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CelebritiesRe: Don’t Make Marrying A Rich Man Your Goal, Focus On Becoming Rich Yourself - Ivy by Cousin9999: 1:04am On Jun 03
Robertgreene1:
But all these girls no fine oo walahi, na just make-up.
In what alternate universe is that woman not fine. shocked
FamilyRe: What Causes Most Siblings To Hate Each Other? by Cousin9999: 9:13pm On Jun 01
- Some parents are trashy people who instill dysfunctional thinking and behavior in their kids whether intentionally or not.

- Some people are in a family/environment/culture full of dysfunctional thinking/behavior. Instead of rejecting that, they act like a scared child and conform when pressured.

- Stupidity is a religion for some people, so they refuse to acknowledge how pointless and irrational certain thinking/behaviors are. And they refuse to change.

- Some people are basically bizarrely lazy and won't work on their problems. They prefer to try to cope by targeting others.
PoliticsRe: Man Confronted A Lady For Wearing Tinubu's Renewed Hope Polo by Cousin9999: 8:50pm On May 31
1. She's probably just wearing it because it was free.

2. He wouldn't get this rowdy with a 6'4 male.
TravelRe: Barbados Pledges Support For Air Peace’s Lagos-Barbados Route by Cousin9999: 11:21pm On May 30
Fine Bajan women will be lining up for a "rich" Nigerian husband.
PoliticsRe: Naija don go, Entertainers Not speaking up Enough - Davido by Cousin9999: 11:18pm On May 30
A celebrity exposing a hidden problem can be helpful, but talking is just talking. A better use of their power is actually throwing money behind things. But even then, they're one or a few going against whole nations -- neocolonialism. Akon was just trying to get people consistent electricity and he was threatened left and right. Imagine.
FoodRe: What I Do With Bread That Nobody Wants To Eat. (pictures) by Cousin9999: 8:07pm On May 29
You could also make stuffing. 🤤

RomanceRe: Physical & Behavioural Traits I Am Most Attracted To In A Man by Cousin9999: 9:17pm On May 28
kiddaz:
Better go use AI create am now undecided
😆
FoodRe: I Have Never Tasted Shawarma In My Life by Cousin9999: 5:05pm On May 28
Mariangeles:
It's not oyinbo food.
It's Mediterranean food, which is flavorful.

They don't just add "salt and pepper" like the oyinbos do.
The make use of herbs and spices in their cuisine.

I like their cooking method. The way they build their flavor.
Mediterranean people are oyinbos too. And I promise you their food is mostly bland. What people enjoy abroad are a handful of dishes that have been heavily modified for foreigners. Their real food tastes like air. 😂
CelebritiesRe: Celebrity Children Who Became More Famous Than Their Parents by Cousin9999: 4:55pm On May 28
Jaden will never surpass his father. And it's not just because Will is so successful. Jaden just isn't likable.
CelebritiesRe: Celebrity Children Who Became More Famous Than Their Parents by Cousin9999: 4:39pm On May 28
betshopagent:
left hand of will smith is bigger than the career of jaden smith.
lol
FoodRe: I Have Never Tasted Shawarma In My Life by Cousin9999: 4:34pm On May 28
It's just not that good. You're talking about oyinbo food, which lacks richness and completeness. Even the better stuff isn't something you would want to eat every day. The main appeal of oyinbo stuff is that it's cheap and quick. And it's definitely not as healthy as African food.
EntertainmentRe: 2 Ladies Carry A Drunk Man (Video) by Cousin9999: 4:03pm On May 28
The way she carried the dude like a sack of rice. 😆🫡

Those chicks are cute. Hope their friend is okay.
BusinessRe: 12.5kg Cooking Gas Refill Price Increases Across All Geo-political Zones Except by Cousin9999: 3:24am On May 28
Make your own cooking gas (risk of fire/explosion):

https://www.nairaland.com/8639705/make-own-cooking-gas-biodigesters
PoliticsRe: Daddy Freeze Speaks On The High Rate Of Insecurity In Nigeria (Video) by Cousin9999: 9:23pm On May 27
People say these things yet Chinese and everyone else keeps going to Nigeria and getting rich.

