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[quote author=Subomi-luv]I hear you but this has nothing to do with Nice guys. Unfortunately some women are big time Mumu's and fall for everything a guy tells them and that is why players keep playing [/quote]i think it's harsh to say some women are mumus - that's bang out of order.
that some women prefer men who give them the thrills and some dose of unpredictability should not qualify them as mumus. you obviously prefer the boring slobs, majority prefer the men that take them to dizzying heights of excitement.

all i know is most nice guys are single.....

[quote author=Subomi-luv]just read the ish you wrote. Please men i am begging you, stop thinking you know what women want, then when you do what you think you know women want, than you say women don't know what we want yet you do not know what women want. There is a big difference between a MUMU and a nice guy. Just because a guy is nice does not mean he is a "wuss" or is boring or unadventurous, or is a walk-over. Nice guys usually treat their women with respect, are caring and dnt play games. If all nice men are wuss then all men are wuss. So married men are never nice to their wife's etc. Please from a women perspective we prefer nice guys over a bad guy anyday. And i think you are confusing the word MUMU with a nice guy[/quote]firstly, this theory holds true in singlehood....not for married peops
how can you say men don't know what women want? a serial player who dates women in every area code and walk away with their goldmine follow a particular set of rules....he adheres to these rules and he never fails. how can you then say he doesn't know what women want. fact remains majority of the nice dudes are wussies and women want men who can handle them with a high degree of self confidence.....once they see it lacking in mr. nice guy, they simply put him in their friendzone!

MRbrownJAY: @OP
what a pile of nonsense!!!!!

- most nice guys are hideously insecure..... BULLSHIIT
just because you have to force yourself to be nice, does not mean that people who are naturally nice are faking it like you do. here is a clue: treat others as you want to be treated, live right and get tenfold in return!

- most nice guys exude insecurity.......BULLSHIIT
the fact that you automatically believe that being nice means being a fool is one of the reason why you have no idea what you are talking about. being nice means just that, and when there is no reason to be nice anymore then these guys become NOT nice any longer. pls stop associating being nice with being a MUGU....thats two different subjects.

- so many Nice Guys complain about women being horrible...........BULLSHIIT
if a woman is horrible then ALL guys would complain about her being horrible, not only the nice ones, duh!

- Nice Guys go overboard........BULLSHIIT
just because YOU dont do certain things, or dont live by these criterias, shouldnt be a reason to dismiss those who do. women like to be offered flowers FACT! men try to buy women's affection by any mean necessary, FACT! all men have different view of romance and there is no "one set fits all" when it comes to romance, FACT! thinking that nice guys ALWAYS fail in love is your ultimate fail of the day, FACT! being nice doesnt mean being stoopid, the day you realize that is the day you will have a fair chance on understanding the issue, FACT!

a man that worships or puts a woman on a pedestal is a fool, a man that respects a woman and cares for her needs to the best of his capable abilities is a nice guy. just because YOU cannot care for a woman (because of you egotistical BS) does not make your actions better than the nice guy's.
treat people the way YOU want to be treated, and basta!

as for your idea that nice guys are men that "cling to women, and want to be one with them for fear that if she is out of sight, she may disappear or become attracted to someone else" i can only laugh in Swahili and ask myself where do you come up with so much nonsense?!

- A Nice Guy often has trouble with emotional intimacy.........BULLSHIIT, the fact that YOUR insecure self believes that a nice guy is automatically faking (thus afraid that his true self will get busted) is another reason why you are failing in this subject. try to use your brain, remove your low self esteem ego out of the equation, and realize that many men are nice to women simply because that in their NATURE, and they are not faking as you may think.

- Nice Guys are always asking HER to make the decisions........BULLSHIIT
wherever you get your manual on "nice guys" i suggest you go and get a refund. your idea of nice guys is so wrong that only a biatch slap at a 90degrees angle may help you wake up from your nonsense (with all due respect)
some people are not strong or forward like that,and require that others make decision for them...... and there is NOTHING wrong with that.

- Nice Guys rarely speak up when something bothers them,........ BULLSHIIT
some guy are indeed shy, and again there is nothing wrong with that......

- Nice Guys think that they will never meet anyone as special as she is.........BULLSHIIT
there is nothing wrong in showing a woman that you care for her, and if she is special then by all means men need to show that too. men like you have so much crap embedded in their DNA that they have lost the plot on how to treat women properly. if you meet a special woman then SHOW HER THAT SHE IS, end of story!
men should love (the right) women the best they can, as hard as they can, with no boundaries.

