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Greensquard:
YES..every one has a price regardless of what they say..

cfree14:
Guy next time learn how to summarize. Other matters dey ground to settle

Gentlec198:
Am Loosing You, My Body Is For My Husband As She Breaks Up, Barely One Month

Good Morning All, My dear Nairalanders in the forum.
Hope you guys are staying safe.

Am writing this long heartbroken article, exactly the way it happens to seek for your advice and opinion.
Early last month April, 2020, I was in relationship with a girl, who used to my best friends junior sister. I sometimes met her in their house when I pay a visit to see her brother (best friend), then I had nothing like any emotional feelings for her, just exchange greetings and I will leave with my friend to my house.

Gradually I became interested and develop feelings for her, one day I had to summon courage and I called her to tell her how I feel, she too has already feeling the same and likes me too, but was worried because of her brother, which I later meet him as a best friend, with the help of his girlfriend and we talked to him, but then he was very angry.

On the 13th April, 2020, even before her brother agreed she came to my house for us to discuss, which she told me, she does not have anything to offer in the upcoming relationship (intimacy), reason been that according to her she is a virgin, and that is the reason why she break up, her last three dates, with the guys, as she caught one among them cheating and other ones she lost communication with them, but any other things she can contribute like advice, finance etc., and even asking what the future holds for us, why I liked her, my plans towards her.

She has good heart, kindhearted and respectful, I love this girl, cherish, care, and I promised not to hurt her, and I was serious to date her, respect her, help and never to cheat on her,
At the first week things went smooth and rosy, full of lovey lovey, she cooked and bring food for me, and even transferred 2k, to my cousin brother, who needed help, when I don’t have it at that point in time
I observed that she is kind of hiding her phone when chatting, even when her phone rings, I will ask her to pick, but she will ignore the call.
The second week, I bought her some body cares and give her money (2.5k) to make her hair.
I do send her text messages morning sometimes at night and call her every day to keep communication active.

The third week, if I call and text, she will not pick or even text back, she will only call when she feels and give excuse, like she is sleeping, when she is not, she started avoiding me, even when I came back from work, she will not feel like her guy is back, no form of romantic act, because I do check her in their street and when am going out to stay for few days, she will be telling me to stay long over there, without feeling she going to miss me, wishing if I had lived far from her, which could be fine for her.

One day I called she didn’t pick, i became worried and angry, I had go out to ask her brother’s girlfriend who called her and she came out, saying if It was me, she wouldn’t have come out, with a frowning face, I asked what is the matter, no response, we were there when, another guy called her and she took permission to see the guy twice, who was asking her, her number, in his friend favor in a car, and the brothers girlfriend told her it is a wrong act, for her to leave me her boyfriend as we are discussing to answer another guy.

Same day she asked me, if I will be angry, if another guy give her phone as a gift that the guy is her church member and he has a girlfriend, so they don’t have anything attached. I told her yes I will be angry and after some arguments and for peace to reign I asked to go ahead to do what she wants to do, since she insisted, even after telling her I will buy, she said she don’t want me to spend money, even the food I bought she refused eating as usual.

This a girl that will come visiting, after romance and being in the mood, she will decline, and said she is not ready, she is afraid and she has sworn according to her until she is married, even asked me to suck her kpetus, and get wet, but will not make out, and this has happened thrice, she will apologies that she can’t give her body, she is a VIRGIN, all the time we are together always virgin matter, but she will be angry and jealous if she sees me with another babe.
And I noticed she don’t open up, sometimes she will be hiding something’s and when I asked her, the only answer I get all the time is nothing, even when I called her to come, she will declined not coming, I will call and still text her, but will ignore and tell me she has no airtime, which I know she has, because I do send her card.

One Sunday afternoon she came with a threatening and frowning face to drop the bombshell, after forcing her to talk why her face is like that, she said WHAT IF I TELL YOU I DON’T WANT TO DATE YOU AGAIN, since she cannot give me her body, that we can be friends, I tried with my best friend girl to convinced her to see reasons with me since am not forcing her, she said she don’t know when she will be ready, and she advised we show move on with our lives separately, no hopes of when she will be ready either in a month or year. this make me shear tears, because i remembered something as she cried she is about losing me, while the other of her friend is crushing on me already she said.

