This is really unbelieveable!!!!! But what did u expect d poor masses to do, other than to help themselves by devising a means of solving their problems since their so called policy makers aren't concerned of how they survive daily. Its really a shame dt Nigeria has come to this....... May God save our land

thank u my good advicers

@tpia, am sorry for the attack, but u wont blame me cos these insults nairalanders were unleashing on themselves is way too unacceptable. Dont attack my parents, they re not tribalistic, as a matter of fact they love my guy as a person. i think they re being protective and as well want the best for me.this is becos of what most ladies face being married outside their tribe. What i need is a sincere brotherly and sisterly advice on what to do and not these thrash. God !!!!!! People can be mean. I wonder if we're at war here. If anybody havee scores to settle with another, i dont think this is the best avenue to do that. God help us.

@ andre uwe, thanks for ur concern but i dont they re that bad. Thanks dude.

@ one naira, bia nwokem, ole di ihe na eme sef, o maka nam dehiere obere ihe mere ijiri si nam abughi onye igbo. Lee anya kam gwa giooo, Akuko a abughi ihe nokatara dee kama na obu ihe n'eme ugbua. Ihe i na-amaghi i kwusi i kwu ya , i nula. Ezigbo ara agbakwala gioooo, odika i na- ekwodi ara ekwo. Since u and ur likes re doubting thomas, am a core igbo lady from Obosi in Anambra State. Get that.

I sincerely appreciated all the sensible advice offered here by great Nairalanders with d heart of Gold. Thanks. As for those who were insulting themselves here by being tribalistic, i wonder what u'll achieve with that. Lets unite and see ourselves as one no matter the tribe. Since racism was abolished i think we should endearvor to put tribalism where it belong. As for my Fiance, i fell i love with him cos of who he is, always bringing out the best in me and being my source of happiness. If i was tribalistic, i wouldnt have known or experience the happiness i have with him. It doesnt mean that we should not date pple from our tribe but i think that wen ure searching for love, u look beyond tribe and discover who the person is

@ ATLgal, my dear uve said it all, they'll never admit such, forgeting that we're all human and that there are times when we do be at our low moments, which might caused by being a failure, losing one's job,child,husband,wife or any other thing that is so precious,thereby giving way to the thoughts of giving up on life. I only opened this thread so that Nairalander can share their experiences here. I dont blame those who were writing nonsense here cos they find it difficult to see that suicide is a prevalent case in Nigeria as well as all over the world.

@ high chief, please am not ileke idi or whatever, am a lady. Please take note!!!!!

@ Ileke idi or what ever thing u call urself. I think u must be mentally insane for what u posted here. U must be a sadist who doesnt know what love is all abt.u need to get ur head to be clearly examined. Moreover, who even invited or need ur uselesss opinion here. Its ur sisters and any other women existing in ur useless life that are rejects, insane, ugly etc. Ure nothing but a tribalist.

Do you have the mind to forgive and accept ur friend back and how will ur relationship be again after what happened.

If   your   answer   is   "Yes" , narrate what happened to you.

@chaircover, i wish they can compromise and not involving family as u said cos even i didnt approve of such idea when i heard of it. I was only involved when the hussy contacted me to talk sense into my friend since am d only one very close to her. I even adviced the him to try and set up something for her since she's not the type of person that likes to be ideal all day doing nothing, in order to let peace reign. Am really worried cos i dont want this issue to lead to divorce.

@   iaabc,   i   really   understand   where   ure   going   to   but  am   only   a   concerned   friend   who's   really   worried   abt   d  situation   cos    things   are   out   of   hand   without   both   of   them   trying to   sort   things   out.   The   husband   has   called   me  severally   to   talk sense  into  my   friend   but   u  know,  she's  like  she  can   take   anything  but not  where   her   job   is   concerned.

This is actually happening to my best friend right now and she's losing it. She's a graduate from one of a respectable Nigerian University and recent got married to her fiance last year's April. Trouble started recently after she has wanned her baby and is fit to resume her work but her husband wont hear of it. He insists that he have enough cash to take care of thhe family needs, thereby telling my friend to forget about work and take good care of their home, that is to be a full time house wife!!!!!! But she didnt buy the idea of wasting her knowledge just like that. She's even threatening to sue her hussy for infringing on her right. The two families are tearing apart right now with some supporting the wife while the others are supporting the husband.The funny part is that the hussy is not even ready to set up a business for her.Is this fair enough? Nairalanders, please ur sincere advice is highly needed for my friend cos she's not listening to anybody since according to her, she cant waste her precious years in school to acquire knowlege only to waste at home being a housewife.

Not that i was quiet or enjoying the insults going on here, i was away for sometime, but Meeeen, most of these suggestions re way too scary and quite confusing. All the same, i appreciate ur sincere concern abt this issue. I pray that God will guide me to make the right decision.

