marriage after 3days, the no s*x b4 marriage, after their wedding night she discovered her husband wasn't into s*x,quoting the man " I can't be having s*x like someone in the prison yard,its hard labour",that's from a very successful legal practitioner, my no time for dulling friend filed a divorce straight.... continue ur self service or file a divorce if u can't cope!

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deniyor:

From experience 5-10yrs is perfect!

Buhhahahha and if d lady isn't gud around kids does dat make her a bad choice, now I see why my boo fyts me, I don't do well Ard kids, pets I love doe...

sexkillz: [color=#000030]Look for a girl who loves kids, a girl who is good around kids that aren't hers and small animals like puppies. If she loves plants and has a fondness for taking care them, fine as well.
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A man should love more, it takes the love of a man to make a marriage/ relationship work.. even the scripture says a man should love his wife while d woman respects her husband.... God knows why He said it shld b dat way, when d man loves more he treats d woman like a queen, and gush u need 2 see a man Ard d woman he doesn't love treats her like poo.. The little love from a woman to a man measures to the great love a man can have for a woman...

Very true, I get d angle ure coming from [quote author=Unluvable*]You are somewhat right in your assertion. But it does not apply to all ladies (me inclusive). But I'll try to explain why some ladies like *womanizers*. I believe its a reverse psychology, some ladies like the feeling that a guy that have harem of women find them attractive. Seeing that he have access to diff women but chase after her might seem exciting, she might have the i-also-have-what-it-takes to get his attention disillusion.

But if he starts a relationship with her, she'll long for him to give only her his attention. As this will make her feel powerful for subduing his randy attitude. As I said earlier its a reverse psychology, one of the silly things ladies do![/quote]

He may have been nice and caring when he had enough cash, ladies let's stop pretending, we know too well some women are silly and can't cope with a broke man...@OP I pray God grants you all you need to be the head and provider of your home..

jumzzy448: Good question.