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NDSMELODY:
Can a man ever please a woman ??...... I don't think so.

hmm. Women have incessant needs, and Randy men fall prey to this

I know there are other vices like betting, drinking, drugs, cultism etc. but I believe womanizing has a strong effect.

Since I started uncontrolled intimacy in 2022, it has been from one problem to another. The desire to please women for example, leads me to lots of problems.

I engage in betting with people's money for example, to see if I can double it to please women's demands. Not to forget all sorts of infections we tackle.

God help us

For us betting addicts, let's not give up on ourselves or we might be miserable.

I lost a lot yesterday but I will not give up on myself

Day 1 - clean


Do well to update along if you are caught in this web

As early as yesterday, I committed fornication. Feel bad I lack proper planning.

Those addicted like me, let's have a short-term target which we can build on later

Day 1 - clean



Do well to update along

They keep deleting my posts or pushing it to dairies. Hmm. Romance forum losing taste

I've grown with some obnoxious and unorthodox lifestyle hard to let go. Thank God my mum still condones my excesses. If not, I would have been in the streets by now with no shelter. Every other family member has given up on me.

Stuck with loan shark debts, irked creditors who I failed to settle, unsettled 'middleman' clients, masturbation, loperamide overdose due to a sensitive stomach, lack of credibility, health complications due to an unhealthy lifestyle, anger issues, carbonated drinks addiction, womanising and betting.

At times, I will undergo some resolutions to stop some addictions but later relapse when I see money. Most money squandered on betting are not even mine. This has always made me flee different locations. I always believe I can quickly double the money and give the owner his own, I end up losing it all.

Currently hiding from loan sharks, creditors and 'aza men'. The day I am caught, I might meet my Waterloo. Infections from unprotected sex with multiple partners can also take me down. Maybe after that, my body will rest and I will finally give my parents peace of mind

So I was given a transaction of 84,000. I was supposed to execute it and remit 74000 naira to the owner and take a profit of 10000. To my greatest surprise, immediately the money entered the account, renmoney took it all. I was shocked and dumbfounded. Then it dawned on me that when I registered for a loan on their app, I had linked my UBA atm card. Foolish me forgot to block the card and pick another one. Now the owners of the money are threatening to deal with me. I have blocked their numbers but they keep threatening with new numbers. just when I thought of starting a new life, problem keeps courting me. I have to keep hiding

This is not the first time I am receiving unsolicited debit alerts. I remember one time someone sent 10000 naira into my Opay account. I was so happy I would use it to eat, sadly, royal credit took it via my linked atm card on their app. Another time, I got a business deal. I got 42000 naira. that was a year ago. It disappeared from my first bank account with the narration GSI recovery. That was when it dawned on me that the federal government have taken back part of the COVID-19 loan they gave me through NIRSAL Bank.

I have called all the customer care of the bank's I use to block my ussd, mobile app and ATM cards to avoid a repeat of this mess. But I am still scared because the loans I still owe are many. They want to kill me before my time.

I saw a post stating I was dead. Not true.

Am I in a better place?

Will things get better?

Pessimistic about my chances

I still womanise and bet

All the same, grateful to still be alive.

Compliments of the season all

My main addictions are:

Womanising
Soapy
Betting
Junk
Excessive carbonated drinks
Diaflux abuse and self-medication for std
Blue film
Impulsive buying/spending without savings
Borrowing


Hoping to use the following to fight them:

Dancing
Work
Movies
Android games
Comedy clits
Water

MrNice04:
Abeg how does a brothel look like abi is it hotel I've never been to a brothel honestly

Socrates once said, 'The unexamined life is not worth living.' Your time will be occupied no doubt but you will be addicted. Lots of STDs and financial misfortune will follow

I realised that when I communicate with my mum and brother or with my colleagues in school/work place, I feel uncomfortable or not excited.

Currently at a brothel, watching football, enjoying the music and chatting up fine ladies I made friends with there. Surprisingly it gives me more excitement, sharing in their pain story and having fun with them

As a reserved person, I hardly go out for events I am invited to. Once any amount enters my hand, I go to a brothel to chill. Here I find solace

Is this normal?

Ignore my last post as I don't want to encourage violence or anything malicious

I am considering regulating my bad acts to once after completion of a seven days cycle. Hopefully, I can keep to this seven days cycle of abstinence from my seven most challenging addictions, before I resume it again. This would be a weekly routine I will update you guys of.

I hope to use movies, social media, work and music/dancing to fight these addictions during this time. My greatest challenge will be womanising, pepsi, junk patronage (pig meat, suya, assorted buying etc) soapy and betting.

I am happy I did not visit a brothel close by yesterday, despite the urge. I used the money for some basic things at home, like prepaid card loading, 1kg gas filing & support for food.


