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On behalf of Everton, I beg thee Chelsea...e haff do!

JeffreyJamez:
He forget Jersey for house.

Even if na pass...make ball reach am from time to time na..b4 he sleeps off.. Its quite boring standing in d goalpost doing nothing!

Chelsea keeper dey dis game at all?

How is it that The Most Beautiful Girl in ABUJA competition has competitors flying the sash of other states??

Smh..

Lolz... So y d need for cucumber?


**joking oo...b4 Dem chew me**

smithsydny:
Happy birthday to me. Oooooo.. Faithful God

Happy birthday to u!!

joseph1832ng:
So? I'm not a christian, neither am I a muslim, and I still believe in the existence of one God!

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joseph1832ng:
You don't know me, do you? I'm not among those peeps who are slaves to their families.
I tell you, i'm from a christian family, but I'm not a christian. I can bring a muslim woman with 5 kids and tell my parents I want to marry her and they won't tell me no, why? Because i've drummed it into their heads that i'm responsible for my happiness, because it's my happiness, not theirs, but mine, so my decision is final.
That's how steadfast I am. Cos I don't subscribe to archaic and old fashion rules and beliefs.
If my mum is wrong, I tell her flat out she's wrong. No sugar coating.

joseph1832ng:
Easier said than done translate, according to me, "do as you wish".
Simple.

"Easier said than done" means there is little or no assurance/belief in the capacity of the "sayer & doer"... It has no relation to "do as u wish"...but then again.. na u know wetin u mean so no yawa.

joseph1832ng:
You don't know me, do you? I'm not among those peeps who are slaves to their families.

I tell you, i'm from a christian family, but I'm not a christian . I can bring a muslim woman with 5 kids and tell my parents I want to marry her and they won't tell me no, why? Because i've drummed it into their heads that i'm responsible for my happiness, because it's my happiness, not theirs, but mine, so my decision is final.

That's how steadfast I am. Cos I don't subscribe to archaic and old fashion rules and beliefs.

If my mum is wrong, I tell her flat out she's wrong. No sugar coating.

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Gennyike:
I have been following up your comments and you are the only sincere lady on this thread with few other ones being straight.....the rest are white washed face, pretentious hypocrites; desperados of end time.

May God bless you. I Love you and creamie too.

Lolz... How many of them are actually married? There is a difference btw speaking from experience and speaking from "hear say"..

Make we de read gist my sista..

joseph1832ng:
How does "easier said than done" translate to "my mum and her DILS living in peace?

joseph1832ng:
Darling. I'm among the few who believe people can be anything they want to be.
I don't speak for other mothers, I speak for my mum. Her DILS love her. If there's one thing I love her for, (among others) she minds her business.

Check the bolded and see if this says otherwise?


smh... u can like to argue some kain tins sef.. Fluxbush told u what she intends to do to her DIL when she gets to have one and U say "easier said than done"..meanwhile ur mum is doing it and her DILs luv her. .. what makes u feel Flux cant do it??

How hard is it to love another human being?? If my son chose this woman, it means he saw sth good in her.

joseph1832ng:
Easier said than done.

I thought U said ur mum and her DILs are living peacefully?

joseph1832ng:
Neither is it always the fault of the MIL.
If I meet a girl I like, and she tells me "I'm afraid of MILS" Instantly, I put a comma on her head.
How can one be afraid of someone you've not met before

U are right to run. I will not speak for those who are unmarried and already speak ill of their prospective MILs. They have no reason to do so.

joseph1832ng:
Darling. I'm among the few who believe people can be anything they want to be.

I don't speak for other mothers, I speak for my mum. Her DILS love her. If there's one thing I love her for, (among others) she minds her business.

Her DILs love her.. why? cos she has extended her arms to them. DILs want peace as much as the men do. My mum is the same. her DIL luvs her to the moon cos she has embraced her as her daughter. She treats her just d same way she treats us. How in the world will there ever be a problem between them NEVER.


...datz what we are trying to say... It's not always the fault of the DIL..

fluxbush:
Mister, I just tire for your matter. So that is how you understood my words,right? To you,control has to always mean dominate abi? You didn't see the corresponding word 'erring' which should have told you I meant to correct his mum,abi? Don't blame me if you misconstrued my post. Everything shouldn't be taken quite literally.

