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Day 2 - 22nd September

Olosho free

Spent only 1k on edibles


Gambling-free

So I am playing with numbers. I am 33 years old. The rent in my former location I fled expires in 33 days time. So I want to see if I can abstain from womanising and betting in those 33 days. I also want to cut down spending expenses.

If I can save up something in these days, I can be able to send something to my former landlord. Enough of running from different locations and abandoning my properties to fate. Hopefully I can keep renewing the rent till when I am ready to go back, secure my place and pay off debtors

Aside that, it will be a big achievement stopping my two dreaded addictions. I just hope I am not planning to change because I am broke now. I will keep you all updated daily

Day 1 - September 21

No womanising

Less spending

No betting

I had 4200 naira with me this morning. I was bored and needed to hang out. I couldn't go to the brothel to chill as it was not enough to carry Olosho.

so I went to a bet9ja shop (foolish me) to relax, watch the Liverpool match and chill. My body is wired to just do something as I can not stay at home for long (despite the fact I am in a sober mood and should be in hiding after fleeing my last job).

As I saw the thrill of people punting and following up their game, I foolishly gambled off all I had, betting and re-betting lost games. Now I am left with nothing. Hmm. I had promised myself to stop going to bet shops. When will I stop?
For ten years now

Assuming I was a drunkard, all I would have thought off, is just to go to a brothel, watch girls shake their bum, take two or three bottles, listen to the serenading music on the sound system, relax and watch T. V. That's all

Betting increases my woes, womanising makes me broke too and causes infections. I really hope to have an addiction with minimal effect I will be satisfied with.

So I had about 14000 naira in my Opay account (which I hustled through some online stuff). I had planned to discipline myself on how to spend wisely. On checking my balance, I surprisingly saw 9000 naira. Checking my transaction history, I discovered that one loan app I owed, had debited 5000 naira via my linked opay card on their site.

I quickly withdrew the remaining 9000 naira. 'it's better I use it on myself than to lose the rest'. I decided to check out a location near my house I normally hear loud music and see ladies standing outside. To my greatest surprise, it was a coded brothel!!

I have seen a location I will be relaxing and charging my phone when I have small cash. Hopefully I get to relax, spend 3k on drinks and look for a girl that will manage 6k for short time there. Buying a new shoe can wait. If I need food, my mum will turn up.

Relaxing in a brothel is far better than in a betshop where tears is in abundance.

So I read of a guy who was caught recently and arrested for killing his girlfriend who broke his heart two years ago.

A soul was lost just like that. The accused LINTEX, will have to serve life imprisonment and be deprived of priceless freedom.

Why do people say after a relationship that they were 'used and dumped'. I think we should start seeing relationships as a transaction and not a do-or-die affair.

What I mean is, get the most of a relationship while it lasts and be prepared for anything. Don't allow the relationship to be one-sided.

Ladies, ensure the guy is caring/spending while it lasts and don't be too attached

Guys, also ensure the lady is caring/offering sex and don't be too attached.

Always look at the big picture. SHALOM

August 28 to August 30th

Now on 7 days betting-free


August 28 to August 30th

3 days womanising-free

Started this one afresh

Day 4 - 27th August, 2025

Gambling-free

Womanising-free

Day 3 - August 26, 2025


Gambling-free


Womanising-free

Day 2 - August 25th, 2025


Gambling-free


Womanising-free

My spirit is really down but I will keep fighting on to stop my addictions.

I just hope it's not a case of me being sober because I am broke again

I will work on 30 days without sex and betting


Day 1 - 24th August, 2025


No womanising


No betting

So it happens that I lost my job and fled my previous location due to multiple debts.

Surprisingly the bank I worked for paid me severance benefit of six digit recently

I quickly located a brothel in my hideout. I have been there since morning.

Oh how I have missed staying in a brothel all day.

This is the only way i can avoid using it to bet (ran there to spend the rest after losing 20k to betting).

Gabrielshow24:
Shey child of.doom don relapse👀?

thanks for follow up. I will start afresh. Let me work on August. Things are even down for me. Broke as I lost my job. Should be easier now I am not seeing money


August 1st - day 1 betting free


Womanizing free

Deleted. Please ignore. I am no longer interested in posting sad stories. Changed and positive now

Things taking men down are:

Mischievous borrowing, violence, cultism, stealing, gambling, womanising, lack of discipline/moderation, youthful exuberance/rebellion, drugs, reckless spending without savings, alcoholism, impatience etc

May God save us

We don't live up to 60 years again like our fathers and forefathers

Before now, it was scary having female children. There is this notion that: they will get married and forget their family. Or they would sleep with men. That is their only flaw. Girls are the best.

- who stays back at home to assist with chores, girls

- who are now sympathetic to their parents plight and don't stand up to challenge them, women

- who now takes care of their elderly relatives, women

Male children are becoming more and more a liability. At least, 80 percent. They end up being jailed, tortured, lynched, mad, miserable or in constant troubles due to their nefarious activities

How I am still alive is a miracle against all odds. Though I move with trembling, unaware of who could be looking out to get me

tobore4u:
What about your banking job sir?

no more

Artiiclebeast:
Farming is also available my friend.

currently jobless and remorseful. Interested if you have a farm I can work

UNIBEN, the dream of every South South indigen, was the school I attended, after attending a big boarding school. All for what?

I should have learnt a trade with the time and resources wasted.