- The nice guy -needs- to believe that he is the best person for the object of his desires..... ON THE CONTRARY all men should believe in themselves and believe that they are the best person for any woman. the ones who think that they are not good enough are simply insecure low self esteem being. who cares who could be a good match for a lady IF YOU ARE THE ONE DATING HER?! if these other people were "good match" then THEY would be dating her at that moment, not YOU, duh! only an insecure low self esteem person think the way you do.

- More than loving the woman in his life, a Nice Guy NEEDS her.........BULLSHIIT we ALL need women, and any fool who believes that he doesnt is either extremely gayy or deluded! at the end of the day, no man can be truly happy unless he has a good loving woman by his side to share his happiness!

- Nice Guys go after “hard luck” cases..........BULLSHIIT
most women dont show their true on the first date, and some can hide their true self until you say I DO..... only men with misplaced ego would think that they can ALWAYS tell who a woman truly is. some men are novices and shouldnt be blame for their inexperience (aka being a novice)! some men give EVERY women a chance and shouldnt be blame for being open minded like that! some men want "different" women, and that should only be THEIR choices to make, and certainly shouldnt be blamed for that. just because YOU dont like such woman is all on you, but dont automatically blame men who do.

- Nice Guys don’t like themselves.....THE ICING ON THE CAKE OF ALL BULLSHIIT
so if i understand the OP correctly, a man who is nice to others doesnt love himself, bwaaaaah! men like the OP has issues with women, and thus wants all men to think as low as he does of women. there is nothing wrong with being nice to someone, there isnothing wrong with caring for someone, OP should try it someday, it may do him a lot of good.

but the op is right - nice guys finish last!
after reading your long epistle, i realised you and the op are not on the same page of what being nice and not being nice entails. a bad guy isn't a tout or someone that disrespects women(far from it), he's not just a wuss like the nice guy. the single most important factor is most nice guys are single - women don't want them in a relationship, they just want them as platonic friends or bodyguards!

[quote author=tpia@]does anyone have any evidence the user id called coogar is actually nigerian?[/quote]having your clitöral erections for coogar again?
i have told you your age is a big hindrance. you are so old fortune tellers could not see into your future.

just curious, the fellow is all over the place yet he speaks no nigerian language and has no place of origin within nigeria.

i am curious why you are curious to know coogar's state of origin.
amusing an ugly old hag like yourself would stoop so low - ugly mama with a face that looks like a pênis that hasn't been circumcised.

under his user id sauron [one of many], the ip trackers tracked his address to a state penitentiary somewhere in the midwestern US. Yet he claims he's british.
who knows this guy- is he black, african and/or nigerian?

state penn in midwestern US indeed?
i think you have been skipping your oxycodone. this is what happens when a lady gets so old lonely and miserable with cobwebs in her nether region.

wonlasewonimi: Sebi he is your boy. Instruct him to look for my picture online, upload it to his website and tag me a scammer.

supply us the picture and your real details. i would personally put it on the website, send your police after me.....

wonlasewonimi: Ahn ahn ask him to include it nah...He would train inmates in Alagbon how to trade forex.

lies.....
you won't do nada about it - you would probably change usernames and come back. alagbon ko, kirikiri ni.

wonlasewonimi: You are actually toying with Prison sentence if you do that.

prison sentence?
are you kidding me? prison sentence for exposing a fraud? where in your constitution is it written exposing a fraud bags a custodial sentence?

damiso: Coogar you and my hubby are so wicked.He said the same thing that next time he is sure Claridges are not closed for business.Or even Premier Inn
Though she said she was going to stay in a hotel cos her friend she normally stays with is in Nigeria.I was like haba you can stay with me now its just for 7 days.Hubby was like see yourself now you and your always volunteering to help.If it was him,he would have given her hotels.com. or last minute.com.website to check out.

7 days of horrorcore....
these visitors forget the cost of living in the UK is very high. comparing having housemaids who earn an equivalent of £60/month to au pair that would likely net £1200 per month is ridiculous. you are too nice - your nickname should be mamma-nice. i would have driven her down to picadilly and lodge her at ritz.

if life is so good for her, she should be at waldorf astoria or ritz paying £400 per night! i don't even bother myself with people like that. once they start puffing their chests, i punish them. you want to prove you have money, follow me to selfridges then and buy that £70,000 laptop.

