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omale88:
Boy...you have a long and awesome life ahead of you,from the way you sound this is your first heart break experience I believe, if you are old enough to chase a girl then stop being a child and man up, learn from the mistakes you've learned in this past relationship,its quite naive though to think you'd be her only male friend,on or offline, she met some men before she met you,some are just business associates and your in experience may have cost her,how could you be self-centered? You can't go replying people on a post you didn't create just like that,that was extremely childish, you should have just sent her a DM the same way she did ,capish?and you will then go ahead sending your number and address to a total stranger to come and kill you?how old are you really? The girl may have been disappointed in you thats why she didn't pick your calls,you are so insecure and thats not good for a woman, you have to man up and give your woman some space sometimes, stop being judgmental on issues you are not clear about,the guy who answered you could be a cousing, I have a nice a boy was always call she didn't like the boy so I answered the call and that was the end of him calling her,you have to up your game man,you seriously need that,if you feel down call your mum,you made some mistakes alright but you deserve some care,talk to your mum about what you are going through I'm sure this would help your current situation, don't call your girlfriend, you can only do that after talking to your mum,or aunty about it,this is a matter of the heart,you are an imotional man don't let that weigh on you.

this is not my first heartbreak, but I felt something has bond me together with her. I saw myself connected and committed to her... there's no need to call mom or anyone. the advice's I got here is okay for me to move on. but it will be very hard to move on. with what you wrote here has made me regret replying those comments. but I apologized to her and she agreed. Now what's your take? should I go back to her or move on?

CyberWolf:
Good.. Wish you all the best.

thank you sir.. God bless us all..

rtdCivilservant:
for this I really admire u, so happy we still have people like u. kudos

thank you sir/ ma.. I really appreciate.. God bless

Evercurious:
Is this advice good enough?

it's good. I understood what he meant very well. And I chose some parts that is good for me..

Evercurious:
Dont give 'BLIND TRUST'.. Trust is EARNED. That doesn't mean you shouldn't trust any lady you meet.. Just make sure they pass some tests to earn your trust..

OH Okay Sir... I will... Your advice is highly taken.

breakerofchains:
I'm not a bro.

okay sir/ma.. Thank you so much

SmellySperm:
then calm down, you're way too young for this love scam, focus on ur Education first

okay sir/ma.. I will do as you said.. Good advice. God bless

donbachi:
na e make d girl too use her head.

Lol. My goodness. You got me laughing

CyberWolf:
The bolded is applicable if you’re marrying a virgin if not, you’re making a very big mistake.. In fact it’s a time bomb. If you don’t want to have sex, forget about relationship and focus on your studies and career.. This is a brotherly advice.

thanks for the advice sir.. I really appreciate your kind advice. I will try to do just what you said.. I take your advice personal. Thank you so much

YorubaWarrior:
The best advice so far. You're very correct.. The OP is young and naïve with a very good heart. I was gonna poke fun at him but, he won me over. I actually admire him.

OP, if you don't mind long distance relationship... I can hook you up with a good chic thousands of miles west of your world... . You're a good lad. Keep it up!

funny you sir... I wouldn't mind going into a new long distance relationship again... But I have learnt not to trust any girl again from the advice's I got here... Going into a long distance relationship with a honest girl would be good, but can't trust her no matter what... Thank you for your kind advice sir... I really appreciate all your advice sir..

SmellingAnus:
don't worry boy... Many of us passed through this stage... I suffered worse heart break that I had to beg another girl that claims to love me to give me love portion so that I will love her back ...

You will only come out stronger ... When you are stronger... These words of wisdom will help you all through your relationships with the female folks...

https://www.nairaland.com/4189254/words-wisdom-experience-surely-need

thank you sir. I really appreciate your kind advice. Respect.. God bless

PrinceGeorge1:
Ok. Correct guy! Thunder wee not fire u again.

I'll tell my guys to release u now, go and sin no more...

