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The husband's? No wonder they keep mistaking you for a female. [/quote]that's the point - i deliberately didn't attach my gender to my username, duh!

It's the husband's fault that she cheated? It's the husband's fault that she thought it was no big deal to cheat? It's the husband's fault that she refused to apologize to him? It's the husband's fault that she dumped him? Back up . . . it's the husband's fault that she stoned him with an object at a point in time and he got injured? VIOLENCE! It's the husband's fault that he got chased out of the relationship? It's the husband's fault that he met another woman and married her?

If Annie wasn't cray-cray, this couple would be as straight as a 30cm ruler!

that was in the past, they both moved on after then.....
until the ex came back to sëxually-harass her in her own home! that was when the old feelings were exhumed and annie1 started feeling "maybe there could be a chance to get back with him....."

[quote author=BABE!]https://media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lx9jciMN7P1qdrpdr.gif[/quote]i refuse to be tempted - well done...

. .the f-u-c-k bruh? Who's fault is it? Jupiter's? I guess there are 3 parties.

the husband's!

ileobatojo: You want to start abi? After all the name calling and the pity parties, what has been the main point of both sides? Is it not this?

nah, that's not it
majority said she should look for another man and never ever consider taking her ex back! go back to page 1 and read over again. i now know why most topic starters lie about the incidents they are reporting - nigerians are too judgemental!

[quote author=Busy_body]I can answer that...there was a vacancy for the most intelligent at yabaleft you see...and nothing tops being the best in one field and continuosly breaking ones own record ^{ask Usain Bolt}...and the rest as they say is history...i love repping yabaleft and i'mma rep it for life... [/quote]you have overstayed @ yaba left
go and ask for your certificate of attendance cos there are eligible bachelors who are interested in you!

ileobatojo: And as usual, Coogar is deeply embroiled in an argument where both sides pretty much have the same point. They are free to get together only if and when the guy is divorced abi not so? So because you are more sympathetic to OP and the man's love story and the other people's sympathies first lie with the wife caught in the middle, WWIII must go down? 'Girl', you too dey enjoy drama!

thunder fire your keyboard.....
the 2 parties do not have the same point - one party has chastised the op calling her everything under the sun and the other party is saying - this is not her fault

[quote author=Busy_body]Every side (symphathetic/unsympathetic) has their own points, its just that in this case, the ex still has to regularly go to Annie's place to see his child meaning he will not be able to get the closure needed to forge on with Wifey and might even grow to resent her. In addition to this, the ex has been married over a year with no baby in tow, meaning his heart strings is being pulled towards not only Annie but also his first child... Sad story about the reality of life.

I agree with you likewise Deols that this is a case that cannot be swept under the carpet especially because that lil child caught in the midst is not going anywhere and he didn't ask to be born into such, hence reason a compromise is needed soon...[/quote]excellent post, ma'am.....
but if you are this intelligent, why are you still @ yaba left?

[quote author=Busy_body]I agree with the poster Deols when she says "Being married to a man who wants to be with some1 else isnt a good thing", hmmm, this life sha. . .[/quote]but the wife sympathisers missed that single most important factor.....to them, since they are married, they are married - happiness or lack of it does not matter. at the end of the day, you have 3 grown adults who are not happy with the way things have panned out!

• wife is unhappy because husband is not responsible
• husband is unhappy because he wants to be anne1 and his kid
• annie1 is unhappy because she wants to be with her ex

at the centre of this, there's an innocent child who needs to be taken care of and raised in a proper family unit!

Guitarlife: Dammit coogar ! Dammit! Why would you descend to that . C'mon man I'm totally disappointed in you. Ask around you couldn't beat at that a while ago but since I recently decamped to the cabal party I ain't gon sit my a*rse here and watch you denigrate a woman.
Seriously coogar, that's just petty. You shouldn't have said that I suggest you apologise to junkie. You need to.

apologise to kobojunkie - never!!!!
i hate grown people who think they can come online and judge other characters because of their past mistakes. annie1 could have easily removed the part of her misdemeanour and paint her ex as black as tar - she didn't: she told the story as plain as white and kobo went for her jugular like annie1 committed the greatest mistake known to man!

go through kobo's previous posts and see various attempts at wrecking families. on top of my head, kobo must have advised over 50 women to ring the cops and get their husbands thrown into jail! why would anyone insist on wrecking other people's marriages at the first sign of trouble? kobo would have to wait for the 2nd coming of Christ to get any apology from me. kobo is not in a good position to advise anyone about marriage issues on nairaland!

