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sinaj:
I won't let him notice it.

He will feel guilty nd make it up to me

Kkkk. Nice

vizkiz:
It will cost you nothing to remind him about it! Something like
"hey don't you know today is my birthday"

You are not his wife yet and you are giving him headache over little things. What will you do when you guys get married? Give him a heart attack

You are a guy so I expect this kind of reply.

Laveda:
Lol

But why will he forget? We'll definitely talk about how my birthday is gonna be like, only one who's not serious with me won't know its my day

To your question, I'll forgive him.

Wow, you will forgive him? You are nice o.

What if in your previous birthday he didn't buy you any gift at all while you bought him some xpensive sturvs on his bday, only for him to come and forget your birthday this year. Will you forgive?

Beamborla:
Ah!

Ah ah?

vizkiz:
Because he forgot your birthday means he doesn't love you

Stop looking for problems in every situation!

If I mean something to him as his future wife the least he can do is remember my birthday. If he doesn't remember to call that day at least he can call later to apologize for forgetting instead of asking me 'Is your birthday not in April?' which shows that he doesn't even know what day it is.

sinaj:
I will say yes

Then what else? Will you be angry or will you overlook?

Beamborla:
Don't get me wrong. If I have the money to celebrate, I will. I've once forgotten my own birthday and if not for Facebook, I'm not sure I would remember anyone's birthday.

We are wired differently, though

I'm a Christan.

Okay have you ever been in a loving and devoted relationship before?

Beamborla:
What's all these birthday fuss for?

Okay you don't celebrate birthdays, got it.

Are you a muslim?

If your fiance forgot your birthday?

Lets say your birthday is in April and he doesn't call that day AT ALL, only for him to ask you like two weeks later whether 'Is your birthday not supposed to be April?'

How would you react? Will you overlook and forgive or will you be upset and quarrel with him?

jaybillionaire:
That's his fetish,Folo me, I will share sth with you

Share it on this thread naaa

FinestPINACLE:
please who is that your fiance I think I know him.

I can't mention his name here.

Egbabiekperemo:
Verakruz aikhomu. U done show again

Whet d fvck bruh ?? ?? ??

byvan03:
Please if you can't deal with this, end it. No normal person can deal with this, he is sexually depraved. If you end up marrying him, be ready to accept all fetish.

I want to end it actually. I don't think the guy is normal. I just don't know how to break it off.

DeLioncourt:
i have to laugh small.

ok. it's probably a fetish...possibly acquired from several wasted hours watching pornography. you have to talk to him about it if you cannot adjust to it.

let him know that it repulses you and he needs to stop it...however he can. Trust me, sh*t like this can wreck a marriage.

You don't wanna be on your way home from work thinking about how you'll avoid kissing your husband.

True. I don't do deep kissing anymore cos I know he will still try to sneak some spit in it. Eewwww

yemmit90:
However, it is entirely your fault/problem if you enter into marriage with a broke guy. Something i will never advise any female or my sister to do.

I agree completely

Chai!
I dint know there are so many broke niggas on nairaland o.
Una sorry o, e go beta keep hustling okay?

I have laughed so much after reading the comments on this thread

i am very glad that my thread provided an opprtunity for all the broke guys to vent their frustration. Glad to be of service to you broke ass niggas. No need to thank me. Don't mention.

And, after weeping and wailing the truth still remains that women will always desire men that can protect and provide for them.

Even the Bible says the man should till the earth and provide so you brokees berra start hustling hard so women can find you attractive.

deturla:
Wow....I kind of love this piece....
Please can it go up on www.deedeesblog.com?

yes please. More people need to know the truth

LuvU2:
They want feminism too but just the part that favours them: where women shd work their asses off nd still perform their biological roles. E no fit work na

Honestly it time women start speaking up and being selective about what they want.

A man will demand your loyalty and respect in a relationship to prove that you are wife material but at the same time wants you to put up with a mediocre relationship where he cannot play his role as a man that can take care of you after marriage.

What nonsense.

songzDaniel01:
so because he's broke, he shouldn't have a girl . wah bout u broke ass girls , lookin for already made niggas, why don't u sit ur scrawny ass down nd build yourself cos no sane responsible dude is gonna marry a gold digging liability

A woman wants a man that can provide because it is the Primary duty of men to provide for families so she wants to be sure he can do that while they are dating

LuvU2:
my friend answer my question nd see how silly ur first post was.
If a guy is broke he shd get his broke ass seated nd quit seeking for babes until he gets his priority right.

