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SLAP44:
I will double my hustle and not expect her to give me money. I cannot stoop so low to accept money from a babe, even if I paid all her school fees.

I have assisted her in more situations than she has. I just dont want to relate all what i have done for her. And like i said i just got a job this month and will be expecting my first salary at the end of the month

Hello Nairalanders,
I have been dating a lady for a while now. we have had our good and bad moments together, this is the situation on ground. i just completed my NYSC in August this year and got a well paying job this month.My girlfriend is yet to serve, so in order for her not to be idle at home i was able to get a job for her around september with a salary of 50k (Note: i didnt take the offer then because i was preparing for my professional exams).

During the period while i was jobless, there was a time i was really broke, she told me she had no money only for me to find out a few weeks later that during that period she had 15k, i was really mad at her but decided to forgive her.

For the past 3 weeks she has been staying with me temporarily because she has accommodation issues. Even though i have not been paid, i have made sure she is comfortable. She was away from work for about two weeks last month, so she told me she was paid half salary because of it. i believed that. even with the half salary she was still using the money to buy clothes and other personal effects without even showing any form of appreciation through her conduct (like buying something for me also while shopping) for the assistance i have rendered so far.

We normally go back home together because our offices are close to each other. yesterday while we were going home, she discovered her phone had been stolen in computer village. prior to yesterday, she made me believe she was totally broke. i have been paying for our transport fare ever since.

This morning she said her mum sent her 2k and she wanted to withdraw the money. when we got to the ATM she shouted that her 18k had been withdrawn from her account. i was shocked because this is someone that told me she was totally broke. when i interrogated her further she said she was paid her full salary last month and not half as she earlier told me. i am so mad at her right now.

what will you do if you find yourself in my shoes plz

Good morning nairalanders.
I just got a job in Lekki and I have other potential offers in Victoria Island. I need suggestions on the best or closest location to rent a self contain ( not so expensive).

Thanks

thepakuma:
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Both experienced and non-experienced candidates are welcome to apply, but must not be above the age limit

A Bachelor's degree or higher (in any field), with a minimum of Second Class Lower

Should have completed NYSC

Have a good command of the English language, with excellent communication skills

Should be able to work in a team, be self-driven, results-oriented, innovative and keen to learn


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Ensure your profile is complete and up to date on Jobberman.

Take the Personality Insights Assessment.

Fill the job application form, and type your cover letter as instructed.

Submit your application.

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1. Make sure you have a well-written, error-free and short cover letter. Your cover letter should take this format:
1a. Introduce yourself- indicate your name, age (as of December 31st, 2019), university, course of study, qualification, NYSC status, state of origin and local government. (Write your grades as; First Class/ Second Class Upper/ Second Class Lower/Pass. Write NYSC status as; NYSC Completed/ NYSC Ongoing/ NYSC Not started).
1b. Explain why you should be considered for the program and include any notable achievement of yours.
2. Make sure you edit your CV to capture the keywords listed in the job description.
3. Make no errors.
4. Listed to the right on the job portal are 13 common factors that motivate employees in an organization. As an intending employee, select 5 from the list that is of topmost priority to you. (Pay attention to this, read thoroughly. This is a selection criterion)
5. Keep your salary choice round 200,000.
6. Attach your new CV and click apply.

Then pray...If I get 100 comments, I would share how to prep for the interview and getting selected for this management trainee. Good luck

will there not be an aptitude test or just straight to an interview

frubben:
baba I feel your pain o, same thing is happening to me now, my own happen late March, I snapped and slap my girlfriend, I beg and she forgave and we were cool for close to 6 month all of a sudden she just texted me on Whatsapp last week that she wants to break up. Baba I love this girl like mad. So I understand what you are pass through. Giving her space is not easy oooo if you truely love her but just try. Baba to b Frank it might not b another guy girls are just like that

Thank you very much bro

Nat404:
They ought not to begged her to stay. She has another guy now. What you need to do right now is to ignore her and go for another girl. There are a lot of single girls out there.

Thank u bro dat is what I want to do

GrabHisBalls:
His Cousin has to be a JUPEB student. UNIBEN has not released admission list and JUPEB students are not eligible to apply for hostel spaces.

