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I pray he's alive

HazardMan:

You know i just realised something. I never heard his own side of the story. But then he wouldn't come begging all the time if he isn't entirely at fault

You admitted at sometimes that you were apologising for even the faults that wasnt yours.
What if that was the case with him too, and it beats common sense that the lady admitted to adultery hence, saying she's not sure who the father of the unborn child is and the husband was still willing to take the child.

I don't know all the stories but what you need to take your distance and allow them sort themselves out.

HazardMan:
So that's my story....
I need help seriously because even though i now know she might have never really liked me. Maybe she needed me to be a distraction from her husband and now that the husband has taken his bride price which makes her single again, she decided i'm no longer useful to her thereby her tactics to call it a quit.
I still like her even though i'm in a far away town from where she is now. I'm in Accra ghana. she is somewhere in the east nigeria. i've been here for the past 1month now and i'm still thinking about her. I'm sure if i go home now i'll still find myself begging again, please i want it to end like this. I've distracted myself with so many things yet i still think about her. I'm not sure if it's a jinx but then the feeling is still there strong. How do i get rid of it please? I've exhausted the ones online.
And i want to know if i contributed to their broken home cause sometimes i feel guity like i was the epicenter of it all...
Thanks in addy

Okay I'm going to advice you like a brother,

Stop dwelling on the guilt of breaking her marriage, as it doesnt matter anymore else you'll continue to be drawn to her as a way of restitution and making up for what you shattered.
Obviously the lady is way mature than you in relationships and that's not so good with your stories.

Face your life, develop yourself and make a meaning out of it. And when it's time for relationship, you will definitely find someone your level and fall in love with.

All the best.

HazardMan:

I now know it is stupid but how to walk away is the problem. And please it's not a fiction. All this happened in not more than 10months ago. She is on her 9th month.

What's stopping you from walking away when the unborn child is not yours, and you've not done anything on her head...
It's likely she treated her former husband worse than she's giving you now, but you defended and provided her with emotional succour, while painting the man black.

Just move on with your young life as she is certainly going to sort out her issues with him.

This is obviously fiction.

OP is seriously insulting the sensibilities of men here.

Difficult to believe any young man can be fumbling like this.

He should just provide leadership and sense of direction, that's all.
Nobody's asking too much from him, whether he shares money or not, just man up and provide leadership as the president of the country.

I pray you overcame this.

I'm not always comfortable seeing adults bring up family issues to Nairaland faceless forum where mostly kids and teenagers who know nothing about relationships and family dish out their uninformed advise thereby making the situation worse.

What happened to having a good talk with her and letting her know how much the family is losing as a result of her poor money management.
Sit down with her and draw the family budget, that is expected income, expenses and savings each month/year or quarter, make her responsible for the budget and always monitor performance on a timely basis.
Encourage her where she's able to cut expense and correct her mildly if need be. Continue to jointly want to improve in your finances and watch how good she will turn.
Like you noted, she has been a blessing to you and I'm sure she wants to continue to be a source of blessing to your family.

Wishing you the best in your marriage.

So sad.

This is something insurance can take care of if there's one in place.

And to imagine the locusts copulating with reckless abandon on the same farm

Tim16:
You are working, but he doesn't have any job yet. He comes home late everyday at 12am. You clean the house and provide food for the family, upon that you don't nag, and you are good looking.

Madam you married a very very irresponsible man, and people like him always engage in careless sexual activities with random girls/prostitutes. Most times he could probably be in one brothel having fun. I just pray he shouldn't someday infect you with HIV. same thing happened to my aunty, her husband was living this kind of life and infected her with HIV and both of them died of AIDS living their 4 young kids miserable. It will only take a Divine intervention by the Almighty to change such a man and make him live responsibly... I pray God to come to your aid and touch your husband's heart to become responsible and respect his marriage. I will advice you to become a prayer warrior because of this for there is nothing God can not do. You don't only talk to him you also back it up with fervent prayer I bet you you will see result. May God bless your home. AMEN

Just what if this man only hangs out with friends and doesnt engage in all you wrote there, imagine the seed you have planted in this young ladies head.

Thats why I dont support all this online request for hope because you'll end up leaving with bigger problems.

