MadamVanessa:





You see why men here see us as clowns because of our double standard judgement and goal shifting.

I have observed you , you're fun of supporting women regardless if they're wrong or right. If they're wrong, you must always find a way of justifying their action instead of saying the truth the way it is.

F
One of few wise women

We4all:


What if

If the bolded is what is causing you to hyperventilate over my post, then you need to have a brain scan.

Your papa just waste his sperm. Product of mad person

odimbannamdi:
My post is not exactly related to Clearance sales, but I really need as much help as I can get.

My church's mixer (in picture 1) got damaged by high voltage and we are now making plans to have it fixed.

However, we are worried about the incident re-occurring and possibly taking out other appliances as well, so we are considering getting a stabilizer.

Please, which stabilizer and specs can work with the mixer, those 2 Ahuja amplifier in picture 2 (couldnt get their specs) and the 2 Yamaha amplifiers (in picture 3, with name plate of specs in picture 4)

Thermocool TEC. 3kva to 5kva.

pocohantas:


In her defense she seems to be a young girl. I would have expected her to retrace her steps to her parents house or any close relative. She didn't fall from the sky na.

OP on his part seems to have a problem attracting, meeting or keeping women who can meet him halfway. His ex-wife wasn't earning. The second she got a job, she started pushing to move away from home and issues amplified until divorce.

You would think OP has learned a lesson, but here he is, trying to trap a girl who has her back against the wall. Give that girl a good job and based on his past posts on her, he won't see her brakelight again. This relationship is fully sponsored by lack of options and parental guidance.

Male or female, you can't afford to be old and broke. It would affect your options.

1 of few women wey get sense for this con3. I agree with u

Afodot0022:
Good day my lovely people, it always good to share life with you people here. Pls I need to ask, what is the advantage and disadvantage of living together with your girlfriend under the same roof. My girlfriend had an accommodations problem, her friend they stay together kick her out for no just reason, she wanted to get an apartment and the money she was ask to bring was quite much 250k, I convinced her to come stay with me and save that money for other things, initially she opposed but later agreed to come stay.
My reasons for her staying are there..
1... I want to get to know her better cos I believe when you live with someone in the same space, that's when you get to know them better, I was once married and have learnt a lot on how ladies pretend in dating but show their true color in marriage, atleast I want to know her well before making another serious commitment of marriage.
2... She works and earn a decent salary which I think will be an added advantage for me by her supporting by we both sharing bills together, it will lessen by burden. Though I haven't discussed this with her yet but hope to soon cos I can't let her depend solely one me while she works.
3.... Ever since I separated from my wife, it's not been easy living alone as a man, the cooking ,washing ,cleaning and loneliness has not been easy, so we living together will atleast help me in these area.
To be candid, the girl is a good girl and I was the one that disvirgin her, she is submissive and respect me, but you know you can really say of a person character until you live with them.

Now my question is to those that have been in this situation of living together with a girlfriend you are yet to marry, how did this affect the relationship afterwards. Pls share your experience be it negative or positive, I really want to learn from others to see if I can proceed on this or just abort mission by not allowing her to stay any longer. Do you think it make sense I share bills with her or I should should all financial responsibility even though am not capable of that now.. pls help me to navigate this scenario

Na you be the girl papa?

Klass99:


I will comment on the parts of your narrative I find interesting.

1. I sincerely hope you plan to share house chores with her, to support her and lessen her burden. As you expect her to share bills with you, to support and lessen your burden. I doubt this though considering what you said in point 3.

2. I thought you logical gender people said marriage doesn't benefit men and women bring nothing to the table. Why are you looking to get married again, through the route of immoral cohabitation, when your first marriage didn't work out?

Your logical gender brothers will hype you to carry on with this warped logic, according to majority of them, immoral cohabitation is how a woman grows with a man. May they not have daughters who live out those words in their lifetime.

One woman said a while back that she cohabited with her man for 7 years and they were going to get married soon. Your brothers in logic hailed her with comments and over 300 likes on this forum. Try to make yours less than 7 years sha!

You see that thing you're looking for bah? That is, validation and a green light stamp to proceed, you have come to the right place for it. Just wait for your brothers. I have one question for you though, na so your mama and papa take marry?

You just waste space. No sense at all. The idiot no get sense. Why give the girl free accomodation? Na father Christmas?

bukatyne:


This is beyond 'giving' her body.

Except she doesn't have a good plan for herself, the OP is not a spec.

A man who thinks that N250k annual rent is 'on the high side' is broke. N250k rent in itself is cheap meaning an accommodation that isn't 'decent' or in the outskirts of town (except they are not in a capital city).

Why would a virgin be with a broke divorcee with kids? If he were young like her, we would say they are starting life together.