Lol. Funny guy.. Thank you bro

GiantParrot:
You take feedback very well. Well done! Ignore the insults you're getting. Don't be surprised to find out that some of those insulting you went through a similar phase like you're experiencing now. Good luck with your future relationships.

yeah I laughed over the insults as if it was a joke. I didn't take it serious. This is a public place. And I don't attack or insult people online. I'm not used to that. I ignored all and took the better advice you gave me... Thank you so much Sir, you're really a wonderful person. Wish I can get your contact and take you as a couch... God bless you...

CyberWolf:
Just befriend them (girls) as many as possible without a mindset of making anyone your girlfriend, just see them as casual friends and don’t be too caring. They should be the one fighting for you. Also don’t allow any woman control you. If you do something and they asked for apology, don’t apologize even if you’re wrong rather, argue yourself out and try as much as possible to give her reasons why you’re not wrong, rather she is the one wrong.. But no matter what, don’t ever apologize especially on meaningless issues. That way, she will know that you’re not a pushover and will start respecting you.

this one tried her best to control me, but I refused.. Over a little issue she would want me to apologize, and she can never accept that she was wrong.. Though I have apologized to her twice, and she too. But I found out that she was trying to control me, I said no to myself. Since then anything that came up, it's either we quarrel till will reconcile like that and continue.

Skmoda360:

Surest muff: a woman can never be your happiness ok

okay sir... Thank you for letting me know about that Sir

PrinceGeorge1:
Can somebody give me a gun lemme shoot dis guy

I swear if u call dat girl again thunder will fire you!

Cc: Lucifermessiah
. LuciferRamadan

I just deleted her number by the help of the advice I got from here... I will never try to get her number again. I have deleted both her pictures and number, both the one's I posted on Facebook. I have wiped everything off... Thank you for the advice.

clive2u:
the first girl i had sex with said she was a virgin to bt wen i went in i found out she was a pro. And dnt expect to marry the girl u date nw in future, sadly u stil have a lot of heartbreaks to experience. Buckle up ma nigga

thank you bro... God bless you. I have heard what you said.

clive2u:
i cnt insult u bro, i once made that promise too bt broke mine at 21. If u cn stick to yours then u are d mvp. Jst trust me, the hoe aint worth it. She'l want to fvck u if u stick with her and trust me such girls like it raw. Focus on positive things and a good girl that deserve u wil surely cme around.
Ps: we all could be judging her wronly bt the odds is nt in her favour

she told me that she's a Virgin, I don't know if she said the truth or not.. That's why I loved her so Much, I said I have found a Virgin to marry, unknown that my thought was just deceiving me... I will keep my promise to God. I pray he guide me and draw me out of Temptations.

CyberWolf:
OP don't you have lovely girls around where you live? .. I wonder how some people feel comfortable in a distance relationship? ... Just get other girls that will keep you busy and trust me, you won't even remember that girl again. She should be the one calling you and not you killing yourself.

girls are many here, but I wanted to make her my life partner. But since it's like this I have moved on with the advice you all have given me here... I'm an introvert, I rarely talk to talk to people talk more of talking to girls.. It will be hard to go into a new relationship, because I don't talk too much

leonard002:
delete the number, unfriend on social media and move the hell on... never make the mistake of begging a girl to accept you.... Jesus noo

Guy move out and see the beauties out there waiting for you to make a move... this particular girl ain't worth it bro

And na Owerri you even dey. mtchew

Bro, man the hell up!

Lol... Thank you bro. But It will be hard to go into another relationship. I'm an introvert, I rarely talk to girls... But I have heard you. I have moved on

clive2u:
1. U didnt break up with her, she broke up with you.
2. Have you fvcked her before.
3. Dnt go close to sniper.
Man up and let her go, i've been in ur position b4(bt nt as bad as urs sha). Stop being a wimp

I have not had s*x with her. We just met during Xmas last year, I asked her out and she accepted and I went back to owerri, and she went back to Lag.. We're just in a long distance relationship. And I have no intention of fvcking her. I have never fvcked before. All I need is Love. I promised my God Never to have s*x till marriage. You can insult me, but that's between me and my God.

