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SweetieConstie:
Lmao! Did I just hear you say "worth"? If indeed he is rich, what on earth should stop him from dressing properly? Even if he isn't so rich, at least, every normal guy should be able to afford a nice shirt...



BTW, a man who is worthy of going out on a date with a woman must also dress properly. Shikena!

Jadekitana:
Let's be realistic, you are very much inlove with someone you hardly see in months, it gets frustrating! It works for some but trust me a lot of people fall out of these distant thingy.Here are some reasons:

1) CONSTANT COMMUNICATION: it may be all sweet and cool when the love just started but give it 6months, long talks begin to get boring! These talks revolve around what's happening in your life daily,there's nothing new! Imagine someone who works morning till night exhausted and as usual you bring up those 1hour talks about your boss,exams,buhari,fuel scarcity, beef with one of your best friends....trust me, he/she may just get bored of the regular routine talks

2) DIRTY TALKS: nope!! This can never be compared to physical intimacy! We'v been talking dirty for months without actions, what's the difference between you and a celibate? It's even not advisable! Imagine sending naked pictures to your spouse,making videos and what have you, leaving them extremely h0rny, they become vulnerable. They ain't woods, any approach from someone they like can trigger anything immediately.

CHEATING: It takes a very disciplined person not to cheat and this seldom happens! I have friends whose girlfriends are in school or working in abuja or ph, they cheat a lot. They would tell you "yes I love my babe but body no be firewood" One recently fell for his bff and ended things with his babe after 2years, he just wasn't feeling the whole thing anymore.

MIND NOT AT REST: like it or not your thoughts always sway to his/her direction especially weekends. Questions like where is he? Who is in his house? Hope he's not camping anybody? Who is he hanging out with? You begin to stalk them 247 on social media, you start calling per second,if he/she is clubbing you stay awake keeping tabs on their movement *sighs* unnecessary high bp

LESS SPENDING: I know the guys would love this a lot! Stingy people! Distant relationship involves little or no spending, apart from fattening MTN's pocket due to calls! You don't hangout, you don't shop, you don't go to movies together, you don't go on dates! You just stick to your phone anytime you are free. I remember spending my allowee during Nysc every month flying to see this bobo, though he assisted in some other things, it DIDNT work because the whole process got tiring.

RELOCATING: this isn't always easy at all, especially when your company refuses to transfer you. Aside that it's not easy leaving all your childhood friends and family to be with someone who may just start acting up anytime, you need to think about that decision a lot.

If you have been in a distant rel for 2-3years and it's not heading anywhere, you need to use your brain and start plotting a Plan B before you receive the shock of your life. Like it or not Out of sight if cares not taken can very well lead to outa mind.

Btw Toks2008 how are you?

gentlesinna:
Haahaahaahahhahahaahahaha jst gotten der attention lolzzzzz

gentlesinna:
Hmmmmm so so ugly


Anyway happy birthday to her.
But oga wen do u intend to marry her?
Abi na wen she don finally reaach her menopause?bcs as I dey see her so she no b pikin again 0oo0.abeg tek d fiancee tin to another level bfor we go start dey hear say....

KingRex1:
Hey they're married with kids.

Would it be so if its a simple relationship?

vizkiz:
her mother now go for prayers I now went to meet a prophet the prophet now say the mother that go for the prayers... So the mother now again go to him again... Dafuq am I reading

HardMirror:
Why are you telling her sorry? Because the guy collected his 100 naira change? Or because he loves asun so much he eat more than her. Abeg let us be real here. They guy could just be a tight fisted person based on poor background and upbringing not because all bankers are fake. Why is she weeping over such a trivial issue. Sorry ko, sorry ni.

agarawu23:
sorry!!!
I honestly can't do court wedding with ANY lady and NOBODY can change my mind on that.

These set of ladies with court wedding do behave silly and I can't take such shiit. You expect me to marry a Lady and if she messed up , I kick her ass out and one mumu court will divide my property for such biitch? God4bid.

If you can't marry me cos I ain't doing court, another person will.

