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Vyolet:
See the effontry, so you actually believe she has not found someone that treats/would treat her better than you?
You have seen yourself as her Alpha and Omega and the only reason you are shocked is because she is about to show you, she can always do without you.

cococandy:
what kind of visa were you applying for?

cococandy:
Where ‘in the abroad’ are you? You don’t know getting legally married facilitates the visa process

cococandy:
hopefully you’re not an NL story teller.
Good luck

cococandy:
You obviously believe that and I’m sure your attitude towards reflected as much. Might be one of the reasons why she japa.

By sending money from abroad you think you’ve done more than any man can do for his woman. Don’t think she can find better? You could be in for a surprise

cococandy:
Your son is her child. Not a package or property to be dropped off with you.

cococandy:
You’re too focused on money and property. What you’ve done for her and her family. What you’ve given her. Etc. You’ve threatened her in the past with break ups even as she reassured you that she wanted to be with you. You love when she begs you to say with her huh. Now you’re crying when the shoes is on the other foot. Oga money is not everything. Calm down small.

Imagine if she finds someone who has that money and treats her awesomely on top of being generous to her. Na your loss be that.

signature2012:
For now,let her be.Ignore her,though it might be difficult because you would want to speak to your son everytime.
If you can be strong minded for a little time,just be by yourself.Get yourself busy with other things,but make sure you know where they are living.
Dont send them any money.They want suffer.
With time,she will come back to her senses and give you a call.

southniyikaye:
still, her game plan is not revealed yet.. Bro see, if you mistakenly take such woman abroad, it is a regret you will live with the rest of your life..
Same thing happened to a friend in Canada.. He did everything possible to move his wife and 3kids to Canada.. Don't know if he didn't do paternity test, that part still confused me cos when she got to Canada, he realized only the second child was his and the wife tried everything possible to make sure he is deported back to Nigeria but it didn't work, my friend now has partial stroke infact, he is the shadow of himself..if only one friend is convincing her right now and she Herr, imagine when she gets over there and meet lots of women with broken homes and so on, she will almost kill you bro..

signature2012:
All you keep saying is your son son son.I assume she sees that as your weak point.

Also,you have shown you care more about your son than both of them.Imagine if your son was not in the picture,guess you wont give a damn about her.

You said she was with you abroad,why did she return back to Naija?

In conclusion,I think there is more to this story,but unfortunately,she is not here to tell her own part of the story.

Homeboiy:
You won’t take my advice

So let me shut up

southniyikaye:
my brother, channel your energy to something more productive.. If I share my experience with you, you will understand your case is not even something to worry about.. She practically left me when I was down.. It is said that you don't beat a dead horse, na that time this one carry 2by2 plank wey get nail dey flog me..
I am only concerned about your kid and they are going to exploit that, just wait for it.. Do you think if not for the fact that you had a kid she will threaten you with breakup?
Just hold on, don't cry yet as they have not made their real intentions known yet

NoToPile:
so have they settled who will collect bride price?

Can you come to naija and settle this matter once and for all?

Vyolet:
So you didn't see the advise I gave, what do you now want to see?

thorpido:
I thought you said she has a dad.You should have done a 'small' something at least to show commitment.
I feel she's acting this way because she is literally 'hanging'.

mariahAngel:
That means your words and actions contradict themselves. That is confusing.
If I may ask; are those (the properties) in her name or at least, your son's name?

Vyolet:
You left a woman in Nigeria while philandering about abroad, you keep sending her money to tie her down like everything is all about money.

You call her fat and all sorts of names and even threaten to leave her thereby battering her self-esteem.

You see yourself as her Lord and Savior simply because you settle her financially

She realized her worth and has chosen to leave you, the news hit you hard and unexpected, now you want to cry foul.

Pandemic is now over and people are moving in and out of Nigeria, come down and do the needful, all families don't usually agree but you go with the peaceful party and perform your rite over her, you can't deny you don't know why she is acting up. If there's no evidence of marriage, I wonder how easy it will be for her and your son to join you.

Shortyy:
That's what they say.

Shortyy:
Awon Alpha males.

No need to marry, get a baby mama.

thorpido:
Well,call her and have a talk with her.Try to call her dad too.
If there is a way to come home soon,plan and come to sort everything out.

mariahAngel:
Where does she belong in that equation?

mariahAngel:
That means your words and actions contradict themselves. That is confusing.
If I may ask; are those (the properties) in her name or at least, your son's name?

thorpido:
I thought you said she has a dad.You should have done a 'small' something at least to show commitment.
I feel she's acting this way because she is literally 'hanging'.

mariahAngel:
You made her insecure with your constant threats, which led to her making the decision to leave before you leave her.
She probably no longer feels secured and at peace with you.
Money is not everything, even love is not enough sometimes.
If you had assured her, and kept on assuring her, nobody, not even her friend, could've separated her from you.

Carchoice:
give her the space she wants but always call to talk to your child.

She’ll come back when the fun has ended and her eyes don clear.

But the story here is yours, she might have something else to tell the audience. You should know women place so much value on marriage, when they suspect you are not heading that way with them, expect things like this.

Probably she feels you are still with her because of the child

thorpido:
Why didn't you try to formalise the wedding?You should at least have done introduction/engagement before all these 'movements' you've been making.

blazepascal:
this is too much for you ...man

southniyikaye:
We are in the same shit, the only diff is, you dey abroad, I dey ibadan..
You send upkeep of 200k
I send 20k
Make I no even go the school aspect at all.
I think getting married is the issue here as they think maybe you have someone there already and may abandon her later..

Let me tell you a secret, if I am opportuned to leave this country, how I will take my kids from her is all I will think about...
If her friend could advice her to quit the relationship, do you know if she already introduced her to another guy who is already promising her marriage?
I still try to know what Nigerian girls problem is
For some it is money
For some it is love
For some it is both
Some don't even know what they want...

Someone said a lady can be with you, have kids for you, cook for you, have sex with you and the love she have for you is dead in her heart..