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MRbrownJAY: i am not looking down on bad boys or playa as i have done my fair share, what i am saying is that, ULTIMATELY, a bad guy would always be worse off than the nice guy who treated some lady the proper way that she desired (unless her desires were to be treated like garbage). the OP wrote all these negative traits and automatically assimilated them with being a nice guy, which is definitely not true.

we all have had our horror stories with women, but that should not be a reason to give up on them ALL. yes there are many "wrong" women out there, as much as there are gems out there.

how would you feel if a woman, who you were dating, told you that she can date you but will NEVER marry......and instead she would go and get a nice guy for that?! it would mean that you are on a long thing and the day she has enough of using you (or playing with you), she will go and find someone RIGHT for her to marry. how sad.......
yes, you would both be using each other and it would only be ok if both are on the same page.

you are right again, but the catch is that:"the day he wants to get married, he will act as a NICE GUY". so we should all quit looking down on nice guy as this is the only way for anyone to find the RIGHT one. what you are simply saying is that: when you want to play the field, be a bad guy, and when you are ready for marriage: be a nice guy......and that is understandable, but sadly you are indirectly saying what i have been saying all along....aka what the OP wrote about nice guys is nonsense!

bukatyne: Niceness; the quality of being nice.
So the fact that a man can't cheat on his woman means he's nice? I laugh!

What if he beats her till kingdom comes?
Woe betides any woman who marries a fanatic churchy man who misunderstands 'a man is the head'...

I might not be attracted to a sagging man because he's not my type BUT I would definitely not jump at a man because his trousers don't reach the ground.

gallantbabe2013: Well my people, am a uk based lady looking for uk based male wanting to settle down . All my friends are married and the most annoying things is that when i call them they always tell me " oh please i will call you back later am chilling with my hubby" . Now how rude is that? anyway is time for me to be Mrs Somebody lol. Am looking for the right man and i need to start saying " oh i will call you back later am chilling with my husband and kids . Please get in touch any male from any part of nigeria is welcomed but please i would prefer a Christian so Muslims don't need to apply i hope i get some responds soon . thanks and God bless you all

bukatyne: What you and some others have failed to understand is that niceness is NOT defined by your clothes or position in church or intelligence or ugliness.

A guy can be ugly, poor, churchy etc and still be very wicked or bad. I have seen Pastors, elders etc who beat their wives, disregard and disrespect her and handsome, trendy men treat their wives like queens. TI think this is the exact problem we have in the church today. I see a firebrand pastor and automatically assume he is a hot catch. I don't take into consideration that he is unbending and doesn't she other peoples' POV. I see a man well groomed, handsome etc and automatically assume he is a sinner or 'unserious' with God and hence will be a bad husband. Sister Titi sings like an angel and O la la I must marry her. I am blinded to the fact that she thinks all other members of the choir are beneath her and doesn't relate with them. She doesn't even make up or put on trousers therefore she must not pass me by. Sis Janet puts on trousers therefore she is a b!tch etc. I remember a lady who heard that I don't wear trousers saying that 'I must be a very good girl'. I was like seriously? I know a guy in school who never dated girls who wore trousers and changed them like clothes. This guy himself would qualify as a 'nice' guy by looks.

How can one know a good/bad guy/girl by his or her looks only? Infact, I am actually inclined to believe that bad guy/girls actually hide under the canopy of nerd/geek/dressing to perpetuate their evil. As for women who prefer the truly bad guys, know that they have no vision for their lives and can be blown antwhere like chaff.

Pataki: She never allows one drop to slip away.

The secret to a man having sweet jeeeezz is to drink pineapple juice. Thank me later.

Shollypopz: This coogar dude doesn't know what a jerk mean ?? How does one equate a jerk to a leader?

Stop thinking like the immature high school girls u date, stop mistaking a jerk for a manly man.

