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veevean1, goan sleep

SocialRecluse:
cc150615 I've been meaning to ask, were you born on the 15th of June?

that's very correct dear, you're the only one Who's guessed right among all the ppl that have tried to crack the name in the past.
How u been dear?

AllNaijaBlogger:
Anyone that has had to take care of teenagers or young people in general knows that it is a very tedious task that requires patience and understanding. If a parent or guardian can’t relate to young people in terms of the prevalent youth culture at the time, the parent/guardian would face a great deal of frustration in directing most youths towards a moral path in life. What compounds this issue is that the internet and modern mass media have given young people so much information and opportunities such that parent/guardians can not keep up with their (the youth) thinking.

This is also a problem for many churches as they are not keeping up with the needs of the youth of today. To lose the interest of the youth is to lose the future of the church and below, are five ways churches of today in Nigeria tend to drive these youths away from the house of God-


1) Ageism (adultism) and disrespect towards younger people by church staff
From experience, I can say comfortably that Nigerian culture permeates Nigerian churches, and deeply rooted within Nigerian culture is adultocracy, in which the respect of the elderly and adults are prioritised sometimes at the expense of the youth. For instance, when waiting to see a pastor or reverend father, young people are made to wait for long periods with no information while an elderly person would be given a swift service- the older person would be told how long he or she is to wait and also be told about the whereabouts of the pastor/priest.

Another instance is where ushers in the church shout at younger people when directing them to seat or move in the church hall but will be calm when they are directing older people. I have even seen it twice where a church staff member was shouting and embarrassing a teenage couple about "fornication" just because the couple were flirting in the church premises after the church service.

As someone that has been to many churches of different denominations with various friends in those different churches, I can say that such behaviour is endemic and it needs to be changed. Young people too have rights and feelings. The discriminatory treatment turns the youth off from coming to church.


2) Lack of relevant preaching to youths
Youth problems are far beyond "respect your parents and teachers". There are important moral issues facing the youth such as; sex, porn addiction, on the internet, bullying at school, abuse from adults, anti-social behaviours and so on. This is where churches need a good youth pastor who can relate to such youth problems.

Many churches prefer to speak against pre-marital sex to teens and young people but they forget that the young people are more interested in how to approach the opposite sex or the person that they have a crush on. A good youth preacher would explain to the youth how to create a God-fearing relationship with their close friends or partners, rather than just spouting the usual anti-pre-marital sex doctrine. Also, when preaching to youth, Nigerian churches fail to use terms that the young people will understand. For instance, using a young musician like Wizkid to explain the problems with a materialistic life would be more relevant to youth than explaining it with plain theology.


3) Lack of youth programmes
Many churches have little or no youth programmes that would interest the young people in the church. Even the ones that do have very boring programmes- they consider "choir and drama" to be everything young people need. Personally, I never could sing or act as a youth and so, I didn't really enjoy the youth programme in my church. There are other things that could engage the interest of the youth in church such as trips to religious sites/places and creative classes. Some churches have good youth programmes, I know of a few that have football matches among their youth,which is also a good idea.


4) Refusal to deal with "internet questions"
There are a lot of facts and also nonsense on the internet. It is inevitable that young people will pick up strange things on the internet and will want clarification on such things. For instance, I remember a teenager asking a pastor about the Church of England's acceptance of gay priests- the pastor just concluded that the issue is beyond the teen's understanding. The teenager probably read it on the internet and was wondering if it was possible on the internet. The issue here is that pastors or priests should be ready for such controversial questions from the youth as they have curious minds at that age and are still learning. Dismissing their questions will only drive them to find questions elsewhere. Furthermore, not answering religious questions that pertain to the church makes it seem as if the church has something to hide.


5) Resistance to technology
Some churches frown upon the use of Ipads or tablets to read bible passages. Some churches that have multi-million dollar buildings prefer to use televisions to broadcast educational material to youth members instead of multi-functional projectors. Some churches do not have a functional website that provides information on church activities. Times are changing and churches need to adapt. The youth are becoming more dependent on technology and there is a need to engage them on that level.

http://allnaijablog.com/5-ways-nigerian-churches-drive-youths-away

op has officially made my day

tolutweety:
The phobia i have for typing these days,I don't understand o. *Therealadonye: biko,gimme the right grammar for this type of phobia*

@veevean1: my buddy, my partner in crime sup? Let's bring back the spark
@okzcorp: welcome to the financial world,albeit for a short while.
@davide470: Respect! _{*I want to be like you when I grow up*.} Every lady I meet these days seems to know you or have met you before. I begin to wonder how many ladies you control sef. you are the BOSS!
@scrypt: my personal person.
@Lero15: i am back. I see you've been duly exploring all options;on this thread and some other people's crib.good one! By fire by force,you must track one fine lady this year
@cutetonye009: brotherly! Good to know you are under same roof with Lero15 now.we should have an outing soon.
@Therealadonye: Hmmn!! Was I ever a part of 'le fam'? If else,include me ASAP. #it's time for the lannnister to pay his debt #
@beau49: ma'am_ Greetings from the house of Tolu.the first of its kind...
@jamean: my friend before before, i see the beans is still burning. When will it be ready to be served.
@singlefade25: still brother-zoning some people shey How far?
@MizMyColi: Adannaya. Pls keep applyin and don't get discouraged.that good job is almost here.
@ilori1930: Cngrats on the new job.you know the drill na,send your first salary to my account make i use am pray for you.
@Uchboggy: this is how we do it on here.welcome!!
@cocolav: your case dey court, I just dey look you with one eye.
@marvellousGod: The beautiful wife. How is the hubby doing ? Trust he is performing his duties well .
@eldeevee : Greetings !