[quote author=BABE!]Of course they deserve each other. I remember typing that.[/quote]i thought cheats rub you the wrong way.....

They should get back together. If it works out or doesn't, I, as a spectator would be "satisfied", regardless.
If it works out, this mess of a story will be saved.
If it doesn't, karma is a snicky b1tch.

they should get back together in my opinion too....

• they have a kid together
• there's mutual love between the two
• the child needs a father figure. no other man would treat the kid as good as his own dad
• there's a risk adultery might creep into the man's marriage as he gets to see his ex constantly!

[quote author=BABE!]F-u-c-k me! What is wrong with you people? You cheated on him, had a baby with him, forced him into another woman's arms, and y'all are back seducing each other. This love story is getting too damn complicated!

Cheats rub me the wrong way, so I'm automatically on the wife's side. Both of you are cheats, you cheated on him, he's cheating on his wife. As much as I hate to say this, you are match-made in heaven.

Baby-parentness also rub me the wrong way. The wife is in "trouble", because even if you cheats decide to go your separate ways, he will still have to see his son who is with you, and by that he gets to see you from time to time which is a classic recipe for disaster.

I just hope to God that if you get back together with him, he doesn't cheat and you don't cheat, coz if any of you cheats, that'll just be a f-u-c-king pathetic story.
Please UPDATES, UPDATES, UPDATES! I loathe half stories.
[/quote]isn't that enough reason for these lovebirds to get back together? they would forever be in contact with each other because of their son. how soon before these sparks would start flying all over again.....better to make it official than leave the back door open for adultery to creep in. as long as annie1 remains single, her heart would forever be with her ex......

Annie1: @ Coogar , girl u r feistyyyyyy
Me loveeeesssss it

girl??
my chromosomes are x and y!!!!

jidegirl12: So annie I am calling you up now...does this idi ot ever told you he is getting a divorce or not?..Answer me now before kobo start to gloss her/his mouth on my leather Jacket ;

kobo is a fücking idiöt!
if you make up a story that your husband shouted at you for ruining his shirt with the electric iron, kobo would urge you to call the national guards and get your husband apprehended cos he's abused you......kobo's intention is to destroy every marriage brought on here so she can have more women in her "sad and lonely" echelon. only a complete fool would listen to kobo's advice - the cüntbucket has no good intentions for anyone - there should be a sign attached to kobo's username.

Kobojunkie: I didn't misquote you. You hi-fived a silly post suggesting that one is LESS married if one is not "Happily" married, and so I had to ask what the heck you are on even thinking that makes sense in any world.

oh shut your trap, you sad dejected soul - whose post are you referring to as silly.....mistress of the universe, if you are this smart about marriage issues, why are you a divorcee? misery loves company! you want to drag annie1 into your own level of unhappiness and loneliness?

What does it matter if their is love or not in the marriage, as long as they are married, they are MARRIED, and "Anne" there tells you that. Yet you there hi-five an inane suggestion that a marriage without love or happiness is somehow a marriage you are FREE to DESTROY as you see fit.

it matters because the ex is the father of her child! it matters because the 2 are still in love with each other and it also matters because she didn't ask for this to happen, it was the ex that rekindled the splint of love. she's human, she made mistakes and for the sake of her child, she wants a father figure in her son's life! if that's too much for you to digest, then get a long rope, find a strong beam to tie it to and climb on a stool.......

you are the last person that should be advising anyone about marriage - you woefully failed at yours!!!

the guy has refused to leave and he doesn't want the compensation - there's nothing the government can do. similar thing happened in england some years back on M62. this chinese guy should just turn the ground floor into a snack bar drive through - he would make money!

Annie1: Thanks Jidegirl and Airpure ..

No I'm not only givin kudos to posts that seems to be on my side , I just feel they get where I'm coming from

No , we never fought infront of our child cos we broke up before I gave birth , yes he was with me throughout the birth , he took us home from the hospital ...
I remember him leaving that night and I so wanted to say something , like please stay n he was lingering too , but I didnt n he left ..

This is not a classic boy dumps pregnant girl , it's more silly pregnant woman tells her man to leave because she thinks she Halle Berry .. Lool
I was stupid !