MacLovington: .
Even though I think IQ test is overated(too Caucasian-orientated), you are not a dunce!

Some of the smartest people I have seen (Mathematicians, medics, scientists etc) don't speak great English.

you would find out majority of these people didn't learn english while growing up as well. this is a different argument. you would be hard pressed to find an english mathematician/medic/scientist that cannot write or speak english.

Obiagu1: I have an IQ of 145 but my written and spoken English is not so good, though I am well educated.
Does it mean I am a dunce?

were you taught to write and speak english language all your life? if yes - i doubt your IQ is 145, it's probably 25.

shymexx: However, can he get a top executive, or just a normal graduate job with a blue-chip company - yes or no??

why not?
he didn't drop out because he is a dullard - he dropped out to pursue his dreams. SAT is a much harder exam to pass than GED and his high score of 1590/1600 shows he's more intelligent than any nigerian graduate that has ever taken the exam. so bill gates wasn't a dullard and there are plenty of jobs he could have gotten without a college degree.....

You need to understand that our brains function differently and our ability to grasp things is also different... That's what makes us human because we're all different... So, judging a person's intelligence based on his/her ability to grasp a language and not his/her ability get things done in the real world is just asinine, to be honest...

even dogs with lower intelligence grasp language not to talk of humans!
any human being that was taught and trained in a particular language for 15 years should be able to grasp a good command of that language. if he fails at it then that human being is not intelligent!

the people throwing asians and germans who cannot speak english into this are just pissing in the wind.....english is not the official language in china, mandarin is! so i would not expect such people to speak english language fluently. however, nigerians are taught A, B, C throughout their lifetime so what's the excuse?

shymexx: We judge a person's level of education based on the qualifications they attained... and since Bill Gates and 50cent, never went beyond the G.E.D level; they're both basically "illiterates." Whatever he got in SAT is irrelevant here - that won't get him a top executive job in a Fortune 500 company!

that would be the same bill gates that reached the sophomore year in havard, scored 1590/1600. an illiterate cannot read and write therefore 50 cent or bill gates cannot be illiterates. that argument is washed up. you need 300 credits to graduate from college. you completed yours and i completed 295 of mine. you graduated and i did not - are you trying to say 5 credit points is the difference between the literacy and the illiteracy levels between us? come on - it cannot be!

Intelligence has nothing to do with all that... Language is means of communicating with one another, you can't use it as a pretext to ascertain a person's intelligence...
What about dyslexic people??

if you cannot grasp the command of any language you were taught from your childhood to adolescence then you are not intelligent - it's as simple as that. dyslexic people have an ailment. you are throwing another matter into debate bringing that up!

shymexx: How do you mean "plenty of them?" For every educated idiot with all the paper-qualifications in the world - I'll give you a Bill Gate, or 50cent... Also, we don't even need 90% of the tosh we get indoctrinated with, yet they still force us to learn these things...

bill gates and 50 cent didn't go to school? what are you talking about?
that they dropped out of school does not mean they never received any formal education all their lives. people tend to get it wrong when they mention bill gates like he's a complete illiterate. no he's not - he got into havard(scored 1590 out of 1600 in SAT).

Personally, I don't judge people's intelligence based on their pencraft - I judge them based on what they've got up there and how they can communicate effectively...

you have to go to school and receive some formal education before you can even have anything upstairs. sit a child down at home to eat and drink......no exposure at all then come back and tell me how that child would show any form of intelligence - na yam?

pro01: Well, if one lives in a Francophone country, and one claims to be educated and intelligent, it is expected that one should be able to communicate effectively in French. . .which is the language in which one learnt all he knows or claims to know. Then again, even mathematics and other scientific courses are taught in specific languages that require comprehension skills to assimilate, and communicative skills to teach or explain. It doesn't matter if it is English, French, Portuguese, Arabic, or Mandarin. The fact remains that it is inexcusable to have a poor grasp of a language in which you received all your formal education - from primary school to tertiary level. In that case, it will be difficult to convince anyone that you know what you're doing.

