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MissOpe:
I have tried several times that we just stick to only romance when I don't feel like having it,but no every time we try, he always wants to enter the place, if e come eventually enter, body go dey pain me, so

Unlike a number of folks here, I think you are a wonderful wife, a wonderful mother and an irreplaceable partner to your husband. This is why he is not ready to entertain the idea of a side chic. I especially like the maturity with which you engaged those who spoke ill of you regarding your nature as it relates to sexual activity with your husband. I do not share the same thoughts with them. Just keep loving your husband in many other ways that will make up for the gap created by unfulfilled intimate desire. I have no doubts you have been doing that and will continue. In fact, I count your hubby lucky to have someone like you.

Never knew that nairaland bot could lose control from excess weed until now.

MissOpe:
Why did he marry me in the first place, when he won't provide all my needs on demand?

MissOpe, making a connection between marital obligation being proportional to financial provision places your union in the category of transactional relationship. It is his duty to provide for you and your kids whether you make your money or not. If he is honest, faithful, and responsible but falling short of his duty to be a provider probably owing to the worsening economic landscape you should better understand his plight more than anyone. It means he is not fulfilling his part owing to circumstances beyond his control. Can you honestly say that about your body? The only exception is where you imply negligence.

MissOpe:
No you're not...
I understand people have different perspectives as regards a subject matter,most times (this is not gender based) when people don't agree with each others perspectives, they resort to throwing tantrums, insults,argue and fight just to stroke the other person's ego ......
This isn't only limited to marriage but to all relationships in general....people form ideas on belief systems passed down from ancestral generations, some do from religious point of views and once someone doesn't believe nor agreee to it, there's always an issue, that exactly is what play out btw partners, btw countries, btw govt and the masses.....It is what it is...
Everyone will be fine

I guess psychological compatibility is at the heart of the issue in this case of yours and is also applicable to other belief systems you mentioned. I understand your refusal to match your husband's sexual drive because I know there are many ladies built like you who don't relish the idea of regular sexual activity with their spouse. Pushing your husband into the arms of another woman may be detrimental to him and his mental wellbeing in ways you may not have anticipated. To avoid this, why not try and have a common ground where you both will have to compromise on your values where you may come up with creative ways to satisfy his sexual appetite without having to yield entirely to him so that the both of you are happy and get something from the experience? He loves you as you love him. He should be fine with the arrangement where he gets a reasonable satisfaction of his desire rather than get nothing in the process. This should tame his desire till when you are ready to fully give in to him. Not telling you what to do...no...never, just making a suggestion that may help avoid the drama that may attend keeping a side chic.

MissOpe, I hope I don't come across to you as having a judgmental tone. Only wanted to probe further into the reason for your stance in your marriage. It is well.

MissOpe:
I can relate with this...
I am married and given the numerous disagreement btw my spouse and I, at this point I don't mind if he has a small wife that takes his problem away from me....I don't like sex and ive told him numerous times he can get someone to warm his bed.
Marriage is not a do or die affair...
If I have my way I don't mind an opened marriage....

You give the impression you were forced into the marriage. Why did you marry in the first place if you won't yield your body to him on demand?

Shameless man. You and your fellow bribe-seeking actors campaigned for a corrupt and inept presidential candidate based on financial inducement rather than his administrative capacity and you still have the guts to air your grievance at being betrayed publicly. People like this man should be disenfranchised. People who sell their votes are the bloodsucking vampires of this nation.

Obiedun:
You speaks like someone who is having emotional problem within himself. You are not better than any APC supporters in all ramifications. You wail everyday online. You should be pitied.

As it stands, a microscopic, or less than granular improvement of the cerebral cortex of APC supporters from 0.0000000001 to 0.0000000002 is a colossal expectation that cannot be accommodated by reality. I said my piece.

Op, you meant to say your mum had a ghastly accident. 'Fatal' would imply she died in the accident.

It is said that humans use less than 5% of their brains. A dullard at least uses 0.1% of his brain but APC supporters use far less than 0.0000000001% of their brains. They will never question Tinubu's dictatorial governance of the nation as long as their underperforming coginitive capacity is low on the oxygen of reasoning.

Who else has noticed that since the kidnapping incidents spiraled out of control there has not been any law making making the death penalty the punishment of the crime? The Fulanis are everywhere controlling the presidency, the judiciary, the armed forces. It is a jihad I tell you.

Beremx:
Go get the insecticide called Dressforce. It works like magic

Exactly what I wanted to suggest. It is clear many people don't know about this very powerful bedbug killer. It really works like magic. It will make them go into extinction. Speaking from experience. Op, get Dress Force insecticide and end the story of bedbug in your home.

What is with all the hidden posts? 🤔

nzechu:
Nairaland wants me to type 40 characters of a sentence, but WhatsApp, telegram, Facebook, and other more sophisticated social mediums doesn't requires such rubbish.

Even in real life, imagine your mum or sister or neighbour requiring u to say more than "good morning" when u pass each other.

Come John you just said good morning ma, it's not enough. U HV to make your greeting more interesting to me, add more words

Seun you are running out of ideas

Very very silly idea I tell you and that is just the least of it.

Awkward innovation that makes discussions or chats embarrassing.

Donsheddy:
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I have said it that his new rule on 40 characters is caveman creativity.

He can freely type a single word or a two-letter word on other social media platforms as comment, but on nairaland he is a dictator of expression. Fact.

Mr blogger is just waking up. Good morning to you.

The same APC wey don lost inside forest tey tey na im wan lead Nigeria to better future? Na only APC slaves fit believe dis cow shit.

Poorly informed youth minister, please tell us the minimum wage abroad as well.

Dannyset:


You will see tears on this thread when it gets to the front page.

A lot of people want miracles and magic to happen within 2 years of this government despite how the country has been brought to its knees for years.

This government will get it right and turn things around for good.

Tears is allowed though.

What tears? Typical APC strategy to seek praises for the slight repair of something they absolutely destroyed when they met it in good working condition, or, at worst, was in better state of affairs when they met it. Keep deluding yourselves. Every slight ₦5 strengthening of the naira you begin singing the praises of Tinubu and mocking his critics, but refuse to admit he made the naira so weak that ₦50 and ₦100 have lost their purchasing power, and you are here celebrating a ₦5 gain but keep mute when it makes hundreds of naira loss. Typical delusion at its peak.

Belated but happy birthday, Infofirst. Wishing you glorious days ahead.

blackman007:
Omo this is a PHD level kind of theorem, I like this response and the way you breaks down everything for my little brain to assimilate, indeed there are men of depth on this forum, thanks so much sir, I really appreciate your input, I’m very sure curious and knowledge seeking traders can gain one or two things from this insight…

No sweat, bro. Always learning from each other.

blackman007:
Between leverage 1:100 and leverage 1:30, which one is better, I wanted to buy FTMO those are the two leverage they offer, someone should please shed more light on this topic

It is all about exposure to risk. Leverage 1:100 will require less margin (amount of money) to open a position but that means the capability to open multiple positions at once exposing you to greater risk. With 1:30, you will be required to deposit higher amount of money to open a position. This will make it very difficult to open multiple positions to reduce your risk of exposure to losses. Why do you think the U.S made leverage 1:50 compulsory for US brokers? It is to reduce risk of losses.

For example, you may have $100 in your account and still be able to open a position with leverage 1:100, but with leverage 1:30 the platform may tell you insufficient funds to execute a trade (just an illustration, not exact figures).