He is already second hand and he doesn't have the finance to make up for it? He doesn't have systems in place and is looking for someone to do chores and pay bills?

A red billboard for a single virgin (well, I am speaking for myself).

Which kind of broke girl can't afford 250k rent? The guy better throw away the girl make she go date agbero for street

pocohantas:
1) How decent is a salary that it can't pay an annual rent of 250k?

2) You have been married before and you have kids. Kids who are still in touch with you and probably visit. They are also girls from your previous post. So it is important they see you in a good light. Not with numerous women. The next woman they should know you with should be a fiancee/wife. Not a live-in gf, not a babymama. You of all people should know the pains of a single parent home and should do well to avoid a situation that might lead to it again.


3) She is a virgin, she is a good girl, she is hardworking, she is submissive, she respects you, she is this and that. Yet you want to cohabit with the virgin you popped and subject her to intense cooking, cleaning and vetting before doing the needed.


4) She agreed to live with you because her hands are tied. Not because she would have voluntarily cohabited with you if she had the means to get herself a decent place. Not a good way to make a woman be with you. It is in fact worse than whatever it is you are trying to avoid in future.

Goodluck!

E go soon realize why her friends kicked am out. He want to adopt person wey go dey chop free food and free house? You be father Christmas?

Flesh22:
Good afternoon all, there is the girl I meet newly, where me and brother just rented somewhere in Lagos, she is very beautiful and intelligent for her age, though matured somehow, she look like someone that is 17, I guess from her mother. And me on the other hand, am scared of girls, really don't know how to talk to them, but yesterday when I told my friend, he said we should go to her mom shop, act as if we want to get something, then from there I talk to her, so I did as instructed, so when we go to the shop, she was more beautiful than I thought, a goodness, my friend started the conversation, then I continue, all through my stay at her mom shop, she was happy, laughing as if we already known each other for month, I really had a good time, did some introduction and the rest, then I left.
Later in the evening, as I was about going to buy fuel for the gen, she blocked me on my way, she was was smiling and also introduce herself to me again , but then I had no time to talk to her, just smiled back and told her later, because I needed to get to the filling station on time, so they won't close. Though I have not seen her till now, maybe she went to church, base on my conclusion she do like me, am not saying base on our conversation yesterday, but because of constant eye to eye contact and she normally ask about me when am not around from my brother and when I come to her shop to get something, she always want to attend to me, am I right with all this conclusion, I think yes.
My problem is the age difference, am 28 and she is 13, I want to tell her today that I like her, like they say age just a number, I like this girl, should I continue with this and make her my gf, what do guys think, thanks as I await ur response.

Dem supposed cut your scrotum with blade. You this pedophile. Am sure u be Anambra man

Zxcvbnmghtr:
I am sure that this old man's biological children too are being fathered by another man who doesn't know that they are not his own.

MEN!!!

What goes around comes around.

He better start searching into his past sexual adventures.

Men and their lust to sleep with their fellow man's wife.

Who's this gutter toto hawker?

Foodqueen:
The man definitely have children else where, that's why he's instinct is so strong.

I just hope those out there are truly his.

See this runs girls making excuses for her fellow olosho. I pity the mugu that will collect ur b@stards

zyphr:


Oga chatGPT. This your oversabi is quite unnecessary as you didn't use your ability to rewrite this.

E clear na. Na ChatGPT 😂😂😂

rickyclarkson44:
I recently had a distressing experience at LASUTH Dental Clinic that left me feeling dehumanized. From the moment I arrived, I felt like just another number rather than a valued patient. The staff's impersonal and dismissive attitude added to my discomfort, and I was met with indifference rather than compassion. The lack of clear communication and the hurried manner in which I was treated only compounded my anxiety. It's disheartening to expect care and instead feel disregarded and marginalized all in one dental implants. This experience has made me question the quality of patient care at the clinic and underscored the need for more empathy and professionalism in healthcare settings.

Wetin ChatGPTand AI go cause for this life

RoyalBlu:
I wasn't willing to believe this is actually an exchange of words between a husband and wife until I read the last part.

I'm speechless rn.

Some kind men go just dey bleep up. Why be say na this kind men women dey follow sef

Kyng1:
Good morning Nairalanders, last night I and my wife was having some arguments and she threatened to take my life and send me to the afterlife and later start apologizing endlessly saying it's a joke, she has called hundreds of missed calls but I haven't been able to pick up as I'm hell bent to do what's on my mind, which is sending her back to her parents house. The threat still rings a bell on my head until this very moment, and I don't think I'd be able to comfortably live with her under same roof again. See screenshot below of the threat and her apologies claiming it's a joke.

