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pocohantas:
You can quote, but learn to stay on track. At least know the difference between a question and an argument first.

The question was, are you one of the men spending madly on women? Why would you expect women to go out of their way to prove themselves to you on a public forum?

The simple answer to that is NO, you are not one of these men. It is not an argument. Come in with understanding/comprehension next time.

You are the one going off track. What does the thread have to do with range rover ?

Farfalla:
Oga Sagamite, You still dey? Last time I checked you had gone on hiatus. I can see you're still "grumpy"?
Do you still live in your council flat in Peckham? 😂
Or have you been deported back to Sagamu?

I do remember reading your posts (I operated under a different moniker at the time) and I recall with much amusement how you would handle "cretïns", "fuucktards" and "products of a failed education system". 🤣🤣🤣

While I don't always agree 100% with a few of your submissions, I do admire your perspective on many issues (public governance, management, politics, law, policy-making, history, career, education, etc). There are certain posts I'd come across and I'd be like, "I wonder what Sagamite would have to say about this...".

I wasn't even going to be a part of this thread (these type of topics exhaust me) but I thought of giving you a mention to pick your brain on one or two issues (unrelated to the topic). I'd appreciate your opinion(s) on you how you would handle certain situations/people;

1. How would you balance disciplining and loving (without spoiling) an emotionally fragile child (5 years 8 months)?

2. How would you generally handle a catty/toxic person who deliberately wants to be in your space for the sole purpose of ruining your peace of mind? Particularly if they are your relatives (so they feel you wouldn't dare cut off your blood) or people with whom you share mutual acquaintances.

Your responses to the above questions will be highly appreciated.

The question is not for me, but i will try to answer
(1) As far as am concerned. My main job as a father, is to prepare my daughter/son to face the world. My child is not my pet. As a father, you know what is right and wrong. When your child does something wrong, you have to punish him/her. Do not let it slide. By punishment i do not neccessarily mean beating(beating/spanking is not excluded at this stage. Will definitely do that, if neccessary). On the other hand, you MUST reward everyone of there good behaviours . When you do that, you are encouraging the young soul to do the right thing. With time, he/she will get use to it.

(2) This is easy. If you have proof and totally convinced they want to ruin your life. Then you have to do away with them.

Kobojunkie:
I don't follow! How are women able to adequately occupy positions of logic in industries, and society if they are not capable of logically reasoning their surroundings and existence?

Help me understand the context of your question.

There will always be few exceptions. We want more women to work on themselves and improve

Sagamite:
You are a cretinous fuuktard!

When cretinnous fuuktard start struggling, they start looking for strawmans to build and attack.

Where did I say they were inaccessible or unavailable?

I asked your dumbass to tell us how to access them or make it available, since you seem to think it is simple and it is just about "changing the circle of girls" one mixes with.

Cretins and simplistic solutions to complex situations.

Oya, tell us na.

Tell us how to find the good girls in the midst of a sea of bad ones.

Einstein of stupidity, while you are at it, also telll us how someone in Nigeria can make N5m per month.

Abi that income for the minority is not accessible and available in Nigeria too; and if it is, it surely must be simple too according to your fuuctard brains, abi?

Lol

jaxxy:
dunce I already answered u. Change ur circle means change the type of girls u associate or keep around u.

I'm not talking about a location or a setting I'm talking about ur personal choices and preference.

it's pretty simple.

Change his circle to what/where ? Do you know how many times he has changed his circle ? Please can you point us to the location where we can find logical women ? Any address?

Sagamite:
You are a creetin!

Your lack of intelligence is demonstrated in your solution.

Your solution of "Change the circle of girls u are around".

Is there a location/setting where objective and logical women gather?

Tell us the place.

Foolish people give and implement foolish solutions, which them makes their lives and society unproductive and shitholes. We have many of you in Nigeria.