If I told u guys this story a year ago , u will think I was painting a monster , up until then , I didn't think I was wrong , but i felt like a cloth lifted off my face , I'm like who was that woman , that did sll this he even told me , I got so angry one day n threw a plum (canned tomato)at him n broke his lip

I did all those but I conveniently forgot them while talking to friends n family ..

Now I know my wrongs n I thought this was a chance to correct it cos I can never be that woman again .

But u r all right , he's a married man !

I've told him , I won't be getting involved and it's best we let it go and he should go sort things out with his wife ..

He said .. Ok , u never really liked me anyway , and we go after what we want in life as no one is going to do it for us , and If i could apply the way I am in my professional life to my person life , then I will always get what I want

I said , well , that dosent excuse the fact , u r married , u should have thought of all these before u got married ..

He didn't say anything ..

So with that said , will try n move on again !

married man my white butt!
no happily married man would kiss his ex a month into his marriage - ask all the married women here if their husbands did the same a month into their marriage. you are the reason this dude went on to marry what was available for him to marry - i can conclude there's no love between them. even if you don't want him again, it's only a matter of time before he kicks his wife out - your ex is not happy in his marriage! a month in marriage and he's already sailing sideways.....when he should be connecting flights from hawaii to florida keys with his wife playing with sand on the beach....

maclatunji: In that case, her action is totally inexcusable. I hope she has apologised and begged for your forgiveness by now.

the op is a tool.....
if my wife did that, i won't even complain too much - the best thing is to be patient and wait for the day she would need me to do something for her parents......lmao @ the posters saying it was too late to travel. if the emergency was her mother, would it be too late for her to drive @ 9pm?

Airpure: Whoa I always tot u were morally balanced am surprised that u now think it right for her to sleep with a married man n think it justified that he should divorce his wife.

i suggest you go to specsavers before reading my post
where exactly did i advise her to sleep with a married man? i said she should only allow any sëxual contact after the ex has completed his divorce with his wife!

What if d other lady was ur Sis n she innocently got tangled in this mess. M sure if d wife comes n post on NL that her husband is leaving her for another man u will say go fight. Op has made her mistake she should live with it n not destroy an innocent woman's home.

i'd never let my sister marry a babyfather to start with so she can never get into this mess while i am still alive. op did not make any mistake - the ex came back to rekindle what they used to have......there's a mutual feeling between the two. if the ex can go through the courts to seek divorce then i see no reason why the op and her ex cannot get back. you said the op has made a mistake? a child is not a mistake so learn to word your comments properly!

Also this is a very good case study. The OP have said while they were together they were always at each others throat being abusive with F words n all. M guessing sometimes in the presence of their son. We ve alway preached look be4 u leap in marriage n here all d negative signs r present. Wats d possibility this marriage if they get married won't end up in violence or divorce.

they have both learnt lessons
you cannot compare their level of maturity back in the days to what gives now. there's a child involved so all the F words or C words would cease. you guys seem to be missing the single most important factor here: why is the ex scheming to get the op back if he's in love with his wife?

can you guys not see this is a marriage of convenience similar to people who marry to get the green card? the ex married to spite the op - there was no love in the union. a man in love with his wife would not see his ex barely a month into the marriage - think people and stop shaming nigeria with this obtuse reasoning!

grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!

Guitarlife: Heheheee you sef go fear nah. After e don use you shine finish you go talk say dem warn you for NL.
The man obviously has no values, he has no ethics, his moral sense of responsibility is nill. How can a man be asking another woman to warm his bed a year into his marriage when he should still be in honeymoon ?
He obviously does not have respect for the institution of marriage, he is depraved.
The fact that you are attracted to such a skunk shows just how deficient your value system is. Well, marry him. You both deserve each other.

you are taking this rather too personal - why are you so passionate about this story? look around you, this shyte happens all the time! the institution of marriage has been devalued many many moons ago......it's just a piece of paper these days! it's not the op's fault her ex wants to get back with her....

Annie1: @ Coogar .. Thank you so much , u put a big smile on my face. Thank you

To the ppl that , that have called me names .aka fish brains , hmmmmm if only u knew

No , i havent slept With him and I'm not trying to break up their home ..if I was , I won't have started this thread

I m very sure the wife knows about his son , he calls him most evenings to speak to him, even before he got married . He skypes him , when he's out of town , he set up a monthly direct debit , I really don't think he's trying to hide anything .. But then who knows

don't mind the fish-brains brigade.......
it's the way we roll here......batter the posters that are honest enough to admit their guilt and sympathise with the ones who come here to lie!

test your ex's loyalty - if he passes the acid tests and he goes ahead to divorce his wife, kindly take the offer for the sake of your child. kids are more balanced with 2 parents in their lives......