PS: i see some beautiful names around : dasher90, socialrecluse et al. GREETINGs.
At the right time,I ll induct you fully into the house my own way.

PS2 X-BOX: IF I DINT MENTION YOUR NAME, PARDON ME.i just dey come from sabbatical nii. ANOTHER LIST IS ON THE WAY.

Cheers all and a fab week ahead.

Nd that's how u forgot me wen i was busy looking for u while u were away........ur mata dey cooler

Dasher90:
Same here jor...just helping myself with some funny nairaland threads

how person wan do na?

Dasher90:
Hello babes

fine ooo, boring Sunday here

Dragnet does conduct interviews

MarvellousGod:
SocialRecluse, Why don't you change your diary title? Speak positivity......Also, the content is too Fab for such title.

Congrats on your new job

You took that right outta my mouth, SocialRecluse congrats on ur new job.... that's a good reason to modify the topic of ur diary..... at least a good start nd expect more positive things afterwards.....
Hi house!

Lero15:
If I hear

Ain't u flexing?

Lero15:
Vigil, laundry, sleep

you're Flexing oooooo

Jamean:
Jollof rice and friedplantain

And Where's ours?

So how are we rocking the weekend?
cc
Lero15
Jamean
Ferdybaba
vevean1......

abimbawealth:
These old peeps like sleep no be small
Job status: Still hunting, hoping to catch a big fish soon
Alma mata: Greatest Ladokite (LAUTECH)
Single

Loools, don't mind our 'sleeping' too much like Lero15 said, nd yes i also happen to be a fabulous ladokite of the chemical engineering department. you're welcome on board. just feel at home.. . ....It's one big happy family here, nd believe ur job testimony is on the way......
I'm passionate to see u succeed, remember!

Jamean:
Hi Cocolav
Hi SingleFade25
Hi Veevean1 ..I don miss you like kilode
Hi CC160615
Hi MarvellousGod
Hi beau49

et gbogbo wa

...this is a shout out to the wonderful ladies here. You peeps are really doing great as women, at least career wise and I'm really proud of it.

We will raise the generation of supportive yet submissive women.

I choose to be happy tonight despite my present state.

With love from me I dedicate "Three times a lady" by Lionel Richie to these graceful ladies.
It's your soul serenade for the cold evening.

Vida!

Hmmm, Thanks dear....

tolutweety:
Happy birthday scrypt.

Hey tolutweety, Where u been, we were worried about u

MarvellousGod:
Lols.. Many people know I have been in Ph...

Ehhh, any better for me?

Ooh ok,i understand.

MarvellousGod:
Ohhh, a wonderful birthday to you script. . Wish you the best in Life.. You have been an impact in my life...


_{Ehhh, I'm available in Ph incase any owambe dey}

So you've been in Ph nd u didn't tell until u saw a possibility of owambe

This is saying happy birthday to Scrypt aka brownkid.
I wanna use this space to Wish u all good things u wish for in life and even many more. May this year be an awesome and fulfilling year for u.
And also i wanna appreciate you for being the wonderful friend that you've been, actually my best nl friend..... i can go on and on.....Do have fun on this ur special day...
Erm I'll call on u guys to join me to wish him a happy birthday
cc
Jamean
cocolav
Ferdybaba
okzcorp
Davide470
vevean1
singlefade

Where's Scrypt?

SocialRecluse dearie, this is saying happy birthday to you, report your location for the parry

Mannylex:
Morning to the house...
Cc:
marvellousGod
Jamean
Cc150615
Single fade
Kissq
Mizmycoli
Beau49
Cocolav
Lero15
Friedplantain
Veevean1
SocialRecluse
Dasher90
Damean
Adeoti01
TheRealAdonye et al

Have a blissful week ahead





Have no fear; Mannylex is here

Wassup dearie,hope you're enjoying ur day?

adeoti01:
Yes....cos we are looking for job...no sleep;no rest...that's y we are Joblanders...tho we envy you *JobHammers*...so help us out...this insomnia is killing.....

But we both know that's not What's keeping u awake!!!
Probably some damsel somewhere......

Una no dey sleep

Does Ferdybaba share every post on nl or is it just me?
How una dey?

Good morning Lero15, do have a splendid day!

These book ppl sha! Congrats to the successful SCHOLARS....

Ferdybaba:
cc150615

Ferdybaba

SocialRecluse:
Alright dear, hope you had enough rest too

well... u didn't end up answering the question about ur day, anyway have fun dear, later

SocialRecluse:
Oh that's nice, were you on some kind of leave?

Yea, a week mini-leave that ended today

Lero15:
Dasher90, sorry. How are you feeling now.

SocialRecluse, you are welcome.

Cc150615, hi.

Oga Lero15, How's lasgidi today

SocialRecluse:
Hello dear

Hi babe hope u had some fun today....
mine was kinda fun... last work free day so had to use it judiciously

Eeerm Madam SocialRecluse, I'm getting really interested in your diary nd probably your person too....
Hi everyone