Oga, u sef sabi frustrate person. Ode, better get sense because the no be every woman fit take this kind problematic man wey u be

churro:
You are living in a rented house and spending N700k a month just on food and fuel? That's too much! You'll need to lower your standard of living. What if you experience a temporary setback in your job or business over several months or a few years? I don't wish you bad o, but things happen!
Your wife is the one setting the standard and not the kids. It is her desires and fears that she's projecting onto the kids, and making them get used to getting branded quality meals all the time. It is what you give your kids that they'll become used to overtime.
Give her less, invest more (money market fund, FGN bonds, sukuk, treasury bills, stocks etc), save more, plan for your future. Your kids are still small, they'll need much more funding as they grow.

Leave that idiot. Until he loses his job or business and no savings to sustain am. Some people just dense anyhow

ruffhandu:
Hello people,
Please I need some advice.
We live in PH, and have 4 kids. The oldest is 10 while the youngest is 6. I give my wife 700k every month, and this includes general upkeep and maintenace and fuelling of our car (Lexus 330). I don't drive the car (I dey leg, while she uses it to run around, which includes school runs and her business).

I no dey chuk eye for her business. Bu I am getting frustrated as she still makes me believe that the money is not enough. I pay electricity bill (band A) and house rent (3m pa) yet every now and then she puts bills on my head. It is driving me crazy.

When I tell her to list out her expenses so I plan with her, she picks offence. I am really tired of the whole thing and don't know how else to approach the issue without causing too much problem. I know some men whose salaries are 250k-300k in PH, yet they are surviving.

She no dey work? Na this kind woman dey ruin man life. You go work and you won't have any achievements. Better wake up. Mugu

NoToPile:



For context I am female and I understand how it can be trying to give the children the best especially with food to make them healthy. Health is wealth. Children are always prioritized but some of your children are old enough to begin to understand some things.


If it's drinking bottled water that will make them not fall sick then you guys have no choice but to continue. Now I am assuming water supply in your axis is not clean enough to be boiled for drinking because even the costs of bottled water alone for 4 kids in a month is a whole lot of money. Some snacks can be cut off once once, the fresh juices are still okay it's healthy though expensive.


You guys just have to find a way around the costs, you sound strained already.

Talk to her.

As you don speak like mumu, I don know you be that parasite gender. Is the woman not working? 700k? Make the parasite drop 300 to meet other needs na. Problematic gender from the pit of hell

pocohantas:
Either Punch twisted the story for traffic or to make her look like olosho like they always do when a young woman dies. Her family clearly said she is dating the young man and he is well known to them. The picture and video of her corpse shows battery and forceful impact to the head.

You guys should allow women rest in peace. Stop twisting the narrative to make every young woman who died in the hands of man look wayward. Thank you!

Where u see the video? Mumu girl with android phone. No stop that your olosho work

Obakoolex:

My son is not a bastard like you ok

Continue helping your oga gateman to raise his child. Mumu

Obakoolex:
Well my son is fair in complexion while we parents are Brown and am 100% sure he's mine.

mumu go do DNA. na ur friend gateman pikin

@Tomi4life

tomi4life:


I just looked at her phone this night, both whatapp, sms and instagram there is nothing suspicious.
What i noticed she does is to drown herself with activities.

Did u see my comment for d other thread? Rent studio apartment for your job area and they carry your babe go there.

Mjshexy:
My simple question is, was there any atom of courtship before jumping into this ship or both of you dumped that important class and went ahead with marriage just like that?

The men just mumu anyhow. The woman is obviously disgusted because e just too mumu. Simp man. She dey take am 4 granted

Jeon:
Abeg divorce, and let's breathe. Moreover they said "Marriage is no benefit to them,
They don't need love,
Women don't have anything to offer" , yet they will be clingy and asking for help once they see the wife no send their popsi.

Na weak man na. He doesn't want to cheat. Mumu man. Us wey no send the wife Abi marriage, no woman fit treat us like that

tomi4life:
Not sure if this is the right forum, but I am unhappy, as I type this message, I think it is usually too late to cry when the head is cut off, but i will cry anyways.

I have been married for 6 years now and brethren it has not been easy, I think I married a wrong person, am not a perfect neither is she, i just think we are not compatible. There is is no love between us. Our values are different. Me and my wife dont get along, well.