MBJ has taken over- I'll keep mute now

MRbrownJAY: lol bro Coogar the elite and sensible one of NL, i can only learn from people like you, even though a nice debate never hurt our minds!

you can only bend a branch so long until it breaks....some women have ulterior motives why they stay in these r/ships but the majority are unhappy, miserable and a living like ghosts. we all know that many are in abusive r/ships but can you sit here and say that this is what is RIGHT to do or live? some women are selling their bodies for money, even though we dont know why they do it, is it RIGHT? some people are killing others for mobile phone or cars, is it right?

no matter how we want to look at it, treating your partner like a rag is NOT RIGHT. unless this lady is with a nice guy, she will never be truly happy (as for the sado maso ladies out there, pls feel free to get your beat down on)

bro, women shouldnt cry to begin with, so if they were with the right guys, they wouldnt. only dating a wrong guy would bring such haertache on a daily/weekly basis. are you now saying that a nice guy is just a guy that provides for what material nonsense these ladies want? maybe so, but also dont forget the care affection presence etc that the bad boy never showed her.

as i always say, to each their own, but a bad boy never last the distance. if you want to go the long way you need to treat your woman right.

bukatyne: What really do you define as playing?
Are you sure the women were not just interested in having a piece of his flesh and move on?

bukatyne: And why do you think she can't play a guy?

I don't support playing from either party but to think that only guys play is a fallacy.

Greedy people are actually more susceptible to being conned or duped.

missy1010: Honestly speaking I kind of agree, my ex boyfriend was a complete loser, always insecure and jealous, i mean I have no problem with the jealousy but d insecurity was just plain disgusting, it's really not sexy and it made him seem like a pussy. Girls want the a confident, sexy, intelligent guy not a weepy, whining man-woman, dat just sick. Only one person is supposed to whine in a relationship and its not the man.

shymexx: Isn't "very good bad boys" oxymoronic?

Confusing alpha males for bad boys, no??

MRbrownJAY: Bro Coogar, how is life, its been a while since we had a convo, so lets get it on:

you see what you have to first realize is that LIFE IS LONG and the only ones that "truly" finish last are the bad boys. here is how it goes....... young inexperienced gal meet a nice gal and because she thinks there is no adventure in such r/ship, she decides to go settle for a bad boy instead. after a few black eyes, STDs from cheating and being treated like a rag, this lady will realize that she is too good to be treated like that, and thus understand that she will never settle for a man like that FOR MARRIAGE (or long term r/ship). so guess what happens? she run right back to nice guy's arms and they live happily ever after. sadly the story could have a different ending, where the nice guy tells the confused damsel that she had her chance and missed it, but either way she will still learn a great life lesson, which is: a nice guy is a marathon runner and she can enjoy his "niceness" forever, while a bad boy is a 100M runner, she can only take so much of his BS before she calls it quit (or die).

so the catch is not why how where or what is wrong with nice guys, as we all know that there is NOTHING wrong with being nice, the catch is to understand that being a bad boy will always get you nowhere if you are looking for a serious long lasting committed r/ship. but what the OP wrote is garbage and complete nonsense, and you of all people certainly KNOW THAT!

Shollypopz: Most immature women mistake a jerk for a manly man. You don't have to be rude to stand your ground as a man. You don't have to destroy my self esteem as a woman because u're trying to prove yourself as a head in the relationship. Jerks are simply insecure men and are always trying to prove themselves, prolly because they've been ridiculed by their peers or come from a family where no one shows them love.

Jerks are troubled men. Why would I want a troubled man?? Why would I want a relationship that drains my energy? Why would I want a relationship that requires extra work??

shymexx: Bro., I'm just more watchful now and I think being a perfect gentleman is the way forward... It's just difficult messing up emotional beings without expecting repercussions...

George Best's career was also destroyed by that lifestyle...

Shollypopz: I'm not crushing on Shy!
The misconception here is u think every rapper is some sort of gangsta, u don't know JAY Z personally so we can't say much about who he is.
Moreover, how many artists do u know that marry ppl outside their field? Celebrities like hooking up with each other, something about being with someone that understands the life they live.

