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uboma:
You are welcome Sir.

May you find what you seek.

Don't forget to update us on how it pans out eventually.

Sure sir,trust me to keep you updated and in touch. Hope you wouldn't mind God-fathering our kid (s)

uboma:
@ daddytime,


you may find what you seek here,


https://www.nairaland.com/3447909/want-man-co-parent-me

Want to take out time to appreciate you sir Uboma for drawing my attention to the above thread.

I created this thread on the 3rd of November on this family section not knowing someone from the opposite sex was somewhere going through and planning same,creating a thread to that effect on the 5th of November. To the name callers and doubting thomases out here,it's so wrong to go judgemental on people you hardly even know a bit of their life's stories. That you have it all rosy and falling in place for you doesn't mean it's same for everyone else,neither does it translate to the less fortunates being labelled as failures or swaggerless ones.
Thanks everyone who supported and encouraged me here,you are all hugely appreciated.

Dimples999:
So any luck? Have any women been in contact? Please update us. This is a pioneering theory you have taken on.

It's only fair i update and keep you followers posted on how it's panned out thus far..

On the first day of my creating this thread,i knew i should be expecting all sorts and true to expectation i wasn't disappointed as i got a coupla mails in my box with the senders curious to know what prompted my quest and how i could dare such.
I did try in my little way to explain the rationale behind my quest with some understanding and respecting my decision,while some others were straight up rude.

Had one contact whom i thought was serious after answering all the many questions she had posed to me only to have her tell me she wasn't interested any longer,and her reason was because i told her my age when she didn't ask me. I jejely shake my head say no wahala God dey.

I'm talking to someone else who's open and not judgemental,we are still getting to know eachother and hopefully take it a notch further from there,but so far its been cool chemistry-wise and i'm loving it.

TomHagen:
I wanted to give her a scathing response but since you already have, make I leave am.

My brother make we dey look dem with corner eye dey yimu dey go..dem wan use us learn turenci and typing..

aflyingbird:
BC he has placed his cards on d table means he won't deceive ? how do u know he has placed all his cards on d table ? were u born yesterday ? some guys do this to feign honesty but dey cud be up to something . in fact ihad an ex who was very honest , made me think he was a good guy n iwas his only girl only for me to find out the was cheating wiv another chick n also wanted to marry her, just like how he was telling me he would marry me n even asked me to meet his family . back to d matter, iwon'tsay it's honest cus . mind u he blames d women he meets in 9ja cus dey don't want him but never said wat his own flaws are n u call dat honest ? kinda like he's saying dey're d problem not me when likely he is d problem . who knows wat he's really up to ? right now he has many women at his disposal cus of dis NL advertisement he's doing , i urge women to be careful

You've been noticed dear...opinion is like a behind hole everyone has got one so march on.

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Pidgin2:
See the kind of person someone will open leg to collect a child from

I'm sure one desperado has contacted you already, go and sow your seed as you please, what's it got to do with me anyway(pukes over thread)

the best you'd ever get from me,madam i must comment.

Viking007:

Na you get time to respond to them my brother..make dem dey there dey show us say dem sabi blow grammar yet dey contradict demselves upandan. To get my drift,just read the poster above you's comment but this time from bottom up,you'll understand how its best to just ignore them.
The next you'll hear is one has got a foul mouth bla bla bla

Pidgin2:
Did you think before you responded? There's nothing wrong with thinking out of the box especially if the result hurts no one but if you call deliberately having babies outside marriage 'thinking out of the box' then your case is critical. Kindly seek professional help . Good luck

keep professionally helping yourself and leave me the heck alone..my life,my decisions. Your business,i seem not to get.

Pidgin2:
OP, so you want to have a baby out of wedlock?, then your kids will also want babies our of wedlock because they'll think it's OK, then their kids will follow and so on

You need counseling

So you are scared to think out of the box,cos your kids will also want to think out of the box cos they'll think it's ok,then their kids will follow and so on..
Now who needs counselling on how to dare think for ones self

loyalbae:
I believe in love and I love love but when you haven't been lucky enough to find someone who loves you genuinely, you cant help but be patient. I know I want to marry a man I'm in love with but since I haven't met someone whom i love enough to want to spend the rest of my life with, I choose not to allow that deter me from my heart desire....which is to bring forth a child of my own.

Therefore, I'm hoping to meet a like minded genuine, caring and comfortable man who would want to go on this co-parenting journey with me. A sperm donor is out of it because I want my child to know and have a relationship with his/her father. Hopefully I would get lucky to find that man.

