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Klass99:
I have met jerks and first class assholes in my life, but it hasn't changed my entire view of your gender, because I also met really decent/remarkable men who showed me, all of you are not the same. You better perish the mindset sprouting up about women.

You have done well by this woman, like I said, no sane person will say you didn't try. Learn the value of distance and silence at this point. Mentally and emotionally distance yourself from her and start giving her the silent treatment.

If or when you call, let it be about your son and whatever his needs may be. Keep your conversations with her to the barest minimum and make it very formal if you have to talk.

You don't need to have a big blow up with her or even this little ones where she gives you attitude and upsets you in the process.

Thanks so much.

Nigeria Police Force, Nigeria politicians and Nigeria minister of information Alhaji Liar Mohammed

Klass99:
Oshey!!!

You thought the phone will win her over abi? She don collect am, still dey do you strong tin .

Pele, I couldn't help finding humour in your saga. I like the fact that your father wants to wade in and help you out.

Please whatever the outcome of their meeting, listen to your father afterwards o! He sounds like a good man who has your back.

As for her vow that you will never take her child, the gods help you on that one. I suspect she may want to keep the child with her, because without him, there will be no reason for you to keep bankrolling her lifestyle and paying bills like house rent.

She will have to do that herself, so, your son may be her bargaining chip for continuing this easy lifestyle you started and introduced her to.

Damn! I repeat, this baby mama business is lucrative. If only I had it in me or desired a child sef

The phone was just a gift and to say am truly sorry, besides I made it a habit to change her phone every year either before her birthday or few days after her birthday. This one came a bit late this year cos COVID-19 affected everything.

I don’t really know where I missed it, but I wanted to touch every areas to see if I could fix things and the more I try the more it get worse, now I dare not crack jokes because I’ll get a very cold response, I dare not ask questions about where she is going, I’ll get an aggressive response. She does not tell me about where she is going now, I just call and see her driving, if I ask where she is going she will say I want to go get this and that.

My younger sister once teased me saying I bought her a car to be raving mad In the streets of Lagos since she is not under the authority of anyone.

This thing has become too toxic, I can’t take it anymore, she was the only one I could talk to on the phone for hours, not even my parents or siblings.

I swear I just confuse, this will make me see every woman out there as a betrayer. I don’t know how this will end.

The more I look the less I see......... imagine this happening again in the week of my son’s birthday.

FanOfMyself:
Showing us the iPhone is not necessary bro.

Not sure I was showing you. I mentioned a specific moniker

Klass99:
I appreciate the update. I often wonder about some folks who share their stories here - wondering if their situations turned around for good, how they're doing since their last posts, if they're okay and all.

No sane person (emphasis on sane ) will blame you at this point. You have done reasonably well, but your babe seems determined to self sabotage and ruin a good thing in the process.

I don't know if your physical presence in Naija and finally marrying her would make a huge difference, because that phrase she used "You can’t tell me who to be friends with and who not to be friends with" is how an acquaintance's marriage started to deteriorate.

The same problem of certain friends whom Alex (not real name) thought were a negative influence on his wife, is the same problem you're facing.

Alex and his wife are divorced now and like you, he said he tried hard to prevent the end of his marriage, pleaded with his wife for the sake of their kids, but I think when a woman's mind is made up........

So what now? Are you going to take your son or let her keep him? What else did your dad say, apart from asking you why you took them to Lagos?

She has vowed she won’t let me have my son but she won’t deny me access to him whenever I want to see him.

My dad said I should book a flight for them to come to Benin on Friday after my son’s birthday.

He said he wants to ask her a few question, he didn’t fail to remind me that I entered the road to marriage from the wrong route.

As for me, am tired.... attached is what I bought her on Monday just to say am sorry

Klass99:
WoW, a man who is not afraid to be vulnerable and to admit his confusion, I like You will be alright.

Your last sentence though, are you still going to try? It's admirable that you did the things you did out of love and not just for the sake of your child. Women mostly seem incapable of this.

Been quietly working to make things work between us since. I admitted I was too strict and temperamental just to make thing work all still because of my son, I promised her a gift which I gave her last Monday.

I ordered a bike for my son and it was delivered yesterday, we agreed she must hide it and present it to him on his birthday but somehow he saw it when it was delivered, he knew it was for him, he cried for it and I asked his mom to give it to him which she reluctantly did.

This afternoon we were talking and I asked if he has forgotten about the bike na there wahala start oo.

She: I’m going out,
Me: To where ?
She: Festac,
Me: What for?
She: To get something from a customer
Me: What’s that
She: Sugar
Me: When are you coming back
She: Na wah, what’s when am I coming back? I said I’m going to get sugar in festac why are you asking again when am coming back
Me: Okay sorry but don’t take my son to Ayo’s place oo and I don’t want you to go there .
She: You can’t tell me who to be friend with and who not to be friend with.