I just tire for them. I wonder who they are leaving the illogical ones for

iammolise:
Still doesn't change the reality that we men need women, not to survive as we can do that on our own, but for companionship... You can't tell me you can Love yourself all the rest of your life

Using nigeria as a case study. Women actually need men more than men need them. Most actually need men to survive(or they starve to death). If you need the presence of a man in your life, i actually think is wise and sensible to work on your self and correct some bad attitudes in other to have a lasting relationship. Don't come here telling me to take you as you are. That is nonsense

Supersymetry:
You haven't answered my question but you are asking me questions,

You can only deceive a woman that men live together without issues not a man.
Men are only good at pretending all is well. Many men have bad character same with women, but men's bad character gets reinforced due to natural operand conditioning, without punishing a bad character it gets amplified, same way men tolerate bad character from women/girls, hence amplifying it without knowing, and letter complain about it though by different men at different times but collectively as a group.
In principle women don't tolerate bad character from women and men, but only from a man they desire, hence the reason it confuses people like u.

Most men claim that women don't engage in meaning conversation, but it's the same with men, but only that the issue changed axis, eg most men talk about sex, women, foothball, for most men ... how to make money ( because the society conditioned them to do so) and won't go deeper in the discussion but how to make money through job,yahoo and other crimes, or other conventional method with nothing creative, move to innovative approach, most men will freeze like most women, tall about philosophy they will attack you, talk about future, science and technology you will be seen as a mad man, the list goes on and on,

The reality is that a man that spends most of his time talking about soccer which is like an advance gossiping will hate on women gossiping about celebrities, two of them are different forms of entertainment.
I bet that most men claiming to have the ability for meaning conversation can't stay for ten minutes to discuss the solution to the problems facing Africa and humanity, not to talk of origin of time, entropy, technological singularity, intelligence amplification etc.

You made a good and valid point. I agree with you

MallamChukwudi:
“Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid. Einstein

The op has failed by judging the sense of women purely from a logical base. Just as bats can fly at night and see clearly, or sharks can navigate the vast oceans with echolocation, women have areas in which they are superior to men, and I will list them below.

Men may be more logical than women, but it doesn't mean women are not logical, smart, or cannot be smarter than a man. I will put it this way. The dumbest gender in this world is men, and the smartest are also men.

Women are detailed oriented. Your average woman sees and knows more colors than your average man. Also why women occupy departments that deal with managing and recruiting people. I can see it with my mum, for example, she notices things in my body that I didn't even notice myself. The minor mark on my skin, the discoloration of my shirt, and my mood, even if I try to act cool. My dad and brothers don't notice shit, but my mum does.

Also, women are far more intuitive than men. In fact, men are not intuitive at all. For example, a girl can like a man and he will never know, but if a boy likes a girl, I swear she knows. Even if you didn't ask her out, she knows you like her and that he is probably shy because he thinks she would reject him.

Women also know those that hate you. Lots of times, it was a girl that pointed out that this friend is envious of me, or doesn't wish me well. It is like she can smell it with just a few interactions. Just watching my interactions with a hater, she figured it out that bro, be careful with that friend. And it came to pass, she was not wrong. Men are too logical, and that is our biggest undoing.

Women also feel better. For example, women can feel more range of emotions in voices. Words for women are not just to communicate, but a passage of feelings, emotions, and a range of communications words can't explain.

These skills are all the packages that were embedded in a woman when God created her as a helper. She can't be an effective helper by having the same skills as a man. It will clash. Men like their women soft, feminine, innocent, unbruised, etc, and women like their men strong, masculine, experienced, bruised, etc.

You will make a big mistake if you judge women purely from a logical sense, which is limited to the physical realms. Men control the physical world, and women control the spiritual world. Hence you see more women into superstitious stuff than men. So for a person (man or woman) to be whole, he/she must ally with the opposite gender, to become stronger, reaping the benefits of the opposite that it's not in him/her. Hence, two people marry to become one.