About me-- I'm of average height, mid thirties though I don't look it, good looking, brown skin and curvy. AA genotype, 0+

You-- Tall, comfortable, caring and ready to do this. You would be embarking on a co-parenting journey with me and so, should be committed to do it. We would decide on the method we want to use to achieve this...either natural insemination or artificially. Whichever the case may be, tests has to be done first.

Lets connect..my email is francegeorge62@gmail.com

EfemenaXY:
No decent, self-respecting woman would take @op's request seriously.

But then again, decency and self-respect probably aren't high up on his list of priorities.

ooo puhleaseee save your spews for your decent plus self respecting self.

Funjosh:
OP......... Good luck and God Speed

Thank you sir

sunvick:
Op also put into consideration the looks of the woman so as to compensate your shortfalls just for the sake of the kids.
Also be conscious of those who hold so dear the mantra 'fake it till you make it'.

Wish you the best in you pursuit.

Thanks for your input man,very very important.

greatgod2012:
I think I understand this op very well.

The method the op wants to adopt in choosing a wife and the mother of his children could be bizarre, but achievable.

Each with his/her own way of doing things. At the end of it all, we all live with the aftermath of our decisions in life and of life.


@op, I wish you best of luck in your search and decision.

God bless you sister..

Raine80:
Wish you luck and hope you find her.

Much thanks dear.

boomssey:
@poster,do u reside in Lagos?

Nope i don't reside in Lagos

elektra:
But surrogacy will require him to raise the child himself. He not only needs a womb, he also need the woman to raise the kid. (Most likely by herself since they are not married and the kid would be staying with her, but I guess it's no big deal because many of the so called married men do not participate in raising their kids sef so what is the point in marrying?) He wants the kid to bear his name and enjoy the nourishment that comes from a mother.

Thanks dear you go school of person mind. I definitely want to be in the kid (s) life in every way thats ny responsibility.

sisisioge:


Whoops! You are gonna have to forgive me for being such a girl. Wonder what I was thinking reading words written in "guy's" language.

Daddytime,biko stick to English alone. Girls may be reading your posts too

funny you

Timbuktuo:
Do you know whether I like you and am beginning my wooing campaign? Surely, you don't have to see the wooing coming before it is a wooing.

Anyway, I agree with the effects of irresponsible childbearing on society and I would rather OP found a good woman to marry and have children with than some surrogacy arrangement.

Daddytime, I would suggest tabling your matter before the brethren @

https://www.nairaland.com/1582623/boys-night-out-discussions

Thanks mate for the heads up

sisisioge:
Ennnh! You even have an almost caustic mouth Interesting...and that bobo was actually advocating for you o. Whew, I hope the girl interested comes with a lawyer man...she's so gonna need it

Naaa nothing sodaic about my mouth dear you probably misread me..i understand the guy was rooting for me and did like his comment as well to butress that.

I'm just a realist,so ignore my bluntness.

Feanah:
Haba that's harsh...you don't know his story

Her likes are best ignored until they get a grip of what life truly means.

Timbuktuo:
Barely three seconds ago, a thread about the oppressive nature of the African marriage was opened and women were nigh unanimous in agreement with the content of the OP of that thread.

Perhaps, this man thinks women might find him oppressive, perhaps not. What I do note is that he has no intentions of holding back any woman who might prefer independence from such an oppressive instirurion, incidentally "a construct of the Patriarchy". One would think the hordes of independent-minded women would jump at this offer. After all, open marriages are becoming a thing, even babymamaism.

What is the problem with this young man's request, women? Why does he have to marry the mother of his child? Last week, or thereabouts, soooo many women advised a pregnant 23year old woman to go it alone. Her boyfriend has been a bellend so "dump his trifling ass, nothing do you." Never mind, they reconciled and have decide to make the relationship work. Meanwhile, divorce is rife, I hear Badagry is a hotbed for marital dissolution these days. What, really, is the big deal about marriage? Can't a single man and a single woman just decide to have a child together. Isn't it 2016 anymore?

The mind truly boggles.




Why should a man woo? What would be the purpose, and who would the wooing benefit? Why is it lazy for a man to woo, but not a woman, in 2016 no less! Are you sexist?

No time even reading from the all-knowing critics..my request is straight forward enough. An aye for the interested and a nay for the uniterested. The ayes can do me a mail while we take it up from there while the nays can keep their opinions and take a quiet walk. Very simple!

automatix:
it's pathetic they just want a man to do all the work, as in all the works, all the time. It's why most guys prefer the show off strategy or lying approach, those that spend a lot on appearance but have no future savings. Is it a crime to look like a normal human being you would meet anywhere?

My dressing is like a Mark Zuckerberg without the fame and money-- very simple and straight forward, like an ordinary person you would meet anywhere.