I called and text her that I will wait, but she didn’t respond, next day she text back we should move on our lives, I called her for us to see and finalize it and sort things out, she rudely and angrily decline that she cannot come to anywhere or either to see me. I was very angry the way she responded and reacted on phone concerning the whole issues and I told her, she wasn’t any virgin and never loved me, just deceiving me, maybe her boyfriend is back and don’t want to open up, she replied that am the only guy she had and replayed that she is disappointing in me for saying such.
The next day my friend called her twice before she picked, and on the background he had a female voice asking her why is she till picking up the call and since then none of us has called each other again.

Please I need your opinion and advice, because she had made up her mind, after several pleading and advice.
I will upload some text message chatting we exchanged, when next I login, if it is necessary. Because it has a lot of facts.

ijustdey:
https://www.vanguardngr.com/2020/05/school-feeding-programme-why-fg-is-sending-raw-food-to-parents-at-home-ngige/

Karda20:
I'm disappointed in you. You went to her place to beg her? You met her crying? Have you ever heard of "emotional manipulation?"That's one of the dangerous gift Satan gifted ladies, probably when they discussed in the garden of Eden.

Lifedonor:
Pls refer to my thread about my girlfriend cheating on me even in the church

https://www.nairaland.com/5880851/girlfriend-just-confessed-she-fornicated

Finally last night she called me and was still pleading so I went to her place.

The door was open and I walked in only to see her crying so badly.
I talked to her and avdised her this talk went on for almost 4hrs.

I finally forgave her and decided to take her in again. But on the condition that she leaves the church. Its a redeemed church and its just here i n our area. I told her to join me at my branch (same redeemed) or she should choose any other church and that I was going to follow her.

To my shock she agreed to change she promised nothing of such can happen again and that she still loves me but can't change her church. She still wants to remain there and work out her salvation... I told her if that is the case then the relationship can't continue and that I was going to leave And then block her from my WhatsApp. She agreed and I left then I blocked her.

It Hurst still but I would remain like this

Modified*****

She finally came to my place this morning. Though I did the calling.
She has agreed to change the church and attend mine.
I must say that I wasn't regular with my attendance in church. She also pointed that I have to be steady with going to church too.

Conclusively we are back and better ..
Everyone should know that it takes God to have a peaceful and fulfilling relationship.
I may sound weak but hey! I know why I had to go through this to get her back.
I have equally cheated to the point she caught me pants down. and I really haven't been paying attention.

Guys the alpha male should a time to reflect too. Its saves a lot.

Maclink288:
Good day everyone, I'm a guy of 22years before now I've promised my parents that all through my stay in school I won't endulge in anything sexual but as of last 2 month something happened, I made out with a lady(didn't penetrate) but since then my mind hasn't been at rest, I over think, I'm loosing control, my heart beats faster, I've told my parents about it but yet I'm not calm.

In Addition: I took a substance (Man power) on that day, I don't know if it's what is affecting me. It's over 6weeks now.

I've run to God and made a vow to him if I get free...
Please Nairalanders, help me out

Donbabaj:
I could be happy now but the next minute, she changes mood all of a sudden. We dated for over year after someone match make us but this mood swing things continued overtime so sometimes I get confused even as i really tried managing the pressure. She's a nice girl, takes good care of me, buy clothes, cook, always want me to look good but the problem is the rate which she switches mood easily.

Financially, we are both average earner but I think she earns better pay than I.

For instance, recently we got a new apartment- 2bedroom flat but whenever I say something she doesn't like or she doesn't want to hear, she just reacts like why would I say such a thing, all the while we were dating, we never stayed with each other as we stayed in our parents house. Fast forward* most times, as the man, after switching mood, I try to pacify her by petting and apologising but she doesn't just want to listen. Just today, we were playing with each other on the bed, touching each other (not sensitive part) and she wanted me to kiss her. So I told her jokingly that "but you know this is not biblical" as an advocate of no sex until after marriage. I have never had sex with her either. The next thing she said, "why are you talking like this" she stood up, went straight to the sitting room and slept there. I went to meet her there to pacify her again but she wouldn't listen. Please note that I have not and can never beat or abuse her cos I'm a Christian.