We started arguing again, from all I observed she can’t be submissive anymore and I can’t be with such person, her enemy is my enemy and my enemy is supposed to be hers.

Meanwhile I called her aunt to talk to her about two weeks ago, her aunt concentrated on that friend of hers, saying anyone who advices you to quit the father of your son isn’t a good friend, this guy is not around yet he makes sure you guys lacks nothing. Obey him and leave this girl.

I was doing everything to make her happy again but it’s obvious my efforts isn’t enough. I called her aunt just now and she told me she will call her again but if she is not ready to listen to me am sorry I’ll let her be.

Now me I don tire, I don’t see this thing working at all. I had to call my dad this afternoon and explained everything to him, he said why did you take them to Lagos when you don’t have anyone in Lagos.

Obviously am tired, I was considering my son but I know he will be fine, he is fully my responsibility.

I don try now am done.

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What time please

Who cares ?

Sorry bro, i guess it’s wrong to be young and successful in Nigeria.

His grandchildren will reap what he sow.

Was he blind when he gave us a disaster as a president ?

Nigeria politicians just learned a lesson from Trump, APC politicians will one day do what Trump is doing now

Only you guys in government sees what other Nigerians can’t see.

Fool

Perfect, I lived in perpetual fear in India for 5yrs. Many Nigerians have been killed unjustly, just last month a friend who is a DJ was chased into a well and died.

I have lost so many friends in India, the guy that picked me from the airport in 2013 was arrested in 2016 April 24th for what he knows nothing of he only regained freedom in October 2019.

Wicked people, I’ll do worse than this guy if I waka jam dem anywhere in Nigeria.

ILoveDemMANNA:
Here comes one of the few OBJECTIVE POST ON THIS THREAD

Even if it was just one (1) youth that was killed
It is a very BIG issue for some of us with brains and souls,
If it was 7 youths as it was reported by the genuine protesters at Lekki, it is still so sad,
and if it was 78 or 100 youths as it was circulated all over social media,
We deserve to know the whole truth as a nation.
So we can know how to table our matter to the international community.
We want to know what is true and what are lies.
We dont want to accept any lies from the Army and at the same time, We don't need some people (celebrities et al) fueling fake news on this heated country now.
We are not fighting against Nigeria,
We are fighting for Nigeria.
#IStandWithTheTruth
Some Nigerians are waiting for what is the truth.
#IStandWithAPeacefulProtest.
#AGoodCountryIsAllNigerianYouthsWant
Again,
We are not fighting against Nigeria,
We are fighting for Nigeria.


Conscience is an open wound. Only the truth can heal it.

The Good people of Nigeria deserve to know the WHOLE TRUTH of this Lekki issue now.
Heads must roll!

Up till now, many Good Nigerian citizens with an open mind don't know what to believe.........still!



Amen.
Thank you so much.
God bless you real real good too!
You are a Champion indeed!


Amen.
God bless you too sir.

For the first time, you are putting your brain into good use.

I think the police should go to sleep, these vigilantes are doing a better job than the police

Nigeria our own country Africa our own continent. History will judge Buhari too harshly

Front page soon. Thank God for the lady

Some people claimed they live in Benin and the state is relatively quiet and peaceful. Hope they have seen evidences.

This is not the Benin we once lived oo, from the moment they started initiating conductors I knew the dooms days were near.

No parents wants their children to return to Nigeria at this time.

This government always looking for ways to loot. They fed school children under their parents care. Children for IDP camps were not fed because they can’t loot there.

OP ti fagbo, “Nigeria Jesus” Lol

DrAkpa:
Yes, 2 fools in one body.

No wonder, that guy nor go near heaven, I don’t know if he is intentionally stupid or he is ignorant of his stupidity.

The kind of hatred that slowpoke has built for himself on Nairaland is higher than mount Everest

DrAkpa:
This goat get sense pass /ILoveDemMANNA

So na the same cow get both moniker ? Interesting

ILoveDemMANNA:
mynd44

Oga na i mentioned not ILoveDemMANNA.

No iota of shame in you.

Cerveau:
if something really happened bro, then send pics or better still a video, chats can be made up....

You know I can’t share videos here, if you can share your contact with me I’ll share many videos with voice confirmation.

Na the area I grow I know what’s happening there

Cerveau:
Upper Sokponba has always been rough in Benin city, everyone knows that..... And yes there are cult fights and recorded deaths in some few places in Benin city.... But I still maintain the city isn't in caos "yet" as the OP made it seem......some of us just like blowing things out of proportion!

I can send you a screenshot of the chat I had with a friend few hours ago .

Upper sokponba is a no go area, my friend’s uncle who is a police man got shot yesterday, a guy was killed this afternoon, oka market women were robbed. Things dey sup for B-side