Furthermore, there are some parts of Nigeria where people are never worried about these things. Arguably it's even comparable to America where some people will walk their dog at 2AM without a care in the world, but others keep their head on swivel whenever they leave the house.

That said, there is a problem. But I don't see how it helps to basically keep bashing the country by comparing. Why not actually do something, especially if you have a platform from fame. Even creating one little business helps. Better than praising the countries that are 95% responsible for Nigeria's security issues.
Science/TechnologyRe: Make Your Own Cooking Gas: Biodigesters And Jean Pain Piles by Cousin9999(op): 9:14pm On May 27
SixSeven:
I saw a video like this but most people are concerned about the safety
Good point. Not sure what can really be done to lower risk...
PoliticsRe: Daddy Freeze Speaks On The High Rate Of Insecurity In Nigeria (Video) by Cousin9999: 9:08pm On May 27
Idris Elba on stabbing crisis: 'Not all kitchen knives need a point on them'

Banning the sale of zombie knives is a positive step, but schools need to intervene earlier to help tackle the UK's knife crime crisis, says Idris Elba.

The actor, 52, has spent the last year making a documentary for the BBC about solutions to knife crime, during which he met victims' families, police officers and teenage offenders.
In the documentary, called Idris Elba: Our Knife Crime Crisis, the Hollywood star meets a 17-year-old boy at Feltham young offender institution who first began carrying a blade when he was 13.
https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/c1jgz1ld7lno
PoliticsRe: Daddy Freeze Speaks On The High Rate Of Insecurity In Nigeria (Video) by Cousin9999:
UK: Nearly 50,000 zombie knives off the streets – but the black market is still thriving

Tens of thousands of so-called ‘zombie knives’ and machetes were seized or surrendered last year, new figures reveal.

Zombie knives are weapons which are more than eight inches long and typically have a jagged edge, spikes or more than two sharp points.

The blades have been wielded by people as young as 16 to carry out deadly attacks on youngsters as they waited for buses or played football.
https://metro.co.uk/2025/10/29/nearly-50-000-zombie-knives-machetes-handed-seized-last-year-24560529/

BusinessRe: Cooking Gas Hits N1,700/kg, Marketers Warn Of Looming Revolt by Cousin9999: 8:40pm On May 25
Here's how you can make your own cooking gas:

https://www.nairaland.com/8639705/make-own-cooking-gas-biodigesters
PoliticsRe: “Repentant Boko Haram Members Get ₦3M Payoff, Monthly Salary After Rehab” - Man by Cousin9999: 8:23pm On May 25
This is actually not surprising. Boko Haram are employees of oyinbo countries, as are corrupt politicians.
TravelRe: Is Leaving Nigeria For Europe Really Better Than Staying Back To Build Something by Cousin9999: 12:45am On May 24
AngelSlay:
Many people glamorize “japa” and many others over-romanticize “staying back.” Reality is harsher and more nuanced than both sides admit.

Yes, abroad offers stronger systems, better infrastructure, and in many cases more predictable institutions than places like Nigeria — but predictability on paper doesn’t automatically translate to personal fulfillment.

A lot of immigrants in countries like Canada, United Kingdom, or United States quietly deal with:

Years of visa uncertainty

Doing survival jobs far below their qualifications

High taxes and rising living costs

Family strain/divorce

Loneliness and identity loss

Retirement fears after spending decades in a foreign land

And you’re right that success should never be reduced to airport photos, visa stamps, or “I dey abroad” bragging rights.

Real success is closer to what you described: freedom.

Freedom to control your time.
Freedom to build assets.
Freedom to raise your family in peace.
Freedom to retire with dignity.
Freedom to live life on your own terms.