After all only lazy and bad minded ladies will insist on court wedding

Marvell23:
PH girls are thief one carry my money go. If I ever see the girl enh

Rexhenrex:
she doesn't trust me at all although I haven't given her a reason not she says am too good to be true when ever I excuse ma self to make a call problem, of she sees a female staring at me she will nag if she sees me with a female course mate problem...I can't apologise am tired but I still love her.ur d 1 given her reasons not to trust u. U dnt expect her to smile at u after sleeping in her best friends room and hiding it from her. If ur d person it will get 2 u somehow as a human dats d fact. Besides u guys might act differently buf som besties are terrible being. Dnt act all right cos u were meant 2 tell her cos she's ur gal. U never can tell how she heard it who told her and if d truth was twisted. So diz matter is not abt her trusting u because if u rili needed d trust u would av called her dat very night. Go and see her and try to tell her ur own side of d matter because u dnt no how she was told.

achinaboy:
first of, stop going to the church you usually go with her, because there is no spirit of God there, sit down and talk with her, although it may be difficult for her to open up to you,

nortcentrallord:
Who ever cooks my meal warms my bed. Its as simple as that. Some women are just lazy. Before all these feminist start yapping here, I am a good cook and I will cook cof my wife and kids when I eventually get married but if my wife can't cook me a meal, then who ever is cooking the meal should enjoy my bed too. Is as simple as that.

mizzkweenbee:
It's written in the Bible that a wife should be submissive to the husband, how can you be telling your husband to be to leave his church for peace to reign. Are u marrying his church or him?. Young lady, God gave us all brains, kindly use urs. He's the one marrying u nd not the other way round, so I see no reason y u should be telling him to leave his church. U're entitled to ur belief but dnt let it get in the way of ur relationship. Am a roman catholic, my fiance is Anglican but we're still happy together. Apply wisdom here

zyzxx:
it a normal thing that wedding is to be conducted a d bride church, but pls don't be to carried away all in d name of Christianity, u deserve to be respected in some of ur opinion u both need a counsellor to make things work between you and him to clarify somethings for you both, pls thinks twice ur husband to be is a kind of person that will hardly change anything he stand on. My opinion thou I pray God grant u wisdom to make d right decision amen.

lecturerdabo:
Your notion is not bad based on your denomination but will advice you be open to learning others opinion about the said issue!

Consider Christ whom we claim to follow, He had many enemies while here on earth but how many did He pray for their death? Instead, He commanded us to love our enemies!

REMEMBER: The builder labours in vain except God builds and the watchman also except Baba God is involved!!

Personally, I hate it when Christians try usind God as IED!
I will definitely keep mute when such prayer points are given in church

because, He(God) need my enemies when decorating that high table for me!!


My view though!!!

zyzxx:
well to me it require wisdom, since he is born again, did he compulsory it to you that you guys must attend the same church? if not, you don't have to argue with him with your believe, leave him, pray your own prayer, when prayer join you together pray to please him, with time his eyes will open and he will understand you.

skywalker240:
let me guess,..

He is a member of christ embassy and u are a member of mountain on fire

My dear even the great master Jesus said love and pray for your enemies.

So i think he is right.

I beleive in Jesus.

Aviero:
RELIGION! RELIGION!

See how it wants to ruin this lovely relationship.

You better not let this problem ruin the love you two have for each other.

Okay. If he wants you to conform to his practice, fine! Follow him to his church, when his pastors raises a prayer point on the 'enemy shyt', don't pray it. Pray your own kinda prayer in your mind. Your business is in what you believe in, and not anyone's.

You can kill your enemies all you want during your quiet times.

To find husband materials these days hard. If you know your guy loves you, you gotta use wisdom.

zyzxx:
well to me it require wisdom, since he is born again, did he compulsory it to you that you guys must attend the same church? if not, you don't have to argue with him with your believe, leave him, pray your own prayer, when prayer join you together pray to please him, with time his eyes will open and he will understand you.

KashyBaby:
If u love him that much,plz swallow ur pride...even Christians married the Muslims or Muslims married the Buddhist...this shud not be abt whose better but about how open u are when it comes to discussion...besides religion shudnt be part of arguments since both of u are Christians...

Juz saying