Another great angle to this discussion. Thumbs up

tensazangetsu20:
I was about to start work today and I heard a fight and some arguments, turned out it was my neighbor and his wife going at it for the umpteenth time again but today's own was so bloody. I even thought of calling the police. He beat the woman. Hit her head on the wall, threw her clothes out and even threw their baby out that he was tired of them.

The guy has no job, didn't go to school. Didn't even finish secondary school. Also has no skills. He just sits at home from morning till night. He lives with his mom and shes the one that feeds him and all and the new wife just moved in after she got pregnant and gave birth. Honestly, this isn't the first time I have experience or seen stuff like this around me. Is it that the women are blind or what? I mean my neighbor is quite an attractive man. He's fair with tattoos and dreadlocks. Has that handsome bad boy kind of look. But is looks just enough to marry a man that has nothing going on at all in his life.

Why do women make such bad decisions. I am really really curious.

The same reason why most men love beautiful and lazy women

pocohantas:
I can’t remember having an argument with you or even quoting you. No, I didn’t start an argument over RR with you.

You actually started it in a thread, i was reading through. You were actually responding to someone else. So i felt i had to come in, and correct some wrong notion. If you don't want to be quoted, then you need to stop commenting in a public forum.

chinwong:
Damn Nigga 😁 that’s my fav exercise bruh

The highest I’ve done on squats is 190kg.

What’s your max?🤷‍♂️

Wow thats impressive. Usually train with 100kg. My max could be around 150kg . I don't think i can do 190kg, though i have never tried.
My strict curl is quite impressive though. I can do 55kg.

pocohantas:
That wasn’t the topic. Please learn to stick to the topic next time. Regards

Have you forgotten you started the argument about range rover ?

pocohantas:
Naso! You have all this yet you think only ritualists can buy Range? Maybe it is not hustle you need. You need to revamp your thinking and circle.

Are you doubting me ?

Only very few women will get anything like a range rover from there partner. Many will be lured with the illusion of having one. But ultimately get nothing. Is not about been able to afford it. It is about deserving it. People that speak like you, will never get one from me. Even when you manage to meet a stupid, money mix road, you will still fall short, because you do not have youthfulness to trigger such generosity from them.

If you really think i need to change circles, may be relocate to meet a decent woman. Then we have to admit that we have a problem here. We want to have enough good ladies to go round, not few. The aim of the thread is to point out what we do not like in our beautiful ladies. We want them to improve. We want to have a better relationship with them. You can also create similar thread about guys and offer constructive criticism.
Thank you

Sixfeetbelle:
You must be a joker. That's the only explanation for why you made this comment

Can you explain how i am a joker, her royal majesty ?

pocohantas:
Deceive yourself. Rituals kor.
You think say na yahoo boys dey buy Range? You see organic cream and small bag for my post? All the Nigerian actresses your elites and politicians are squandering on, which one of them has died in the last 20 years? Which one of them is in her prime? No be una male actors still dey die? You broke boys would say anything to console yourselves. No go hustle.

There are many nigerian yahoo guys who have made millions of dollars. That can definitely afford benz. Many ladies have lost there life in the hands these savages, but the few who had gotten anything close to a benz from these guys, are definitely not well in there middle age. You and i know you don't stand a chance.

I really don't know what you mean by organic cream and small bag. But i feel it has to do with your profession and what you specialise in.

Yeah the male actors die a lot recently. I have been able to donate and assist some of the sick ones. I sympathise with them and am also impressed with the fact that they stuck with there morals and didn't actually soil there hands or get involved with crimes in a bid to appear like they belong. Something you are unable to do.

