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Will try 2 b brief. Plz ur advice will b of grate help. I met ma bf last year while serving, his being a loving, understanding, encouraging guy though nat rili buoyant financially buf d truth is I dnt care. I dnt get into any relationship because of money. am mostly interested in d heart of d guy and Wat his future will b. And I no by d grace of God and his efforts he will b a rich man in future. He said he wants 2 settle down wif me by Dec and his making preparation towards dat. am glad abt it not only because I lov him buf also because i understand him and we hardly argue. Buf d problem is, there is a particular topic we argue abt and dat is d issue of church 2 attend and our religious differences. We are both Christians wif different views abt things. He is of d opinion dat u pray for ur enemies even wen u no dat dai av sworn dat over their dead bodies will u survive n make it in life. and d church he attends is of d same notion. And am of d opinion dat "if u want me dead u will die in ma place". because u can't kill me or make things difficult for me, den u leta repent and fulfil ur aim in diz world while I die without achieving ma aim. I believe in returning Wat ever u wish me back to d sender. And i attend a church dat blives dat. Am from a royal family n we av a lot of bad people dat are ready 2 wipe out ur family 2 take away d throne from ur family since d stool/ crown rotates in 5 different families and they are all fighting for it. Secondly, There are other external factors dat arises from officers, once environment etc. and even ma family experiences dat is making me hav dat notion. because I no dat, it's not everything dat happens 2 a person is ordinary, some are spiritual. Our different view is d major problem. Coupled wif d fact dat he does not bliv dat my church is doing d right thing. And wen ever I talk abt diz church stuff it poses a serious misunderstanding b/w us which makes both of us 2 b sad. We are currently not talking to each oda right now due 2 d same matter and am already having serious doubts abt him. I love him buf d truth is I dnt no if I should continue or give him time or even quit. Becos It hurts me dat we hardly argue buf we are now arguing on a particular issue Which is d church issue as I cnt tell if I can go 2 his church or even hav his notion. Should I just quit or giv him time? And if I may ask is ma own notion a bad one? Am rili sorry for any mistake in ma post.

Consider ur age if ur above 24. If a guy keeps introducing u as a friend to his people it's nat rili a gud sign. N him going for NYSC N still coming bac 2 u is a 2 way fyn cos NYSC has caused a lot of relationship 2 break nat saying it will happen or will nat happen buf d possibility is dere. N getting a job immediately after serving is another fyn because we are in Nigeria. Am nat also saying he would nat get it neither am I saying he will get immediately. Making up his mind 2 marry immediately after getting d job is another fyn 2 consider because som guys dnt wnt 2 jump into marriage immediately dai wnt 2 explore n av dere freedom. Dai also wnt 2 achieve som stuffs b4 getting married. Now d questions is can u wait? U av 2 consider a lot of fyns. n dnt ever make d mistake of chasing ur suitors. By now ur supposed 2 no ur guy buf even at dat people do change so is dere wants n need. So b wise.

He pays u for Wat if I may ask? it's only prostitutes dat get paid for services of dat nature. N d guy dat pays u how serious do u fink his taking u? Do u no his mindset towards u? Dat means he calls other babes wen he can't afford d money. Babe wake up. If ur guy gives u money deres nufin wrong wif dat buf paying u for ur services dats absurd.dnt no Wat other people fink buf for me dats for prostitutes not for a responsible lady.

Babe I fink u should not get married yet, dnt jump into it for now. Just calm down ur just 23 n who said u cnt meet som1 better? Dnt ever think that because dere are better guys ma dear. N Plz ma own opinion is dat IF u MUST Marry dat guy den d 2 of u av 2 reach an agreement because IF u dnt, u are likely 2 av a lot of issues n u won't b happy. Dat guy seems lik his gonna b a daddy's man n dat is nat good. Again he is a man dat does nat change his mind n compromise n based on ur write up he already feels ur detective and dat is a very bad notion. It's ur life no body will help if u make a mistake because it will b too late n marriage is till death so dnt make any mistakes oh Plz think properly n dnt do it because his parents or ur parent wants it. If he cnt compromise a little wif u also compromising for both of u 2 reach an agreement den dnt marry him. U will meet som1 better.

It's love n if u dnt lik it kill ur self

Babe liv dat guys hauz
U dnt love him buf u love his money if he ends up marrying u and leta becomes broke Wat will u do?. Ur 31 n ur nat able 2 get pregnant for him so Wat if d pregnancy refuses 2 show up n he dumps u Wat will u do? N Wat if u get pregnant n he refuses 2 marry u n his just demanding for d child n is only interested in d child Wat will u do? D fact dat ur 31 dats y u should think. Liv dat guys hauz if u can get as much money as u can n start up som fyn it will b beta get busy n stop showing signs of desperation cos once a guy finds out dat ur desperate den d possibility of marrying u is slime n besides u cnt get a better guy by staying in his hauz n u dnt even no if his already paying for anoda babe's bride price. D earlier u match d better for u cos u dnt love him. N dnt base ur mind on riches d one u c as rich can b poor d next minute n d very poor one rich d next minute. Marry some1 wif a good future nat because of money because anything can happen.

Pls dnt cheat cos if u do he will look for a way for u 2 b caught n he will finally av an excuse 2 throw u out wif d society backing him up. I fink u should work on ur self try n find out if it's ur fault. Wen ever u wnt 2 talk 2 him dnt bring in d SEX talk as d major topic n 1st topic, just remind him of d good tyms n how u 2 were b4 d whole issue started. B nice n polite. Get busy try 2 b independent n u can talk 2 any person u no n sure dat can talk 2 him lik a close relative or friend dat ur sure will nat make it worse for u. N most importantly, dear u av 2 get close 2 God oh because his d 1 dat can turn things around for u. Complain 2 him n I belive things will b fyn if u do.

If uv made up ur mind abt not marrying her den tell ur family d main reason because they will try everything possible 2 find out y ur no longer interested. N if uv nat made up ur mind on Wat 2 do. U rili av 2 b careful in d decisions u will make because she already has a child n a male child for dat matter remember dere is a high tendency dat d father of d child will make trouble. Besides u dnt also lik her body anymore buf u still love her. Guy think oh b4 u make ur decisions cos d decisions u make 2day can make or Mar u.

Loving some1 completely does nat mean u should b blinded by their wrong actions. Porn is something very bad n further corrupt ur corrupted mind. If u start watching dat n seeing nufin wrong wif it den ur in for a shock. because a time will com wen u will wnt 2 stop buf u would nat b able cos ur accustomed 2 it. So try n stop it b4 it stops u. For ur gal apologise 2 her and reassure her n she will b fyn.

Wat d woman did was wrong she is a married Woman nat a single lady. I also no dat some single ladies will nat tolerate dat. Yes a woman need to b friendly buf nat to dat extent. It tells a lot about her personality because d guys in her office can not tap all d women in dat same office in their ass. On d other hand her husband was too hard on her, beating a woman is a wrong thing to do. There are other ways of handling her buf beating her is a no no.

Greene66:
That husband should not complain.. when we were saying it...

. One man's food is another man's poison.