₦airaland Forum

ABIA STREAM I

Facosco:
i met with a senior officer in immigration recently and we were discussing the recruitment he told me categorically that immigrations were not carried along in this recruitment that everything was done by the presidency but they may have at a later stage but for now they have no influence so op if anybody told you to pay any money to influece your chance know fully that the person want to scam you

Thank you. He mentioned that its replacement and not recruitment and that its short-term service,does that make any difference?

An acquaintance of mine called me and asked me to send some personal information to him;he said he wanted to fix my name for a job at immigration office in Abuja. He added that they the senior staff have the liberty to submit names of people they wanted for the job with assurance that they would be employed. I have a degree in French. He said that's a plus for me.
After all the initial discussion,he suggested that since I don't reside in Abuja and I can't readily travel to Abuja because of my job,I should deposit #17,500 to an account he would send to me for the form and application process. I hesitated because I don't know the genuity of the statement. Does the cost of form and application for a short term service with the immigration service cost that much? Thank you for your contribution

Wait! Wait! Please,is this kind of outfit bought? Btw,it doesn't look dirty to me.dirty,detergent cud help,it looks torn!

ireneony:
Just because of 10k she was carried away why wouldn't men look us cheap.
No matter the circumstances is very bad to date a married man, thank God I have never dated a married man in my life.
This girl get mind o, after having sex with a lot of partners, you turn born again to deceive the brothers in the church.

I was really looking for a place to put this question,I guess here's a perfect spot. Why does everyone consider ladies repenting(yes after,a not-so-clean past) a phony unrealistic attemp to get something good(especially marriage)? People change perhaps" because the old them is bad and also because the old them can improve"... Experience they say is the best teacher,no one wants deliberately wants to be a "wasted" piece of junk for her future spouse (well there 're some who couldn't care less) but being vulnereble we tend to submit to pressure and emotions like greed and desire for luxury @ our own expense. In the end when we realise and sincerely have a change a heart and want a new relationship with God,then everybody starts to judge and point out what a sinner we've been. What's the place of grace,repentance,forgiveness,being born again in the christiandom if those who were once lost can't come back to God without fear of being castigated and looked down upon?? If God doesn't condemn us when we sincerely come to Him for forgiveness,who 're we to condemn others.

kennygee:
Not these days o.

Nowadays, women want to do well for themselves.

After that, they can consider marriage.

There are even ladies out there who prefer to just have kids and remain single mums.

You from France?

Noted. Thanks

twerkjack:
rubbish so she should displease herself to plz the monkey, because she's the wife? Owes him her body, seriously? ȋ̝̊̅̄
Pity whoever married u.

He's not a monkey,he's her husband. Yea,seriously. U shd 've contributed meaningfully to the thread rather than quoting me to rebuff my comment,dats not productive,my opinion remains. Thank u ma'am

zicoraads:
Cupidora! **Adooashe..Mna icivir**

M hemba u sughn

Maamin:
singing *hate it or love it*

My post resemble d lyrics ni

elampiro:
I buy into this school of thought.

I'll sell for 500k

fr3do:
Stop making yeye generalizations, what do you know about the African society. Is there even a trait that can be attributed to all societies in Africa?

By generalising I just mean its common,not like I'm saying every man does it,there re some who re reasonable enough to seek solutions that 'll benefit them both...as for the other part of ur comment,I dnt understand what u re trying so hard to say sha

TheWisest:
I like you. You know what you want. Dont ever lose him o.

thank u. I plan to keep him

It could be a pure act of generosity on her part 'n he doesn't know the best way to appreciate her than to publicise it. If they had something together I don't think d 500k be a big deal to him sef.

This may sound weird but truth is u're married to him,u owe him ur body. Remember you're in an African society where its either you meet your husband's need all round or watch him take a second wife or worst have affairs outside your matrimonial home. Now that you know what pleases him,you should be cooperative to please him and then try to talk to him about your discomfort with his wild fantasies and desires afterwards not with the intention of doing away with them but so he can teach you how to enjoy what he obviously enjoys too. Be open to new ideas not irritated,you're married so why not explore and find satisfaction in mutual fantasies

No.1. It creates an awareness in me about the kind of choices 'n decisions I make now 'n it gives me the opportunity to do things with a zeal to improve on past mistakes. He is a very responsible young man 'n I bless God everyday for bringing him into my life

I wonder what d OP is doing @ dis moment,how she's feeling Justbimbo pls,be careful dat in ur desperation u dnt end up combining too many of the suggestions as it could be hazarduos to ur health.

tellwisdom:
How can u adopt a baby when u yourself never chop bellefull?? ....u don chop this afternoon??

