One of my brothers is dating a gold digger. That is the only word that I can use to describe her. This gal is like a sponge, she sucks him dry in everyway possible. First of, they are not married but I don't know what voodoo she used on him. She likes to travel and he pays for her trips around the world. London, Paris, Switzerland, anywhere her cheap ass likes to go. We all want him to break up with her, but he's not listening. We know that there are better women out there,

How do I advise my bro to break up with this witch while respecting his privacy and decisions ?

what is the girl doing in return for all this his spending really? Is she the one asking for all this showering of money and trips or he is doing it solely because he really loves her? Has he been complaining about this or you are the one just not liking it? If he loves her and he has much is it wrong that he gives her a little? this are questions you need to analyze

madamkoko:

How do I advise my bro to break up with this witch while respecting his privacy and decisions ?

It's extremely difficult to do both. Keep talking to him as you've been doing but don't get violent about it and don't get all deep into his business. Even if he refuses to listen, keep talking to him. Worst case scenario, they break up and he realizes all the wrong he did. Hard as it may seem to see him fall, that's the best way to come out of this mess unbruised.

Thanks for the comment.

@baby4u2

what is the girl doing in return for all this his spending really? Is she the one asking for all this showering of money and trips or he is doing it solely because he really loves her? Has he been complaining about this or you are the one just not liking it? If he loves her and he has much is it wrong that he gives her a little? this are questions you need to analyze

I do not know what the girl is doing in return for all this spending other than earning the repuatation of a gold digger. Second of all, I think that if he loves her, she DOES NOT love him. She's only taking advantage of an opportunity. Not just me, its the entire family doesn't like it,

Why not, when she don see mugu? _{just kiddin}

Well, you can find out the true situation of things first, as you could be just be working on assumptions. Maybe he isn't footing all the bills.
Then talk to him, and if he wouldn't listen to you because you are younger than him or something, depending on the severity of the situation, you could damn his privacy and involve somebody he would listen to. Maybe parent, pastor (if applicable) etc. After all its for his own good.
Above all pray for him.

Madamkoko,
There is a soft approach and a brutal approach to the situation. I believe Krama's response would coincide with my idea of what would be the soft approach. The brutal approach is to start inviting him to social occassions where you stage beautiful sophisticated women around him. Be intent on dismissing her presence, when a beautiful woman walks in introduce him to her. She will get the message and change her ways if she loves him. If she is a digger like you said, after many such embarassing social outings she will walk.

Men has different ways and weapons to get  ladies hook to them,

1. SOUL PROVIDER MEN. theyare men who are lively to women, funny,gentle, easy going and has sense of humor. They make a lot of jokes try their best to make their women laugh all the time, staying with them makes life simple.

2. LOVE WEAPON MEN.  These are the category of men who are sexually active. Handsome, Sex appeal, Physically attractive. They need not to waste their energy in doing the talks, they believe that their physical appearance has concluded the deal for them. They're  Rude and arrogant and give no shit in terms of falling in love. To crown it all they're flirts.

3. MATTERIAL WEAPON MEN. They're mostly timid and lack self confidence in talking with women, they feel so secured showing what money can achieve to them. they spend what it takes to be with the woman of their choice and can be damn jealous if you happen to stand on their way. Giving them advice over what they like is making yourself an enemy of progress to their own veiw. The cause is lack of social life during their childhood.

  Just to cut the story short you're brother is not being charmed by any VOODOO but he's living his natural life. the only advice I will render is to find out if the girl really love him or she's just syphoning his wealth only to end up with a love weapon man or soul provider man.

@ Poster

Let your brother be, nothin you say or do will make him see sense. Looks like he enjoys makin his woman happy.

oziomatv, its quite interesting how you've categorized men.

Money is meant to be spent on babes. Trump, Abiola, Babayaro, Obasanjo, Abacha and Hixxx1 we work to burn money on babes. No problem with that, the annoying thing is where there is only one babe eating the money. Han ha, what the Bleep is wrong with your bros? He has to wake up o. Too many babes to bang. Why restrict himself to one? hE MUST NOT RELENT IN DIGGING THE GOLD HIDDEN BENEATH HER LEGS O.

you sound like an extremist.

What do u mean by 'extremist'? madam, ejo me o mo inglishi - abeg I no know gramma. Extremist as in Ken Saro Wiwa, or Mojahid Asari Dokubo, or Gani Adams or Osama? Or extremist as in Mandela, Desmond Tutu, Gani fawehinme or Obama?

Abeg clarify. So that we can help your bros.

hahaha,  not extremist in terms of political actiivists,

Too many babes to bang. Why restrict himself to one? hE MUST NOT RELENT IN DIGGING THE GOLD HIDDEN BENEATH HER LEGS O.

extremist in terms of this statment. I think theres much more to life than banging babes.

The girl is in London now, went shopping and all ( asking my bros for ticket money back home, what shit ? ) , Bros sends it.   

the girl be winch.

@ hixxx1

what remedys do you havee ?

@ hixxx1[b][/b

maybe I don't need a remedy from you, you've got kiddie porn as your profile pic , _{not being judgemental}

But your brother get the money to burn naa? So why u dey vex. If the money is not available then one can see it as a problem. About the extremist quote, banging is what sexuality is all about. For the pix. Omo, kiddie porn? No talk am again o. For your thread, am totally out of here.

@madamkoko
Have you ever fall in love?

Tell your brother to come for me

@ LARRYMcCOY

and how is that relevant ?

@ buzyDiva

I see u're in canada but if you come live in Nigeria,  then we'll see. 

I'm sure he will figure it out soon

I hope soo ooh, 

Hoping it will not be too late (although I understand he's a guy) as in he could be spending some good time with some other babe, who actually has a life,

Maybe the sex is that good

Who knows, I don't talk to my brother about that stuff,

But she's hardly ever in the country, she's always travelling. (even better maybe I should mind my own business and let him figure things out.) The thing is I just soo irritated, gosh.

Yep! Leave it to him really. He sure will figure it all out in due course

Thanks!!!!

chika98:

I'm sure he will figure it out soon

Ok . . I will be there this xmas if he's still single by then.

@ Diva,

sure i wouldn't mind introducing,

madamkoko:

@ Diva,

sure i wouldn't mind introducing,

I woundn't mind giving my advice whenever you come asking sure you'll need it in near future.

History always repeat itself.

is this girl still in london? if yes, i'd like to meet her. i have a proposal or two she might be interested in.


madamkoko, the best way to deal with this matter is to ignore ur bros and his girl friend. the sooner u got his relationship and girlfriend out of ur thoughts the sooner u'd see the relationship crumble.

but just b4 u embark on the above suggestion, plz gimme her address and contact number. i really do have something interesting she might be interested in. Thank u in anticipation.

madam koko,if ure single with a boyfrend,how wud u feel if ur boyfriend's sister starts complaining about how her broda spends on you,if your broda isnt complaining dat means he is deriving joy spending dat money to see his girl happy.wat is your own inside your broda's relationship sef and the money he spends on his girlfriend,human beings can be soooo selfish.if na u ur bobo dey spend for like dis,u no go mind o,