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What a shame

4Humanity4All:
So, can you see that some of them are hypocrites?
Don't take most of them here seriously.

Okay, thanks.

Not fair

Wow. Thank God for his life. Really ghastly

4Humanity4All:
And how many pms have you received just within these few days of joining?
I asked for you to realize men's hypocrisy.

Hmmm quite a lot..

4Humanity4All:
Madam, you have little control over what happens around you but you can control your reaction to it. Note that.
Just ignore those 'misogynistic' comments. Don't leave a site because of some lowlives.
That's beneath you.

Well that's true. But some times it could get tiring. I think I'll simply ignore like you said. Thanks

meobizy:
Male Nairalanders love penis. Leave them to suck each other off. It’s so bad that males hide as females for attention.

Lol. You’re even one of them.

I don't understand your last paragraph. You mean I'm a male disguising as a female or what? What benefit will that be for me? will it pay my bills or something? I saw some people saying it on my last topic, but I just ignored cos it didn't make any sense to me and I'm not here to prove anything.

I've barely registered on this forum for a week and the Misogyny I noticed on this forum, most especially the Romance section is terrible. Little wonder there are very few active female members on this forum. I think the guys should do better or else many females will simply stop being active here. From the type of comments I got from some guys on my last thread its just terrible. So females can't express themselves anymore without being slut shamed? Well I guess I'll have to go back to IG and Twitter.

This is a really sad situation.

abimic:
Why then are you thinking and probably behaving like a gentile?

How am I thinking or behaving like a gentile, Mr holier than thou?

abimic:
Madam Realist chioma4eva,

Abeg, which Church do you attend and what version of bible are you reading?

I attend Chris Embassy and I'm reading the same Bible you're reading. So?

Love800:
Tank u. I ve found it

You're welcome

Love800:
I cant still find it. I entered new, and they were showing me new topics. I could not find create new topics

Click on any topic of your choice like family, Romance, religion etc. Just below the page number, you'll see it there.

Memyselfu2009:
Not all Nigerian men you are generalizing.

I have also have my fair share of a bad relationship and no be me Bleep up

I didn't say all Nigerian men but most. Read again pls

I don't think I can

ChocolateWine:
But he's against fornication. He's not against divorce unless on the grounds of sexual immorality.

Formication makes you forget the beauty of love. Doesn't mean you can't love again. Truly fall in love and you'd see love would make a way.

Have you been married before? How do you know sexual compatibility is topmost thing you need? Is God who's billions of years and who gave us life, not able to tell us how to live your life?

You can always talk through your sexual needs with your partner before marriage. You don't need the whole street to see your pants before you can settle with the real man. You can talk things through like you'd for any other form of compatibility (values, health, service, religion, recreation etc). For serious cases you can do medical checkup.

Don't use the excuse of being Hot and be fornicating and giving the blaming you're doing sexual compatibility.

If someone is not sincere about their feelings for you no amount of sexual compatibility would stop your divorce. They'd still be training in the marriage to catch up with your sexual compatibility needs. Like ashawo who's compatibility is 20 women a day. I hope that's the compatibility you're looking for?

That's one thing with Nigerians. Holier than thou attitude. I'm not a saint, neither are you. All this epistle is needless tbh. If you're not a virgin, you don't have the right to condemn my actions please. It's my life and I live the way I choose. If you commit other sins. Even little ones, you're not better than me. We all pray for God's mercy. Have a nice life!

ChocolateWine:
Now, I feel you're just catching cruise with this thread. I mean couldn't you read in-between the lines of what I wrote?

Catching cruise how? If you read my previous comment you will understand where I'm coming from. Is God not against Divorce? I can't risk going into a marriage where I'm not sexually compatible with my patner and later ending up as a Divorcee. I jump and pass abeg. And besides, I'm not a saint, neither are you!

ChocolateWine:
Do Christians fornicate? Maybe God is not a realist, likely a sadist.

Collecting prick is not the medical checkup you should do for your man...You can't eat your cake and have it.

What do you mean sexually compatible? If he can last long? If the prick is fits your vee? If he wants it as much you want? Or if he's better than all the men you've slept with?

I wonder how sex translates to love.

All you listed is part of the sexual compatibility I'm talking about.

Love800:
Pls babe hw did u get to post dis. I mean wat procedures did u use in putting dis tin on dis page. I want to to start posting.

Go to any section of your choice, click on create new post. That's all. It's simple

FreeStuffsNG:
It is possible but that is a symptom.
My point is to let you open up yourself to great and positive possibilities. You can still have it all; love, marriage, great sex and family. You too will be a great inspiration to others later in life

Alright, thanks for your time

dazzlingd:
A woman is at least 90% dependent.
Independence is not just about making your own money because no matter how much a lady is making, she will always want to go for a man richer than her making her dependent to the man

Well that doesn't apply to me and Soo many other ladies.

FreeStuffsNG:
Have you considered marrying him for that same reason and while married he later becomes impotent? That is now common due to cardiovascular issues and some other reasons I can not share here for professional reasons

What about erectile dysfunction that is so common nowadays?

FreeStuffsNG:
What if your husbsnd is not impotent and becomes a perfect match for you
Marriage is like an unwrapped gift, look at the good side too.
If a man is impotent and he hides it from you just to decieve you then it is not marraiage in the face of the law of God and man.

Look I'm not a devil's advocate, but what will now be the final solution to the marriage if you discover such. Divorce abi? After wedding and courtship and everything. I now start afresh? I'm afraid I can't risk it. Like I said before, I'm a Christian but also a realist. I'm not in support of promiscuity. But honestly waiting for sex after marriage is a scam. Especially when you are in a serious relationship or engaged.

ada9ja:
U don't stretch a rope for too long and expect after the purpose of stretching, it comes back to it normal size...toasting for several weeks is bad...just say yes or no and get it done with

So you accept any toaster that comes your way without any hesitation? And if you're in a relationship or married, you didn't do shakara for your patner? Honestly?

FreeStuffsNG:
Do not give sex unless he has married you. Nothing is wrong with Nigerian men. It just makes sense not to pay for what you got free and to avoid falling into such disadvantaged position, keep sex away until he weds you.

So what happens if i find my husband impotent after marriage? Or both of us are not sexually compatible. Divorce? Note, I'm a Christian but also a realist.

prettyem:
Op, men naturally are 'chasers', almost everything they do and think is on target

Toasting endlessly for 2weeks was a target for him at the time
Sex with you was another target (maybe it came too early)

Once a target is achieved, what happens? You move to the next....

This has happened, don't feel bad or mad if he chooses to call it quits with you, learn this and never fall for such again...how?

Plan or decide to know the person you're in a relationship with (timeline on you), what he really wants from you and vice versa, the values you both intend to add to each other before the sex part...you will be fine darling

God bless you for this comment hun. You hit the nail on the head. Very well said.

JONSYN7154:
when you over do the shakara?

Not overdo but do small.

VladimirPutiin:
Ok. Have a nice day

And you too.

500k

VladimirPutiin:
You based in lag ?

Not really

VladimirPutiin:
Ok that’s good

Yes

VladimirPutiin:
Ok tell me what other thing you can offer ??

companionship, support, etc. I make my own money too.