*chokes on fufu*

Bleshh:
we r 2


oya lets go n play with sand outside

O lawd!

mkpakanaodogwu:
Peacefuly enjoying Love Rocket by Chris Brown and reading comment.a lot of Nigerian girls are boring to be with

Awww...too bad u ended up wit 'alot of Nigerian girls',it must be really hard for you. Maybe u shd go n school in France

teewai3:
Most guys like to do guy things, there may be many things that you can do together that you know he will enjoy. Sure there may be some things that will bring him joy that you may not be so thrilled about. But, remember the idea here is to express love and affection to him, so you may need to sacrifice a little. Consider the smile you bring to his face, the happiness you bring to him should leave you with a feeling of fulfillment. Sharing in his joys, doing some things that he likes to do is certainly a significant way of loving him.
A man needs a supportive woman, a woman who stands beside him and encourages him. Most men have ego’s and they need to be stroked with comments of loving affirmation. Confidence building comments are certainly a significant way of showing him love, especially in the presence of friends or family. Please don’t misunderstand here, you should not set out to flatter him, but to build him up in his true qualities. Alternatively so, you should always avoid any comments that demonstrate a lack of respect, love builds up.

Thank you

VanLucius:
words of affirmation
Receiving gifts
physical touch
quality time
acts of service
these are the 5 love languages
learn his language or his combination of languages and use it.
Physical touch musnt involve sex
peace

Thank u.

[quote author=elshaddai58 post=28064565][/quote]confess u didn't read my long post

dre11:
Then u have to look inward and ask ur self
What are those things I can give, what are those things I can adapt to, what are those things he does appreciate, what are those things that could make him whoa..........

Because what can work for A night not work for B and C

It's u that understands him and u pick up from there

Like looking into his eyes while ure talking and saying some nice words of missing and loving him

And other things which I do know u have heard about

I will always remember its about genuity,spontaneity and consistency.Still there are things I need to learn to make it all work together. True,different strokes for different folks,thats why I'd try out what works and stick with it... I like precision,thank you for d tips

EroticAngelina:
oh dear.. love is a beauriful thing
just look into his eyes, hold his hands n tell him all what ur telling us now, here tell him how much u miss him, how much u long for his touch.. buy him gifts, surprise him with his favorite food, deliciously cooked one day give him small kisses all over his face, its not every time he will be organizing n taking u on dates, sometimes u take him on dates too, if u have the money pay him surprise visits to where ever he is dance or sing for him if u can... just put on a sweet love or party song when u two are alone, n dance for him I use to dance for my bf whenever he came visiting, n he loved it
u can cuddle with him while watching a movie u can give him a massage.. etc
there are millions of ways u can express it love for him
u can read him a love poem etc.

Yeah,I knew eroticAngelina would come and make dis thread beauriful thanx shugar,I love the picture u just painted thanx for the tips

striktlymi:
I admire the decision you guys made to get involved without having s*x. This demonstrates, in a sense, some level of sincerity of purpose from both of you.

To love someone and have them love you back is a beautiful thing which people rarely have. However there is a need for you to ensure that your professed love is devoid of emotions.

It is quite easy to mistake emotions for love. Love requires that we do only what is good to the object of our love. This is all that is needed. Be good to him! Let him hear that you love and care for him.

Don't just stop at that, there is a need to put the words into action. This is not about sex but about wanting and helping him get the most of life. Give him space when he needs it. Encourage him when he is a bit low.

Sometimes you may be the one to take him out on a date and spoil him a little, if you can afford to. Be his trusted advisor. Show genuine interest in his affairs and make quality contributions.

Please realize too that some guys tend to take advantage of the love of their lady. To this I say, be very careful and ensure that you are in the relationship with both your heart and head.

Good luck young lady.

Thank you so much. i really appreciate ur contribution/advice.

Evina:
Why are you so bothered? Has he complained? If you concern yourself so much with showing him how much you have missed him, you would find yourself crossing boundaries you have set.

I suggest you focus on creating fun memorable times when you are together. Go for picnics, outdoor door games and just enjoy each others company.

I just want to enjoy every moment we spend together. Thanks for the suggestions.

uokocha70:
Challenge him to a staring contest

Not bad,thanks

dre11:
Has he ever complained
Or u see any sign of him feeling you have changed



Because if u start doing what u haven't being doing before........ Then u will be putting ideas in his skull

Nah,not a complaint really,but just a passing comment,''u're always I miss u,I wanna c u when I'm gone buh when we're finally together u dnt show it''.

eminentme:
kiss his left ear

I kiss both

elshaddai58:
Always show him caring and most important be yourself.

yes,I soo want to do that,I need precision,if u re the one,what,what n what would u like me to do? Sure I'm always original thanks