However, like I mentioned earlier, it is possible to be a genius in other areas (numeracy, street-smarts, business acumen, etc) in spite of one's poor language communications skills. I am only suggesting a point of view that is widely held and certainly plausible.

you have nailed it!

shymexx: That's what you think, bro... You need to be able to separate real life from the four walls of a classroom... How many graduates have been able to transfer all the tosh we all get indoctrinated with in school to real life situations??

plenty of them.....
the opportunity to showcase those acquired skills are few and far in between. so let's separate the opportunity to display the acquired skills from the ability to transform what was learnt into real life situations!

[quote author=Real-Mccoy]I worked with Japanese and chinese engineers that could only understand the word "food" and "Dollars" without using their translation device at work yet their production utility was higher than a Nigerian that studied English in a Nigerian university. Who cares about spoken english these days?[/quote]where's this company? english-speaking country?

shymexx: Drug dealers are smarter than most graduates, quote me on that...

Rastafarians are more intelligent than most university lecturers, quote me on that as well...

Word is bond!!

smart at what? making money or writing chemical equations?
if a drug dealer is not careful, it's the graduate that would siphon the money he stashed into another account located thousands of miles away.

shymexx: Bro, you don't need intelligence for that... English is the official language in Nigeria!!

but it's not the mother tongue.....
people go to school to learn how to write/read and speak the language - how isn't that intelligence?

Personally, intelligence is about problem solving skills - anything outside that is just nonsense!! Intelligence is overrated, anyway!!

learning any language requires a great deal of intelligence.
people who cannot speak the language would generally run into problems when tasked to communicate in the same language. if you can speak it, you have solved the problem.

shymexx: isn't it funny that most of the loudest voices on this thread who claim to have the ability discern a person's intelligence by the mastery of the language have awful sentence construction skills??

you have to be intelligent to master english language that happens to be a second language for most nigerians. putting the chinese people or the french into this is another argument entirely. for starters, english is not their official language, english is the official language in nigeria so where's the comparison?

shymexx: Your list is laughable and I doubt Canibus, Immortal Technique, Rakim, KRS1, and even Eminem would agree with you... You also messed up by putting Biggie ahead of Tupac... I still don't know how you could compare a guy with more than 10 albums to someone with two... A guy who's the highest selling rapper ever to someone who probably just sold 15 million copies... A guy who made tunes for everyone and whose music raised all ghetto children from London, Tokyo, Havana, Kingston, Harare, Lagos, Paris to Chi town - to someone who only made music for the ladies and about his pseudo-love-vendor lifestyle...

Tupac is the GOAT, yo!!

don't make me laugh, man....
what took 2pac four albums to achieve took only one album from biggie. you are comparing sales of a rapper who had only one album before his death and the others posthumously to 2pac with a dozen albums and materials everywhere.

2pac is not the highest selling rapper, eminem is.....
biggie did more in his 3 yrs of fame than 2pac did in his 5 yrs music career. when they were both alive, biggie became the king of east coast in an industry that included the wu-tang, nas, jay-z, mobb deep, krs-one, fugees and tonnes of other rappers. 2pac had fewer relevant rappers to compete with in the west coast. pac is not greater than biggie.....

shymexx: Anyone could spend time in jail for carrying food... Heck, I know chics who used to move food and some of them spent time in prison but they're some of the nicest and most classy chics ever...

2pac was a good student - he never sold drugs or got into any serious trouble. yes, he's born into the family of a black panther but that is the same as comparing femi kuti to daddy showkey. femi might be the son of fela but did he hustle like his dad?

2pac was a certified hoodrat from a poor home... This guy was born in prison and his mum kept moving... He lived in NY, Baltimore, ATL, and the Bay Area... Don't forget his mum used to be a crackhead - and most of her bfs then were hustlers, so he knew the street game hence why he could act it...

what has this gotta do with 2pac lying that he sold drugs? fact is - he never did. he never got into any sort of trouble as a kid! he got into trouble only after he became famous and that cannot count in my book as a hustler....

