I agree with the unnecessary attention part. Relating it to the ladies, I hate having irresponsible, good for nothing guys (sorry to say) constantly making useless advances at me, while the responsible ones assume I must be taken (I have a boyfriend) and I have to put all my effort into changing their perspective of me and staying away from the useless attention seekers. Thats what comes with being good looking, smart and endowed at the same time.

Taking back an Ex is a "no way street" for me. There was a reason for the break up and I dont expect a miracle to happen wen we get back together as regards whatever that caused the break up. I broke up with my Ex a year ago and he kept pleading to come back, he was exploiting the fact that I still loved him, but I stood my ground. Now he has seen reasons wit me, he's in my friend zone now and we hardly talk, but it doesnt keep me from showing concern when the need arises.

I miss his smiles, it drove me crazy back then. I also miss the attention, he sure knows how to take care of a lady.

Ironies of life.

chemystery: chai! But that guy dull o... On the other hand, ihn fit be say you shine am low-voltage green light! Moreover, you should have halted the other guy cos there's someone you are waiting to notice your greenlight. Lol

very funny, actually am still friends with him, and he regrets not taking the bold step back then, but its all in the past now. It took me 3 months to get him off my mind and go for the new guy (who am very much comfortable with) and I dont regret my actions, he was taking too much of my time.

Joenice: Wow...But do you possess these qualities too?

The question says "what qualities can a man possess". Actually, am not a man, when the question is referred to my gender, I'll tell you if I possess those qualities or not. For now, its all about the men.

chemystery: some guys sef... Dem too dull and clueless abi? Hope you didn't keep flashing the light and telling him you have a boyfriend? Cos a gal once did that to me until one of her friends came to tell me secretly she has no boyfriend. I'm so sure that was what you did! If not, you should have told him plane-blank that you ain't taken.

well, I did tell him, but he didnt believe that someone of my personality would not have a man behind her. So while he waited to ascertain if I had someone or not, another person stole my interest, and when he finally came to terms with what I had earlier told him, I was gone.

I have this same question on my mind, but I dont see anything wrong with being just friends with the opposite sex, but most people say there is everything wrong with it. Its all about "mindset", I have male friends, lots of them, they know their boundaries with me, we are getting along fine and I care little about what people think. Its my life, not theirs.

1. Originality.
2. Simplicity.
3. Humour.
4. Good vocabulary.
5. Good dress sense.
6. Charisma (if necessary)
7. Enough cash.
8. Nice smile
#eyesRolling. Did I leave any out?

Lacomus: Jesus can rebuild it in three days

What about the dead? Will Christ also raise them from the dead?

Talking about green lights, I once had a thing for this guy, he also felt the same way cuz I could tell from the attention he gave me but I suppose he thought I was taken. I tried in every way to pass the message across that I was free, but he just didnt get any. I smiled, became extra friendly, tried using pet names too, but none worked. I lost interest in the long run, that was wen he finally realized I was giving him the green light, but it was late then. Some guys sef #SMH