We have just been tolerating each other. I only realize what i am missing because i recent caught feelings for this colleague of mine. So there is this colleague of mine, we have worked together for almost 2 years now but more related to work. I have started catching feelings for this girl o and it all started in a party we attend together. I know she too has feeling for me. I see it in her eyes. She comes to sit with me, and we talk about alot of private stuff. She tells me all that is happening in her life, i also do same. she knows I am married with kids but i am sure if i make a move she will agree. I never could imagine I will find myself in a situation, tempted to commit adultery. When i have a wife at home, this opened my eyes and push me to want resolved the relationship issue with my wife. I approached her some days ago to voice my concern that the marriage is not working, we dont communicate, there is no love, what can we do to resolve the matter. My wife said she is used to our situation. I asked what can we do differently and she says we shd go see a marriage counselor. I said fine but can we even discuss and she tells me she is tired she wants to sleep and then stops responding to me.

My wife prefers to sleep alone, despite me telling her we shd sleep together as a couple. if she is in the room and I come to the room she will immediately goes to the parlor, we rarely have body contact. The few times we have sex she never kisses even when i try, she puts her mouth away. Even in the car we can be on a drive for 1 hr, without mentioning a word to each other. Most times it is either the car radio or my kids that break the silence. What surprises me is she is very comfortable with it, you just see her on her phone. The only saving grace is I have a source of income and provide for the home that why she listens sometimes.

Reflecting back on if i had to opportunity i wont have married her, she has caused me alot of pain. she doesnt play that supportive role expected of a wife, she has this feminist tendency. She also has this ego issue and find it difficult to take feedback, whenever i raise an issue, she just get very upset and in many times it turns into a fight. There are days I fall sick, my wife no send o. Even cooking for me is like stress. She goes out without telling me, does things without getting my consent or even carrying me along. When she brings people to the house, she wont even introduce them to me as her husband. she doesnt send respect or regards me. I tell you an example of something that happened last year, we were travelling November last year to the UK on holidays with the children, because of our luggages we took two uber vehicles, I sat in one with my daughter, my wife sat in the other with my son. While on the way to the airport, do you know my wife asked the driver to take a detour to shoprite that she wants to give someone the left over stew and food items we had. Shoprite is not on the way to the airport, we had less than 2 hours to go for an intentional flight. It was me that noticed their car going a different direction, I had to call the uber driver to tell him to turn back immediately. When the uber guy came he told me he had asked my wife to mention it to me, but she said no need, I dont need to be told. We got to the airport while offloading the luggage from the car, my wife suddenly disappeared. I had 8 boxes , 2 children to move with. Thank God for those people that help with the luggage at the airport. I passed through customs and NDLEA and began to clear with the airline before she showed up. I was so mad, even a custom lady was yelling at her, how can you just disappear leaving your husband with all the loads and children. My wife didnt even apologize, she said she went to drop the food items with the person she asked to come to the airport, after i asked the uber driver to reroute to the airport. That is how disunited we are.


The good side is not cheating, and she is spiritual, she can go to church 10 times a week, currently serves in 2 units and hold leadership roles in those unit. I have told her if she give 20 percent of the time in church to our relationship and family we would be happier. The major complain she mentioned from my side is we shd go out together more often, she wants me to organize morning devotions, that we shd pray more with the children, this was something I believe her dad did when they were growing up, the experience is different for me. I have told her I will try. She also mentioned I like to complain, which is not true.

This whole thing is hitting me hard cos I dont want to cheat with my colleague and i just experienced a glimpse of what we shd be enjoying. I also have the chance of relocating to the Australia but i knw if we do, I will enter one chance.

Does anyone knw a good marriage counselor, that can be recommended, I saw one done by one of this popular pastor they are asking for $150 for a 1hour session, I also dont want to involve my family or her family.

I am tempted to just leave the house for 2 weeks and go stay in an hotel, but how will that help it will only make matters worse.

End the marriage. If you can't do that, get a side chick. No marriage councillor in this world can help you and no amount of talk can change things oga. Speaking from experience. Hotel na temporary solution. If you get money, rent an apartment or buy house close to your workplace. No go rent house for side chick Oo. I repeat . No rent for side chick. I was in the same situation and doing this gave me relief. Na she dey even find my attention now
Your weakness dey disgust d woman sef. Better go do DNA test 😂😂

My findings.

Dikegodspower:
50 % if not 80 are 8 igbos, God bless

I'm Igbo. But this thing you say is unnecessary. I go online and search. This is what I saw

This one dey find one mumu man wey go become her MAGA. For this Abuja? You're coming. No plan. No job. Nothing nothing. The only thing you're counting on na man and your kpekus. Continue

How much?

Akwaibom1stlady:
BRAND NEW 8KG fully automatic washing machine. With multiple functions. Old and Cold wash….. Energy Saving
260k
0706 853 0221.
Location of Item: Yaba
Dm for more pictures

Why you never leave? Abi you no leave again?

You no get sense. The man did this. The man did that. What did she do that made him.report her to the police? She damaged Abi she no damage? Follow her to the station na. Sheybi you dey the same house with them. Mugu