[quote author=Efemena_xy]Immature games, games games.
They're both as bad as each other.
I bet Annie knows the reason behind her ex's separation from his wife. She needs to throw further light on this story...[/quote]she's probably casting a spell on them.......
you know - voodoo dolls, pins and fasteners!

efe - you should be working for efcc/sss in nigeria!

chaircover: neither is deliberately withholding such important information - my gut feeling tells me this man and his wife are at loggerheads is because wifey found about about the baby & baby momma.

people would forever keep secrets of their dark patches.....that's a natural phenomenon. if i go on to make a whöre a housewife then the blame is on my wife? of course, she knows if she told me such there's a tendency i would not marry her - and that's life for you!

Easier for a man to hide a baby momma than it is for a woman to hide a baby

fair enough but still - every woman should dig the history of her spouse.....same applies to men. it's a competitive world out there and no one wants to be left out. prostitutës would mask themselves like nuns. drug addicts would pretend to be gentlemen...

tpia1: There are enough men to go around but maybe not enough marriageable men to go around.

define marriageable...

Guitarlife: Coogar you really are a phenomenom. You mean the legitimate wife is at fault while this 'funky' (for want of better words) poster is a saint ? There is no doubt about it, you must be one of the top contenders for the first black Mister bean character.
And thank you baby123, you just saved my life.

she's not a saint - she admitted that in her opening post -something that is very rare in this section so she's honest! the legitimate wife is not necessarily at fault - she's just the fall guy. there's an african adage that says the grass bears the brunt when 2 angry elephants fight! the wife is the grass.

Guitarlife: Words on the marble I'd say. But, what should women do. We all know there is not enough men to go round ?

they should always insist on condoms.....or abstain from sex like my tpia.....tpia and i have been dating for a decade now: no sex! every of my advances have been resisted by her....that's the only solution. the ones who have already fallen to that pit should take heart!

chaircover: coogar for all we know the wife at home may not even know that he man has a baby momma or kid.

ignorance is not an excuse in court! women shouldn't just jump into marriage and take what men say. whose fault is it that she didn't do her due diligence to dig the history of the man she married?

Some men are very good at hiding things like this if they want and he wont be the first to do this.

some women are very good at hiding things too....
so many of them especially in this london left babies in naija and they are still wearing miniskirts n doing tattoos hoping to nail oblivious gullible men. the moral of the story is - find out about your spouse before you walk the aisle!

Guitarlife: Okay, I'm sorry dude for the outburst but this your premise makes a comedy of the marriage vows. Don't they count for anything again ? I don't get it. If OP is still in the forefront of those who has express right to that guy then where does the rightful wife stand.

sadly, the "rightful" wife is the fall-guy in this case. she was never loved - she was just the available babe used to spite the op! men do this a lot.....the moment they break up with a babe, they are already digging another to spite the ex....girls who allow themselves to be used as a second fiddle should have themselves to blame!

So becos the legitimate wife ain't got no kid yet she is disposable right ? You see this kinda suggestion coming from an exposed and educated fellow is just traumatising.

even if she has 20 kids, she was never loved - she was just an experiment to spite the op!
lessons have been learnt by both parties now and they want to get back together....too bad for the rightful wife. she took someone else's man in the first instance! the question begs: why would any woman marry a babyfather and not expect this type of situation to develop? marrying a widower is a better option!

Op is a pest in that mans home and she adequately needs to be isolated, quaratined and fumigated.
SIMPLES.

lmao @ op is a pest!
there's a kid attached and as long as that son lives - the op and her ex would always be together. shyte is yet to even hit the fan......let the son start school with pta meetings, children events, etc that is when you would know women who marry babyfathers open themselves to fat risks!

bjcole: oga coogar, its only a fishy brain woman that will melt seeing her Ex lover, so many women dont know what they want, i wil never allow any ex lover becoming a friend 2 my wife, never, except she wants problem in d house, only God knows when these ladies wil wake up, its just all about sex, that what a man thinks abt, may be this one rib thing is what is causing the fish brain mentality i dont knw. what is d assurrance that d Op wil nt sleep wit this guy even when she is married 2 someone else.

if you marry a babymomma - her ex(the father of the child) would always come around - and there's nothing you can do about it! did you just say sex is what all men think about?

bjcole: @ op, i read ur story earlier, i didnt feel like commenting becos i felt it is just nothing, Truth is bitter & u wil never like those that tell u, i m trying not 2 jugde u here but ur action is just not it, & i m nt surprise becos lots of our ladies do this. Every thing u had wit him s null & void since he got married, so go look 4 ur own husband. Ur action was one reason why i didnt want my wife close 2 her Ex of so many years. I just dnt knw where dis idea of fishy brain of u women came from

hahahaha
she's the one with the child and most importantly, there's a mutual feeling!
op is the number one favourite!

