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Get a job . . that would really help!

chika98:
I'm sure he will figure it out soon

Ok . . I will be there this xmas if he's still single by then.

~Xerxes~:
Kanu is a pedophile and that marriage is also motivated by Kanu's finances.
Will that same girl marry a 40-year-old carpentar around the corner?

lai lai . . am marry u!

whitelexi:
Buzy buzy, how body?


[size=0pt]I'm calling u tonight[/size]

lol . . body dey inside cloth.
still waiting for what u wanna tell me.

@lexy na wahala u put ursef inside . . all cos of women thong.

@ topic,
there's nuthin wrong with them and I ONLY wear thongs/G-strings!!

Toyin wears granny size 20

and bra size 32A

~Antidote~:
, I just knew you would opt for this,

hehehe . . u know me too well!

~Antidote~:
girl am back, but pissed, People can be so dishonest, Gosh!! >

@topic
I just left the bank and guess what? There is this lady crying her poor heart out. Apparantly, she had a joint account with some loser who used to "take care" of her. Now that they are no longer an item her pee brain didnt alert her to take action. The sleazebag went in the account and cleaned it out. I am assuming he is taking back what's his, If only she hadn't accepted things from him in the first instance, This is one drama she could have avoided

Tough luck for her oh! . . but is that legal for him to go empty a joint account with the other person's consent.

billionaire indeed . . more like yahoozee . . thats why he's always online

leeroywill:
In short,i hate Nigerian girls!!!

Then, don't approach them . . Good for u!!!

@ Xerxes,

P.S. You cannot divorce me.

u'll be very surprised.

Come and ask my bf . . he will tell u
am not saying that men should foot the whole bill and all dat and blah blah blah
but alot of u guys need to take note behind ur heads that "not all girls are after u for money" . . some of u sef don't have kobo.

lol . . . toyin, u no serious o

1b ko . . 1 kobo

4her and Uche,

Sup with both of una?
tell me what I don't know.

~Xerxes~:
Boyfriends are investment to women because of various ways men have been scammed to believe women should be treated like princesses.
Scams like if a man is a gentleman, he'll pay for me.

Acting as a woman's version of a "gentleman" is an excellent example of how men are brainwashed by women to fulfill their self-serving interests.

Mothers train their sons to buy into this scam at an early age, teaching them to treat women like goddesses and to pay for female company without question.
No man should allow himself to become a doormat for female whims, and no man should have to pay for a woman earning as much as he is.

Xerxes . . I will divorce u o?
u sound stingy

sistawoman:
Why do you guys think that we simply want what is in your wallet? Money is not on the top of the list for most girls. If a girl works and makes her own money they why not should the guy also work and make his own money.

I don't want a man that i have to support, if i can't claim you on my taxes then i will not be supporting you. I have three children that i raise on my own and don't need another grown ass man to support.

I can't stand this idea that men think we want a rich guy. Not all women are golddiggers, we just want a brotha that can hold his own, one that can be leaned on and lean on us. If we are not evenly yoked then there is a problem and resentment can easily start creep in.

Every other thread i have read this am is about brotha supporting women. That is not the main factor in determining a mate. Stop looking at chickenheads and look for a quality woman that has her own.

Why is it that the chickenheads always wind up with the good men?

Spot on . . .Very well said!!

then again . . i keep saying this. . "ME, I am very allergic to poverty" I look very good and it takes money to maintain my beauty.!!!!!

~Antidote~:
I just knew I would find you here

@topic
Hell No, I won't accept such gifts from a male, He has ulteria motives

hehehe . . I will collect it o . .but only man will enjoy me wear them!

~Antidote~:
Buzy, JK and Amber, soon come back girls. Me likey this discussion jare

hurry up and come back jare

amber_ella:
@buzy

Likewise, if my man was going through a hard time financially and needed a bit of help, I would be there for him.

I don't see what it has to do with being treated like a lady, though.

the fact that ladies have more money issues.
- gotta look good like ur pairs
- buy make-up, pancakes, perfume, sanitary issues, do your hair, maincure and pedicure, pills
- Annual check ups
- regular tune ups

It ain't easy being a lady O . . unless u want a village and and cheap girl or better still . . cut ur coat according ur size and make the guy find a gurl in his level and low maintenance.

amber_ella:
@buzydiva

If I were expecting money in exchange for sex, I would feel like a prostitute. If I'm expecting sex and love in exchange for sex and love, I feel like a girlfriend (or, in my case, a wifey).