During the rough years in UNIBEN, I had to do side hustle to see that I passed successfully. I had a sharp 2.1 from my department. All wasted now

UNIBEN is to be partly blamed for my misfortune too. It was there I learnt about bet9ja that destroyed my life for ten years. No thanks to mischievous students always talking about it. From constant patronising of bet shops, I got to learn about womanising to clear my head or frustration. This always made me broke. Then I learnt about online loan apps to feed my addictions. This was the height of it all. A good devout Catholic like me slowly turned bad. Thank God I didn't add drugs to it. I would have run mad by now

I shuttled between Sapele, Benin, Ughelli, Asaba etc to see to it that I secured a white-collar job that paid 6 digits. Interviews, screening, medicals, documentation etc. All in vain now

My addiction to betting, womanising and borrowing has finished me. Now hiding 'in a hole' avoiding creditors, torture or jail time as I reminisce on the good old days.

My C.V is messed up and my reputation gone. My result is now in vain as I won't get recommendations from my past employer.

Hmm. Over 2 million spent in UNIBEN (on feeding, books, fees, accommodation etc) in vain. I am no different from a primary school drop out now.

My good diction also in vain. Only internet fraud seems available now

Ebenezer2021:
guy where for Benin you dey?
I for like make we meet.

hmm. What's the offer?

Not in Benin per say

Stranded where I am

straighttalk:
No matter how anybody wants to view it, its still far better than having sexual activities outside marriage. As long as one is mature and didn't have the resources to settle down for marriage, the only way to maintain the self dignity and relief one's self of the urge is to decently embark on masturbation.

Argue with your keyboard.

on point

If I was to choose between my past life of just soapy or the current miserable state I am in now (partly because of womanising), I will choose the former

I am having financial misfortune and battling with health challenges ever since I started womanising

I miss the good old days when just blue film and sex chat was enough to cure my libido

Hotguy27:
Betting is a big problem. I was introduced into it by a colleague in the office in 2017 or so.I was earning over N400k then as monthly salary. I lost over N500k to it. I took a bold step to delete my betting account and that was how I stopped it.

Fast forward to 2024 another colleague in the office showed me his small small winnings and before you know it, my old habbit came back. I created a betting account and within a year I lost over N7m. I was betting with N200k or N300k so that I could win big but nothing.

I took another break for about 4 months but each time I remembered the total amount I had lost, it would pain me. In May 2025, I started again but I was lucky to win N15.3m with N240k.

I feel happy now that I have gained something from these terrible gambling companies

I do not advise anyone to go into gambling. It has evil spirit that won't leave you once you go in there. Unfortunately, over 99% of gamblers will never recover their money "invested" in it.

good to know.

Do well to live within your means

What takes me back then, when I have a need

Money might come into my hand, let's say 80k and I begin to think of all the things I need to do if I could increase it. Or I pinch from money that's not mine and think bet can solve it. That's where the problem lies. Or going there when bored or need to charge.

I envy you who have a companion and something to start with. Do tread cautiously henceforth and let the past deter you. Experience is the best teacher. Despite your role as head in the family, submit to your other half as it relates to financial matters. Having someone help you plan can go a long way. At times, addicts like me keep to ourselves when having to make a financial decision, that's where the problem lies

Even when I win, lust takes me back.

DaniDani saw your comment volunteering to help

I will be glad

Had to reply you on an abandoned thread

Greetings albinoflash

Had to reply you on an abandoned thread

Been a while


How is it going with your Reformation?

betting hard since 2015

oloshos here and there since 2022


multiple loan sharks indebtedness since 2021



had to flee from my 6-digit paying job as i owe a lot physically and online


my misery is about to start

To think I thought womanizing will be better than gambling. I was wrong.

With gambling, you only mess up your finances. But with womanizing, you mess up both your finances and your life/health.

Battling with complications/infections from raw sex with multiple partners. I have painful urination, my wind pipe is messed up, probably from mouth action. Spots erupting from different parts of my body every now and then. My genitals looking weird/enlarged from raw extensive/continuous thrusting of both holes of women.

Once I survive this, I am going back to masturbating (I once started with this as a teen) to cure my high libido. I don't mind doing it multiple times.

It may not be easy for it to suffice, considering I may yearn for physical touch of the mammalian glands and skin to skin. But I have to protect the little left of my life somehow.

When people see money, they think of something productive to do with it. But 70 percent of today's youth (including me) are foolish. We either think of drugs, betting, women and all sorts of rubbish

April 29th, 2025

Day 34 - betting free


Day 1 - Olosho free

April 26, 2025

Day 30 - betting-free


Day 3 - womanizing-free

April 24th, 2025

Day 28 - betting-free


Day 1 - womanizing-free

I started womanizing to help me overcome my addiction of Betting.

It has helped to an extent as I spend majority of my time in a brothel, Eating, drinking, relaxing and fvcking (my mind leaves betting).

The issue now is that, since I started three years back, I have been treating one infection to another. Currently having skin reaction that brings out small inflammation and rashes on my body like my favourite olosho.

I can't help it. I have tried switching to drinking to take over womanizing, but it won't work.

Except I go back to betting (which is worse). In the past, I would sit all day in a bet9ja shop wasting away - gambling with my money, people's money and my belongings. Then I lose focus and don't work

But with womanizing, at least I get some pleasure, and get to use my money little by little. The rate at which it finishes is not as fast as betting.

The thought of having to choose between different bannies to lash at night keeps me motivated during the day to work harder for cash. Just the infection part as condom do burst at times while there are some I only do raw.

I know my lifespan is short, I just want to enjoy it with a sane mind and not fleeing from betting woes. My body is wired to do one addiction to stay placated/elated.

Having a girlfriend is scary. What if I invest a lot on just one girl and she cheats on me