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March 26

looking for a wifey in nairaland

What happened to those girls in ur area, get a life!!!

_yes

what next?

Very correct!!!

Chidi, anyday, anytime

This is very touching, i just pray God to give you the strength to take good care of urself & ur baby.

In this life, we really dont value what we have to we loose it

@nino213

no, i wont call u cos i am not a teacher!!!

@8inchplus,
what did u expect?

@Bolarge
lol

@Donzman

LOL

na waoo, what has Ph girls done again?

I am working and i also hang out if need be, so?

i guess so too!!!, if u dont want to spend money on a PH girl, then dont ask her out

@crazyp


Quote from: crazyp on July 02, 2007, 09:48 AM
@ poster,

I don't see anything wrong with wearing trousers, it makes me comfortable and smart & i don't know why it shld be condemned,

For the one that said we are going to hell for wearing trousers, you are not God & judge yourself first, because "no body holy pass me", nonsense!!!



Ms., I am not one to judge neither am I God. I did not make the standard, neither will it change for any generation. I won't condemn anyone but search the bible yourself. If other generations obeyed it, today's will be no exception. No one is holy (as our righteousness is like filthy rags) and none is righteous. One truth is that if you don't bow here on earth, you will bow at the throne of Christ on judgement day. This will apply to everyone that has been created our of the dust and given the breath of life. Heaven and earth will pass away but the Word of God wouldn't. It's the same Word that will acquit or condemn.

@Ivvie,

pls do me a favour, visit the religion forum plsssss, ur preaching will make more sense there

exactly!!!

@Romeo,
Odimma, gi nwa kwanu, ole otu imere?

@tasiana,
odika iwu onye uka, biko jisi ike na ekpere anyi ekpere, dalu.

@Nimi-k
Enough of all the critical and uncritical analysis. The lady is trying to get hooked here.


And whats this supposed to mean?

SweetT,
I have to ask, what type of women are your cousins looking for. Sounds to me they seem to drift towards 'trophy' / high maintenance' girlies. Maybe you ought to get them to heed some of the advice Obirin is being given. Re-evaluate what / whom they seek in a relationship.
To a degree I agree with Militia and think they do sound somewhat like Akata's, but then there's nothing wrong with that. A lot of blokes think the same of me. I change their minds fairly quickly when the yoruba starts flowing. But then I'm not a typical naija babe so I know why I have difficulty finding that naija guy.

Obirin, I'm coming back to your point as this thread is really about your concerns just want to make a point of what I find with most naija guys.
Here's the deal. Most guys I come across nowadays like the idea of a successful woman. Let’s face it there are plenty of us about. However, once the rose petals fall out of their eyes they still crave for that traditional naija woman. And when they don't see it they seem confused and of course it has to be a problem with us girls. Forget the fact that life can be so demanding and most of us once we hit our 30's want a 'partner' in the true sense. And then when you finally come across the one who is as 'liberal' as you are, well, he's so way over the top you wonder if he has any values instilled in him. Anyways, enough of that. SweetT, get your cousins to evaluate what they're looking for in a woman and concentrate on that, beauty comes from within. BTW, if they start off lavishing a woman with expense 'things' she can't be accused of being a gold digger. She's simply grown accustomed to the manner in which she's being treated.

Now then Obirin, I agree when you say you won't compromise. You haven't said anything about a divorcee with kids though. If you have and I've missed it I apologise.

Here's what I've found with the over 35 males in general – no disrespect to my brothers, just an observation:
1. He's divorced, successful and has kids. No biggie if you’re determined and strong willed.
2. He's divorced, successful has kids and the ex. is a psychopath. Drama, drama, drama.
3. He's not so successful, still finding his way, working on the umpteenth business venture as none of the past ones amounted to anything. Be prepared to deal with his complex if he’s you’re typical run of the mill naija guy.
4. Now that he's over 35 and divorced, he's finally come to the realisation that he messed up his marriage by being immature and selfish so now he's desperate to start over again. So he's not really looking for a 'partner' he just wants another try.
5. He had a kid in his 20's with, I forget her name now. So now he wants to settle down and start a family yesterday. However, as you're in your 30's there'll be no ring on your finger till you get pregnant. You see, he's worried due to your age you may have issues conceiving. Honestly.
6. He assumes because you're over 30 the only thing on your mind is marriage so any form of BS is tolerable. (I assure you my sister, he gets a rude awakening).
7. He thinks it’s a safer bet going for a woman in her 20’s (babies, babies, babies). However, he can’t deal with her immaturity so he’ll still coma knocking.
8. He’s just so lovely so you then start to wonder what’s up.
9. He’s over 35, no kids never been married and not quite as successful as you are. So now maybe you’re wondering, ‘what’s he been doing with his life’? Should I take a risk? Jump in and get your feet wet. Life is for the living.
10. He’s over 35, no kids, never been married is very successful but he’s just too into himself. No personality, goes for surface beauty and well, suffered a personality bypass.

To summarise, the point I’m trying to make is that if you really want a naija guy over 35 you MUST be willing to accept that he may not be exactly what you’re looking for. Actually this doesn’t just apply to our guys. It can be broadened to all races. I don’t agree with compromising if it will make one miserable and we only live once. As for younger guys I’m 38 and I think 36 is my limit. I think it’s something to do with our culture. It’s quite silly really, if you get along, feel for each other, what’s his age got to do with it. I’m still struggling with that one.

But as to where these guys are, reach out to your network of friends and associates. You may not be able to seek them out yourself but a word here a nudge there and before you know it, hey presto, you’ll be swarming in eligible naija guys. Open yourself up more to what's out there.
BTW, are you limiting yourself to naija guys only or is this thread general curiosity about where the responsible eligible naija guys are.

All the best.

na wa oo, is this supposed to be just a post?

@ deb,

whats up with ya profile, hv to see that first

pls, u guys shld make ur posts short, its becoming too long for comfort, haba!!!

@nino213

how do u know u're good when u've neva dated b4

this is certainly another way of screaming "I'M SINGLE"
well, mine is i havnt found my right man.

@Romeo,

"(and i was part of the achikota ekwe onu)"

@ maneater,
"In nigerian culture he would never call her a fat cow.

His mother will just come, kick her out and get him a younger, prettier wife.

i'm going to hv kids _{especially fair ones like me} cos i love them a lot!!!

This post is really annoying me,
the babe is not being straight-forward at all,
abeg, if u want to divorce the man, go ahead
whats all these cock & bull story for, _{sighs & zooms away}