Hey Crackles,
It's really it's ok. It all turned out good though. We made up and I agree that was a silly thing I was thinking of doing. Guess it was out of annoyance and a little frustration. You can check back on that thread to read about how it all ended.

Votre anglais est un peu drôle ! Peut-être ca c'est une probleme. Chargez-vous avec une partie de notre argent d'huile, odeur gentille, (très important) prenez à un bain chaque matin et soir et traitez de femme un juste comme dans le sens universel. Puis, ils juste pourraient être intéressés à condition que vous soyez drôle, oui, votre anglais drôle pourriez réellement aider ici, vous pouvez tenir une bons conversation et vous n'etre pensent au lit toute l'heure.   

Mr. Creakles, oh sorry, I meant Mr. Crackles , it's just that creakles sound very mischivious and interesting. I seem to prefer it, but sorry for the mistake sha.
Just stopping by to say, how do u do?

Your friend was wrong. Go out there and meet a woman. There's nothing like 'a wrong' or 'right' woman. Different strokes for different folks.
Food for thought: Have u considered the option that u might be the wrong man?

@ kalmebad and all,

Thanks. I've realized that wasn't the best option to take. I have taken the better option, we did talk about it and like every reasonable posts in the house suggested, it worked. I was very sincer through the conversation, telling him my fears, worries and suspicions. He told me his too. I was suprised he felt as insecure as I did. We made up and promised to be totally sincer with each other hence forth no matter how bad we feel and to use communication more.

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Re: I Need To Cheat On My Man
« #22 on: Yesterday at 12:20:37 PM »

Hey Busy_body,
This guy is not needy at all, n[b]eighther is he clingy[/b]. He's equally very attractive and yes, I do have more money but that is only very temporal, because he's smart, intelligent, handsome and read a very good course in school. He's also a very confident dude, it's just that he's not been lucky or not been checking the right places for the right job. But could that be an issue? Sometimes, he says he thinks he's stayed too long without a great job and he hates sharing my money except when absolutely important.
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@carmelily,

Please look at my own quotes above, he's got more good qualities than just being gorgeous. He could also be very rational and I complain a lot of times that he's too analytical.

No, he doesn't love you and he's no good.
Drop him and move on. It's fortunate you found out early enough.

Mr Crackles,

Sorry for the wrong name but really, it will do you a lot of good to use some better language. That will accord you some respect.
Contemplating doing something is not wrong in itself, especially when you seek advice and you take to them if they are good. It will be very nice if you gave people good suggestions when they are in a delinma or thinking of making mistakes instead of raining insults on them, or you simply read and jump post if you're not sure of anything positive to tell them.

Mr. Creakles sir,

With all due respect, read a post before you make comments, otherwise, you don't sound very intelligent I am afraid. You're too quick to insult and too fast to pass judgment.

From my first post, I said I thought I needed to cheat to gain some attention from him, to make him realize how hurt I am and probably  to create a safe heaven for me, so that I could walk out if this isn't it. Can't u simply see I didn't want to end up with a shattered heart.

But some rational thinking humans here strongly kicked against it and suggested TALKING. I listened and took their advice and from what they've said which I've thought about, I decided to act. I didn't come here to tell a story, I came here to seek genuin suggestions and I got them. Not from people like you but from intelligent and rational people in the house.  So, what problem have you got with that?

After reading some of the level headed suggestions on this forum, the best action for me to take is call him and have a heart to heart talks with him. I've decided that's exactly what I'm going to do. Obviously, cheating isn't the best option to take. I hope and pray it works out just fine.

Someone said, you don't use a 'hammer to kill a mosquito' especially if the mosquito is perching right on your feet! Lol, that sure makes sense. I hope though that people in this forum will learn to use nice words instead of insulting ones. Sometimes, one is just confused and a little twisted and needs people to talk to get back her senses, being insulting doesn't achieve that goal.

@ Busy Body,
I sure do see what you mean. I agree with you absolutely. Wonder what I was thinking planning of cheating on him. Maybe I need to do a scan too just to be sure my brain is still intact. Lol. But gurl, megadose of insecurity, my gosh, where did you get that English. . . . That's a funny one, will use it in one of our gists one of these days.

Hey Busy_body,
This guy is not needy at all, neighther is he clingy. He's equally very attractive and yes, I do have more money but that is only very temporal, because he's smart, intelligent, handsome and read a very good course in school. He's also a very confident dude, it's just that he's not been lucky or not been checking the right places for the right job. But could that be an issue? Sometimes, he says he thinks he's stayed too long without a great job and he hates sharing my money except when absolutely important.

@ Arshy,
He doesn't come to NL and he doesn't know about this E-mail account. It's my secret account for me to unwind. It's simply for NL.
Thanks for the warning though.

@ mecussey,
As you can see, I ignored those posts as if they weren't even there. I needed mature minds to help me out before I make a stupid mistake or mess up my relationship and I think I'm getting some really nice ideas here. The haters to me simply don't exist.