Biggie on the other hand had a mum who was a teacher!! And he grew up in a nice house!

bed-stuy is not exactly a nice neighbourhood - biggie grew up in the slums. he hustled hard, dropped out of school, sold drugs, went to prison, came out and met puffy. his mum copped brêast cancer and girlfriend got pregnant......so it wasn't just a rosy ride to stardom!

shymexx: Lauryn Hill is actually better than 99% of the rappers out there...
I still like to the miseducation of Lauryn Hill like almost everyday - God bless her...

now you are talking....
lauryn hill is the best female rapper ever. her contribution on the fugees album in 96 was just world class. i don't understand why she left the rap game but this chic could spit fire. rhyming, flow, delivery, punches, vocab! she's the complete artiste. 5 times better than wyclef and 50 times better than praz!

shymexx: But biggie was a fat kid whose mum was a teacher and he went to private school... So how are suppose to take his mafioso and pi.mp life seriously?? What type of girl wants a fat ugly kid that speaks with his tongue?? At least Tupac did his thing...and he was raised a panther...

but biggie actually spent time in prison for carrying weight on the street. 2pac was the fraud that went to a proper school to learn poetry and arts. the only offence 2pac ever got arrested for before his fame was jay-walking. so ask yourself, who was the real hustler amongst the two?

shymexx: Can Eminem write this: "Life's a bit.ch but god forbid the bit.ch divorce me"?

hahahahahaha
he had a full verse of this kinda lines on "renegade" when he destroyed jay-z!

shymexx: That was the chorus, not the actual lyrics...
And advanced rap isn't about rhyming, it's about similes, metaphors, punchline etc...

if you cannot rhyme in rapping, then you are not rapping, that's just speaking or telling a story!
even the old poetry books are about rhymes. rhyming patterns is what distinguishes a true MC from the bubble-gum rappers like 50 cent or kanye west. scoop out any chorus or hook of eminem that won't show multis - you won't find one. nas' style is outdated, basic and lazy.

shymexx: Compare "lose yourself" to "made you look."

They shootin'! -- Aw made you look
You a slave to a page in my rhyme book
Gettin' Big/"big" money, playboy your time's up
Where them gangstas? Where them dimes at?

that's the problem with nas - that's about 40 words with no rhymes
no multis, no delivery. he just talks fast and people claim he's poetic. that's not rapping. rapping is the ability to place rhyming words intelligently together to deliver a message without altering the flow or the cadence.....

this is eminem on brain damage(slimshady lp -1999)

These are the results of a thousand electric volts
A neck with bolts, "Nurse we're losin him, check the pulse!"
A kid who refused to respect adults
Wore spectacles with taped frames and a freckled nose

shymmex - say the underlined words and see how they rhyme perfectly even in multi-syllables. that is lyricism. eminem invented that aspect in rap music.

shymexx: NEVER!!!

Lyricists
1) Nas
2) Rakim
3) Big Daddy Kane/Kool G Rap
4) Biggie
5) KRS 1/Andre 3000/Ice Cube/Scarface

Rappers
1) Tupac
2) Jay z
3) Eminem
4) Biggie

lyricists
eminem
canibus
rakim
krs-one
immortal technique
big l

rappers
biggie
2pac
nas
jay-z
dmx
snoop lion.

Katsumoto: Who cares about the definition in the west or anywhere else? What I find pleasing are full bodied women. Who wants a toothpick to play with? Well maybe you.

agbani darego won miss world - what size was she?
how come rita edochie didn't win it with her voluptuous body?

shymexx: Lmao... Compare "Stan" to "New York State of Mind."..

compare "new york state of mind" to "lose yourself"

shymexx: Coogar, Nas isn't your average rapper - you've to understand rap to be able to discern his lyrics... Eminem is more of a syllable type of rapper with basic lyrics... Eminem is great but he isn't on Nas' level - Nas is just to deep for hiphop..

Can Eminem tells a story like this:


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J3Sd2gDkSV8

stan beats that rewind track on lyricism alone....
telling a story in reverse in bits and parts is not brilliance - it's fraudulent! what do you look for in rap music? lyricism or gimmicks? substance or muppetry?

shymexx: How's Eminem better than Nas??

Even the most racist white people think Nas is the greatest lyricist ever!! the only person that comes close is Rakim Allah!!

eminem's pen game is better than nas!
he basically redefined how lyrics should be written with perfect timing, punches, multi-syllables, delivery and flow. nas was a monster and got slept on for several years because of biggie/pac. eminem just blew the whole rap game apart when he came on and has since remained on top of the throne....

Katsumoto: Ok, this is dependent on individual tastes. You clearly like slim and straight and I prefer the voluptuous kind.

slim is the standard definition of beauty in the west!
all those BBWs that come on TV to front are hypocrites - you should go to the nearest gym in any weekend and watch them almost kill themselves in their bid to be slim.