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JomasisTech:
He dropped 2 links to his previous posts at the beginning of his post.
Since you're asking for an introduction, you should try reading it to know where the whole issue started from.

Na very insensitive person. Kai!

shortgun:

Like seriously?
You think people will pause their lives and dedicate all their time to search for your previous post?

But you expect him to repeat what he has posted before abi?

You are mocking him now but if anything happens, he will be blamed for not speaking out.

I dip when everyone's watching and soak by throwing bits in the cup and remove with spoon when alone.

SmartyPants:
Are there really circles of such or you may just randomly meet such people and perhaps over time for your own circle or get invited into one? Perhaps these circles exist in Uni but once you're in the real world... It almost becomes a lottery who you meet

They exist. They don't just have the time anymore to hang out frequently the way we use to do as kids.

Some people you view as loners aren't at all, they are only mindful of who they move with.

You don't get invited into one, chance meetings and what follows after will determine if you will be a permanent part of them.

SmartyPants:
Hmm. Where are these circles filled with these good women?

It's the circle where men and women, boys and girls are focused on personal and societal development.

You will notice by the kind of people they ALLOW into their space, the passion with which they chase their dreams, the intensity of their focus the kind of conversations that captures their interest and the energy they radiate.

Your circle is the issue.
There are a lot of good women to choose from, whether you are rich or broke.

This is why I said that my answer is ambiguous.

At the start of my career, I would prefer to be a starter at a small club. That way, I get to develop my skills, build confidence and increase my market value, before going for a bigger one.

At the tail end of my career, I will, if the opportunity presents itself settle in a big money league (not just club) so as to make quick money before retirement.

There's a guy on super sports who approaches people at random, asking questions.

I love watching and listening to people's different perspectives on issues on a particular thing.

This is the topic of the week:
Would you rather be a bench warmer in a big club earning big money or a regular player in a small one with lesser pay?

I brought the question here, to have your take on it.

My own answer is YES And NO.
I will give my reason for the ambiguity after hearing from you.

Let's go.

UnabashedIPOB:
"So, the soldier asked him to enter the vehicle, and they brought him back to the barracks because they knew his problem. That time, I was working in the refinery, and when I came back, they told me, 'See your son!' We saw him towards the Imo boundary; we don't know what he went there to do. We don't want him to enter into the hands of people who will harm him."

Shut your trap! The whole story does NOT even make sense. The father claimed when the soldiers brought his son back to the barracks after they picked him up from wandering off, he, the father, was working at the refinery. So, my question is this: "Was he working at the refinery and living in the barracks, or was he a soldier? Otherwise, why would the soldiers return his son to the barracks?" It's no secret that the terrorists in military uniforms and their Fulani terrorist counterparts have used so many tactics to infiltrate our communities and kill our people. So, please do not sit here and open your nasty and contorted mouth to spew trash!

Mr Sherlock Holmes. The fact that he's not Fulani, mentally deranged means that he's not a bandit.

Yes a soldier can work in a refinery in Rivers state and still live in ELELE barracks.

Is it not this same Ipob that beheaded an Igbo soldier girl and her northern christian fiancee?

Very irrational people!

UnabashedIPOB:
There's no smoke without fire. It must be a duck if it walks like a duck or quacks like a duck. What was he doing before he was arrested? We have heard all these cock and bull stories before. It's just like the terrorist Fulanis killed in Edo state marauding as Hausa hunters.

Thanks for expressing yourself.
We shall remind you of your response when it comes around.

1. Beetroot
2. Plenty onions (raw and at least a bulb a day)
3. Replace table salt with sea salt
4. Rest properly
5. Trek more
6. Vitamin D3 (must be combined with k2 or don't buy)
7. Eat more of liver, kidney and heart
8. Eat avocado ( not much o), in the absence of avocado, take magnesium supplements
9. Eat seafood or take zinc supplements
10. Eat green veggies very often.
11. Reduce carbs and eliminate wheat, semo.
12. Rely more on olive and palm oil.
13. Expose yourself to sunlight for at least 20 minutes.