I'm just tired. She's really getting on my nerves. Our wedding is 3 weeks time but I dont just know what to do. People, friends and family are already aware of the impending marriage but I'm afraid that if a lady can switch mood like this, who knows what will happen tommorrow. I cant sleep in peace...

Please advice. This is happening right now.

Lifedonor:
I will have to go straight to the point.

The lockdown due to covid 19 made my girl friend and I bond even closer to the extent she practically was almost living with me. She only leave my place to her house (not too far from mine) just to change her clothes or her other items as the case maybe.
Sometime along the line I fell ill and she was very much helpful.

Fast forward to early May, I discovered she had become too glued to her phone. We would be seeing a movie on TV and her phone will be with her (chatting) at a point I complained. This got worse to the extent that when I wake up in the night say 1AM this girl is still up charting.

Two days ago I went to the hospital for my final check up and I left with the keys since she wasn't around when I left the house. When I got back I found her small Nokia phone on the table and I decided to go through it.

The messages I found there are things I won't want to talk about but the major one that promoted this thread is that I saw a message from her choir member telling her that he is on his way to church already and that she should come fast before the program starts so they can meet. I went through his previous messages with her and lo and behold they have been dating for a month now.

Guys when she got back I threatened fire and brimstone and booommm! The confession.
They usually meet an hour before choir practises and they went behind the church towards the generator house to kiss touch and romance that was the reason she always left the house so Early.

Do you guys know that we had a very good sex that same day she left to the church to kiss this guy. Do you know she bathed in my house, she used my deodorant, she ate my food and wore the clothes I bought for her. Apparently she kissed and romanced two guys in less than 3hrs.

This is the second time she is cheating on me. I know quite sure there could be more but this is the only one she agreed to may be cos there was a text evidence.

She has been pleading and begging. But if she could do this even in the church and on a day I was in the hospital ... I am thinking of quitting. Pls advise me

She is 22 in her finals the guy is 25 same university (I live in a university town)

I have met her parents and I have verbally told her that I would marry her. If not for the way 2020 turned out I wanted settling down November this year. We have dated for 2yrs

She even spoke to my mom in the morning of the same day.

Scientists:




I am very worried. Will this affect our marriage life? Because i love sex too much especially MouthAction.

Hypnotise:
I will open a strong bible passage and begin to kabash and bomb blast. If he/she comes any closer, I'll throw the bible so the evil spirit can catch fire.

Herodutus:
Please guys and ladies, this is not just another how to stop watching porn kind of thread. there is this experience i have been having over time now. Most times when am watching ponography, i often feel a sharp cut on my skin, as though a person use a blade to cut me. When the cutting happens, i will feel the sharp pain and when i look, the lines will be fresh and redish.
At times, i can feel this cut at 3 different locations at a time. This has happened consistently now. Has anyone ever experienced this before while watching porn?
I think that their are certain spirits that are behind these porn movies. And each time we watch it, we open up our souls to these foul spirits to manipulate us at will.
This happens to me only when am watching porn, and when i look at the location where the sharp pain is coming from, the scar will still be as fresh as...cant explain it.
I need your views on this plz

Modesthy:
I had a good uncle who passed away three years ago. His wife morned him for one year. I lived with that my uncle until I got married and parked to my own house.

I use to visit the house sometimes. After the mourning, his wife called me and told me that I should give her more children. She has only one male child. I refused. But She said I should do it for her because she doesn't want children outside the family because she loved my uncle and our family and that she can't continue to stay with only one child.

I'm completely confused. First I'm married doing that is infidelity, sencondly, the uncle was like a father to me before his death. And I see it as a big sin.

Please somebody should help me, what do I do here? How do I handle this issue? Thanks for your candid advice.

odogwu9:
Likely Endangered Species Monkeys Killed Today In My Village - Pictures

These monkeys were killed today by hunters in my village in Amaediaba,Nkpa, Bende LGA, Abia State. Looking at these monkeys it's quite clear these are endangered species but there are no endangered species when hungry hunters are on the prowl. The game is even a mother monkey and it's young one. I think it's a Marmosets Monkey.