14th OCTOBER, 2025

Day 1 - diaflux overdose free

Day 1 - junk free (hopefully not more than 3 pieces of meat a day - one per meal)

Day 2 - betting free

Day 4 - womanising free

Day 1 - overdose of pepsi free (not more than one a day)

Day 2 - soapy free

Day 2 - borrowing/begging free

It seems I have no mind of my own. I can't make constructive criticism of some of my actions to move me to penitence. I only change when broke and then join the bandwagon when I see little money. My body is wired to do something obnoxious to be placated.

I got 12000 naira from a 'middle man' role on Friday. The first thing that came to my mind was 'woman'. Yesterday, I borrowed 10000 naira from my sister. The next thing I thought of was to find a way to double it through betting.

When I leave money in my account, sporty takes it. When I withdraw it, olosho takes it. Savings is never in my dictionary. Since the Federal Government started this GSI recovery concept and loan apps having access to my account via linked card, I dare not save again sef

I may never be able to leave the country for greener pasture considering I owe over 18 loan apps. I am a flight risk now as my credit history is messed up. I can only imagine the number of litigations/debts awaiting me if any of them catches me. The loan interests will keep piling up till I meet my Waterloo.


I can't remember when last I planned to buy something for myself. Since 2015, it's always betting and flexing taking all I have. Even down to boxers, my relatives help out. If not for my mum or brother, my situation/hygiene would have been a sorry case. I wonder how I will be able to raise a family and take care of their needs when I can't even take care of mine.

I have fled three different locations/jobs when I entered problems. I wonder what my life would have been now if not for my mum saving the day thrice. Maybe when she's gone, or I am tortured or I marry a rich lady, I might change. But for now, I prognosticate a bleak future.

Not to forget other issues like addiction to loperamides, junk, Pepsi and std drugs. It could be an immediate cause of the discomfort I feel at my right lower abdomen

Since I started womanising and having unprotected sex, I have been treating one infection or the other. I don't even take my dosage to the end as I am easily discouraged due to its harsh effect. I also felt there was no need for regular dosage of antibiotics when I know I would still be infected from continuous unprotected sex. I read somewhere that the incessant dosage could cause liver or kidney problems.

I will just wait till my situation gets so critical before I do proper diagnosis, then treat myself once and for all. After which no more sex and No more self-medication. But recently, I read somewhere that the attacks get more severe when they resurface after some time. I noticed joint pain and partial hearing loss at times which may be connected. Constant urination which feels like there is a partial obstruction.

The rash/bump/wart that initially appeared on my genitals, have now progressed to all parts of my body, including my sole, finger and feet. Areas I never imagined will be affected. My eyes itch, my tongue, inside and besides my ears, my nose, sore throat, round my head, armpit etc.

Not forgetting nausea, headache and fever that go with some attack. I also noticed blurry vision and stroke-like attacks once in a while. Anytime my armpit, prick or in-between my anus sweats, it itches me. After which rashes/bump spring up. I also noticed pelvic inflammation recently

Indeed, 'na wetin dey sweet person, na dey kill am'.

So since I lost my job, it has been hard finding money to patronise Olosho. I had been starved for nine days. My current teaching job doesn't pay much for that lifestyle.

I have had to rely on the intermittent money I get as a 'middleman' from FX customers to support my 'conji ministry'.

I received 12k commission today from a particular deal. I had planned to visit a brothel after work to fulfil my urge/fantasy.

Luckily, I decided to soapy in the shower and the urge has been regulated. Money is now saved for food and data

'You can take the girl away from the street but you can not take the street away from the girl'.

It's six days without womanising or betting! Excited but sad as I look back at how much I have spent.

There was a girl called Sophia I always patronised then. I had come to fall for her. If I was to have sex thrice a day in a brothel, I would surely pick her among the three. She was the type that could take any sex style as long as I want and in any hole.

I grew fond of her. What endeared me more to her was that she was 'blended' and a hard drug taker. Strange, right? They say, 'unlike charges attract'. I was an educated and corporate guy fallen for a razz girl.

There was no day I didn't talk to her. I made it a priority to get a new phone for her anytime her phone was stolen or seized. That way we could talk. From the office, I would always buy food for the both of us to eat. She drained me financially. Everyday I tried to fvck her up to 15k so she could focus on me and have something daily to give her madam

I noticed that she would secretly entertain other guys that paid well when I was at the bar relaxing. Some unkempt guys too just for weed when I could not meet up with her needs. I was jealous but I would just not show it. Love is a stupid thing. At times, while she was with someone, I would pick a random girl to clear my head.

Do you know now I fled after entering trouble from betting, borrowing and womanising, this girl forgot me like a bad habit. Just once she showed concern. On to the next pweek I guess. Life's a bitch. If fvcks us all

So it's been three days now without patronising Olosho. Just went there to sip one bottle of Hero and then go back home. This will be my new routine

I will just go there, watch ladies shake their ass and entertain their men, take one or two bottles, watch football and go home. I won't be desperate to fvck again. With this, I won't be moved to go to a betshop when I am bored/need a place to relax

As I while away time reflecting, I can't help but envy the amount of money brothel owners make. Some profession/work don't need advert to blow. The madam has roughly 50 rooms in the hotel, always fully booked. That is about 500,000 naira daily, considering the prices are around 10000 naira per day.