Mcslize:
Delete the girl's number and forget about her. Inquire if he has told her, if he has not ,then tell him not to. But if he has, nothing spoil, just forget about the girl and move on.

The said girl will contact you 5 to 7 months later after you've moved on. Not now, she will definitely contact you in the future. She will still keep your number in her phone. But never make the mistake of accepting her back or make the mistake of porfessing love to her if she contacts you later in the future. If she does, you can decide to make her as a casual side chick by that time.

One of my ex wey don marry still dey keep in touch with me till now. I can't forget how many times I don delete her number but she still dey reach out to me on Whatsapp. Any time she contacts me, I usually don't know she is the one. I will then ask who is this and she will say ur ex so you've forgotten me?

I respect her for the fact that she is now a married lady, and I don't go beyond asking her how she is doing. Once I ask how she is doing and she replies, that's the end of the chat. I don't go beyond that.

Don't ever loose your power to a girl. They don't like it. It turns them off.

my goodness. With this your advice bro/ sir. I just feel like I have forgotten her already... I have regained myself with your advice.. Thank you so much sir... I really appreciate your kind advice. God bless you... I'm really happy now. I will kindly do as you just said..... Modified: I have asked the boy, but he is not online right now, but I'm sure he never tell the girl. So I dropped the message for him, when he comes online he will see it. Thank you bro

donbachi:
The girl just use u shine 4 xmas...u were her father xmas.

she we started dating I haven't spent up to 1k on her. I'm not the kind of guy that spend on girls. I dey use my head. Just that the Love I have for her

SageMK:
You are in denial but let me spell it out clearly for you —

1.That girl never loved you at all.
2.You are not the only one dating that girl.
3.She broke up with you. Not the other way around.

So my advice is, whatever you do, don't call her.

Fúck what you feel guy. Have some self-esteem. Don't let any woman drive you insane, much less someone who cheated on you. Live is too short to tolerate bullshìt.

thank you bro

donbachi:
The girl just use u shine 4 xmas...u were her father xmas.

I never for once bought her anything. Since we staged dating, I haven't spent up 1k for where she dey... Just that the love I have for her

breakerofchains:
Just focus on making money and getting good grades.

You'll be fine.

thank you bro... I pray and look up to God

Mcslize:
daddyfreeman1, wow wow wow is this for real? I can see you have a soft heart. I just newly deleted a girl's number I have known for 2 years from my phone as I am typing this. Did I feel bad? Not at all. I wiped it off cuz it's of no use. I gave her lots of advice then wiped off the number immediately I was done for taking me for granted.

When I delete numbers, I find out that they usually contact me some months later after I must have forgotten about them.

I have no choice but to ask who they are. Delete that girl's number ASAP. It's your emotions playing over you. It's normal for you to feel this way if you've never trained your heart to absorb girls wahalas like what you are experiencing now.

Never allow your emotions to take the most part of you. Learn how to control your emotions. You are crying like a baby right now I swear, and I must tell you, you are embarrassing me as a full grown adult.

Develop a stiff heart when it comes to matters that concerns women. Please, calm down. You are just a side boyfriend not the babe real boyfriend. Girls do date up to 3 to 4 guys at a time. When you meet a girl, never have the impression that you are the only one she is seeing. In fact, I like giving girls that freedom cuz you can't actually make them to stick to you alone except for the few ones that know what they want from a relationship.

Distance relationships hardly work without one partner not cheating on the other. You should have just made her your casual female friend instead of investing your emotions in her.

Allow yourself to heal and stop being emotionally attached to her. You can actually do nothing at this point cuz anything you try to do right now will definitely ends up making things worse. Just take a chilled bottle of smiroff ice, sip and calm your burning nerves for now. That's not worth worrying about.

thank you bro... I have heard what you said. I have deleted her pictures though, but I don't want yp lose hr contacts, but with this advice, I will delete her numbers and everything concerning her. I will learn to control my emotions... Thank you so much... But I have told her closed friend to tell her that I want her back. But I'm not sure if he had told her. What should I do? Should I tell him to leave it??