Janet96:
It is a show of true love.

macfish101:
Technically he has the right to kill the intruder and go scotch free under the law. Chai..... Cheating no go ooo.

Roon9:
I can't even start imagining what I'd do if she was my wife

omoburuku:
my oga, abeg I don't want to be added to covid 19 patients.

sweetsuny:
He may see break up in the card when he returns from work one day and see his "wife" lunching some punches on his mother's face ��

Racoon:
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.vanguardngr.com/2020/05/stop-asking-me-about-chinese-doctors-minister-of-health-tells-nigerians/amp/

ElectroLyte:
Nigerian fuji music legend, Alhaji Wasiu Ajani Tekoye aka Pure Water, passes away at the age of 52.

The musician died in the early hours of today, Thursday, May 14, at his residence in Moshalashi, Alimosho Local Government of Lagos State.

He will be buried according to Islamic injunctions at the family house on Friday, May 15.

Source: https://thestreetjournal.org/2020/05/fuji-legend-wasiu-tekoye-is-dead/

evansjeff:
lol...not at all. You may want to try me with your girlfriend. In fact I have no mercy when it comes to girls both in decisions and in bed. The issue with me is basically on violence whether against human or animals.

ken711:
I have been dating a girl for about 18 months now. Very pretty but my brothers, let me tell you... Look before you leap when it comes to pretty girls.

From the minute I met this girl it has been one money request after another. If it was small sums I guess I wouldn't really mind, as I have always worked for blue chip companies and can afford it. The thing is, her requests are always very big!.....20k this, 20K that.....but my brothers, I have to tell you the one that has made me even disappointed in myself.

She lives with her parents and they are the most dysfunctional family I have ever heard of... Everyday one person is fighting the other, and this my girlfriend, as fine as she is, is the most arrogant, prideful, violent & rude person I have ever met. She hounded me everyday that I must get her an apartment of her own, so she can escape her home, and I agreed to but by saving monthly.

Would you believe, one night, when she was working at a bar as an usher for guinness, she gave her number to 2 different men just because of this apartment. My spirit kept telling me that she gave her number out, but she kept lying...only for me to catch her texting one of the men when we were at church of all places.......

She even went as far as going to meet this rich man at a hotel, but the man ran away when she made that request, and I as a fool decided to finally do it for her. (I suspect she cheated on me that night and I always tell it to her face because she has cheated on me twice before)

I live on the Island and tried to get her to rent here as well, as I really want to keep an eye on her..... She has too many guys around her who live in that area and she is this kind of person who cheats out of revenge, even over small things.....this girl refused and threatened to break things off!....bro, as a mumu I sent the money to her to rent the place and for other things, about 400K.....

Ever since that money left my account, it's like my eyes cleared!!! I couldn't believe that instead of saving my hard earned money, I went and sent it to a girl that has cheated on me twice (or even more), lied to me, slapped me and done so many things.....but I just decided to leave everything for God, seeing as she was desperate.

The problem now is that the demands for that apartment is now becoming too much!!! The expenses just to get the place finished are such a burden on my financial and mental state...

The worst happened about two days ago, she wanted me to pay 20k. Infact I just got so tired of bills that I kinda was stalling on it, but what happened next truly shocked me. Would you believe this girl started punching me, slapping me and even tore my shirt cos of 20k. She even threatened to break my office laptop (working from home) until I sent the money, after that she left........

Now she is trying to apologize so that I will pay for bed and gas and the remaining things....my brothers, I know u will say am a fool!...I accept...I am a handsome guy, studied abroad, I just don't know why loneliness made me fall in love with such a sadistic user... My only problem is, do I pay for the bed and just finish what I started or just free the whole thing and the nearly 500K I have already spent...

Please help!

steveneche:
Help My Friend Decide: 5million Or A 100k Job?

A friend of mine just got an offer from his late brother's company few months after his demise.

His late brother having been a prominent personality (head of finance) in the company he worked before he died, made the company to offer his younger brother my friend two options..

1. 5million naira cash or

2. a 100k job per month in the Same company.

we need your professional advice pls