U desire a submissive and well behaved woman but she doesnt deserve security frm u?

Please help me tell them.

Coming to my thread to cry because I told painful truth.

Let me be frank here and say its different if he is genuinely trying to come up and still does what he can to make you feel special but some dudes are just perpetual failures and try to make it seem like you are asking too much.

@Nairaland broke dudes please feel free to vent and pour your frustrations on the thread because truth hurts.

As a lady what you have to deal with while dating a broke guy

1. Having to take public transport after seeing him. He can't drive you home cos no car.

2. The nicest date you've been on is at his house because when you two actually go out to fancy places you feel guilty about spending the little money he has.

3. No nice gifts, no random surprise presents to spoil you, he doesn't sporadically shower you with gifts.

4. The dudes shitty and embarrasing sense of style.

5. Him overcompensating by offering fake deep conversation and really really good sex.

6. He will also have the audacity to wonder why you are not madly, head over heels in love with his worthless ass. Hello? Why should you be? Men like submissive and obedient women while women like men that can protect and provide for them. Its biological and it isn't changing anytime soon so accept it and move on.

7. Prepare to hear him explain why its better to have your honeymoon in the comfort of your bedroom and not a fancy hotel or exotic country.

Xiadnat:
Alright! Knock yerself out. Leave him then so he can find himself someone he is sexually compatible with. Abeg free him, dont string him along.

Make person hear word. Children these days. Mtchew


Ps: come back and tell us how much yer nxt fiancé is cheating on you and hitting you and the other train wreck awaiting you.

Its you that a trainwreck awaits not me. I reject it

LoverJoe89:
Tell your boyfriend or fiance to stop watching fetish in Brazil porn where the actors exchange saliva and shit on each other. Maybe that is why he is telling you to spit back at him . Next you know he will tell you to shit on his body .

He asked me to pee on him once when we were dry humping and I wasn't moist enough.

I am never going to indulge it.
Am just worried that he will keep asking and resent me if I refuse.

obyno1011:
Seriously I will feel bad at that. So disgusting. I had an experience when a gal used yoghurt while kissing. I threw up on her.
Tell your man that it isn't your fancy.

Tell me about it. The thought alone makes me want to vomit.

And he want me to swallow it too.

He actually wants to spit into somebody's mouth and watch them swallow it.

**pukes violently**

Xiadnat:
Btw:

I had an ex who had this fetish. He would rather want me to form a huge pool of saliva and pour into his while kissing. It was a turn on for him and so i did it!!!!' Tho i told him and i will not want to receive his pool of spit but i gave him mine and it was a compromise we made and it worked!!

At first i thot it gross and weird but.....

In time, i came to accept it especially since it made him happy. I found it extremely hot, sexy and endearing and quite passionate.

Keep an open mind!

And find a middle ground! You may come to like it.

Eeeeeewwwwww
that is sooooooo groosssssss!!!


No wonder you want me to overlook what my fiance is doing.


Eeeeewwwwww

vani86:
My girlfriend does that, don't see the big deal, when you are kissing, are you not exchanging fluids already,

Madam OP he is your fiance, its not everything about him that you will like, you have to compromise on some. Saying no and calling it disgusting to his face aint healthy at all.

Just saying

I can't compromise, thats how perversion starts.

Today it will be spit. Tomorrow might be piss or $hit. I can't.

firstking01:
Have you asked him why he does that?, and what was his response?

No.
Anytime I refuse he immediately says ok and we end the subject.

I am even ashamed to have a conversation about that type of thing. What am I going to say?

"Please baby lets not spit saliva in each others mouth its unhygienic?" Why am I even talking to him about it in the first place? Normal people are not supposed to like things like that.

Thanks everyone for your advice, I appreciate your help.


I have considered breaking up but the man has other attributes that I think I want in my future husband like he is very forgiving and easygoing and he is God fearing. But the spit thing irritates me so much. I have told him before that I don't like it so why is he still bringing it up?

I have a feeling he will want to force me to accept it after marriage because I noticed that even after I complained that I don't like spitting he was cunningly still trying to put spit in my mouth when we were kissing.

The whole thing is disgusting. I avoid french kissing him these days because when that strange desire overcomes him he will start trying to sneak some spit into my mouth because he is hoping to gradually make me like it.