SageMK:
You are in denial but let me spell it out clearly for you —

1.That girl never loved you at all.
2.You are not the only one dating that girl.
3.She broke up with you. Not the other way around.

So my advice is, whatever you do, don't call her.

Fúck what you feel guy. Have some self-esteem. Don't let any woman drive you insane, much less someone who cheated on you. Live is too short to tolerate bullshìt.

thank you bro

SmellySperm:
ur age first!

I'm 21

Originalsly:
Hmmm.....how old are you?..... don't add on years and say you're 15....say the truth. I'll advise after.

I'm 21

Halezis:
OP You don't have sense I swear

Thank you... But I know what I did there. I just did it in order to find out if she has a boyfriend, and I got what I want.

Please never mind my English and Punctuations, it's very urgent...

I broke up with my girlfriend. But I feel like calling her back... I met this girl during Xmas last year 2018, we have dated for 6months now. I asked her out and she did small shakara and accepted my request. I went back to owerri where I base, and she went back to Lag where she based with her parents. Now we're in a long distance relationship.

What happened was that, she posted a picture, and came to my inbox and told me to go and check her picture she updated. So I went and saw the picture and commented, then other guys started commenting, I started replying them "no matter how cute she is, at last she's mine" so she told me in my inbox to delete those comments, I obeyed her and deleted the replies. Please does that shows she doesn't love me or is he's trying to hide something from me?? I need answer please... So a guy messaged me that that girl is his girlfriend, that I should leave her. So I asked the guy how he met her? And he said that he met her in Lag and asked her out and she agreed. So the guy even threatened to send his men to kill me if I don't stay away from her.. base on I'm not a guy who usually fear threatening I gave him my number and my address to come that I'm waiting for him, but he blocked me and later unblocked me, and apologized. So we both talked Normal and he narrated everything to me. So he asked my girlfriend who she is to me, and the girl said I'm just her friend. So I called my girl to confirm, she picked up but service was bad, I hanged the call. I later called her, her friend picked up telling me that I was speaking with her sister, I now said that my girl doesn't have an elder sister, she's the only child of her parents. She now said the truth and told me that my girl went out to buy something for her mom, I cut the call, I called her again later, the same girl picked up and told me that she's not yet back, then the 3rd time I called, a guy picked it up this time around. He said hello and I greeted him, he hanged the call. I called the 4th one, the same guy picked it up he didn't say anything I hanged the call. Then the 5th one I called again, the same guy picked it up and told me never to call that number again that if I love my life I should not call the Number. So I had no choice than to chat my girl up on Facebook, I explained to her how I feel, that I called her and she gave my call to her boyfriend to answer. So after my whole explanation, I told her that I don't want anymore. That she should go her way. We promised each other never to cheat, but she has cheated on me. So she replied "since you didn't find out what you just said. I don't have a boyfriend, but whatever it is, I must dig it out" so as I was trying to reply her, she blocked me. Please my fellow nairalanders, I broke up with her, but it wasn't my intention. I love her so much, and I don't want to leave her. I love her so much, please I want to call her back and continue from where we stopped. I'm here to hear your advice. Should I call her back or move on? Because right now I'm heartbroken, I don't know what to do again, I have been starving myself, since since yesterday till now, I have not had anything called food. I want her back, but I don't know how to do it. Would it be a shameful thing to me if I call her back? Should I give another chance and call her back? I can't do without her. She's my happiness. Please should I call her back or just move on? If your advice is to call her back, please tell me how to do it. Please... sometimes we quarrel and reconcile, yesterday I told her that I don't want again. But I'm feeling the pain, I can't get over the pain. I haven't loved any girl the way I love her.

Please your advice is needed urgently. Help a brother. I feel like calling her back because I can't deal with the pain and I love her so much.

Please should I call her back? Right now I'm depressed.

Please mature minds only.

I will appreciate if moved to front page.