[quote author=Efemena_xy]Coogar, from a man's perspective, tell us honestly: Are this guy's (her ex's) intentions honourable?[/quote]nobody knows what his intentions are......but we can find out. this is why i said the op should ask him to seek a divorce to test his seriousness and his intentions. if he does that then she's free to get back with him. if he shies away from seeking divorce, then the op should kick him out of her life like polio....

Or is it that you know for a fact, this ex of her's sees her as "easy picking" and is simply taking advantage? If this is the case, then why are you leading the poor girl astray?

"easy pickings, taking advantage"....i don't like these phrases. the op is not a minor - she's a full grown adult - old enough to take care of a child! i am not asking her to start sleeping with him - i simply said she should get the man to seek divorce before they make any other sëxual contact....

The guy has moved on with his life, and she should too. No need for long story abeg.

if the guy really moved on, what was he doing in the op's house french-kissing her? in saner climes, he could be charged for affray, sëxual harassment, adultery, etc....

kitty kat: Its a complicated world. The funny thing is that some of the women are even aware that the man still loves the baby momma and do their best to get a ring. Forgetting that these sort of complications will arise.

Anyway human beinGs will keep beinG selfish. To each his own. I don't have anythinG to advise aGain cos I have seen a lady fiGht with another lady over a baby daddy. Infact she prayed daily for the baby momma to die just to wear a ring. At the end of the day, she wore the ring but baby daddy decided he wanted his ex back.

Who we go blame now. Now Mrs is runnninG allover the place crying to who will help her chase away the Jezebel baby momma away forgettinG she stole d man at first.
Women!!!!

you won't get far in life if you are not selfish - i dunno why people think being selfish is necessarily a bad thing. so this op should be sad for life and wear the mark of a baby momma forever so the wife can be happy?

kitty kat: Erase the mistake at whose cost? I agree with JK. This is a mess. I don't know how the other woman would be feeling now.

What of the baby involved. Poor kid.

life is all about winners and losers.
who lost when the man married the other woman? no one is asking that question but you want to know at whose expense if the mistake is erased?

just so you know, the last time you got your job, someone out there was heartbroken, sad and thought of suicide! when you laugh, someone else is crying for the same situation!

women who marry baby-fathers should think deep before making rash decisions cos moments like this can spring up!

Guitarlife: I'm not married. Hehehe lobatan.
On a serious note, it seems you've been away from Nigeris for too long. Our women have now become not only daring but clinical in the matter they exhibit their infidelity
Imagine OP does not even have any feeling of guilt for making a home unstable. It's apparent it's cos she is in the picture that the mans home is about to crash.

what guilt are we talking about? how many women would see the man they once loved and not melt in their hearts? why do you think people trumpet okafor's law as a universal law? i have not been away from nigeria too long - you are being too judgemental, you are letting your emotions cloud your vision!

Stop endorsing rubbish and read beyond what she has posted. Some people are psychic so respect that .

i am not endorsing rubbish - from what i can gather from her story, she still loves her ex - big deal!!! of course, the ex is now married to another woman but she forced him to make that rash decision. if the ex does not love his wife, what stops the op from marrying her ex? which law prohibits her from marrying her ex?