I don't equate being treated like a lady with having money thrown at me.

true talk but don't confused your man treating u like his woman with him throwing money at u after sex.
if one has a man that does that . . he needs to be questioned about the relationship.
that is not what i meant.

If your guy loves u so much and u have issues with money . . what is so hard in you asking him for help? . . isn't he your man? doesn't he love u enough to share your problems with u and vice versa . . wouldn't u help your man out if he needs some money from u?
secondly . . . whats so darn bad if my boyfriend constantly giving me money? if he has it to spare and just want to make me feel loved and make sure i don't lack nuthin. . . hell yeah, i'll grab the money fast from him.

Sometimes u don't have to ask before he does this and sometimes . . u gotta ask if u need it.
I don't mean going to him 2-4-7 to ask for money and putting your entire financial issues on him.

amber_ella:
I'm with you, Antidote.

If I were dating, I would like it if a guy would take me out or buy me presents. But I would feel a bit like a prostitute if I expected it.

feel like a prostiute? with ur own guy?
when he humps u and kisses u and handle with ur body . .u don't feel like a prostitute then?

If he is my guy . . then act like one . . which includes treating me like a lady and spending on me.

jkpretty:
@BusyDiva
Are u Busta? Oh pardon me I've been a bit off Nairaland

@Antidote
Oh please! Yes i work but he still has to spend jor

hey girl . . where u been?
yes o . . tis the season to be banned

am with u on that . . .i work and he gotta spend. , touche!
lol

~Antidote~:
My bad,

erhmmmmmm. Be nice to Sly, I am beginning believe he is the ONLY true gentleman on this forum now

SLY? a gentleman?
what has he been feeding you this time?

~Antidote~:
Yea! I have already figured that one out, How sad ,

Make sure you concentrate ooo, Work is important ( thank God am off today , didnt' mean to rub it in)

Ouch . . . that hurts but hey, lucky u!

amber_ella:
Work? Is that what we're supposed to be doing at the office?

Yup work. . they won't kill me abeg . . I need to relieve some steam. Too bad, SLY ain't online

~Antidote~:
Yes you have a point. However( cultural differences), marriage is NOT really paramount where I am from, wealth is. Most parents I know would rather their children be rich than have a title attached to them.

On the topic of the men being intimidated. hmm.ONLY insecure, immature men will think as such. And about the being used thingy. They are so warped in their thinking, that if a lady buy them a gift they somehow sees that as using someone, How cheap!!
I buy my friends, males and females things alll the time, and NEVER would they even think such. Then again, I guess it has to do with where we are from.

BTW, aren't you working today missy?

True Talk . . but, Alot of african men find it degrading for their women to have more riches than them

My dear . . am at work and swamped . . yet, I still gat time for NL.
talk about addiction huh?

~Antidote~:
To each its own Busta, More power to you!!
As I said I don't accept anything from any man. I rather struggling on my own. When my empire has been established, let's see him lay claim to anything I have sweat my ass for, Just my rule, NOT scriptual

Do not forget also that alot of men get intimidated by the woman making more money than them
it makes them feel low and like a slave.
By the time u finish making an empire . . it will now be hard to find a husband as most of the men will either want you for your money, or just use u.

my own 5cents

~Antidote~:
NEVER sit back and expect a man to take care of you.Later they will use it to bash you. Get up and work, make your own dough, so as to ensure you don't allow them to walk over you. My 2cents,

even tho i make my dough . . I still expect ma man to spend on me and gimme money when I need am.
its good to look to this fyneee abeg.
what is he using his money for? and yet he wants to show me off.

Tell your brother to come for me

abi now . . which kan question be dat sef? and its ok for the girl to wash her hubby's pata?

hehehe . . moderator ko . . monitor ni!

no more topics on Nairaland . . . only rubbish now

There is nuthing wrong with that.

Me, SLY and DEBO practice that . . and it has only made our relationship stronger

debosky:
Stop the hate-parade Xerxes and Buzy. . .y'all should get married and spare the rest of us!!

still knows the truth and will judge by herself. . .I'm warning you X, you better stop with the slim jokes or you'll have to answer to me.

hehehe . . .we gonna do just that and u'll be hired to hired to cater to everyone there.