@op, I'll advise you engage him in a heart to heart talk, not as he comes back from his night crawl but in the morning, remind him of the dangers of keeping late night, safety issues and how much the kids stay awake to see him, etc. If he's the reasonable type, I'm sure he will change.

Be careful of the advise you take from here especially the ones suggesting hotels and prostitutes.

#Peace.

BennyDon:
Construction of Airport in Abakaliki shouldn't be his priority considering the distance between Enugu and Abakaliki. It's not a must that all state capital should have Airport. The fund for Airport construction could have been used for other productive purpose(s).

I'm glad Gov Umahi is working, Ebonyi is growing

No time is too early for a state to have an airport, aside the other benefits, it will also add to the state's internally generated revenue

Please call Enugu governor Willy Ugwuanyi to come and see his mate, his own na to dey buy mushroom awards upandan.

I wonder what project he will be remembered for when he leaves office.

APC should eschew hypocrisy and adopt all the advice they gave PDP during Ihedioha debacle.

One good turn ......

Good one for democracy

And it will seem they are rejoicing because they now have opportunity to better the lives of the masses

Funny people

We play too much in this country,

Too many misplaced priorities.

What is govt's business on how one chooses to bury their own or is this a state burial?

NwaAmaikpe:




I just wish he had a son elsewhere since his wife wouldn't give him one.
This is the saddest part of his death.

They care less about issues like that, na we dey kill ourselves about family succession ish.

NwaAmaikpe:




Promise a lady marriage and watch the best in her come out. You'd be shocked with how wide she will spread her legs for you, most will even let you impregnate them just like ChefChi.

We call it the 'Carrot and Stick' approach in Basic Womanizing103.
Simply paint a picture of a carrot in her mind and watch her let you stick it in.

So do it if you want to milk her resourcefulness....BUT, don't do it with a date!
That way she'd keep hanging on loyally for the carrot.

That's the mistake Davido made.
He went around disturbing us to get our 'trads' ready for Chivido2020.

It is 2020 already.
'Hanty haff borned baby'
She is already impatient because wedding she 'haff not see' and she's there wondering if it is the same man that wants to get married this year that is going on shows with his other babymama.

Pessimists like myself aren't making it any easy for her either because here we are saying; "No be only Chivido na Chivita".
So since the time has come and there's no carrot yet, there'd be limited or no 'sticks' for Davido from her.

But a player will always be a player.
No one trains a blind horse because you can't ride with them. So technically, she's useless to him if there'd be no more sticks from her.

So he'd rather unfollow her so he can be at liberty
to get more sticktime elsewhere while still making her yearn for him and out of desperation, give in once again.
Only this time, they'd all be on his terms.

But if this is a publicity stunt strictly for clout, then they are both immature cvnts undeserving of our attention.

This your yarns today no come resemble your normals.

So much talk for a post

All the best bro in your building project.

I wish you Godspeed and timely completion

Wonderful people, great minds.... merry Christmas everyone

Funny country

sempe123:
It appears fixed deposit is now better that tb in some cases.I was told 6% for 3 months at UBA for FD.One can hardly get a TB that is better than that in terms of tenor and rate.

You'll be shocked, banks are already crashing their rates to 1%, and I'm sure it will be so for for all banks before new year.

As in oil spill

following this thread with keen interest.

@Dvd, you've got a student here.

Abians have never been lucky with governance since the days of Orji Uzor Kalu!.
Each new governor outperforming the former in mediocrity!

Feeling so sad cos that's my maternal home

Nemesis909:
He intimidates his haters.

Carry go baba.

He should man up and intimidate the high insecurity facing the country first

We play too much in this country, smh �‍♂️

You sighted the forest and came back to report.

The government should hide its face in sad shame!

Smart dude

Officialgarri:

To an extent, this is true, but at the same time not true.

In eastern states, you will find "Hausa markets" but those markets apart from being small in size , the shops are usually scanty built. Infact most Hausas are hawkers only. No major property to hold them back in case of war.

The markets are scanty cos they’ve refused to build, there’re also available plots in Eastern towns for sale but because of the so called “sense of war”, most wealthy Hausas will rather live in make shift houses and repatriate their funds home.

“We are Biafrans”

My Ijaw brothers is that true?