Like the lady I described in the post above, we dated for 4 months before she left on the basis of sex. Let assume that's the reason. Would she say hadn't had sex since she left? NO.

Okay, let's assume it is because of finance, yeah back then I was still in school finished my NYSC not long ago. But lets just assume it was based on finance that she left, why couldn't the guy she claimed to be dating save her when she needed financial help? Yeah, while trying to reconcile with her, she said she was dating someone else. Meanwhile I was there all along, calling, trying to do everything. Why? Cos I really loved her.

But let assume she left cos of finance. Which means the guy she went with couldn't help her. And someone dare say ladies aren't crazy? There are crazy and stupid.

The reason she had the idea that I could help because I forcefully made it known that I am not what she think or have in mind about me. I made her see I have drive, I have focus, I have purpose, I am fighter, I have dreams. I expect a lady to find these things out over time but if I have to show you myself, you are likely not gonna get the best of me. I still love her and sometimes wanna do away with thought of what she had done in the past.

But on second thought, I don't want anyone liking me because she perceived some sort of potential and so, I am left the option of still searching up to chasing the recent one on facebook lol.

Nobody wants to suffer but we are firstly HUMANS before we are anything. Is there a crime liking that HUMAN figure before liking what he is carrying on his head? Cos I first like them as the HUMANS they are, not money, not sex whom they are as HUMAN. You have to apply wisdom sometimes. How about finding if a guy has ambition, drive, even though he has not much money?

I am not filty rich but heck I am not scared about the current recession in the country or the job losses.

The one on facebook, I don't know what approach to adopt really but I really appreciate the way she responded on phone when I called. I was actually expecting the usual "yes, what do you want?" like some stupid idiots do most times.

Spot on !!

automatix:
LMAO...

I don't drink nor smoke.
My company are money chasers, we discuss ways to move forward in our daily lives. Strategies and we don't believe in working for anyone.
My dressing are simple and I don't keep much friends.
I am not ugly, neither am I short.

But you see, I don't give signals of the content of my character because i feel that is the job of the girls to find out themselves. Heck, I have 3 girls running after me after discovering one or two things about me.--talk about judging a book its cover is where they get it all wrong. I even have one whom I forcefully said "Hey this who I am, not loser but I hustle my own money", "I am not what you think I am" and also helped her a few times with money while serving and now she is all cool and loving, after turning me down for long lol.

I don't crack jokes, except I am already close to you and that's when you will even recommend I join an acting group lol.

I believe in being open, maybe too serious but funny enough, I discovered that flirting works with most ladies than being straightforward or straight to the point. So ma'am, I will say yes, ladies aren't only crazy but stupid!

The girl I met on facebook is the first among the rest that has been a bit calm when I called her but I am not sure what approach to adopt now when we meet next month. Whether to be straight up or be friendly and flirty.

Mind you, I am not your everyday dude who chase anything in skirt.

You talked something being wrong with me but in most cases, it's this girls with their low IQ and ground level reasoning capacity that has problem.

How do you expect them to see from your own lense when they believe the world and everthing therein should revolve around them.

Yieldings:
You didn't mention anything about marriage, so you just want a woman to have your child but you're not going to marry her? Who would be foolish enough to do this?

Not ruling out marriage..

Joavid:
In essence, you're looking for a babymama that you may or may not be serious with

You want to bring an innocent child into a dysfunctional family structure? you're selfish!!


you men should continue spoiling our family values because of your selfishness and wickedness.

How would you understand

Viking007:
Hmm. I actually know of someone who might be interested in Your offer. Provided You're in abuja.

[size=2pt]Desperate times ...desperate measures. [/size]

Kindly hook me up bro..my email is in my opening post. Thanks

sisisioge:
Daddy no vex...Una just tire me ni. Here is my olive branch...may God help fix for all that seek from him.Enjoy.

Olive branch accepted..hugs

STFUareyouGod:
if you're not qualified or interested just move on and leave the young man be

truthsayer007:
Ahn ahn, free the guy na, em just dey express himself !

Thanks for the maturity and understanding..can't seem to understand how her post is relevant. If she understood life,she'd know there are loads of both gender in a fix as i am, not because they chose to but simply what life threw our way.

Dear nairalanders,i'm new on this forum and thought to place this humble and sort of odd request here.
I'm a healthy male,non smoker,occassional drinker 30ish single and working. I am looking for any matured lady who perhaps feels same as i do with regards to our biological clock ticking away,with no known health issues and is sure will make a good mother with strings or no strings attached sort of relationship.
Not to bore you guys with much talks,any interested lady can contact me. Serious minded and matured babes only please francegeorge62@gmail.com