For the records, i am into digital assets. I trade digital assets. Cryptos, high value domain names, high value social media names e.t.c I have been able to earn yearly an impressive 6 digit figures in united states dollars for the past 6 years, with the exception of 2022. I may not be a million in us dollars, but i have been able to afford a very impressive standard of living for my self and i still stay humble.
Am definitely sure you are the one who needs to hustle more and do some catch up. Please by hustling more, i do not mean going to dubai to eat faeces.
Thank you

Ishilove:
One thing I've learned from this thread is many Nairaland males need to change their social circle. They hang out with bimbos and then use that brush to paint all of womanhood. If you can't have an intelligent conversation with any woman around you, then check yourself and ask yourself why you attract those sort.

The problem is, everyone cannot get the suppose few high quality ladies. The solution is to also encourage ladies to work on themselves, not calling the guy a misogynist. You are also free to table anything you do not like about men and demand we improve on that.

Mina79:
Kindly tell God to wipe them from the earth, since you feel so irritated about them.

No, he likes women, just like most of us. But he clearly doesn't like that female attitude, je just complained about. You ladies need to work on that

Sixfeetbelle:
He only raised one point. One. The same regurgitated, over-emphasised, over-analysed, beaten, overflogged, over-assessed point. Far be it from the male gender to discuss women issues and not delve into our sexuality (female liberation).


God forbid they fight for women's rights to education or politics or be even against FGM and child marriages.

Please are women bared from attending tertiary institution or joining politics in nigeria ? This is actually what the op is talking about. You just want to oppose and argue without actually thinking over it.

gard9ner:
My brother, honestly you’re an original, as you can see I created this account now just to comment, I deactivated my account last year but I couldn’t resist your discussion.

Your topic is deeper than most people realise, I’ve so much I want to pour out but let me hold my peace. Just know you’re not alone and nothing is wrong with you. I’ve so many stories too as I practically grew up surrounded and still surrounded by woman. Bro, a lot of people will take it personal if I share my many stories but I just want to tell you that God almighty created them for a purpose, I’ve read some very beautiful comments here, including the guy that buttressed how only emotional people can succeed in health and child care, that was insightful.

Trust me when I say they are full of it, I lost some amount of money I don’t want to mention because of my own mother! In another example I lost a court case with my tenant who owes me over half a million because my mom went behind me to beg the tenant who was already losing the case and even dashed the simp some money to park out, his lawyer took advantage of my mom, recorded her and used her “good intention” against me with other lies, I was so mad that I almost told her to leave my house. I’m sure that someone will call it emotional intelligence from her but you haven’t heard the full story and it isn’t as it seems. Back in school I dated a girl who all her problem was how to pierce her body and draw tattoos which I never argued, I told her it will look great on her, she smiled and gave me whatever I asked for, but alas before she graduated she was in regrets as the inks are permanent. I can go on and on but the truth is come hell come high water we must live with them; so bro, do what you can, don’t hate them just live peaceably with them by agreeing to any arguments they pose as long as it doesn’t affect your goals in life. Smile and tell them that they are doing well when it’s too late and they run to you crying be a shoulder to lean on without saying much, this is their nature and we must learn to grow with it (I mean find our own unique way to deal or adapt with them).

You are a man full of wisdom. I respect you

9japride:
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I don't agree with you. Male and female have different ways they react to things. It's natural and there is nothing bad about it. Women have their own special gifts and men don't have it. It's not about upbringing. Just like in the animal world, male and female behave differently. Humans are just higher animals.

Human are both product of nature and upbringing. The upbringing also influences how they act and reason

sukkot:
truth of the matter is all nigerian men and women are emotional insane kids. try driving in nigeria and you soon get to find out why the society does not work. a bunch of aggressive emotional retards. the whole lot of them. male and female. whats logical in looting your whole country and dumping the money in european banks .

