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I traveled all the way from Ebony to Lagos to see him. That was my first time in Lag. Risked my life, spent my tfare, only for him to not even call once after I told him I have come and am now in my sister's house.

I was now the one calling him to ask when and how can I see him since I traveled cos of him, he said I should find my way from Surulere to Egbeda on my own, knowing fully well I don't know Lagos at all.
The day I was to visit him he didn't pick my calls. I was about to enter road and wanted to clarify the address he gave me but he just stopped picking my calls.

That thing pain me die, I sat down in my room crying because I know every I did for that guy, all through the relationship I didn't even ask for a dime and I was even the one using my cash to care for him whenever he comes over to spend some days.

HeyCorleone:
You're unreasonable.

Unlike you I don't feed myself off Nairaland likes. I post what I want and I don't give 2 rats if it offends overly idealistic schmucks. I am plain unapologetic. Let those who are offended by my post fvck themsel to death.

You were pained stop denying.

Why did you go back to modify and soften the post if you truly didn't give a fvck?

Modified

HeyCorleone:
Lol.. As much as I'd blame the man, I believe rape is a two way thing.

Tell me the lady had no idea the man was going to make advances at her and if she wasn't gonna be cool with it, why did she agree to go in the first place. Ladies are smart. They can sense what you want from a mile away. She must have known "okay he'd want sex and I'm not cut out for such so I'm not going". Now he raped her. Going by her chat sef babe doesn't sound like a novice. Guys can smell a prostitute from a mile away.
Baba must have known "okay if I persuade this girl well she go open legs". Even the ladies know. They might tell a guy no, but after much persuasion, they'd open their legs.

Hahahaha
Am sure you were expecting one hundred likes for this your post because nairaland men love bashing women. See all the insults you got instead. Lmao

Kingsley10000:
you're also an animal for getting naked in public without any feeling of shame....men are structured to be more sexual in nature,we are moved by what we see,there's nothing we can do about it as one can't cheat nature

No woman goes about completely unclad. Even if they did men should look away instead of exposing their beastly lack of self control and raping women.
Humans are wired to want money and nice cars when they see them but it doesn't justify armed robbery or taking it by force from the owner.

HeyCorleone:
Women should be blamed for causing men to rape them. QED.

Lolz So childish

HeyCorleone:
A load of bullcrap. There's something called the animal instinct in man, and that is what naturally attracts every guy to a scantily dressed. It's like you dropping fish in front of a cat and accusing the cat of eating it. For the cat not to eat it would have taken great self control, buy he did because it's its true nature. So is man. We're all brutes deep down within. So I don't blame those who can't men for not exercising self control.


Like I said, let women learn to dress well first. Then those who still raped would be fully blamed.

Load of horseshit.
The difference between humans and animals is self control and rational thinking. If men are like cats that can't control themselves then they are no better than animals.
You keep degrading men further with your post.
Rapists should be blamed for being animals without self control. Blame the raper not the rapee

This is half baked news now.

It's like I will open my own blog and post false information and then link it Nairaland so as to draw traffic.

Good business.

27 months??

This country is beyond useless.

HeyCorleone:
A good number of times, women are to be blamed for rape. How does a sane person go out and is scantily dressed?!

I am against rape but sometimes I don't blame people who commit the act. Women know how provocative their bodies are yet they won't do well to properly cover up or at least appear decent. You see them everyday on the streets of Lagos dressed like wannabe hoes, and if they get raped, they cry to the high heavens. Can't you seen that they are not sane?!

Let women improve on their dressing, and avoid looking slutty all the time.

Are men animals without self control?
Is it so hard for men to look in another direction when they see a scantily dressed woman instead of forcing her for sex?
If you want to blame scantily dressed women for rape then you are indirectly saying men have zero self control.

It's like saying a rich man should not dress nice or ride nice cars or live in a big house because he wants to avoid robbers.
If he gets robbed then it's his fault for attracting them by spending his money openly.
Let's condemn crime and criminals please, they are from our gender doesn't mean we should support them.

OgahBohz:
Asheqo on d loose kwontinu ...

dress half naked nd say its none of anyones biznz ...

even ur papa go rape u, if u UnCloth for im front ,

if na lie go try am.

oni iraanu of iraanu kingdom

Any thing you write to me I reject and it will return back to you rapist and your family ten times, in Jesus name. Back to sender.

Jjporch:
Like sometime last year I boarded a bus and this pretty lady beside me was sexually harassed by a crazy guy seated directly behind her by rubbing her back and she turned to warn him ,
She wasn't inappropriately dressed because she wore a long beautiful dress
This guy didn't stop at it and her started insulting her,
The lady just turned and gave him a dirty hot slap with her left-hand across his face ,
Ooh dear I was so happy other guys now warned him if he doesn't respect himself that should just keep quiet
My guy turned t o jelly fish oo

Very good. Many of them are like that, he wanted to start insulting her because she didn't allow him touch her body abi?

Big fool. Good thing he got humiliated.

OgahBohz:
I swear she get sperm for her brain !
idiot! all dis stewpid girls go jst carry bweast full everywer lyk say na for free, kon wer braless see tru, nd be looking for who to confuse ,
touch em small touching, dem go bingin form actor!
if na me be d guy, I go kuku behave lyk mental person, rough handle d boobs , scatter everywer ....
wetin go sele go sele ...
if u be weyrey bring it on !

And thirty something animalistic men liked this post supporting molestation.

I have said it many times that majority of Nigeria men are rapists. Is the woman's body your property or why do you feel you have to force yourself on her just because she dressed sexy?

Rapist.

