₦airaland Forum

gentilityndu:
Nice write up bro, But truth be told, once you step ur foot 4 western world, shame go dey catch u to tell person say u from Naija. Naija to hell fire dey very Close.... proudly Naija sha oooo

Mizwisdom:
Catholics have been doing this in peace for centuries but now that Pentecostals are copying us, they can't even agree on how to do it

Yupng:
This man is a FOOL period. Surprisingly there are people this gullible in our planet. Any female in this forum supporting the wife or asking him to endure is as dirty as the wife. The risk involve is too much. Just imagine this man is your brother.

hurthubby:
My story is too long but let me try to summarize everything.

(I have been a member of Nairaland since 2009, but i just created this account to hide my identity)

I got married in the year 2000 and wedded in Dec 2001. Before the actual wedding, my wife got a job in Abuja, where she stayed for one year before our wedding and her joining me in Ibadan. During the cause of that year, i have a friend who stays in Abuja that knows my wife very well, who reported about my wife's infidelity to me then, though i ignored it.

In the year 2005, my wife confessed to me that she committed adultery after our wedding. (She was actually about 2 months pregnant in Feb 2002 when she sought my permission to visit her sister in Lagos. I never knew that she actually visited one of her old boy friends and spent 2 days with him).

I was down cast for some days when i heard her confession before i got back myself and forgave and forgot everything.

She later got a job which made her travel often, sometimes spending weeks outside but i never suspected anything even though her boss, (A lady) called me several times to complain about my wife's behavior, which is contrary to that of a married woman but i didn't take her serious because my wife always complained of the harshness of the woman. She later lost the job and joined me in my business, but always going to Lagos to buy jewelry, which she sells in Ibadan.

In the year 2014, i got some texts from a concerned fellow about how my wife have been sleeping with his neighbor for over 2 years in Lagos. It happens that the fellow knows us very well and didn't want to cause any problem in our marriage but the the acts became too much, he had to let me know. When i confronted my wife with all the evidence and some dates, she owned up and pleaded for forgiveness. She confessed that the affair started when she was working for the lady i mentioned earlier and anytime she travels to Lagos for her jewelry business, she always go and sleep with the man. She promised to turn a new leaf.

In the year 2018, i discovered that she had been communicating with the same man, to the extent that he even knew that my wife traveled to Owerri for a wedding. I discovered that they had reconnected back and chats always. When i confronted my wife, she said that they have nothing, just chats, which i made her to stop (I don't know if they actually stopped).

Before i married her, a man actually dumped her and married her friend, 6 years earlier. The next boy friend left her and traveled abroad for over 2 years, without any communication (before i met and married her) but unfortunately, it didn't work out for him and he came back and discovered that shes married. He started pestering her,pretending that he wanted to marry her, that he traveled to make money for both of them, but been that she's already married, she introduced the man to her cousin and he married the cousin.

Now the issue is that my wife is flirting with her former boyfriends, sending pornographic pictures and nude pictures with dirty chats. I used to monitor her chat but to save myself from HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE, i stopped checking her phone.

My wife even told the one that dumped her for her friend that she still loves him so much. She also tells the one that married her cousin the same thing and regrets that distance is so much between them. (The one that married the cousin is based in Kano while the one that married her friend is based in Abuja) Whenever i confront her, she will deny anything serious but when she sees my evidence, she will beg for forgiveness. My business is down and she provides about 70% of the house up keep (She is a teacher). We have 4 children, the eldest being 17. I have been trying to sell my house or land to reestablish my business but it has not been easy. My wife now does as she like, even having male friends here in Ibadan and keeps too much secret? What should i do.

I know this is long, but its just a summary. Forgive any typo.

aysnoopy:
I swear, not that I'm looking for excuse. for me to break a 4yrs relationship coz of similar issue, u should know I've principle abt that. and I've told her dis is what I can't take for her not to Bleep up but still went ahead....

lecksam:
After giving Nigeria more trial maybe it will be better I stayed back till now but no any difference but getting worse day by day .. Nairalanders. I have open my door. If you wanna Travel To Gambia, you join Me. I will be Travelling by first week of September so! Come one! Come all!!


P s: Gambia is not Europe or USA oo and I’m going there to do legal work but I believe their teaching jobs is not paying graduate 20k I’m receiving now.. with God and Hardwork I will be better than i am here..

oviecardealer:
please I do not understand what you wrote.

oviecardealer:
Estimate about 4m to land Lagos duty inclusive.

sydneyboss:
I read this your comment severally before I came into conclusion, yes I know Nigeria name is bad in the international scene, but why are you sounding like you have personal thing against those asking how's life over there? Do you think it is easy anywhere? Why did u travel if it was easy for you here in Nigeria? And why are you still there if it is not favoring you? If you can't tell us hoe life over there is, please allow those who want to, the essence of this thread is to help and make it prepared. E do biko

blizard44:
The bottom line is : Wherever you find yourself, be happy.

PS:
But try to get your a$$ outta this f.ucked country .
You'd be happier for it .

If I use mistake land for South Africa , I'm not sure I would be able to contain my Joy.

I go turn Sia and Zain combine.
Why south Africa of all places?

I can't dance but with my croaky voice, I'll sing down the world.

benn007:
Please be careful of the drugs you request to be brought in for you before you get the person into trouble as some drugs re banned....TAKE NOTE.
Which of the drugs are banned?

drehdinho:
I will like to relocate to Senegal. Please, I need contacts of trusted people I can stay with pending the time I get myself familiarized with the environment.

I am a graduate. I am self employed. And I am comfortable financially. So, I would absolutely be responsible for my feeding and everything needed in terms of finance.

All I need is a place I can stay till I get my own rented apartment.
Can u speak French?


Thanks.

Fredgod:
Haven't been active for a while. Sorry about that. I'm here now