I told myself that if I don't return to give an update in respect to the former thread then "Ingrate" wouldn't be a bad name for me afterall. I want to appreciate everyone who read my story, who understood my plight, gave me their shoulders to climb and see beyond my nostrils... Choi! May he that holds the Universe together embarrass you with BLESSINGS uncountable. I found a family you all and more hope in humanity.
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I read All the comments. I locked myself in my room on the Sunday that followed and I asked myself "TRUE QUESTIONS." They are as follows:

1. Wetyn you want go find abroad?
Ans_ No be MONEY ? U no fit find way dey do your thing here, canvass more customers and find shop?

2. Babe eh, mistakenly una village people still use parachute or trek sef follow then Oyibo con drop you back for Muritala, pls wetyn u go fall back on?
Ans_ E don be for me be that! Body go tell me.

3. Abeg who tell you say work dey throway abroad? Plus you wey no get certificate?
Ans_ e better say u be Oga for your country than to go far away without a clue on what to do next...

4. If obodo Oyibo too hungry you... Babe you can work hard and smart, believe your God and in your self then hold on to your grind tightly ( Perseverance and Determination).
Linda Ikeji became a Multi here so why I no fit?
For the school aspect.... Yes my mates go first me finish oo but as my dear mum would say " no be who first call police dey win case. Run your race my dear." I'd be dedicating the next two years of my life in expanding my BUSINESS and while that is on going, any man who meets me and says because I don't have a degree he can't settle with me, he is free to go front. I am getting a B.sc either part time or full time cuz anything could spring up tomorrow not necessarily bad but could be an appointment.
I am 23 and I believe this is the time to carve that niche for my self and generation to come. I can always travel overseas so far the money dey ground . Not to gnash teeth this time around but to go buy my goods and supply those I can and keep the ones I need in my shop. Then, if I feel I want to be based overseas permanently and with enough money at hand then countries like NORWAY, NETHERLANDS or CANADA will do. I am drawing my business plan which involves me looking out for a location that will move the business forwards. Immediately I am done setting up, I'd advertise here... Please, everyone should shop with me cus i am one of your own leggo!

Cc Seun, lalasticala please you can help me get a wider audience so they know what happened next. Thank you

amokeme:

Good morning. I have replied the Pm.

amokeme:

Hi dear, good morning. I sent you a PM please check and reply... any other preferable means to reach you will be appreciated..

Send me ur number. The email wahala tire me.

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I'm sorry bro. U right..thanks.

madampresident:
We share the same birthday, Oct 3. I just wanna wish you a very happy birthday tomorrow.
October borns are smart people. You will figure out the best decision eventually.

Awwwwn see my First lady in the making. The bless and decorate you Your Excellency ma. Congrats to us..yeah we made it!

ibietela2:
Are you based in PH?

No bro. Auchi.

justwise:


Which country are you planning to travel to?

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Good morning Sir. I really appreciate your response, God bless.

I have been researching about Malaysia as I read that if I could get a student Visa I could get a job that could help me while I school too. But it ain't a final thought as I am open to other options of any country that could allow me work and school be it the US or UK or any good country should it turn out the travel option stands out.
Waiting for ur reply thanks.

Pipsbasketings:
I live abroad - Canada, I have lived in the UK - London too for few years before moving to Canada. When I moved, I processed to come with my wife here in Canada. This narration is to let you know that immigration to any country of your choice is the easiest ever but based on different grounds. I have a genuine advice for you, but you may have to answer the following 2 questions.

1. What country is your friend trying to let you in? Modified: I read you noted that she is in Dubai, that answered.
2. On what ground of immigration application, in other words, what is the immigration type?

Good morning bro. Thanks for writing back.
She stays in Dubai but I have been researching on Malaysia as I read that with a student visa, I could work and school same time. Yes, the UK or US could have been a great option buuuut who fit runs the visa legit for me? I heard they only scam people and give them fake visa. so u see? What do advice now?

fvckme:
If ur friend Na From Edo
No go ooo...
So u won’t become somebody that Condom should have prevented please

Aunty you are very funny

TellMeNothing:
Focus on your Business. Young woman i repeat Focus on your business. Further your education, but go for degree instead of HND.. With your Ond you can get direct entry admission.. .
And on your priority scale, Business should come first...
I repeat Business should come first.