That said, staying in Nigeria isn’t automatically freedom either. Many people leave because of insecurity, unstable policies, poor healthcare, weak institutions, and limited opportunities.

The real question isn’t “Should I japa or stay?”

It’s: “Where can I build the best life based on my goals, values, skills, and family priorities?”

For some people, migration is the right move.
For others, building businesses, investments, and influence at home may create far more freedom.

Location alone doesn’t create success.
Intentional decisions do.

And honestly, whether in Nigeria, Canada, or anywhere else—if you’re 65 and still trapped in survival mode with no assets, no peace, and no options, that’s the deeper problem.
Great post.
FoodRe: Some Mangoes Really Tastes Like Heaven. by Cousin9999: 7:40pm On May 23
Mango has no peers. 🤌🏿🫡

CrimeRe: Young Bandits Flaunt War Grade Mortars And Machine Guns On Tiktok. by Cousin9999: 3:52am On May 23
Supplied by oyinbo governments.
FamilyRe: Cctv Camera Captured Housemaid Urinating & Defecating In The Kitchen Of Her Boss by Cousin9999: 3:51am On May 23
People assume that someone does these things because they've endured something horrible. Some people are just vile and sick, and they've never faced consequences for their actions. I promise you that there are people in this world who will do these things purely out of insecurity or because they feel that if they had to suffer at some point in life, so should everyone. Some will do it because they believe someone "disrespected" them, which is all in their head. And mind you, the "disrespect" was something completely minor.

But domestic workers are in fact terribly abused in Nigeria. And many of these people are blood family. One of the most bizarre and sick things is actually having your flesh and blood working as a domestic in your home. Shameful. And some of these victims feel that as bad as the situation they're in is, being homeless and hungry is far worse, so they stay, and retaliate like this.

And it's absurd to have domestic workers unless both parents work long hours, one parent or child has a medical condition, or you have a lot of kids. Many Nigerians (and Asians) only have them out of laziness, poor character, insecurity, and the desire to control and/or abuse someone. They refuse to cook and clean up after themselves. They want human beings to be constantly around boosting their fragile ego. And some are sadists, probably became sociopaths due to abuse.
RomanceRe: Help! My Experience With Church Girl I Wanted To Marry by Cousin9999: 10:39pm On May 20
She seems very religious. People like that typically want a partner who lives the same lifestyle and will be on the same page with how the kids are raised.

And maybe she's had bad experiences or seen a bad marriage growing up, so she's very cautious.

Maybe you don't come across as sincere.

It's better she does this than getting with a guy that will waste her time and take her money, or put her in a situation where she has to walk away from a marriage with 3 young children and no money.

Better to have a bunch of women like her instead of single moms.
Science/TechnologyRe: Self-healing Buildings by Cousin9999(op): 4:53am On May 20
How root bridges are made:

The methods are:

a): Root bridge training without scaffolding.
b): Root bridge training using bamboo or wood scaffolding.
c): Root bridge training using hollowed out Areca Palm trunks.
d): Root bridge training using steel wire.
Without scaffolding:

Almost all living root bridges that I’ve observed which were still being actively maintained showed signs of roots that had been manipulated by hand to improve the functionality of the structure. These improvements often took the simple form of a few individual roots that had been wrapped around each other, tied to trees, or attached to the opposite bank of a stream. I’m told that these ad-hoc, spur of the moment improvements are usually done by people working in the jungle, who have occasion to use the living root bridge, and so take it upon themselves to improve the structures over time.

The people making these improvements understand that, gradually, individual roots tied or twisted together will merge, forming a stronger overall structure.
With wood/bamboo scaffolding:

Many root bridges are created using scaffolds made of wood or bamboo, materials which can be found virtually anywhere in Southern Meghalaya.