Lovelywings:
OP this is Nairaland. The commenters here will blame you for the maltreatment simply because you are a woman. See how several people are insinuating that you trapped him with pregnancy That's what the (mostly men) do here. In their world view, men are naturally rational and sensible. Women are the opposite.

If you want real advice go elsewhere. Go to Bellanaija where the women are. All you will get here is abuse.

Honestly, I was just reading and shaking my head. This site has many immature and sexist males its appalling. No one is even showing sympathy for the woman, they are all apportioning blame and asking her to solve the problems her husband caused.
If the tables were turned this thread will be 20 pages long with men insulting the wife for flirting outside and ignoring her husband at home.

MrBrownJay1:
FIXED

by the way, do you really think that contributing financially and helping that demon would change anything?! this man has absolutely NO LOVE for this woman, and dont even want to be seen by her side... a smart person would ask what is going on, and thus divorce the demon who treats her like common garbage. end of misery.

You obviously don't live in nigeria

Many men are naturally wicked and hypocrites. I say that with no remorse. So what if she is jobless or not contributing financially? The normal thing to do would be to encourage her to get proactive like a supportive partner instead of this obvious disrespect and wickedness.
I bet if a woman decides to maltreat a man or flirt around because of the fact that he doesn't cook for the family or run after kids, everyone would converge to insult her not make excuses like they are doing here.
Rubbish.
@op, talk to him or ask a family member he respects to talk to him. I wonder how you ended up with such a heartless person in the first place.

I hope this time around people don't start choosing winner from day one based on he is waffi, or he is from warri or he is poor and needs the money. that's how Efe won last time.

Let's watch and access everybody's xter first abeg.

Daeylar:
I don't understand?
Why is the topic of this barren woman displaced by 14. Year old pregnant maid? And not useless man arrested by police for raping (statutory) and impregnating underaged 14 year old maid and divorced by wife?
Why do men get away with a lot of rubbish in this country? Why do we allow them do that?
Even when the man is dead wrong, he swept with a 14 year old and impregnated her. Cheated on his wife, yet according to the topic we are still meant to attack the females?
Misogynistic country.

And going through the thread. Very few reasonable responses.

Are you minding the stupid Nairaland boys on this thread?
All manner of rubbish statements coming from their mouths from the woman must have aborted her womb away to the woman refused to bear a child so she shouldn't blame the husband and maid.

The morons are not blaming the man that could not act as an adult and end his marriage with legal divorce before marrying an adult instead of taking advantage of a minor.

I already knew majority of men are criminally minded sociopaths but coming to Nairaland just reinforces that my knowledge everyday.

oodua1stson:
The woman should also be arrested for child labour

Both the man and woman should be arrested. The man's crime is double because it consists both child labor and raping a minor.

JONNYSPUTE:
Women re scum

What type of scum is your mother?

debola27:
Small boys will come on nairaland with no iota of ettiquette and spill trash. Must you insult people just to prove a point? We know the type of husbands people like you eventually become

Small boys are now all over Nairaland with no home training or self respect.

Instead of making their point like normal human beings they will insult any female they talk to first. It's now a common thing with them.
Look at one he-goat going as far as swearing for his parents marriage and saying his father should carry side chick's to a hotel because you disagreed with him.

These people are not normal at all.

Daeylar: Lol I noticed his subtle sexism when he did one thread about women claiming to be equal but not wanting to do certain jobs which I think is wrong, but I think his purpose was to post a topic which indirectly degrades women and allows the male posters to do it directly, lol,

For someone who does so much research on different topics everyday he ought to be more enlightened than that. Fine there are jobs some people excel at but that doesn't automatically reduce them to subhumans or inferior humans. Haba. We all have areas of weakness and areas where we excel to balance it out.
My opinion of him really took a nose dive today.
And can you imagine him castigating women for increase in sexual freedom in modern society? Do men not have any control over their urges at all? Is that what we should believe?

What people who blame women don't realize is that they indirectly insult men by saying men have no self control. Only women can stop sex from happening or stop immoral sex acts.

Daeylar:
I noticed that, a little while back

I had to unfollow, I can't be following misogynists
Let me keep reading the thread sha, I'm not done, let me see if he redeemed himself

Nope. He didn't.
You can still read through to be entertained by the e-fight his comment caused.

Men are scum

I am glad this thread went to sheit. I thought Explorers was enlightened, didn't know he's just another sexist/misogynist.

chidichuddo:
the way I see it the Op just want to argue, seems he likes it


but more seriously, if you have noticed here on Nairaland, most ladies don't ask questions or create topics relating to marriage.

80 percent of topics about marriage are created by men, seeing they want it to work.

women on the other hand....smh

Women create topics only that if they create a topic defending themselves or saying how they deserve to be equal human beings, men will come in their hundreds to insult them or tell them they will grow old and die alone because of their feminism.
The only time they don't get attacked is if they post something saying how men are so great and superior to women like what alexialin posted on page one.

Legolast:
98% of human right are women

Lie

Swissheart:
How does handling of boobs relate to being an enemy of the state.....? Ekiti State and Drama.

Btw the woman seems to know her way through to the so called honourable members.....visiting an honourable only to be harassed by another honourable, then she went to report to another honourable. Izzza honourable something

What a shameful statement coming from a woman. You can't even show sympathy you are blaming her like men usually blame molested women.

Jumbus31:
Lemme go and search for it on google, after all we learn everyday

Okay. safe journey.

Its like every night the mods will go and bring out writing materials to concoct tales by moonlight to deceive nairalanders and draw traffic. This thread is one of such creations.

Jumbus31:
I'm a virgin, and I don't know what you're talking about. Thanks for telling married couple though.

Lol. na so. Virginity now means you don't know what sex is.

Kontinu