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shy1amy:
How else can I approach her to go back to her hubby for the sake of her kids or even come home, take her beautiful and intelligent kids with her to take care of them?

you can not and should not, how can you ask a woman to go back to a man she was forced to marry.

to know how to approach her put yrself in her position.

ayefele200:
@nella

am dissapointed, damn where the heck have i been damn damn damn, *smacking my head on the wall*,


matter of fact WHERE IS THAT pussy headed LovePeddler, ISLANDER,

I HOPE FOR YR SAKE THAT YOU ARE PLAYIN OTHER WISE I WILL TELL YOU WHAT TO SUCK ON ISLANDER hissssssssssssssssssssssssssssss       

roflmao

@ Ivvie

being soft headed have nothing to do with my way of being there was a time when i thought i would never marry again for the reasons you stated however i realise now that not every one get the same start in life, some men and woman do things that they would not normally do but situation force them too. You said a lot in yr post and i am sorry that i went deeper than i should have however,


i am wondering if those are your words or were they internalise.

mustiz:
[size=25pt]for dose who thought i wuz gay

may your ballz b infested with CRAW CRAW and your hands b too short 2 scratch them



THANKSSSS!!!!![/size]

oooooooooooooooooooooo snap ROFLMAO

Ivvie:
@Coco

What would you explain of a woman that wasted her youth slutting around and can't have children anymore? It isn't a funny path for the so-to-be husband. That is an example. There is a reason for a past. When some people have wasted themselves, then they think about settling. To be honest, I don't know of a man in his right mind that wants a "used" person. Some don't mind but the truth is that she cannot be respected and worse trusted. A few years back, one of my colleagues told me. He would mess with as many girls as possible and when he's mid-30 to early 40, he'll go to Nigeria and get a village girl. This is a nigerian-american that rarely has been home.

As per liberalism, before two families agree for the intended couple to get married, a family check has to be done. A check for the number of deaths, abandoned marriages, abuse, madness and other tests. It's been reduced to blind-dates. I personally don't believe in love with respect to concealing corrupted or bad foundations.

As for men being crooked, there will be a time to pay. They just haven't grown up. You'll have to reap what you sow. You don't have to run games with them. You are only leveling yourselve with them and then, they'll beat you with the experience they have.

sweetie what you have just said belongs to another culture that i am soooooooooooo happy i am not involve in.

i marry who i want when i want and my mother and father can do nothing about it.

@ ivvie on a serious note you seem to care more about what those around you think, when they are not the one living with the woman.
like i said before unless my intended husband is gay i will accept the fact that he has change and is ready to start again. Life is the way it is because we allow ourselves to be victims to often.

what the hell how old are you girls that you think candida is an infection.     

i have never been to nigeria our any other Muslim state however every one seem to be angry with all Muslims for the deeds of all.

In every religion there are people who decide to interpret their god and his so call words the way they see fit it does not make it right.

Cathalics take it to the extreme by saying  unless yr husband or wife are dead you can not marry again what i want to know is god who is so all knowing, he can see the future shouldn,t he have seen this would be a problem in modern times?

seventh day adventist choose to obey the sabeth to the full they do not spent money sun down friday to sun down saturday.

is this at all possible in modern times, because going to work alone is spending money. The list goes on

Islam is beautiful and peaceful, it is not about what people choose to do.  Life is not ours to take however only Allah can judge those who choose to do this.

This is not only for non muslims it is for every one.

Ivvie:
@Coco

Your yesterday determines your tomorrow. What you sow is what you reap. Not everyone is liberal like you. You have to know who you marry. Certain traits will surface years into the marriage and another story would be told.

sweetie what does being liberal have to do with love? in life we all make mistakes and we all want to be loved it is all about honesty and understanding, have you ever consider the fact that Nigerian woman are they way they are because of their men? From what i have read on NL if i was a nigerian woman and the men of my country prefer to accept lies than the truth i will do the same and deal with it later. It is all about KARMA honey.

naijaborn:
coco29 is probably posting this for som attention, because it seems she nd this 4play guy hav started gettin it on{in closed doors! :oyes o!}so ladies nd gentle men,stop disturbing yaself on her love tale, she's just too happy she got a dude from here that she doesnt kno how to act take am easy sha?!

WTF it is almost two yrs now 4play and i did fk still fking and will continue to fk.

at the time of posting i was unsure of our relationship now i am not he is a big pain in the ass but on the other hand he makes me laugh, he listen to my bullshit and i love him and he love me. this thread is dead let it rest in peace.

londoner my Nija man can F k better than some caribbean men to

londoner isn't it funny that i think, some carribbean men are USELESS
and i was born and raised in the sun.

men no matter what their culture will always reveal the cave man with in.

ayo84 if i saw a man you just discribe checking me out, the look i would him would make his hair fall out ROFLMAO

sweetie what about RESPECT, SINCERITY, UNDERSTANDING, IF YOU DRESS A PIG AS A COW AS SOON AS THAT PIG SEE SOME MUD HE WILL REVEAL HIS TRUE PERSONALITY, THE SAME GOES IF A MAN ONLY THINK ABOUT THE PHYSICAL ASPECTS WHEN TRYING TO ATTRACT A WOMAN.

Ivvie:
@ Mellow

Go through the entire post and read it through.  It's not a mistake.  The contrasts is widely clear.  They aren't self-centered as nigerian girls too. 

Take time through nairaland and see the vast majority of the posts by the females (especially sensitive topics men put out of curiosity). The replies are usually fronts (claim of innocency), lies, or insults (including sarcasm). I personally feel that they aren't positive-minded. There is no man in his right mind that appreciates anyone that isn't positive minded. Above all, they don't tell the truth. "The Wedding in Chicago" is one of many. They won't tell you about their past or what they have done. You'll be forced to deal with the truth after marriage.

as you can see i posted this topic a while back, when i was quite unaware of what i was asking, we are all africans with different cultures and believes that being said a woman has the right to be who  she want to be.  Ivvie  what does some ones past has to do with the present must a woman tell you her life story before you marry her?  i understand that some things need to be considered but it seems to me that you are quite bitter. just in-case you are wondering i am from the carribean

Happy Birthday honey love you loads and loads

saucekid:
coco and poster,

shey una dey play hide and sick seek game here?

and what is wrong with that

crazykid:
*Sighs*

you bored honey

ozoneflake:
I vote cocoa 29 the most popular Nairaland user. But you gotta watch ya back baby.

huh

that's it seun be positive

roflmao NL self

Allah


all 4 of my children

4play