₦airaland Forum

@MBJ lol@botay. maybe because I don't want a man who loves me for $y 'botay' buh a man who loves me for me. You are funny though.

@MBJ I know I ve got a wondeful backside, and whether he compliments me or not doesn't change a thing. The funny thing was that I wasn't putting a 'tight sculpting/fitting' outfit except u place a jean+polo in that category.

@richfella, he won't be seeing a wonderful backside the next time he opens his lustful eyes.

@sexkillz well, maybe its just me but I find it a little awkward that a guy would choose to compliment me like that especially on a first date.

@dmcdad infact u took d words right outta my mouth. The reign that was yet to start.

@sniper tact= skill in handling delicate situation.
Silent admiration is definitely better but
@segzi certainly displayed some tact not just blurting it out outrightly like someone who s got oral diarrhea. Lol

segzi cres: IMO I feel that's a lil too direct for a lady. You can say "DAMN!" And if she asks you what? You'll deny. Lol. If you wanna make compliments like this, disarm her completely with alotta joke

Now, that is some tact!

@mynd, that's exactly what I do

@segeggs, not neccessarily end up in bed, but we meet some people who u d rather keep as friends @ worst but not worth being taken to the next level. So I do not think that was what mynd meant. Besides wouldn't I consider it a great compliment if some one I'm sleeping with says that to me.

[quote author=Risky_mallam]Nlnders, ever the judgemental lot.

So, have you guys started dating again? Or are you still mulling it over if you should?

Well, no one should really blame the op, it takes a huge amount of will power to call it quits with someone you've grown quite attached to. Not forgetting the mind-blowing
sex.

Op, it was your choice to get groovy with him and now that the scales have fallen from your eyes, I suggest you just go with the flow. Let sleeping dogs lie. For the sake of your conscience abeg.[/quote]No we are not dating. I m not even considering it moreso I don't find him attractive anymore despite the fact that he is now single. He isn't giving up though as he vowed not to give up (I laugh) and I asked him to shed some weight while at it. Lol

Forget him? Mehn you are dribbling back, he is so yesterday!

Mynd finally said something.

Seriously I just feel some things are better left unsaid. It takes a 'gentleman' to know that. Obviously such species are in the monirity.

@slide. Once again, that's not me though I m gorgeous too! *winks*

@godson, what do you want to see?

@chidyhels, I find it awkward, I mean u can only make that statement if u ve achieved some level of familiarity with the person. Like some have mentioned I.e if you are dating the girl.

[quote author=Mynd_44]Hmmm[/quote]Mynd pls say something (in english)lol

@shirley, yeah that's not me. Xynerise was right, it is a very popular pic so I just assumed most people would know. Besides, nairaland is a faceless forumn y would I want too use my real pic? I love the pic by the way cos I share u view abt d girl too. She is very pweety!
Sori if I misled u.

This desire to open this thread was borne out of two incidents that happened to me recently and I want to know if my opinion is shared by a larger percentage of people especially the female folks. So here we go..

1. There was this guy I met recently and while out on a date, this was what happened. It happened that I was walking in front and he was coming up behind me. The next question thing I heard was 'has anyone ever told you that you have a wonderful backside?' I felt far from being complimented knowing that he had no qualms making obvious what he should have hidden.

2. I changed my display picture on my bbm today with a picture that wasn't even exposed at all. My friend (or shold I say aquaintance) pinged 'nice cleavage'. I had the same feeling I felt with the above episode. I simply ignored the comment like I didn't see it.

So for the ladies, pls share your experiences if u have one. Did it come across as a compliment or are u like 'no biggies'?

And for the guys ( u could share ur experiences too if u don't mind) would you go ahead and compliment a lady on her 'assets' (u know the ones I m talking about)? If its okay, wat would make u do that?

Would love to hear your views.

Cheers!

fruityjojo: This isn't News! I am a student in a Nigerian University & dis is lyk an old news, d OP is Simply A RUNS GIRL! We understand even runs gals do fall in love *u said u weren't doin it 4 d money But u Flared up Angrilly wen he Refused 2 give u money after d weekend enjoyment! Sm1's Husband nd Father! Well sha Ashawo no be work sha.

Just one thing, we see the world only as a reflection of ourselves. So you see, its not your fault really.

With all due respect but nairalanders please correct me if I m wrong.
Remember Steve 'the sleek' Kadiri? When he had kidney problems I cloud remember that his pleas were made from the confines of the hospital. You cloud see from his contenance that his condition was critical.

Now, back to OJB, I haven't seen pictures nor videoa of him being in the hospital and we are expected to believe his condition is critical?n I read somewhere that he has about 8 weeks to live. If tghats the case then he should be in the hospital receiving treatment instead of being in the media defending and commenting on evry rumour.

In all of thisn I must admit that his PR team haven't done a good job.

This is my opinion. You don't have to buy it, it is exclusive to me and me only...

sexkillz: [color=#000030]You should trust your partner, not your best friend. . . No matter what a best friend does or says to your partner, if he or she is not swayed, nothing happens. The fault always comes from the partner. The final choice rests on them.

So, do you trust your partner? If no, why on earth are you still with someone you cannot bring yourself to trust? Don't you think something is wrong with you, if you fall in this category?[/color]

you are so on point. Come to mama for the kiss of life. Omoluabi. Lol

I must really confess I appreciate your response to my post. From ogugua's analysis to 4word's empathy and others. I ve been able to sift through the comments and understand different perspectives.

The funny thing was that I wasn't seeking for advice really cos I know what I should do, as much as it seems a hard decision to take, my head would definitely rule...

Yomieluv: Op,what do you really want,advice or will to continue?

I see no difference between you,and a hooker. Girlfriend,pls move on.

Is it because I made the mistake of falling in love with a married man that you compare me with a hooker? Like you have never mad a single mistake in your life.
Maybe, unlike a hooker, I didn't do it for the money....

@ kntrovasial mi: it wasn't me, they had issues even before I started dating him.

Thank you everyone for your input4
@4words, I really appreciate your empathy
I am an adult and I m well of the consequence of my action and I know that none of you is gonna face them with me.

The only reason you will judge me is if you are an angel and completely without flaws or sin. Therefore except you ve got the qualities above, it will be my pleasure to accept your judgemnt but if you are not...

rottenegg: @op- I'm not sure i understand what you want. . . advice or support? @mr cork- Lmao!

Definitely not support, advice maybe. This is what I m going through right now and I feel I shloud share..m

Lol@mt cork
@saopphire86, yeah there is a part 2, there you go! Whew!