AVOID:
1. Smokers
2. Debt
3. Difficult people
4. Arguments
5. Be a forgiving person ( it's not weakness)

ItisWell22:
My exact thought.

What are the consequences?

Has the op encountered any previous donor with probable complications due to the process?



🤣

E tire me.

Assuming that I want to dissuade a girl from donating her eggs, do you think this article has shed enough light on the implications of donating her eggs.

It's not rare to see SA/Nigerian marriages.
My former boss's neighbors were a South African man with a Nigerian wife.
My present boss's wife is a South African. She's very fluent in Yoruba language.

My former boss, though white, is married to a Nigerian Igbo lady. He understands Igbo.

Gigantism (abnormal growth condition).
This conditions distort some of the victims body features.

Andre the giant, a french wrestler in the eighties also suffered from the condition.

Gr8mind07:
In as much as I respect your opinion and preference , i still believe that a lady that is not emotionally sound for marriage at 29 will hardly be even at 50. I don'tthink a 29 year's old lady is young for you except that you have observed some deficiencies in her.

She has a lot of qualities I want in a lady, hardworking, doesn't follow crowd, stands up to anyone that wants to intimidate her, educated, knows when to give emotional support etc.

I must confess that I have seen a mature lady with the same qualities that I am thinking of asking out.

I will help the girl find a good guy.

Dogalmighty17:
46 and lacking in wisdom. Such a tragedy.

Please can you explain so that I can learn?

eepeepook:
I take God beg you, quit any job which disrupts your sleep cycle. Get at least six hours of sleep daily if you care for your long term health. All the money in the world will not fix an ailing body.

My only suggestion for you is to pick that twenty-nine year old or someone else in her late twenties for marriage. If you prefer your age range, date them on the side. If woman thirty-five plus years die from childbirth after marriage, you will be back to square one.

Thanks for the concern bro.
The level of hardship was much, that's why I made the decision to perish from working hard rather than allow hunger.

I sleep well these days.

Mryacks:
Like someone wrote up there, your preference is valid. You are well within your right to prefer a certain age demography. The thing isbalot of women between the he ages of 24 to 30 will still rush to marry you. 46 for a man is solid. Many guys your age will not even bother to look at ladies in the age range you want for marriage. They will look at younger women. But just do you if that's what you want mahn...

What you said about some guys not going for the age range I mentioned is true.

I prefer a partnership kind of arrangement, hence my preference for ladies in their late 30s to mid 40s.

Caaz:
Beautiful narrative@op.

Thank you Caaz.

TossTos:
Great 👌 , that is one area you guys will have to talk . To me I prefer a woman that can create job not looking for job though. Then I will support financially, morally and what it takes . Once I know she's a good woman, intelligent and ready to form a formidable team with me... You know when she start having kids , 9-5 jobs might not give her enough time for the kids. For now , if found for her, you both work things out , plan on it ,do some flexible Savings ahead of time . Power of Savings ,is what help me . I built my 3bedrom mini flat through savings and that's where I live today ( mind you , the Savings are not huge money like that o , 1k sometimes, 2k sometimes, I was determined and I achieved it ) .. so please , we're the author of our lives. I so much respect you , I wish you good luck . Please be patience with her and know that you're the one to re-shape her to how you want her to be , there might be shortcomings from her but how you handle the situation tells her the kinda man you are and you'll earn the respect you deserve from her ..

She's intelligent o, disciplined with very big plans for the future.
Na Igbo girl wey no dey carry last, but I'm not comfortable with the age difference, to be frank.

I plan to maintain a platonic friendship with her,assist her in chasing her dreams and achieve her aspirations.

Klass99:
I can understand the interest from younger women, because I like older men too.

Well it's good to hear that you know what you want, so go for it and don't be swayed by the opinions of others.

@ The statement in bold, I'm a woman too but I went in a different direction with my advice for the reasons I mentioned above.

Go with what is in your heart.