In these instances, young ficus elastica roots can often be seen twisted around bamboo poles, while sticks and tree trunks are used to add additional stability to a temporary structure which crosses a stream and is used to aid in the formation of a botanical structure. While these materials rot quickly in the hot, humid, climate of Southern Meghalaya, given their ubiquity, they can easily be replaced from year to year.

The roots, providing the tree they are a part of remains healthy, gradually become stronger and thicker, and with many adjustments to the scaffold over time, will slowly develop into a functional living root bridge. Once the roots can be safely walked upon, the scaffolding is no longer necessary. However, additions and repairs to already functioning root bridges are still often made by guiding aerial roots along the outsides of sticks, tree trunks, or bamboo poles.

This method of root bridge creation appears to be practiced throughout the area where they are found. In some areas, root bridges are also created using a method employing hollowed out Areca Palm trunks (see the next section). However, in areas where Areca Palms do not grow in abundance, the use of wood or bamboo scaffolding is simply more practical.
Read more here:
https://livingrootbridges.com/methods-of-creating-living-root-bridges
https://www.smithsonianmag.com/travel/in-one-of-the-wettest-places-on-the-planet-indigenous-people-build-bridges-and-ladders-out-of-living-tree-roots-180988405/
https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20211117-how-indias-living-bridges-could-transform-architecture
Science/TechnologyRe: Self-healing Buildings by Cousin9999(op): 3:12am On May 20
Willow Tree Churches and Living Root Bridges

Science/TechnologySelf-healing Buildings by Cousin9999(op): 3:10am On May 20
Baubotanik: The Botanically Inspired Design System that Creates Living Buildings

In Germany, this alliance is found through Baubotanik, or Living Plant Constructions. Coined by architect, Dr. Ferdinand Ludwig, the practice was inspired by the ancient art of tree shaping.

“I came in touch with some historic examples of living architecture while I was studying [at the University of Stuttgart] and was fascinated from the first moment on,” he explained. “The vision is a new way of integrating trees in architectural and urban design.”

As the name suggests, when shaped through a variety of means via pruning, bending, grafting, or weaving, trees can become extraordinary works of innovation. Early examples of living root bridges in Meghalaya, India, and the pleached hedge fences of medieval Europe reveal their additional value in the built environment.

Despite human intervention, this process can also occur in nature when trunks, roots, or branches in close proximity slowly fuse together. Known as inosculation, or approach grafting, it can arise within a single tree or neighboring trees of same or different species. Over time, as the limbs grow, they exert increasing pressure on each other, similar to the friction between two palms rubbed together. This causes the outer bark to slough off, exposing the inner tissue and allowing the vasculature of both trees to intermingle, in essence joining their lifeblood.

Ludwig’s Baubotanik, however, goes one step further. By incorporating a vegetal component to metal scaffolding and other construction materials, a living, breathing building is formed. Over time, as the trees age, their fused joints continue to strengthen, providing further load bearing support. Indeed, the ability of growing trees to incorporate foreign materials such as metal and plastic highlights the potential of Baubotanikal structures in urban design.
Read more here: https://www.archdaily.com/775884/baubotanik-the-botanically-inspired-design-system-that-creates-living-buildings

FoodRe: How I Ended My Sunday With Bush Meat (pictures) by Cousin9999: 2:11am On May 20
FamilyRe: Types Of Domestic And Family Violence by Cousin9999(op): 4:48pm On May 18
I'll post the rest later.
FamilyRe: Types Of Domestic And Family Violence by Cousin9999(op): 4:47pm On May 18
Spiritual, religious or cultural abuse is used to control or intimidate someone. It is not limited to any one religion, or group of people. It can be about stopping someone from being involved in their beliefs and traditions. Or it can be about forcing someone to take part in beliefs and traditions they don’t agree with.