Thats another important angle

DJBIGGY:
You have tendencies to be one.... You just have to understand and accept them for who they are and devise ways to deal with a woman. Don't ever use logic on them. It's a waste of time and energy

Logic is what drives the world. Logic is essential for peaceful cohabitation. We should be talking about how our women can improve on this

iammolise:
Balance is just the key to everything, even to avert SIN. You are on point with your claims about women, they think from an emotional perspective and that's natural as they're wired that way, personally I call them "the emotional box", they're designed to give care and emotional support to men generally. With all these information you have about women which is POWERFUL if you ask me, I'd urge you to be open minded about it all and use this intelligence as a tool to find a woman that is right for you rather than continue seeing it from a malicious perspective. From what I've read you're already at the boiling point, what you need is therapy brother, you need gradual rehab, and not just any councilor but one whose specialty is relationship and marriage, I would recommend you tune in to 102.3 max fm 10pm by tomorrow night(The love doctor show), call him and talk to him, he's also on Instagram & Fb (@Daniel Akpata on radio) he might help you but truly only you can help yourself, coz no matter what anyone advices you it's still up to you to follow their advice or follow yours.

Men are told many times how they need to work hard and do many things to be a better and more valuable men. Why are you telli g men to accept the fact that women can't reason logically ? How do cope with having a life partner that does not see the need to improve ?

Berankis:
The truth is... Women are what they are and nothing can change them. It's the way God has designed them to reason and function, if not, we won't have a world. If they were designed to reason and act like men, they won't have children most times or take of them like they do. Can a man breastfeed a baby? I am sure a man will be irritated if his baby accidentally puts it's mouth on a man's nipple, because we aren't designed to function that way.
Let's learn to accept and respect them for whom and what they are - women. Life would be alot easier for us.

Our society also plays a key role in this. Women from other climes are not exactly like this

pocohantas:
Lol. You don’t want to be treated like dirt? You guys don’t like women as you have stated on this thread. Why should it matter how I treat your kind? No, I don’t need anything. YOU WILL REMAIN DIRT TO ME.

The problem with most of you, is that you always see things from the negative view. Op made a thread and complained about what he noticed about women. You could tell he is not happy about this. He would likely prefer to have a better relationship with women. If you disagree with his claims, You could have stated it here and backed it up with facts. The ultimate goal of the romance section of nairaland, is to improve the relationship between men and women. It is not a battle ground for both gender

pocohantas:
And who cares? Are you among the men that will buy Range Rover for babes next week? So?? Please knock yourself out!

The fact that you guys always expect ladies to come start arguing with you. Can’t be me anymore o. Time that I will use to massage the ego of a provider ancestor. God abeg o!

Out of 20 range Rover expectants like you. At least 17 of you, will be used for money rituals and the remaining 3 are ladies in there prime . Hope you can deal with that

Labalaba23:
I love pussy so much. It's the only thing I want to see, eat, taste and feel. Pussy is sweet , no doubt. Without the warm hole and touch of a woman, I can't be okay. Yesterday, I spent over #150,000 to fly to Delta State From Lagos to meet a girl I met on Facebook last month. Yes, I can do anything to please a woman so far it makes her happy. As I got there, she told me I'm bigger than what she saw in my picture. I'm a bit overweight around 230Kg. She didn't let us have sex and I had to cry back to Lagos. Upon all my begging and crying she didn't open the pussy for me. Right now , I'm supposed to be sleeping but I'm thinking about vagina and dreaming about it.

What can I do to make this girl like me

Idiots everywhere

Killbillz:
The only jazz that can hold me down is [b]loyalty, transparency and peace of mind. [/b]If she likes get pregnant or visit 99 herbalist/ jazz men I will not do what I don't want to do. No be me start am and no be me go end am

Say that again bro. Those are the three jazz that can work on me as well

chinwong:
We are on the same page bruh. 💯

Which exercise do you like most??

Squats bro. Squats gaurantees good health

chinwong:
All I’m ever desperate to do is to make money and have my peace ✌️ with a lot of good food, drinks and sex😁 coupled with intense gym sessions

My guy. I love good food and intense work out

copyrites:
Everywhere filled up, both in and out of the Stadium

And they are not sharing money oh