₦airaland Forum

ThinkSmarter:
The truth is that it is extremely difficult to regulate immigration across the sahel due to its geography.
Dunno if US have succeed in securing their border with Mexico.
Most Nigerien tribe that speak and understand Hausa lang.
Especially those of bantu descent that physically resembles the Hausafulanis literally have Nigerian citizenship by default.
Most of them are traders across Nigerian towns.
When u interact and do business with them, u do realise they are not Nigerians.
They are very honest.

Only the Tivs and a tribe in Cross river state are of Bantu descent in West Africa.

To me, I wanted to pipe low and take his word for it. He asked for some money to take bolt home because he didn't come out with cash. I went into the shop and gave him.





He's a leech who saw your son as competition.

UjuJoan2:
That’s why the wife was paying all the bills when he couldn’t, and when he could he decided to waste the money on frivolities. I don’t know any woman that would forgive that so easily.

That’s why men should just carry their responsibilities and stop all these nonsense.

No woman is ready to suffer in the name of marriage. The earlier you guys realize that, the better for you.

The man forgave and accepted her back when she allowed another man to have his fill of her until he got tired.
The problem here is, why not use protection, why did she trick him into believing that the pregnancy is his? I don't know of any man that will forgive that easily.




Your last paragraph dey make me laff, walahi.
You spoke on behalf of all women abi?

Johnnyjohnnyman:
Taking care of kids alone doesn't mean she should have sell her body , a lot of women have been taking care of their children alone for so many years and they don't sell their body to feed them they cut their coats according to their size.
I didn't have any money and I have suggested moving back to my mother place to reduce the expenses it would have saved her from paying the rent but she refused.
If the responsibility was a too much on her instead of her to sell her body to a man who promised her heaven on earth which he didn't fulfilled. She should have moved in with me to my mother place or bring the children to my mother place to reduce the stress but she didn't she choose the easiest way to sell her body without protection she wasn't even scared of diseases or pregnancy.
when she has realised that the guy was only using her and didnt fulfil all his promises. She breaks up with him and cut her coats according to her size that's something she should have done earlier than selling her body to him.
am not to be blame for the choice she made because she wanted it to be like that and at the end she got a bonus a beautiful baby girl.
She should bear the consequences alone.
Fortunately I am not a dead beat man or a ingrat if I was she would have never begged me for forgiveness. She came because she knows I am a responsible husband and father and to err is human.

She will kill your wife if you were her brother, but since this is a faceless forum, she's must use your case and wage gender warfare.
She wants to get on your nerves.

Johnnyjohnnyman:
You are right I bore the consequences of my mistakes alone she should also bear the consequences of keeping another man pregnancy alone.

Simple!

UjuJoan2:
You can’t control how people react to what you do them. People will react they way react and that’s just the way it it.

People have different threshold of betrayal and hurt. Some may waive it aside, others may take it deeply.

And what do you mean by the bore the consequences of her betrayal without her support? From what I read, while he was with his parents, the lady was fully responsible for his children, his responsibility. So tell me again, how did he suffer?

Marriage is team work.
People marry for the purpose of helping, complementing and supporting each other.

I know that the husband is the provider in a family, but in cases where the man is facing difficulties, the wife steps in to assist for a while until the guy is back on his feet.


He didn't abdicate his responsibility, he was momentarily down at the time and needed reassurance.
After the display of anger, she ought to have stood by him instead of cutting off communication.

UjuJoan2:
You know, he did something wrong too.

The wife was taking full responsibility of the family and fending for them when he couldn’t. And he got some cash, and instead of helping out like he should, he decided to give the money to his sister. Without his wife’s knowledge. How do you think that made her feel when she found out?

Used? Betrayed? Take for granted?

Clearly what she did was not done with a clear mind.

I’m not defending her, but the man should at least take some responsibility for what happened.

He did.
Carefully read the post and you will notice that he showed remorse to the wife.
It's normal for a wife to be angry when you sideline her in making decisions but in her case, she over reacted and made herself vulnerable.
The man bore the consequences of his decision without her support, it's time to reciprocate, in my opinion.

PussyGalore:
But why would the man leave his wife for 3 months?

Is 3 months too much?
Na wa for this rotten generation.