Every woman and wife has a family she came from. Have you guys ever put yourselves in our shoes? We leave our families, homes and sometimes cultures to adapt to a brand new one, yet you men expect us to behave like we are a sponge soaked in water. Do you think we have hypo running through our veins? Or you think we don't have feelings too? Why should a sister in law come to my matrimonial home to talk shit about me,if she was properly trained by this same MIL? Can you see the hypocrisy here?

Nobody dey drag superiority with una mamas. Same way you give your mother, whom you have known for decades,that unconditional respect,your wife is entitled to that degree of respect. If you don't know,your enemies can use your wife to kill you cuz she is the closest person to you. She cooks for you and sleeps in your bed. So why will you threaten and blackmail her with your mother?

Until you guys really calm down and understand the real concept of marriage, the divorce rate and spousal murders will continue to escalate. Even in the time of our ancestors when sons and their fathers lived in one big compound, each had their huts and cooking pots. Mothers never interfered in their sons' affairs cuz they had a husband to attend to. Alas,these days where you have kids forcing themselves into marriage, mothers dictate everything to their sons and these boy-men allow it,thereby pushing their wives into unnecessary hate and bitterness.

Note: A good mother will never interfere in her child's marriage except where battery and danger to life is involved. She knows where to draw the line between being an elder and being a terrorist.

Well said.

fluxbush:
Don't mind them. Even when it is staring them in the face that their mum is troublesome, all they will tell their wives is 'try and understand' or 'pray for her to love you'. As if the MIL cannot be offered same advice. Women yaff seen something in this life.

They have all concluded that every issue with their mothers must be the wives' fault. It's funny how they always claim not to understand women but are quick to conclude that a wife is always the wrong party in a MIL/DIL issue.

Guys, y'all need to know how to manage ur homes o. Don't cultivate that mentality that the wife is definitely the enemy when issues arise with ur mothers. Always listen to both parties with an open mind and assist to ensure peace reigns. I know most wives would rather get along with their MILs than fight.

joseph1832ng:
Creamish darling. Please don't forget all DILS are prospective MILS. So when their time comes, let's see how they'll handle it.

I guess ur one of those who believe all MILs are angels and DILs are demons..

Bisjosh:
Truth be told ...

Some MIL already see a DIL as rival even before getting to know her.
they feel she will turn the attention her son showers on her to only herself (DIL)

ladies should stop pretending they love their MIL just to get the son then turn around after the wedding to show their beasty side.

If u know the mama is too tied to her son and u cant cope pls , no need in marrying the son. Look for someone else.

Women are their own worst enemies. You dont see this happening between son inlaw and father inlaw.

And for the husbands pls stop thinking over righteous of your moms. If your mum treats you well doesnt mean she treats others well. MILs are not angels.

**Applause**

fluxbush:
Ugh! Another thread for guys to bash DILs. Already, one Ahab above is talking shit about wives being replaceable. Now with attitudes like that, when a supposed husband can't and won't caution his erring mother, do you really expect the ' bought out' wife to show love and wish the MIL well? And all in the name of cementing the bond between mother and son, as if the wife was cultivated from a tree.

I am not for wishing MILs death, karma or not, but when men learn to put everyone in their proper places,there will never be scenarios where MILs and DILs will be antagonistic towards each other. The onus lies on our lily-livered men and husbands.

Food for thought: MILs are not the mothers of the wives,so don't expect them to flow same as they flow with their actual blood. I can tell my mum that I am tired and won't cook for a day and she will understand me cuz I am her daughter. Say that to MIL and my box is already on its way to my father's house.

**Applause**

Happy Birthday!

Benard94:
Always import simple reading skills while ingesting facts before saying it can't be digested.

Lolz.. Suupuuu!!

Benard94:
Read it and read again... I have no explanation. It was written in its atomic form for a child to understand

Benard94:
Greetings to the gentlemen, ladies and the e-warriors in this forum. I need a reasonable answer to this general mentality that fair(White, yellow , brown, pink... Give dem colors, although those colors are not for skin) ladies are beautiful.

I discovered that many a lady had gone to bleaching school to confirm this... Black leg, yellow face.