With that said, you left Ekosodin 3yrs ago, a lot has changed. I personally detested anything about the place, but it's relatively peaceful now when compared to those places you thought were better residential areas.

If his cousin must move to Ekosodin, he has to be properly guided, or better still, he needs to make rules for himself. I live there now, BTW.

OK MA

supercase1:
My nephew just gained admission at UNIBEN and while we a looking for accommodation for him off campus we heard that ekosodin is a no go area for fresher's!! !!! Pls anyone with info about this place!!

I finished from UNIBEN 3 years ago. Ekosodin is rough for young minds like him that can be easily influenced. I will advice he looks for alternative accommodation inside the school till maybe his second year or third before moving off campus

Drshobz:
make sure you block her too on all ur media

and stop begging her
because the more you beg the more angrier she will get .

am speaking from experience though my own situation was different (I dont beat ladies ) begged and begged and my friends and there babes begged her
she no gree

local man gats lock up after some months
person begin beg me say make I forgive am dat she was hurt
I said no p
but Oyo is ur case (I can't be dating modern day pharaoh with a heart of stone)

d babe beg taya but my mind is already made up
so my guy free that babe don't u ever make any unnecessarily sacrifice for any lady who is not your wife or related to you by blood

Thank you bro. Na wetin i go do

mp3ree:
guy free the babe ,she has been seeing somebody else but doesn't know how to end the relationship,as soon as the new guy disappoints her she will come back with an excuse for taking that action.
NO MUMU yourself...DEJAVU

Thank you bro na wetin i don resolve o

akinjojo1234:
Best advice, and this is coming from a woman. Maximum respect sis

Thank you very much bro

slimay:
The gf has said it all.... U are indeed a fool

I don't blame you

dapo456:
you are a fool truely , you lost the fight already, why did you slap her? forget about the relationship

If u cannot criticicize me reasonably i will appreciate you keep quiet rather than insulting me

Prompto:
She doesn't have to be cheating but being rude to the extent OP describe shows disdain n in a relationship if a woman can show that extent of disdain it is beta to be excused. OP should apologise for slapping her that is totally wrong. I am willing to bet it is beta OP excuse her to a reasonable extent n if she comes around they'll own a more fruitful union than pleading of doing Mr Niceguy.

This is so far you are with 9ja lady.

Thank you very much bro

askino:
i have been in a related position once...my brother things like these are always the same..the only and best solution is to first get over her by getting a replacement whichever way you can.. by the time your heart heals... you will go for testimony because you will be upgraded and start seeing the real situation... your mistakes and the fact that you need to run from that devil..physically and spiritually... she knows your feelings and will later test it...she is not your love..she is your tribulations and road block to glory. .u will be stronger and guide your heart better but learn the good learning and don't become fierce that you Will start to maltreat the innocent j j c coming your way.

Thank u bro

jerry1234567890:
he no easy o,bt wat is d nature of her job

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macho44:
Bros, forget all this ya long talk. For someone who ya claim to be ya Erinma to begin dey do anyhow like dis, two things are involved.
1. It's either, there's someone else who is willing to offer more than what you bring to the table, Financially, Sexually and otherwise
Or
She is tired of you, and wants to move on. Either way, you should take it in your stride and be the man , afterall you have a phallus dangling between ur thighs.
As a rule of thumb, never ever allow your feelings for a member of the opposite sex becloud your sense of reasoning. You should learn to show people that in as much as they are important, you can also do without them without batting an eyelid. It's called "Reverse Psychology" , shit works like charm for me, and it should do miracles for you too.
In between, abeg no dey do like mumu, ur mumu don do. I no dey yab u ooo, na advice I dey advice you.

Thank u bro

seanwilliam:
do the following and watch her crave for ur attention like a boss.
1. play reverse psychology on her(stop calling her)
2. after the above, get urself as many ladies as possible and rub it nn her face
3. improve urself financially and sexually
4. if she eventually comes back, dnt stalk her and let her see u as a guy with many options

Thank you very much bro

chris20000:
Thank God that the real men are here finally.
op forget about most of the comments on the first page of this thread and focus on the second page all you need to do is there.