Dont live Naija yet.. I repeat build your business.. If possible diversify.. The small money you spend untop travel, use am re invest and expand.... You are going abroad to go and work for another man to survive but in Naija you are a boss and running an ambition... You are in control
Yes your business is your ambition.. And with time you will grow.. Na me de tex you

Focus on your business Give yourself two years and see the success..
By then school sef go be small thing and u will not need to create thread to ask decision to take because Money go dun dae ...

Lol, forget my typing oh.. Just get the message. Stay in Naija and build you Business. Simple

Da boss!

HajimeSaito:


My reason for advising you to put education first is because the best time for education is when you are young.
You may decide to postpone your education until a later stage in life, but events may overtake your plans. You may get married and start a family. Pursuing a degree and raising a family at the same time can be very exhausting.
Trust me, now is the best time. The longer you delay the acquisition of higher education the more difficult it will become for you when you eventually decide to go through with it.

You very right in all you said. Thanks for writing back, God bless.

Compliant:






BUT YOU SAID YOUR DAD AND MUM WERE LATE BEFORE YOU EVEN ENROL FOR WAEC SO HOW COME YOUR PARENTS TOLD YOU TO HOLD ON TO POLYTECHNIC?

Good morning bro. Maybe I should have put in quote "Parents". When that storm blew me I had no other choice than to see my mom's bestfriend and her hubby as "Parents ". They were there when it all happened...na dem still escort them to morgue. Pls bro dem be parents wey I dey use forget on how e be.

fatymore:
Go back to school and continue with your business.. After service you can travel out cos Incase you later traveled out and things didn't work out.. You come back to your certificate

You see? I thought of this too.

Prec1ous:


I love your convictions.

Have you though about increasing your market base and scaling up the business?

I will feel so sad for you if you use up your money for flight ticket and start a downgrading job in Dubai.

Ensure your friend tells you all about she is doing there and how she will help you set up.

I am so happy for you but please make no mistakes!

Increasing my customer base Yes though it's not easy but them dey respond small small.
And you right. I don't want to make no mistakes.
She told me how accomdation thing is... I Aint depending in her and I ain't zeroing my mind that I must be in same country with her that is if finally, traveling becomes the chosen option I will research very well the Countries I know people in or the one I see and I think I can get a Job and school too.

kimbraa:
Yes. That'll give you a higher playing field.

Thanks Aunty K. God bless you.

Pls I am still open to more opinions. Thanks

Eife:
Continue your business
Finish your HND before thinking of traveling out
You can run both business and school together
I'm not trying to discourage you but the grass is not always green at the other side.

So traveling is still an option right? But you think after my school?

Florblu:


Yes,but please make sure you stay focus and don't throw away all you've learnt and the inbuilt morals

Plenty thanks and I appreciate you for writing back God bless.

kimbraa:
I would advice you don't take whatever your friend overseas is saying seriously 'cause you could end up in a brothel in a foreign land as a prostitute. They know how to traffic naive girls.

Secondly, HND is as good as O'level in the Nigerian labour market. If you were able to school and venture into entrepreneurship then I'll advice you further your education while continuing what you've been doing in the past.

So you advice I keep doing what I am doing and look out for a university or continue with the polytechnic?

Prec1ous:
Since you have a thriving business, why not expand on it?

I know what Edo girls are doing there oh, I am from edo too and by the way, which country?

Bro My both parents are Yorubas. As I couldn't get a University my parents and people told me to hold the polytechnic then. That's how the vehicle of life dropped me here.
P. S. I am from a very poor home. All my aim is to make sure no man Will look down on me and my siblings when the time comes. That's why we all are on our feet.
She stays in Dubai.
And bro, NO! I CAN'T BE INVOLVED IN that you implying. I naturally have the phobia of laying with a man cuz the few I tried as a result of relationship made me truly understand that s*e Waka no follow my destiny come. I only end up being psychologically and mentally traumatized so I settled that long ago. But I believe on my own if I can keep working hard, Baba God go fit dey make way for me. You get? Pls look at it again. Thanks.