Ignoring him works like magic, he comes on me hard, asking what the matter is or why I'm suddenly detatched so, I'm afraid I can't use that anymore. It's already been used one time too often.
As for walking away, when the relationship was still very new and I was mad at him for one reason or the other, I did try to walk away, but he asked me back and we both ended up crying on each others' arms, this happend twice. That's the fear, I'm afraid he doesn't feel that strongly again, he now knows just how involved I am with him, how totally faithful and he's simply taking it for granted.

Thanks emiechat,
That sounds really good. If patience will break his pride or high headedness, I'll lay low. I do love him and sincerly want this to work. I just don't to be hurt.

@ Ugo_2u, thanks too. It's not that easy to walk away when you're not very sure of your guy especially if you love him. I'll hang aound patiently and see if this guy will get to value my love.

@ Gold circle,
No I haven't made up my mind just yet. This is still an opinion, I need people especially guys to tell me if there's a better way of going around this or if this idea is ingenious.

femmace:

Are u not the same person who wanted to kill yesterday

NO, that wasn't me. I haven't been here for quite a while. I don't want to kill him, I just want him to realize that I love him does not mean he should take me for granted. Like he's not the end of the world to me.

Very beautiful work, beautifully done. Simply cut off Obama and Michell's heads and pasted them to some great Salsa bodies. Beautiful work I'll say, weldone.

I’m in love with this really gorgeous guy but I don’t think he’s as much in love with me as I am with him. He annoys me a lot of times especially the stands he takes on certain issues. He has met some of my siblings but I haven’t met any of his or spoken with them on the phone.

I love this guy and would like to stay faithful to him but I think he needs some kind of challenge, I need to make him feel that he’s not as much as he thinks he is, like he’s not the ultimate after all.

He ask me often who has asked me out recently and wants to know about them, I always tell him and most times, they are better financially than he his but what I really want to do now is cheat on him. Yes, I’ll like to cheat on my boyfriend, like really keep another boyfriend that he’ll know about. Someone just as gorgeous as he is, who’ll take some of my time and resources. I need him to know that he’s no t a virus in my head and I can do without him. I need him to know that I can actually walk away from him anytime without a care in the world. I mean, I need an open window so that if this by any chance does not work out, I’ll simply walk out like he doesn’t matter!

Tell me Nairlanders, would you think this will cure him of his over pomposity?

I'm cracking up with laughter on this thread!
I knew it was going to be this interesting, I decided to sit back, watch and laugh my head off.

Siena, I feel you, Candies, you're cool,  FactorChic, you're so funny!   babycool, you've got the right words!  
As for me, I'll continue watching and laughing off my pretty eyes!

Where is the poster?

eh he heee. . . . I say laff will not kill me here today oh.

Eh sylvao, Never mind, my boss is not at the office today. I won't be caught today.

Inferiority complex is what the problem is with the man.
If he's trully the head of the home, he won't need to even say it.

To your question, if a man is responsible, even though he doesn't have a job, he's still the head of the home.
If he's lazy and irresponsible, he becomes the figure head of the home, because God in his infinite wisdom has designed it that way, we must be very careful before we make that all-important decision.

xpeter:

lets go online, i promise i will show u

But we're already on line now. Please give me all the details here let fellow NLanders judge for themselves

zheroes:

@ obagermo,

next time you upload such pic i will move a motion for a ban.

what ailment were you treating when you took that pic? HND or what?

I don die

Gbemyte:

dude i can now see that u re a pig am not amazed that u ve piglets around your waist fool

Yea kpa!

This guy again!
_{I'm outta here!}

Really, I love my black brothers and still think they are among the sexiest guys on earth.

But sorry, it's just the way the media portrays these white guys. When you have to talk about hot guys or sexy guys, the first thing that comes into your mind is what you see every day on TV. E! entertainment is to blame!

If I have to choose between Brad Pitt and Dansel Washinton, of course, I'll choose Dansel over and over again.

Surprised, that will be cool. But I hope I won't be shocked!

Obasanjo is the finest president we'll ever have? My gosh! that is harsh. Is that a cause or what?!

ok then, paste you picture and I'll judge for myself!

I'm beginning to enjoy this thread so much!
I'll just seat back with my large bowl of pop corn, chilled fanta and watch on.

Fire on good people, Boy, this is so good!

xpeter:

i am a liltle bit finer than Obasanjo

Haa, you've fallen my hand!
Obasanjo ke, I better leave here immediately and apply to face book. Your profile is no longer needed.

obagermo:

hi, i like ya quotes.

me na woman wey go love me for real I want.

call me on +2348069124101 or +2348074918082

Oh my Gosh!
Not this guy again! Is this a bug, virus or something? He seem to be every where!

@ blackmann,
This is so touching. Your relationship sounds so sweet. Please keep what you've got.
There are lots of wolves in sheep clothing out there that will pose as friends. Be vigilant.

I'll suggest you get her a nice pair of tops or jeans. You said something not expensive, if N7,000 is not expensive to you, I'll suggest you go with ufobabe. That is the price of a good average feminine perf.

Serious friends uh