I always imagine this yellow ones, if they were black... A trash of ugliness

Many of them are proud and look down on the blacks

Guys run after them as pretty.. I don't understand

Some guys are even in bleaching industry as well to look 'good'... Nonsense

Note : I am not a racist but I want to know the grunt behind that mentality .

The grunt behind the mentality? as in...

joseph1832ng:
Babe, it's a known fact Christmas day is a known pagan day for the worship of the idol, Sol Invictus.

There's no blaspheming there. After all, Jesus wasn't born on Dec' 25th, was he?

How sure are u that he wasn't? Were U in the manger that day? I know how much u love antagonizing Christians so I wont be ur hobby today.

joseph1832ng:
Blaspheme? How and where did I blaspheme?

I'll refrain from issues of christianity the day christians stop telling me "you're a sinner" and "you're going to Hell if you continue in your sinful ways".

joseph1832ng:
Its all about brain washing. It's the tool the white man used to deceive us into accepting his way of thinking.
Same goes for the Christians. Who celebrate Christmas on the apointed day for the worship of an idol.

Dat's it..

Nwayz...

joseph1832ng:
Hey you. Sup? Why you syh, when you can syb for me?

Im good... it's just u and ur desire to blaspheme that troubles me.. Why don't u refrain from issues of Christianity instead?

Return the kidney. Spare urself the guilt.

joseph1832ng:
Its all about brain washing. It's the tool the white man used to deceive us into accepting his way of thinking.

Same goes for the Christians. Who celebrate Christmas on the apointed day for the worship of an idol.

smh..

crackhaus:
Lol, I'm like the last person to be considered 'always serious' around these parts.

That said, let's not pretend that the humour/sarcasm didn't come from a real place of many strained relationships existing between DILs and MILs.

We are saying the same thing in different tongues..

crackhaus:
There you go

Are U always serious? I'm one to search for a laugh in a situation that could cause depression. It helps with the BP. This here is one of them.

crackhaus:
And how exactly does the humour and sarcasm therein remove from the idea that there is a real problem between DILs and MILs?

It doesn't.

Acidosis:
Yes ..


However, make sure such issues are peculiar to MILs only, not Wives' mothers.

I wont bother cos it's obvious U don't have an open mind where MIL/DIL war is concerned. U may have had a genuine experience but so have many other wives. Until U fit in their shoes, don't generalize on this issue. Some wives are the cause of their problems, true...but on some other occasions, the MIL is the cause.

I wont drag this further with u. I'm done.

Acidosis:
genuine issues like?

If I told U, would U believe?

Acidosis:
I think wives should stop reading negative meanings to everything MIL does.

Why call for peace when you're not at war? If there isn't any war in spite the frequent calls, gists, etc. between wives and their mothers, there shouldn't be any war between wives and their MILs.

Many of you women talk to your mothers on the phone on a daily basis, but when MIL decides to speak with you or his son (on the same daily basis) it becomes a problem: it is either she's a witch trying to figure out everything in the home, or she finds it difficult to let go of her son.

Women should learn a lot from men, we don't read terrible meanings to every situations and events.

I know a woman who nurtured a terrible hatred towards her MIL just because the woman suggested they spend less on birthday (she suggested drinks with chin-chin, as against the family's plan - jollof rice, meats, etc.).

I'm 100% sure there wouldn't be issues if the suggestion came from the mother, a friend, or brother. However, because of the devilish stance against MIL, the wife has been projected and formatted to assume the MIL is against her success.

For fck sake, what is wrong in telling someone to spend less on birthdays, especially now that we are in recession?


May God deliver you all (Amen).

Kindly recheck the emboldened and increase the number of women U know of with ur stated example so ur generalized statement would be justified..

What some men need to understand is that whenever their wives have genuine issues with their MIL, they need to step in..as against joining forces with their mothers against their wives like they were never weaned.

I respect the MILs who genuinely luv their DILs..and the men who can stand for the right thing in every situation.

Mimzyy.. nice thread BTW. Funny stuff. It's humour lost on some sadly.

Seems he forgot to clean his lips after d 2nd pix..


..Bottle of Andre goes back to the wine bar after photoshoot..