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Gaggi:
A couple of years ago, I met this girl. I liked her and like most young guys I became careless and even had unprotected sex a few times but always pulled put. Then, we were still young and reckless.

About a month later, she started feeling Ill, took her for a test and she was pregnant. Took her for a scan and she was like 9 weeks pregnant and I've just known her for a month. She confessed that she got pregnant by her ex, tried to terminate it with drugs but she's surprised now it didn't go.

She started crying and saying she didn't want to have a child outside wedlock and that the ex denied her when she confronted him then. She said she didn't have money for an abortion.
I told her to go sort herself out, on second thoughts, I felt maybe using drugs could have deformed that child and I didn't want a child to suffer for the actions of others.

Anyway, I gave her some money, told her to go sort herself out. She begged me to come to the hospital with her, I told her she was crazy and to go sort herself out. How can I be responsible for another man's actions? What if she died in the process.

The only reason I even assisted her then with money was for the sake of the poor child whom might have even been deformed already with the stupid drugs she took.

It was a big lesson for me. I learnt that women are dangerous. Without the scan, she would have claimed the pregnancy was mine. Though I consider what we had as a fling and I never considered her a serious girlfriend, I also learnt that I need to be careful. What if she infected me with HIV. Being young and wild is very stupid. Many have destroyed their lives because of a little pleasure.
A man who can resist premarital and extramarital sex has cut his chances of problems in life by half.

Omar09:
What is there to understand, that you are feeling pity for a cheat? Why didn't she Bleep you raw and got pregnant and tried to remove it? You should ask yourself all these. And this is the reason women always feel entitled all the time. Cause she's your girlfriend you carry what you don't know bah?

bukatyne:
Just tell her you know what she did, forgive her and move on.

No banter, no engagement etc.

You are lucky nothing happened to her, you would have implicated yourself.

Next time, do not confirm what you are not sure about.

drmikeadams:
. Really u think say if she die there ,them no go hold u?

proclinician:
I wish say she go die and police will ge involved. Sars go meet u in that hospital drag u enter cell give u a very horrible beating way go dislocate all ur bones then ur eyes go open.

nuelsam:
Well tbh...u just being plain stupid bruhh......hes still asking for advice, like seriosly? Even my dog cant be as brainless and clueless as this....... Mumu man
until she wrecks zour business completely, thats when youll learn.

Bigjohn123:
Stupid boy, with all the evidence n advise from the nurse....u no get sense...

farady:
Young man, this is a new year and a new decade. Sit down and have a discussion with yourself. Have a self assessment of your achievement in the last decade. I am sure you will not be impress with yourself. Therefore, double your hustle, have a one year plan, a five-year plan and a 10-year plan. Stop investing your time and emotions on unprofitable venture like that your so called gf. Good luck.

InfernoNig:
My brother. I am so sorry. As it is hot, confront her. Don't stay and die in silence, when you already know how hurtful this is. Heart are not meant to be toiled with. She is heartless not only in cheating, but getting pregnant, aborting and putting all the load on you.

Please don't hesitate to let it all out and dump her cheating ass.

What a world we leave in.thanks

Love is overrated.

Olanrefront3355:
Well.


Everything you've posted happens and you're not alone, but a man dies but once.

You've done enough "forgiving" for someone you've not engaged/married, let it end now.

The way you will play this is; Do things that makes her happy on a "particular day" this day is particular to you because it's the day she'd loose you. Be sure she'd be leaving her house that "day" make her happy, plead for no reason, once she's gone, carry your loads and return home or find somewhere else to stay..


If you can, block her....

You've just been saved from going into a toxic marriage with a cheat and a materialistic lady.

hardbody:
People like you are the reason some ladies endure torture and dehumanizing treatments in the hands of animals parading as men. Must she be married at all costs? Why do african men take pleasure and derive fun in degrading women, is marriage an investment? The lady in issue here is angry that she has been lied to and taken for a foo.l , why are we now twisting it to sound as if we have this lady's antecedents? Its a shame.

Vision2045:
My Real advise of thw decade! I presume you should learn outta this guy this your matter tie wrapper o come geolock the wrapper self.

My guy advising you is tough cos you don't even know the final decision of that Lola of a girl..she can wake one day and just change her mind when the tussle and hassle of raising a child single handedly start to surface and if by then you are married to your current girl without her knowing of such incidence that can take a very bad turn.

From another perspective..what if the girl has truly terminated the pregnancy, then that may seem more safer for your relationship or marriage sake to your current girl.

I will advice you call the girl or text her, tell her u have something very urgent or lie to her that you guys have a strong family thingy that you must discuss with her..just to ascertain if she is still preggy...if that works and you meet her..two things are involve..

1 she is till preggy, (don't even bother asking her y she kept it..just accept she is having the baby)

if that is the case just open up to your financee o, let her know that all you want from that Lola is just the baby..invite your family to help pacify her as well

2. She is not preggy again...then you know what is best to do.

But no matter how it plays....remember any decision you make today..you will surely face the consequences in the future..(just like the 30seconds cum inside Lola honey-pot of yesterday is about to cost you a good girl)

I rest my case.

cc. Lalasticlala

N2B2:
No.

But, they should be forced to pay child support. No one asks if the lady wants to marry the guy? Guys forced to marry ladies they impregnate often take their anger out on their wives.

Forced Marriage should be a No. If you give her bele, then you pay Child Support till that kid turns 18. If you no get money for child support, then you gast go find work.

Do it this way and there'll be lesser unwanted pregnancies.