Not that i was quiet or enjoying the insults going on here, i was away for sometime, but Meeeen, most of these suggestions re way too scary and quite confusing. All the same, i appreciate ur sincere concern abt this issue. I pray that God will guide me to make the right decision.

different strokes for different folks i think

i fink am gonna give ur suggestions a shot, hope they wont back fire

Many hearts have been left broken in
Pumula East suburb after a teenager who
had become a popular figure following
claims that she had 24 boyfriends
committed suicide after being shown the
exit by one of her lovers.
The teen's family has since demanded
compensation of US$2 800 from the man
who ditched her. This is after a letter
written by the Amhlophe High School pupil
before taking her life implicated the
boyfriend identified as Philani Saga (21) as
the one who drove her to suicide.
In the letter written by the now deceased
Londiwe Mpofu (18), she stated that she
had won 24 hearts but her world crumbled
after Saga parted ways with her. The other
part of the letter read as: "Boyi, (Saga) I
loved you so much and I am doing this
because of the love I had for you".
The teen's pronouncements have landed
her ex-lover in hot soup as her family now
blames him for their daughter's death and
are demanding damages. Saga told our
News that Londiwe was his ex-girlfriend
who did not want to let go although they
separated in December.continue reading ,
"I parted ways with Londiwe last year in
December but she kept on phoning me and
last Saturday she sent me a message saying
I should come and visit her.
"At around 8pm, I then asked my friends to
accompany me to her place and upon
arrival we whistled so she could come out
but to our surprise she never did," said
Saga.
He said that a man believed to be a relative
to the teen came out and threw a stone
towards them. The missile is said to have
landed on one of Saga's friends which
prompted them to take to their heels with
the man in hot pursuit
They however made good their escape.
Saga said on the following day a relative to
the late teen came to his home and
demanded a meeting with his parents.
"The following day, Londiwe arrived home
in company of his uncle and a member of
Pumula Residents Association called Jamela.
"They then asked me what I wanted from
the Londiwe and they called her names
accusing her of having many boyfriends,"
he said.
During the "meeting" Saga is said to have
told the teenager's uncle that he had broke
up with Londiwe as he did not love her. A
resolution was undertaken to the effect that
the late teen would stop all forms of
communication with Saga.
Heartbroken by this the girl is said to have
asked to be left alone as she wanted to
study. Moments later the teen's father who
is based in South Africa is said to have sent
a text message intended for her and asked
one of his children to show it to her.
However, the child was shocked to find the
teen hanging from the roof and went to
inform the uncle. The matter was reported
to police who retrieved her body.
After the funeral wake, the teenager's
family is reported to have proceeded to
Saga's home where they demanded
compensation. The demand was however
ridiculed by the man's family taking into
cognisance that the two were not married
and nothing official was known about their
relationship.
After much deliberation, the families finally
reached a consensus which entailed the
man's family paying a certain fee to
reimburse funeral costs. Contacted for
comment, the teenager's family said they
did not want to talk about the matter as
they were mourning. the police
spokesperson, Assistant Inspector Bekimpilo
Ndlovu confirmed the teen's death.
"We are handling a case of an 18 year-old
girl who was found hanging from the roof
truss at her parents' house in Pumula East
suburb" he said.

Nairalanders how can u know whether ur partner love u or not. Just curious. [b][/b][color=#990000][/color]

That is very veryyyyyyyyyyyyyyy disgusting. How can she say dt. Guy better wisen up. It irritates me to see the period on myself talk more of having , during that time. Are u sure ur G/f is ok at all?

@ razznaija, thanks so much i really appreciate this, i believe they'll solve ma problems.

Ladies need to be less emotional and also
ready to move on.This African mentality of
sticking to one man is why they are always
the ones issues like this affect more.My
advice is for you to leave the guy.He is not
the only guy in the world.You can be dating
him without marriage if you so much love
him.The guy will definitely move on and
marry a choice wife while still dating
you.Why can't you do the same? What ure suggesting is very difficult, not that am being too emotional. Its just we've built our dreams around each other and the love is sooooooo strong. I once suggested the idea of parting wayys but he'll never hear of it. As a matter of fact, he's seeing his parents as an obstacles to his happiness cos since we belong to same church and are devoted Anglicans, tribe shudnt be an issue

@ Andre Uwe, i totally understand where ure saying but its so difficult since this is an issue that concerns the heart, besides we've gone way too far. I know lots of Ibo guys but i think i found my true happiness where my B/f is, he's so special and have all the qualities i need in a man besides he loves me more which he has proved beyond any reasonable doubt more than other Ibo guys ive dated in the past. I fall in love with him for who he is and nott because of his tribe or anything else. Please help a sister in need.

Its not good at all because doing so implies lack of trust which is not healthy for the growth of ur relationship

Why Are The Guys Always Hard To Be Corrected Or Adviced?

hey   ladies   in   the house,   don't  know  if   u've   experienced   this   but  its   the   truth.   Its   always  annoying   when  we  try    our  best   to   advice or  correct   our  guys /Bfs  when   they  re  wrong   or better  still  not  admitting  that they  are ever wrong but    always  claim  to be right. Why   is  this  so?

Lovely   nairalanders,   what   are   the   best   natural foods   and   fruits   that   one   who   want   to  shade   some   pounds   within   one   month   can   eat   to   obtain  a  desired  result.  Thanks   [color=#000099][/color]

Fellas, please am a little bit worried
here and i need ur urgent advice
ok. Ive been dating my boyfriend for
the past three and half years and
we love each other dearly. We've
even started making plans to take the
relationship to the next level by tying
the knots but the problem now is that
we're not of the same tribe because he
is yoruba and am ibo and our parents
dont support our plans from both sides.
We've tried our bests to convince them
that what matters is that we love each other
and not let the issue of tribe ruine our
happiness but it seems that fate is about to
play a cruel game on us. I dont
know what to do again since none of us is
ready to quit d relationship. So NLanders
what do u suggest we do cos we're running
out of patience. Your sincere and mature
advice will be appreciated.