Intellectuall01:
Hey, enough of the derailing

Okay. No vex.






But Tinubu won't win.

Intellectuall01:
Fortunately, he is preordained to win. You see say he dey make nonsense? No, he doesn't make noise because he knows himself very well.

Unfortunately, the stars are not aligned in his favour.
Over confidence has finished him patapata.

Intellectuall01:
Ha, my man. We are both Aries oh. I'm 29th March. We are too generous, in fact the most generous humans ever in this world and as a result of this, we carry too much burden. You can see some of your character in tinubu, see as he dey empower people up and down abi? That's Aries for you, Tinubu na March 29th too.

Aries is the King of the Zodiac, the only zodiac sign who's followers don't want to leave him. The street credibility is just too much.

Nigeria has never been ruled by an Aries president that's why people don't know the magnitude of goodness and mercy that Tinubu is about to bring into Nigeria.

Try as much as you can not to hold grudge against anyone. Whosoever offends you would come begging. You might be the womanizing type of Aries or the lover boy type.

The lover boy type can simp too much and carry all of a woman's responsibility because Aries is the only Zodiac sign in this world that will want to help you to the existent that you are better than him. Aries will help you get to his own level unlike other Zodiac signs who won't want you to be better than them.

Shebi you see how tinubu is empowering people and making them kings? No Zodiac sign does that except Aries.

Try to fight against impatience. Nor join cult otherwise you will ruin yourself because you are a rebel and most times, a one man mopol.

Try everything within your power to be secretive as much as you can because Aries talks to much. We are too impulsive.

You are the nicest person and everybody around you can attest to this fact. You can be very independent and it is best you become your own boss, try not to work for anyone.

Avoid drugs because your destiny doesn't accepts it. You dream a lot and most of your dreams have hidden messages.

You are loved by many and also envied by many. Be careful around these people Cancer, Pisces and Scorpio. This is because you sre made of fire and those people are made of water therefore, too much quarrels.

You easily forgives so make sure you date or marry a lady that is just like you. If possible, date and marry your fellow Aries and you will prosper so much.

You are a very powerful person, the number 1 leader of the zodiac. You are very honest snd it wins you too many loyal people.

The story too long oh

May God not allow Tinubu to win the election in the name of Jesus.
Amen.

Johnnyjohnnyman:
True the dna result is not wrong she knows it well that the child isn't mine and she had tried to manipulate me but she didn't succeed. I had left the house to show her that I am serious with my decision and nothing will change my mind.

God bless you brother.
By now, she must have lied (she's an unrepentant liar) to the father that you are wrongly accusing her that's why you're calling for a meeting (her father must have tried to find out from her, and she will use that opportunity to present the story in a way to favour her).

The biological father of the child is already aware of what's going on. She will tell him, at least to guilt trip him and get him to provide a soft landing for her if things don't go her way.

She doesn't value your peace of mind, it's her reputation she's fighting to preserve.

maasoap:
That's not just about sex, that separation was about many things, more like about everything. A man has many responsibilities to his wife and kids, not just sex for the wife and food for the kids. He bailed!

She was frustrating him.
Let me tell a secret, when a lady is beginning to show you pepper continually over what she should react for some time, then put behind her, chances that she's seeing someone are high.
If it's about making the needed sacrifices to keep a home and their marriage work, let me be sincere, we're nowhere near them.
What should OP have done when she was making life hell for him.
That woman don dey cheat before her husband lost money abeg.

Johnnyjohnnyman:
True my younger brother has also said the same thing he ask me to come over to his house and stay until the meeting. I will go and stay with him until next week Sunday.

Confam!
Run!!

zedegit:
Have you given birth before? Do you understand the horrible pains women go through pushing out babies?

I understand what she did was wrong but don't send her away. Confront her with the discovery, her response should guide your decision. If she's sober, give her a chance.

Remember some men also cheat, men like Yul Edochie and they expect their wife to forgive them.

#Cheating is wrong

No man or woman should pay for the sins of other men or women.
Period!

Johnnyjohnnyman:
I haven't decide yet but sending her away will be better for my own sanity. My children will be fine they have a grandmother and a cousin who adore them they will help me to take care of them

Now you are talking.
Some people are saying that you should not send her away, forgetting that beyond cheating, she didn't give you a chance or offered moral support when you were down.