HajimeSaito:
How trustworthy is this friend of yours? Many young girls have been lured into traps because of desperation to go abroad.
Unless you have legitimate reasons for coming to a country, foreign embassies will not issue you with the necessary travel documents. Also, I hope your friend isn't trying to talk you into life as an illegal migrant because you will regret being one.
My advice to you is to prioritise education. At 24 you're still quite young and time is actually on your side.

God bless you Bro and thanks for taking your time to read.
Firstly, I have really been on the travel section and I have read the pains of been an illegal immigrant. So If traveling turns out best then it's either I patiently follow due process or nothing.
Secondly bro no naaa I ain't desperate I am just weighing the options before me. I am only scared of going broke and like I keep reading here, no MAN WANTS A BROKE ASS. Now, Should I go back to school, what guarantee do I have I will get a job after school ? As I do not know anyone in "High places" if that doesn't pawn out well then who go gree give me money to start business again. Abeg who?
Remember
I said the money I have now, once I register for school will only be used totally for payment of bills I.e accommodation, school fees and so on... Please check it again and see what ur opinion is finally. Thanks.

Florblu:
Babe, please travel out of the country that's if your friend is capable of securing you a permanent visa. Over there you can earn money with your skill(making bags) and go to school as well.

Thanks and God bless you my dear friend. I know say me I be all weather even if na to wash plate, me I can. So far it's legit... I can. Shebi make I find way travel Abi? Since the money dey my hand now so that I no go give in to pressure of joining HND AS form Don dey close.

Good afternoon everyone here. I have been an ardent of this forum so, I felt it wouldn't be bad to bare my heart here as I know I'd surely get an advice that will make me see clearer. Please bear with me as I am not very perfect when it comes to expressing my self in writing. Pls pardon my write-up should you see it as too long. I just want to bare it all so one can know what to tell me. Thanks.
My Name is Amanda. I lost my parents when I was sixteen . I am from a family of five. I was about to sit for WAEC before the sudden demise of my parents. I had to drop out of school cus I couldn't pay bills and my older siblings were still struggling, so I got a job. I worked as a cleaner say for 2 years and I was able to save up something and enrolled for WAEC AND GCE and I passed. I tried my first admission it didn't so the second year someone told me to try a Polytechnic and fortunately I got admitted. I joined school but I kept working and I saved up some bucks and at the end of my ND at federal poly Auchi my G. P was 3.40 yes! I cried for joy.
I. T (Industrial Training) started and I felt it would make more sense If I could start something little within my environment. Since I knew a lot about female bags and wears I held on to the idea and started. My customer base grew as I went from department to department showing and convincing the "big girls" in school about my goods. I approached just anybody so long you female. I kept moving at that pace until I was heavily sought after. My room became my boutique.
Why I am confused now
All glory to God I have been able to establish a good relationship with people who sale to me on credit which allows me own varieties and sell more.
1. Not to exaggerate, I make a minimum of 40 to 45k a month as my own.
2. I ain't rich but I think I am comfortable for a young lady of my age. I will be 24 3rd October.
I focused more on my business and I didn't join my mates for the HND session. My reason was; after school now, I go carry certificate they Waka up and down. Make I kuku use this small money wey I don save use am run my business first as I thought school can wait. could I be wrong?

# I have a course mate who traveled overseas after our ND and she has been encouraging me to come over since I could afford the travel expenses (not to lie, I was considering this also which made me forget going back for my HND.)
Now my question is if you were me would you go back to school? I am of the opinion that schooling in Nigeria without a good back up could leave me frustrated after graduation. No job.
# if you were me would you just continue with your business and open up a shop or would you travel out, get a job and go to school there?
Pls advice Me as I would be turning 24 in no time and I am JUST CONFUSED I have the feeling that any decision I make at this point would either make or destroy me permanently. Pls help a sister
Should I go back to school? cus my dad always wanted me to get an education but I feel I should be able to know what works as times have changed.
Pls I am open to any form of advice. God bless.
Cc. Lalasticlala, seun or any mod. I'd appreciate if you can move it to the right section or where it could get a wider view. Thanks
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