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I wonder whose toes this guy stepped on.
He's left a good legacy and I think he's still one of the greatest Nigeria has ever had.

What about the adult?

I hate it when guys don't give me presents.

Repulsive

After meeting online, all I have to do is to meet you one on one.
If we meet and I like you, well, what stops me? what has where we initially met got to do with it?

@ Poster,
I don't get your story. Finally, why were you (as a Nigerian) being treated differently?

OBJ may have his flaws but he did Nigeria a lot of good.
The other leaders come in, loot and get out without leaving behind any legacy for their predecessor to follow.
In the case of OBJ, he left something for Yar'dua. It now depends on him to follow them up even if he'll make a few changes, it's necessary that he should abide by the original plan and implement them.

I could keep malice for a couple of hours but not for too long. Don't just see any reason why I should.

Obirin0521:
Abrakson: I applaud your guts and honesty. I've got over 9 friends, (male & female), who met their spouses or Girl/boyfriends online. It takes grit and determination to stick it out but I believe you have both. In spades.

Be prepared to be ridiculed by some, but don't knuckle under.

I wish you the very best of luck.

I went for the wedding during the weekend and the couple met themselves on line.
They are a very lovely couple. They talked online for about one month, got to meet one on one started a relationship and wedded yesterday.

I was too young at the time of MKO to know exactly what was up and I am not a politically inclined person, but from what I've read about him, I think he would have a made a good president. He had a human heart and was down to earth. He was popular even among the masses and since it was democracy, it would have been best to let us see what he had to offer the public who so publicly supported him.

Hey jkpretty
It's ok, I'm already sorted out. Thanks to good advice like yours, I'm more in control now and making the right decision.

@ rockiedink
Thanks for the encouragement. Never mind, I read every post, separeted the good from the bad, discarded the bad and took the good.

Thanks Randa,
God bless your soul!

The trip chapter is already closed. I'm not going. It's been called off.
Thanks all the same.

@ Uchetobi,

Thanks for trying to defend me.
Really, I usually overlook Grow fast's posts, they are usually insultive and totally immature. I think the name suits him perfectly. I'm sorry that he got insultive on you too, it's his usual way.

The best thing I think you should do is to totally ignore him. Have you noticed the way he seems to be comfortable only with pidgin language?

After over 4000 posts on NL, I don't see you trying to be noticed, he is the one craving for popularity.
Please, do good to ignore him.

@ fabiyi,
Thanks so much, this is mighty kind of you. You're so truthful and sincer, yet, ever so gentle with words.

That trip surely has been cancelled and just as you suggested, I could hang out with him but not even looking into going to that trip with him anymore. Thanks for your encouragements.

Yimiton, you're the coolest, iice, sarcastic but nice, jkpretty Sweet and pretty.
All the guys in the house, thanks!

@ iice,
My boyfriend is still there but as I said earlier, he's not half as caring or half as 'there' as this new guy.
They both have very good jobs (my boyfriend is sort of richer) and have access to free phone calls every day of the week but this guy calls an average of 10 times a day, (he's called me 5 times today just to see how I'm doing) while my friend calls only once a day and spends close to one hour on the phone.
Now, this new guy sure does know how to make a lady fall in love with him, he knows all the right words, invites me to all the coolest places, never gets angry or mad at me, always extending an helping hand and I see myself taking it.

I thot I could beat him to his own game and keep my heart out of it at the beginning, but I'm tripping and that was why I ran to you guys.
Thanks for being there. I'm still trying to get a grip on myself.

ettehgate:
hnmmm who be girl?
am a guy with an active gun

Oh, sorry, thot you were a lady. NO wonder you're suggesting that!

@ ettehgate,
You're one hell of a human being!   Now, you've given me something to laugh about today.
How could you even advice that? I'm already in a fix without giving my body and you advice me to so that I'll just die on him and become miserably helpless. No, girl, that wasn't a good advice at all.
@ uchetobi,
Thanks, you feel me.

uchetobi:
u knw I kind of understand your story….so well….anyway it happens sometimes we get so carried away…all il say is take a chill pill. Make a conscious effort 2 put distance between u, I knw its difficult, but anytime u think of calling him, call your boyfriend, just give him a break, try and spend more time with your boy friend, even if u are no more in love with him, when you're able 2 get this guy from your mind it’l be easier 4u 2 move on and get someone that u really like u and u like, cheers girlfriend

That is my point! How do you think he got me tripping from the beginning? He calls me like 10 times a day! He may just say a word or 2 but then, he calls so often.
My boyfriend (he's richer and has free access to telephone curtsey of his job) calls me once day day. That is @ night and talk for close to an hour!
But I prefer to be called often and told sweet words like he does.