And stop using abusive words on a public forum. If your son read those would he be proud of you as a father ? Learn to communicate your convictions in a more refined manner. I'm gonna give you the benefit of the doubt this time. Please Don't disappoint me.

what abusive words have i used - do you have double vision?
how can you chart this route after telling me i am endorsing rubbish? you need to quit being hypersensitive! mistakes were made by both parties and there's no reason they cannot get back together and erase that mistake.......the son is better off with his father and his mum living under the same roof!

tpia1: the guy is a drifter, end of.
doesnt show seriousness at all.
cant make up his mind either, thats never a good sign.

how did you come to the conclusion he cannot make his mind? he was dating the op, got her knocked up, there was a small tiff, the dude tried to reconcile, the op let the small issue degenerate into a massive issue. guy tried to get back, op resisted and he was ready to marry.....the op didn't make herself available and the man married his second fiddle - which is the most natural thing to do!

impregnate someone (ok, assume it wasnt intentional)
marry someone else very quickly (also a mistake?)
leaves the other person at top speed (error?)

he married somene else out of frustration - not because he was in love. look around you, far majority of the married couple you know married what was available when they were ready to marry - not because of love. the men most women wanted to marry were not ready for marriage......you think the man would wait forever?

comes back to other lady, quickly kisses her in the twinkling of an eye (hormones?)
the presence of one of the above could be a mistake and room for "making up", presence of all of the above show a drifter.

not saying the op is better, its just the child who has to bear the brunt of all of this.

he's not a drifter.......he wants to be with the mother of his child!

Guitarlife: Oh!, And I aslso have this gut feeling OP is already sleeping with the man. You see some people on here are a lil psychic so don't be too surprised I Know the dude is already drilling you.
Dude is a cold blooded mofo, having his cake and eating it too, Damn!

stop making daft assumptions......
there's no reason to believe she's sleeping with the babypoppa...even if she's doing it - how's it your headache? that's the father of her son not just a random bloke and she admitted it was entirely her fault she let him slip away because of her oversized ego......how do you know your own wife is not sleeping with her ex as we speak? siddon there......

chaircover: scotland ke?? you want mr cc to be wearing skirt abi?

skirt is good for men - it ventilates the chocolate factory.

ermmmmm oga coogar I repeat . . . . annies ex-boyfriend is still married. He is NOT divorced.

i know that for a fact - i said annie should tell the ex-boyfriend to seek for a divorce if he's really serious about getting back together with her and the son! tpia1 asked a question that what stops the man from cheating on annie after getting her back.....get it now?

. . . .or should we switch to youruba if that will be any easier for you

nah - i prefer latin or swahili!

chaircover: . . . because they are not yet divorced. Coogar na wa o! must have been a long week

lemme ask again....why would he go back to the wife after divorce? chaircover, the cold must be really biting you in that scottish village of yours.....

tpia1: and when wont the man go back to his wife (or another woman) anyway?
you believe all the blue jazz he's feeding you, you're OYO o.

of course you can choose to give him the benefit of the doubt, but its your choice.

why would he go back to the wife after divorce?

Annie1: Im still blushing , thinking about it , i just didnt think me and him could be here ( we ve threatened each other , effing n cussing ), ....so for us to even think about each other romantically , I don't know why , it came out of nowhere ..
I know I'll stop the thoughts , he's someone else's man , hard but I'll try.

N u r right .. we r not all perfect !
But If only it was that simple ....Sigh !

personally, i don't think the thoughts can be stopped.....there's a kid attached and he would always come around to check on the kid - which means you would always have to see him. it's only a matter of time before you guys start kissing again.......

this is why i feel you should get back together if the feeling is mutual. it's natural to feel sorry for his wife but if he truly loves her, why is he sniffing around you? besides, did this woman feel sorry for you when she walked the aisle with the dude? did she feel sorry for the heartbroken, lonely single mother?

marcotti is an idïot......
what effort did di matteo make to correct the situation he found himself? 2 strikers in the squad and di matteo still sent lukaku on loan or was it someone at the top that made the lukaku move?

i have heard of mancini's moans when the people at the top are acting too slow! i never heard of di matteo moaning about the shortage of personnel in certain areas of his squad. he was comfortable with the situation - when chelsea were playing great, he lapped up the accolades(no one credited the people at the top) - now that things are ugly, marcotti wants us to blame the people at the top?

some people were born foolish!

Annie1: I know .. Me more !

That is why I'm trying not to make any more mistakes , especially with a kid involved ( I never thought of him then , but now I am )

i cannot see any major mistake here........

obviously, the two of you still have feelings for each other - this is why you could still blush after telling us about the kiss......the only snag is his wife at home! if he sends his wife packing, i see no reason why you can't get back with him(at least for the sake of your son)

mistakes were made in the past but for fück's sake, none of us here is perfect! he doesn't have a kid with the new wife yet so if he were to seek a divorce, there is no baggage of ex wife or ex husband visiting. tell him to start the divorce process if he still wants you......