The fact that Steve Job is a geek doesn't make him a nice guy. Most jerks I've met are nerds. They take pride in how smart and knowledgeable they are and will not hesitate to brag about it. Mumu guys are not nice guys. If u think acting like a jerk to a woman is going to make her like u then you're on a long thing! You have a chance with a high school chic though, the ones that still thinks a guy that pays them no attention is cool.

shymexx: But he had to settle out of court and that affected his reputation and career as well... A lot happened to him, to be honest... Be scared of women!!

I'm scared of them...

shymexx: I don't think all your so-called "bad guys" are actually bad, to be honest... When I was in the game, if I ain't smashing that pum to smithereens after a week, or two - then you're gooner!! No time for time wasters...

However, being stuck after smashing an ol'good pu.ss is a different story...

shymexx: Did you hear about his ra.pe case??

shymexx: You only heard about the number of girls Babayaro sha.gged, you don't really know the inside story of what happened to him... Why do you think he became irrelevant and broke(footballers' standard)

Good pu.ss and sex kills, bro... Be scared of women!!

shymexx: Hmmm... Even the worst predators love good pu.ss and good sex... Have you ever sha.gged a chic that you just wanted to smash and run, but you kept going back because the pu.ss and sex was the best you ever had - and every time you go back for more she shows you more love than no one on this planet as ever shown you?? That's how people get stuck because no matter how bad you might want to claim you're - you'll still have your krptonite.. Even superman had his as well..

Been there, done that and even got a trophy - till shyte happened... That's life, you win

Shollypopz: There are nice guys and there are mumu guys...

Y'all need to know the difference.

Every woman wants a nice guy, EVEHRRY!!!

Idowuogbo: hold on, if d said buyer finally shows up and refuse to buy nko? wot happens den?

lmao!!!!! owo ti wo gobe!!!!

shymexx: Bro., women are emotional beings and when you keep messing with their emotions, you're in for a tough time when they strike back... It seems you've never experienced the wrath of a broken woman... When you do, I bet you'll start singing a different tune, bro..

However, that doesn't make them less vulnerable... If your game is tight, they're the easiest to bed...

Bro., being a gentleman pays in the long run...

shymexx: Nyggahs, little things count in decent women's(not scandalous whor.es lol) lives... You'd be surprised at how a 50p card can make a chic like you... Just be nice and handle decent women with care...

shymexx: However, I bet you don't act like a bad guy when you first a meet girl... The "badness" only comes out after sha.gging her a few times and you know she is stuck, no??

Bro., it isn't about just beating it, it's about if they want to stay with out because of the kind of person you're... Most of the city girls are vulnerable, anyway - most of them just want to have fun... However, when the smoke clears, it's a different ball game entirely...

If you want a top chic, you better start acting nice, bro.. I'm learning as well - also trying to bring chivalry and being a gentle man back...

aieromon: Today is 08/04/13 and as the time of this posting,my account hasn't been credited.

I received a mail from Wunmi Allen a few days ago indicating that the vehicle had safely arrived Nigeria along with evidence. However, the buyer is yet to inspect and pay for the said vehicle as he is out of town for the next two weeks. She has requested for more time to accommodate for this lapse. I intend to see out this incident to its logical conclusion.

Thanks for the concern.

shymexx: I honestly don't think any girl above 21 likes "bad boys" or however you want to describe people like that... You might get a few thirsty chics to sha.g, however, I doubt you'll get a stable relationship.. Been there done that, you'll always stay losing...

shymexx: @Coogar
Bro., if you want a nice, highly educated, and classy chic, you better stop being a bad guy...

Decryptor: I don't know what to say about this cos to tell you the truth, women are just confused...THEY DON'T EVEN KNOW WHAT THEY WANT FROM A GUY.