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I call him Chocolate Candy and occationally Baby or My Love.

But Chocolate Candy is my name for him even in my phone.

I strongly agree with Yimiton!
What's good for the goose is good for the gander.

hardly works but could

@ almondjoy,
No, it definitly wasn't the same culture, homes and upbringings differ. My grand parents were just partially educated not like Okonjo's parents who were well read as well as she grew up in the village and remained there all her life, teaching and bringing up her girls.
My mom is very strong in a lot of ways, she's not a weakling by any standard, but do you expect my mom who was a secondary school teacher to walk out of her home with her 9 children of which 8 were girls and take to the streets or back to her parents house because her husband was cheating?

She was strong enough to stay, and we took up her case as soon as we could. my dad did all of that nonsense short of taking a second wife and even had kids outside but she still remained the pillar of the home, well respected, loved and valued by her kids.

@ almondjoy,
If you were brought up in a culture that preaches 'submissiveness' of woman to man, a culture where the man is infallable and where daughters as well as wives are not suppose to have a say in major decision, you might understand what I'm talking about.

Fortunately, my siblings and I aren't anything like my parents in that angle, so, we are the only strenght she's got. His infidelity is our problems too because it's a dance of shame and every one in our neighbourhood knew about it and made jest of our family.

To your question, NO, it didn't stop my dad from going around with women but it did stop him from doing it to our faces and shamelessly as if it were his birth right.

I think it's a good idea but you must start by giving a very sound moral teaching and the benefits of chastity.

When i was about 20 and an undergraduate, I didn't want to get disvirgined even though i had a boyfriend.
I wore some very rare beads on my waist and told my boyfriend that my mom gave it to me as a sign of my virginity. I was allowed to take it off only on my wedding night after the marriage has been consumated.

He believed me and we kept a 4 year relationship without sex. I later told him I lied to keep us safe from sex. He thought that was the coolest thing I ever told him!

This is indeed a tricky one.
I once asked if it is possible to get pregnant without actually penetrating.
I was told by a doctor that it was possible in a very low percentage. So, for the fact that you 'released' in her, that could be possible.
But there's no need to fret, the best thing to do is to go to the nearest clinic and do a pregnancy test or buy a portable tester and do the test.
If she's pregnant, get prepared to be a dad soon. If not, please stay away from such games if you're not ready to be a dad.

Note that being weak does not authomatically mean she's pregnant.

I don't agree with almondjoy,
I know what the poster is talking about because this has happened to me too.
We confronted my dad and he threatened to disown all of us!
My mom knew but she was too scared to talk, she always apologised on our behalf and looked guilty. It's simply the African mentality, she's about 60 now and grew up in the village with strict African mentality and beliefs even though she's a graduate.
I can feel the pain of your friend but the only option is to talk to your dad. I'm glad he's male, let him call him and have a man to man talk with him.
Tell you what, even if he threatens brim stone and fire, he will curtail his actions and stop doing it as shamelessly as he's doing.
We actually told my dad he was disgracing us before the eyes of our friends and pers. He was so mad and wondered why 'he sent these wortless girls to school!'
It's a terrible world indeed.

Did I see Richard and Tati making love yesterday night? Please someone should clear the air on this. Did they really have it? as in Real SEX?
I've not been following up. I always prefer to be hooked on E! but yesterday, just before it was bed time, i tuned in and I saw them under the sheets. Did anything or has anything ever really happened? I need an answer PLEASE!

I'm sorry,
this is probably the wrong place to place this thread but i didn't know about New Members thread before.
Besides, I spend a lot of time here reading people's posts even before I became a member.

@ yimiton,
thanks, I've always liked your posts. I think you're real cool. If you don't mind, we could hook up sometime on yahoo IM.

Thanks Idera .N, my night was good. I couldn't help but look forward today to visit nairaland again. It's been fun here meanwhile.

The love scene between Demi moore and Patrick Swayze in Ghost It's the best ever. The sound track was perfect.

When the Lord closes the door. . . . Somewhere, he opens the window.

Sound of music

I detest flucorday advert by Boy alinco. It's the worse advert I ever saw

I love cocacola and indomie advert. They are so cool

I'm yet to watch Hero, though I already bought it.
With these posts, I'm so anxious to watch it. I'll have to make out the time some time this week.
I guess it will be worth my while.

I've not been following big brother as dedicated as I used to but the last time I checked I think guy that came in with Ashanti (can't remember his name) seem to be tripping for Ofuneka.
Do you think he really likes her or he knows she's going to win the money and trying to establish a relationship to enable him get a share of the money.

Roots is one of the coolest movies I ever saw. It's so real, you can actually associate with it.
I'll also recommend From Dusk till Dawn the one by George Clooney if you like horror. That movie is fine

Thanks Iyke,
I won't mind establishing friendship with great minds. We could be NL friends if you don't mind either.

niceuzor, Thanks for the info, I'll watch my words

. . . . and the kind of candies I've got to share, are nice and sweet but could also be a little sour and even out rightly bitter! The good news though is that you're free to choose which ever you want.

Hay Guys,
I'm female and down to earth! I mean I don't really form but I make a little shakara when necessary.
I think you're all so cool.
Yes, I have lots of candies to share and I love your names too.
I'm already enjoying myself here. Guess this is going to be really sweet.

@ Idera .N
That is so so cool! Thanks.

@ mdsocks,
If you like candies, then, you're going to like me so much. I'm really cool.

Hay Nairalanders!
It's so nice to be here finally. I've been following this forum for a while without registering and I've enjoyed it immensely.
I respect some great minds here and some really witty people.
No wonder it was so difficult for me to register. Everyother person has already discovered Naira land and taken up all the cool names! Imagine 147163 members!
All I could end up with was Candies. I hope it doesn't sound so bad.
I've got some problems of my own that I'll share later, but for now, I'll just be content to read and enjoy your posts.
Long live Nairaland!