The new girls who are yet to gain their freedom, remit almost all their daily earnings to their madam. This could be around 80 to 100k per girl. Then there is also the food and drinks section. The halls are rented out too. No surprise she bought and annexed the land close to the building to build more rooms.

As long as womanisers/philanderers continue to increase, while young ladies continue to look for quick cash, the business will boom.

My dad is currently in a miserable state. One of his legs is swollen. He is having issues urinating properly. A man who once looked sturdy and active, now looks lean and feeble.

In earlier years, he was known for constant womanising and drinking. He was always in debt from gambling too (fled past location).

Health complications have meant that he now spends anything he solicits on drug.

Here I am, a boy of 33, doing worse atrocities than him. I feel I am young now and I can fight off any challenge, unknowingly I am complicating issues for myself. I long to stop but hard.

I started a 33 days abstinence plan which I have failed to keep. I squandered around 70k yesterday in a brothel after getting an alert of six digits.

My addictions are: std and loperamide drugs regular intake (one to fight std and the other to fight regular stooling), up to 3 carbonated drinks daily, betting, womanising, borrowing when unable to pay, junk food and masturbation.

God help us


I go again

Day 1 - 25th September

Womanising free


Day 4 - betting-free

Day 3 - 23rd September

Olosho-free


Gambling-free

Day 2 - 22nd September

Olosho free

Spent only 1k on edibles


Gambling-free

So I am playing with numbers. I am 33 years old. The rent in my former location I fled expires in 33 days time. So I want to see if I can abstain from womanising and betting in those 33 days. I also want to cut down spending expenses.

If I can save up something in these days, I can be able to send something to my former landlord. Enough of running from different locations and abandoning my properties to fate. Hopefully I can keep renewing the rent till when I am ready to go back, secure my place and pay off debtors

Aside that, it will be a big achievement stopping my two dreaded addictions. I just hope I am not planning to change because I am broke now. I will keep you all updated daily

Day 1 - September 21

No womanising

Less spending

No betting

I had 4200 naira with me this morning. I was bored and needed to hang out. I couldn't go to the brothel to chill as it was not enough to carry Olosho.

so I went to a bet9ja shop (foolish me) to relax, watch the Liverpool match and chill. My body is wired to just do something as I can not stay at home for long (despite the fact I am in a sober mood and should be in hiding after fleeing my last job).

As I saw the thrill of people punting and following up their game, I foolishly gambled off all I had, betting and re-betting lost games. Now I am left with nothing. Hmm. I had promised myself to stop going to bet shops. When will I stop?
For ten years now

Assuming I was a drunkard, all I would have thought off, is just to go to a brothel, watch girls shake their bum, take two or three bottles, listen to the serenading music on the sound system, relax and watch T. V. That's all

Betting increases my woes, womanising makes me broke too and causes infections. I really hope to have an addiction with minimal effect I will be satisfied with.

So I had about 14000 naira in my Opay account (which I hustled through some online stuff). I had planned to discipline myself on how to spend wisely. On checking my balance, I surprisingly saw 9000 naira. Checking my transaction history, I discovered that one loan app I owed, had debited 5000 naira via my linked opay card on their site.

I quickly withdrew the remaining 9000 naira. 'it's better I use it on myself than to lose the rest'. I decided to check out a location near my house I normally hear loud music and see ladies standing outside. To my greatest surprise, it was a coded brothel!!

I have seen a location I will be relaxing and charging my phone when I have small cash. Hopefully I get to relax, spend 3k on drinks and look for a girl that will manage 6k for short time there. Buying a new shoe can wait. If I need food, my mum will turn up.

Relaxing in a brothel is far better than in a betshop where tears is in abundance.

So I read of a guy who was caught recently and arrested for killing his girlfriend who broke his heart two years ago.

A soul was lost just like that. The accused LINTEX, will have to serve life imprisonment and be deprived of priceless freedom.

Why do people say after a relationship that they were 'used and dumped'. I think we should start seeing relationships as a transaction and not a do-or-die affair.

What I mean is, get the most of a relationship while it lasts and be prepared for anything. Don't allow the relationship to be one-sided.

Ladies, ensure the guy is caring/spending while it lasts and don't be too attached

Guys, also ensure the lady is caring/offering sex and don't be too attached.

Always look at the big picture. SHALOM

August 28 to August 30th

Now on 7 days betting-free


August 28 to August 30th

3 days womanising-free

Started this one afresh

Day 4 - 27th August, 2025

Gambling-free

Womanising-free

Day 3 - August 26, 2025


Gambling-free


Womanising-free