Coming from ladies,one start suspecting that there's is something they know and are not telling you by advising one to go for younger ladies.
Even an American biracial, I assumed will frown against the age gap wanted to pair me with a less than 25 year old, but I didn't show interest.



Your take is much in line with what I have in mind for a wife.

Klass99:
29 is no where close to your age range na. If I were you, @ 46, I will be looking to settle with a woman within the age range of 35 - 46, who has solid years or work or business experience, and is reasonably established in whatever legit thing they do for a living.

A woman who is well grounded in their career and personal life will appeal to me more because if I am coming to the table that way I need you to match that energy and let's combine forces and be a movement in our marriage/lives.

I say this as someone who doesn't like to babysit grown ups or hold their hand to teach or show them what to do. That sort of work is best reserved for children who are vulnerable and don't know better yet.



Say what you need to say......John Mayer's hit song.

29 is too young for me, honestly.
Several people, especially ladies, have been advising me to go for younger ladies, but I prefer the ones in the age bracket of 37 to 45.

I'm flattered by the interest from young girls, but I don't intend to marry one.

Starz825:
Na wa oo.. may her soul rest in peace

Sorry for your relationship experience sir.
.

In all...let's give thanks to God...

Thank you

Starz825:
🤣🤣🤣...

No kill me abeg..
It's too early in the day


But wetin kill that Igbo girl?

Diabetes.
There wasn't much I could do, but I feel guiit anytime I remember her.
I was extremely busy during the period she passed away.
I will wake by 4 AM and sleep by 1 AM TO chase money, I didn't at least, give her much attention.

TossTos:
For the fact that you said your salary can take care of two people and you want to give marriage a chance , I will say go ahead and let that lady have something doing either 9-5 job like you or she's got something to start doing or already, you may support her .. and I am very sure you would have discovered yourself and she too , to know what you guys want and coming together of you both is all about .

She will soon have a job. I'm helping her search, plus she's one helluva of a fighter to give up on job search.

duduade:
I hope the 29 Year old lady has a job

She's yet to.
Just finished service.

I turned 46 January this year.
I arrived Lagos 13 years ago and dated a lady a little bit older. I was struggling financially and wasn't going to marry in that broke state, coupled with other things,we broke up.

I didn't relationship a chance for a long time, except for casual flings. When I turned 40 in 2019, I dated an Igbo girl. She was 26, I wanted just a fling because I was so broke even the rats in my house ran off because of hunger,.

Some days she visits, I won't have transport fare for her, but she asked me to marry her. This is someone who was engaged to someone that was 9 younger than me.
Not quiet long after, she died.

I met a cross river girl, also 26, she also suggested that we marry,, she's extremely beautiful, but intellectually deficient,

At age 42, I met an Eket (Akwa Ibom) girl, 23 years old, where I was working, our salary was on the same range.
She had a boyfriend who's working in the same place.

I was just going bald and use to hide it with a cap.
We were alone one day, then she asked me if I have 'gorimapa', I nodded. She asked me to remove the cap, I complied, she almost died from laughter .

'why are you not married? " she asked me. " Money ' I replied.
Then she said ' marry me".
I told her that I am 19 years older, but she was adamant,. I would have gone ahead and marry her, but she is still nursing the idea of getting more education, plus the fact that the boyfriend almost died from heartbreak, I left her.

For the past 2 years, my monthly income has been increasing, enough to feed two people, a 29 year old friend wants us to marry, not even date.

I prefer mid to late thirties.

I'm not asking for opinions, just narrating my 'woman matter ' story

We're age mates.

My positive energy is fire. Na me dey encourage people sef.

saintopus:
Equipments are the problem for these kind of programs. Another is manpower.
It's not the payment that is the issue.
Look at Introductory Technology in the Junior Secondary School, it was meant to achieve the same thing that the Hon Minister is saying. That program failed for the same reason.

Introductory technology and agricultural science practicals impacted those of us that schooled in semi urban environments.

I know of a guy that went into carpentry after secondary school. Another opened a fine art studio and even employed me and some other small children, before he got admission into a polytechnic institute.

Tiv people don't do naming ceremony.