@ ettehgate,
Not really. Seriously, please use layman language. You're getting me more confused here.

@ ettehgate,
What does that mean? (Shag)

if you love something, GO FOR IT, remember no room for regrets.

@ zheroes, You tempt me, but no, I don't know how to fight. I'm used to guys loving me and spoiling me. I can't start now.

hollandis:
How easy it is to sum up a woman by her postings

everywhere we look we are presented with the idea that men toy with women,women toy with men-thats just the way things are ,it is the way of love, But thats not the way of love it is the way of lovelessness,
How often we seek for love but leave love out.We don't think about being kind and caring,we think about how we can hook a man.We dnt think about his fears and problems,we think of our own and how we can get him to solve them .We don't think about him period-but about his money ,his bdy ,his job,or his connections

@ Seun,
You see how you've portrayed me?! I'm so mad at you.

@ ettehgate, I've got no reason to lie to you. Nobody knows me here. I'm totally annoynimous and that's why I can come out with the truth.
That's why I love it here, I can me totally me.
I haven't lied to you about anything.

@ Seun!
Can you change back the my topic to my original heading please??
That doesn't portray my story. I was in a fix and was looking for good advice to help me out of it and I found a lot of helpful guys here, not what you are trying to make me look like!

@ Seun,
Must you be this loveless?
As you can see, with the assistance of good meaning Nairalanders, I'm staying away from him and making it clear to him that I can't be the other woman. I'm not even going with him to the trip anymore.
That's what Nairalanders have been able to make me achieve not your merciless critism without content.

@ ettehgate,
Sort of, but what I'll call a bad virgin or an experience virgin. Quite pretty and could be very naughty, wicked and seductive.I don't fall in love easily but I do occationally. I've seen it all, had relationships and allowed a boyfriend's preying finger now and again, but never the real thing.
To me, being a virgin is not a big deal, neighter does it make me a good girl. To be sincer with  you, I don't feel like a real virgin after the fingering and I don't think am better than all other disvirgined 27 year olds, it's just that, I could be a smart **s.

Allright guys.
Thanks for all your good advice. I won't go. From what you guys have said here, going will not make us any closer or love any better. _{He says he loves me and I'm always pissed whenever he says that.}
I'll even try to break up with him _{I tried that at the beginning but he didn't let go until I started lovng him}
@ Efua, thanks for your advice, but for all that it is worth, I am strong willed. I'm 27 and I've loved before as well as dated before. All those 'if you really love me shit' don't get me tripping anymore. _{Maybe when I was 17 though}.
The big problem here is the fact that I love this guy now and when you're in love with someone, you get mushy over him.
Special thanks to the guys in the house. I'll stay away from that trip _{even though I was looking forward to it so much!}

Bob James,
That might not be totally true.
He's been showering me with presents and I could demand for more if I wanted to but I don't see any reason why I should as I am pretty comfortable too.
@ bebe2007,
If he thinks it's a waste of his money, too bad. I have to find out if this guy will love me and continue to care for me or choose the other lady and let me go.
whatever the case, I'm prepared for the worst. The only thing am sure of right now is that NO SEX!

Yes, I will and have.

Thanks every one for your candid advice and sincerity. I don't agree with passionwit, Love is not about sex. I love this guy and am vulnerable now, but I'm going to use my head and not become any man's toy for any reason.
I feel sort of insulted that he's given me a 'sex appointment' but I'm going to prove him wrong.
If He continues to love me, fine, if not, life goes on.
You know, life sucks sometimes! But it could be cool.

@Nautillus,
Thanks for your candid advice and sincerity although, quite painful.

I quite agree with you that this guy definitely had sex on his mind when he proposed this holiday.
The catch here is that, I'll go with him but make sure I DON'T give in to him.
If he jilts me after this, I mean just because I don't give him sex, I'll accept that he was never meant for me. I'll try to move on and forget him.
If he stays after this holiday without sex and still wants to hang on with me, I'll heave a sigh of relief.
But no matter what I do, I'll NOT give in to sex just as busygal and autopilot have adviced.
I'm sure I can do that because I've had relationships and have been in love before and still said NO to sex.
Once again, thanks.

I've had a finger inserted into me now and again but never had anything larger than a finger in me which makes me not such a virgin anymore.
At the same time, I've never had a dick in me or any sexual toy which means. . . .

How long have you been there?
do you believe in jazz?
Do you have the option of leaving and getting another place?
Has anything evil ever happend to you or any of your neighbours?
Are you a prayerful christian?
These are some of the questions you'll have to answer for us to be able to help you or suggest a solution.

Thanks Girl!
Trust me, I will be on my guards.
I shall keep you posted!