Do not forget that she's manipulative, unforgiven and controlling. She thinks about herself and her comfort alone.
Run for your life before she finishes you.

maasoap:
But in this case, Op broke his own home. Separating with your wife and kids for seven months, more like an excuse to run away from your responsibilities to your wife and kids. I wouldn't put 100% blame on the wife alone, never!

People, including myself stay, have stayed, or can stay without a relationship or sex for a very long time if we're chasing a very important goal.

If you don't make certain sacrifices in life, you can't go very far.
Forgiveness is sacrifice. Sticking to an individual when you can leave or cheat on them is not the lack of the opportunity, but sacrifice.


Who started the issue that led to the breakup. Is she not the one?

Wetin be ordinary 7 months to go without sex?

MoneyMustBMade:
I don't know how so men feel to be fucking peoples wife and be ok with it, since you know that if she is pregnant tomorrow now you not still accept her
How will the person feel if is the other way round?

I taya

mariahAngel:
Just as there are ladies who are obsessed with married men, and shamelessly go after them.

Na wa o.

It's either they don't mentally put themselves in other people's shoes or gratification of self is stronger than reason.

Well... what goes around...

mariahAngel:
It is the married person who owes their spouse faithfulness, and therefore should be blamed for cheating.

You don't understand.
There are men whose fetish is married women.
This men actually chase them, though I'm not excusing anybody sha.

Be strong and reject depression, by immersing yourself in whatever to keep you busy.
For the sake of your dependants, man up.



A colleague who is having issues with the husband told me that they didn't have a proper marriage, after 3 kids o.

She wants to put my heart at rest so that I can 'chop'. Not me.
Another mumu is sleeping with her and feeling like Romeo.

Sometimes I blame our fellow men for breaking people's homes.

Blupen:
People don't like me bro am short

Just say na girlfriend wey u never get be your problem.
MEN can never hate you because you are not tall.

Khaleesi4lyf:
e reach to ask oh

How. Too young or too old for konji?

Kobojunkiee:
Look, if you are dealing with an sex addiction, then I advise you to seek the help of a professional mental health therapist in helping you develop the necessary mental discipline you are so obviously lacking.

I believe that this is happening in Nigeria, so where do you expect him to find a mental health therapist?

The advise will only make him feel helpless and frustrated.

Sit her down and advise her to get something doing if she loves you.
Tell her to set goals for herself.
Tell her that you have goals that you want to achieve and she's drawing you back.

She will flaunt guys before you and destabilize your emotions if I you cut her off at once.

I responded here because I am sure someone would ask some of these questions. Make I respond to all in one place.[/quote]I'm one of them

pocohantas:
Trying A New Niche.

Does one need to have a very good command of English language for this kind of job?

I'm not good at math neither is my English really good.

I love reading, I'm a baker. I also get along with people easily.

What niche would you advise someone like me to go for?

God bless you Pocahontas... for the previous and present threads.

I am encouraged.

Get close to the girls that the bad are in relationships with. Na their u go know say God dey punish people.

They are rotten to the core, and are usually very attracted to good guys who are confident in their own skin.

They hate it, and will stop giving you attention when you start acting like a bad guy.

Offpoint1:
One of the reasons I quit church, the idea were they don't want you to ask God questions doesn't sit well with me

I don't understand.

You wanted to ask God questions and the church objected?

LagBlogger:
Probably you share some similarities with cold hearted, cynical critics.

Whether he scores low on whatever assessment you call it, I am quite sure dude is testing the waters.

Criticize with helpful tips not harsh statements like extremely stressful.

That sounds hateful especially as you didn't specify ways he could improve on it.

By the way, are you the entire 7-8 readers? What if you're wrong?

The OP wrote in a way that his former colleagues coming across the post will know that he's the one.

I have a strong suspicion that einsteine is one of them, hence the attack.

Bobmarie:
I just commented this. It seems he was rightly sacked because his knowledge of his co workers personal profiles is very alarming.

Even if he was told, the memory retention is scary. Almost like he intends to do something with their details.

I read a comment in the first page commending his writing. That gave me a laugh!

Don't just laugh.
He's a good writer.
He got information about their personal lives from themselves.

Some people's mouth is an endless supply of information.