Thank you bro

Dshocker:
As a man you are supposed to know when a girl doesn't want you anymore....Bros move on,there are billions of girls out there

That is true

kingkakaone:
The mistake people(men and women) make is giving out a lot just to keep their partners happy.

NOTE: Where your happiness comes from depends on when it will end.

Whenever you are in a relationship (unmarried), always remember one fact, never give up anything good just to please your partner, what is sweet today may become bitter tomorrow. (Have it in mind that people change with time.)

...and OP, stop saying you can't live without her because in 5 years time, either after marriage or not you would look at her one day and feel you wasted your time with her.
There are wonderful ladies everywhere who will make you feel stupid for saying such words if you date them. You will discover that many are miles ahead her in character and all.

Finally, your girlfriend has been looking for a way to break off either for someone who is telling her sweet words or because she feels your relationship is not taking her anywhere.
She only needed you to make a mistake so she can leave with a clear conscience while the load is dropped on your head.

Relax your head and know that no one is indispensable, including you OP.

Thank you very much for this matured comment

Dshocker:
Truth be told,she has lost interest in you...Probably she has another guy.

Just recently i tested the love of my girlfriend,by doing something that would have ended the relationship,but she forgave me.

I actually feel the same way but she should have acted matured and told me point blank

BigJoe19:
Very good. In your next relationship, create your standard and let your girlfriend know you deserve respect.

I don't think I will want to put myself in this position again. I am scared of dating.

IceColdVeins:
Boy move on!!! She's probably found somene else, even if not, your respect is gone and you'll forever worship her punanee

I will heed to this advice even though it will be difficult

BigJoe19:
Abeg leave her alone, you thinking you can't find another girl better than her is false, you both acted wrong, so if she can't come back it's a loss for her.

Find another girl and enjoy your life, no time for stupid annoying girls.

That is what I have resolved to do

BigJoe19:
Na only u be man wey sabi for here, all the remaining just dey yarn nonsense. How can a woman bodly call a man a fool, is that not verbal abuse and it is not different from physical abuse. He slapped her, she slapped him back so why should he beg.

If she tired of the relationship, let her leave, she is not diamond that is hard to find.

Bro i was really annoyed when she insulted me and thing be say she dey point finger for my face.

Newboss:
Don't listen to those saying all those lovey dovey trash above. Stop begging.

In this game, the last person to beg is the ultimate loser. If you want to inflate a lady's ego, beg her. Trust me, once you do that, subconsciously, she begins to see you as a loser. Don't show any weakness. Don't contact her again.

Thank you very much bro.

ceeroh:
You bleeped up big time. No matter what happens, never let your insecurities show, can't you just pretend until you find out if she's up to something nasty or not? Now you don use your hot temper and jealousy spoil everything. Weak ass punk!

As for the traffic excuse, if it's Lagos, then forget it. D traffic these days na die. It's enough to make someone go nuts.
You're too overbearing, goan learn how to handle a woman.

I never suspected her to be cheating. I was only annoyed that she could point her fingers to my face and call me a fool

Kaycee54321:
Next time abeg, no put hands on the woman you Love.

There are many reasons for her to be acting up. Women are not wired like men, sometimes their emotions are erratic. Apologise for hitting her but not for being offended on how she treated you.

Best of luck Bro.

Thank you very much bro. I feel so bad for touching her

grossintel:
You're welcome, don't listen to those saying you should free the babe, she's cheating blah blah blah. Every women is a cheat to Nairalanders, I know say you fvck up, are you easily irritated these days? Cause some times when my girlfriend stays with me for a while she becomes super annoying. She'll leave me hungry and be watching that yeye Z world, when I turn off the TV she will carry phone and start pressing. If no be say I dey gentle na better slap, but I just overlook those things. Living with a woman is a whole new level, please learn to control your temper and watch how you talk, I believe that's why she talks back at you rudely. Don't conclude she's cheating yet, when they cheat they are usually super nice trust me.

Thank you very much bro i I really agree with you

DaudaAbu:
let her be for a while, she will get over it

Thank you very much bro