Examples include:

-preventing someone from practising and being connected to their culture
-stopping someone from going to their place of worship
-stopping someone from having contact with other people who share their beliefs
-stopping someone from celebrating days of cultural or spiritual significance
-stopping someone from sharing their beliefs and traditions with their children
-ridiculing someone’s beliefs or traditions
forcing someone to do things that are against their beliefs, like eating certain foods or wearing certain clothes
-forcing someone to marry
-forcing someone to take part in spiritual practices they don’t believe in
-forcing someone to raise their children according to beliefs they don’t agree with
-using or claiming to use spiritual or religious beliefs:
as an excuse for violence or abuse
to pressure someone into staying in a relationship
to stop someone from getting medical care for themselves or family members.

Lateral violence is also known as ‘horizontal violence’ or ‘intra-racial conflict’. It is a product of a mix of historical, cultural and social dynamics that results in a range of behaviours.

It is not just an individual’s behaviour. It can involve a number of people working together to attack or undermine individuals, families or groups.

Examples include:

-malicious gossip
-group bullying
-social exclusion and isolation
-claims that the individual does not ‘belong’ in the group
-physical violence
-sexual violence.

It is important to understand that lateral violence doesn’t just refer to physical violence. It is also a form of coercive control and is related to social, emotional, psychological, economic and spiritual violence.
FamilyRe: Types Of Domestic And Family Violence by Cousin9999(op): 4:43pm On May 18
Verbal abuse is when a person says things, privately or publicly, to shame or humiliate someone, or to make them feel scared or unsafe. This includes what they say and how they say it.

Examples include:

-ridiculing or humiliating someone
-criticising their appearance, intelligence, sexuality, religious beliefs, or ethnicity
-criticising their actions as a partner or parent
-using cruel or abusive nicknames
-swearing at someone
-yelling or screaming at someone.

Social abuse is when someone tries to control a person’s relationships or interferes with their social activities.

This includes relationships with friends, family, colleagues or community. It can also be about trying to undermine a person’s reputation.

Examples include:

-stopping someone from seeing or contacting their friends and family
-stopping someone from going to social or community activities
-preventing someone from having contact with people who speak their language or share their culture
-making someone move away from friends, family or work opportunities
-controlling a person’s use of a car, public transport, or mobility aids
-controlling a person’s use of phones or computers
-checking or stopping their mail, phone calls, text messages, emails, social media and other messaging or chat apps
-telling lies or spreading false information to damage a person’s reputation.
-using someone’s intersex status, sexuality, gender expression, transgender or HIV status against them
-forced marriage
-stalking.

Social abuse is part of coercive control.
FamilyRe: Types Of Domestic And Family Violence by Cousin9999(op): 4:41pm On May 18
Image-based abuse is when someone shares or threatens to share photos or videos of a person without their consent. It is part of sexual violence and coercive control.

Images are typically shared in text messages, on social media or on the internet. Image-based abuse is sometimes called 'revenge porn'.

Examples include:

-sharing private images of a person without their consent, for example images of them undressing or showering
-sharing culturally inappropriate images of a person, for example images in which they do not wear items of clothing that they would normally wear in public
-sharing intimate or sexualised images of a person without their consent
-producing and sharing images that have been digitally altered to suggest a person is nude or engaged in sexual activity
-threatening to do any of these things.

Emotional or psychological abuse is when someone says or does things to make a person feel bad about themselves, undermines their self-esteem or makes them feel scared or powerless.

It can be used to prevent people from seeking help and support.

Examples include:

-criticising a person and their choices or actions
-isolating a person from their friends or their family
-threatening to harm a person, their family, their friends, their pets or their belongings
-threatening to share personal or private information, such as sexuality, gender identity, personal health, or visa status
-telling someone they are to blame for the problems in the relationship or the family
-withdrawing all attention or ignoring a person for a time, sometimes called ‘ghosting’ or ‘the silent treatment’.
-scaring a person through behaviours including dangerous driving or being reckless with weapons
-manipulating a person so they feel confused and start to doubt themselves; this is sometimes called ‘gaslighting’.

Emotional or psychological abuse is part of coercive control.

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