Uche2nna

Don't feel bad. It is only the US that uses daylights savings time.
When my husband first came to US he did the same thing. The people here will laugh but it's only because they are inexposed to other cultures. It wasn't until I met my husband that I found out that other countries didn't use daylight savings time and I've completed my coursework at two universities.

So as organized as US is, you will find that it is not at all civilized. The way I see it, Nigeria is civilized but not neccessarily organized. America is organized but the people are not civilized. So don't feel like a bush man.

@ Old Shame

Night and day is a very generalized term. If you know something, would you care to expound or to explain i.e. the example I left above.

Like is it true that Nigerians arrange marriages for their children?
Is it true that Nigerian man will divorce you for not having his child?

American men don't want to be married- talk of letting someone arrange a marriage for them.
American men will divorce you or just leave you regardless of if you have their child or not.

List these types of things. I am looking for specific information.

If you heard something about one or the other post it and see if any one answers.

I really want to know about this babalawo. Is it true that people give their private parts to babalawo to become rich?

Cassia
I really like the way you worded yourself here.

I think a lot of ladies will definitely have your back here. Good point.

Ok. I had a friend tell me that Nigeria has so many differences -in terms of culture- from America. So, I would like to know what is so different. And if there are any known rumors or false disclaimers, set the record straight.

For example:

Statement:
Nigerian men can pay an American woman to marry him just to get a green card.
Answer:
Sad but true. But only in the Northern states like New York, Rhode Island, Washington, DC and Pennsylvannia because it is easier to get away with. I have witnessed it.

Statement:
ALL American girls are "easy" or "loose".
Answer:
Not true. America has lots of different cultures. In some cultures it's ok for women to behave themselves loosely. Southerners live in a more rural farm-like area and tend to be more church minded and hospitable than northerners. In fact, I have noticed that more Nigerian girls come to America and go buck wild than the girls who are actually from America. What is seen on movies is different from reality.

@ jof, there is no way for a practicing, believing muslim to understand the intricacies of God. Man can only speak intelligently on what he knows. It is obvious that you know nothing about God. If you are looking to be converted or to convert others try another blog. This started out about omen and superstitions but twirled into something else. IF you need me to, I can explain it all to you seeing as how I once almost converted to Islam but found a few errors. For instance, the religion was started by a tradesman from the east; you can kill your enemies, a man can have as many wives as he can take care of or treat equally, allah- although the word means god in Arabic- when it is tied to religion it means god of moons. It's a pagan religion started by Ishmael, the son of Abraham's bondwoman. Do the research oh mighty one. The fact is that Jesus is more than just a prophet as the Quran puts. You can bow now or bow later but you and all other worshipers of pagan gods will bow.

And for the record, just because you don't see what's beyond the sky doesn't mean that it doesn't exist. Likewise, just because you didn't see your beginning doesn't mean that you didn't have one. Some body created us. If we evolved from monkeys, somebody created that monkey. None of us can control this earth. None of us created it. And it doesn't say anything in the quran about allah creating or controlling it.

However, although God is everywhere, it is not everywhere that you effectively commune with God.
The Bible says that God is a spirit and those who worship him must worship him in spirit. I don't think that the city limits of Lagos or Ibadan or other places even in America would allow a person to comfortably enter into the spirit realm without noise pollution, distractions or other irritations like ringing phones, crying children, unhappy neighbors and etc.

The one that I hate is that people believe that babalawo and daughters of water can voodoo you. All power belongs to God and he has given us power to tread over scorpions and false gods.

by the way,

It's not 2 am where i am. It is 7 pm

I would love him and encourage him. I may even set a wedding date. But we would both have to secure jobs and be financially stable before we consider marriage.

Let me set it straight.
The men from Nigeria are quite different from what you receive in the U.S. Especially in states like Maryland, Texas, Washington, D.C. and etc. One thing I have noticed is that breasts and booty will attract a man and will keep him if he only wants sex. But when a man wants something more, there are other qualities that he will be looking for in a woman to settle down with.
I have the best of both worlds so to speak. I am an American but I married a Nigerian.

What I have noticed is that Nigerian people have a culture and a way of life that is quite different from the American way. I stayed single and celibate for a long time because of this very issue. American men perceive beauty as something relative to the superficial and artificial qualities that are similar to the white, wafer-thin supermodels that we see on TV and in the Videos.
What will make a woman beautiful depends on how you were raised and the culture in which you reside.
In America, black is ugly and thickness is a disease. And in order for a woman to attract a man she has to play games and portray an image that is very degrading. A woman has to be "easy".
In Nigeria, Black is beautiful, intelligence is sexy, thickness is a sign of a good life, less is more ( showing less body), and discretion and dignity are arousing and rather stimulating. character makes a person more interesting. This is quite a contradiction to the role of a bimbo that American women have to play to be with an American man.
What's sad is that men from other cultures think that all American women are this way when it is not true. I made my husband wait until we were married before we had sex. I forced him to see the real me. Not the desperate tramp that American women are being portrayed as. As a result, my husband respects me. We have a business together. We have two children. Moreover, when it's dark outside, my husband is at home being a man for our children and for me. I don't know what made him be this way but I wonder what would it be like if I had given in too easily or dressed too provocatively.

Out of desperation, we can do anything.  I doubt any one wants to know the truth in this issue but here it is anyway.

When you give your marriage vows, (regardless of if the marriage is arranged or not)  You promise your love to the person with whom you exchange vows for the rest of your life.  Secondly you promise God that you will forsake all others.  

It is not biblical for a man to have two wives.  In the book of Leviticus, the adulteror and the adulteress were put to death because they were no more good.  If they were not put to death they were cursed and their souls were cut off from their families.  In the book of Samuel, King David, ( a man after God's own heart) was cursed and lost a child because of his adulterous affair with Bathsheba.
Lastly, Jesus speaks about this in the book of Matthews and says that in the last days, seven women will cleave to one man and beg to bear his last name.

Ladies, the relationship between a husband and wife is sacred and very private.  Do you know that 65% of married couples are living with an incurable STD, other than AIDS?  Do you think that a man devious enough to cheat on his wife and lie to  his wife would tell you that he and his wife have done certain things and  are suffering certain things.  NO!   I have a friend who lost everything behind a married man and when it was over, he went home to his wife and denied the bastard child that he fathered and she was forced to have an abortion than to suffer the shame of mothering a bastard.  When it was over, she discovered she had herpes.  

Don't be so loose.  This thing we are talking about is running rampant in America here and the people suffer.

One thing that women make a mistake in is that they mistake sex for love.  It has been scientifically proven that during sex, a woman's body secretes a hormone called oxytocin and this makes them think that they are in love.  When reality comes crashing in so that they can't deny the facts, they become depressed.  

Can you have sex with a married man? Yes.  Can you enjoy it? Yes.  Can you build a real future with a married man? No.  Can you realisticly love a married person the way that his/her marriage mate should or does? No.  Will you suffer as a result of adulterous affairs? YES

No on will reply to this because every likes the mess that they live in. No one wants to change and the truth is falling on deaf ears and hard hearts. We have adjusted our minds to think and believe that our culture would be better if we became like America and some other countries instead of realizing that Nigerian culture is stronger than anything, better than anything and closer to what God wants than any other.

My brother, I appreaciate your words but to be realistic; I must say that it is no longer satan who we must blame for the shape that the world is in. Bible says that if you resist the devil he will flee. If we find that our current world is run through by demons, we are to blame for it. We dont resist satan and we all refuse to tell the truth.