Reflect7:
You reject your own rich and beautiful African religion, to be following so called 'saviours' from Europe and Arabia.

Meanwhile you have no clue that the REAL reason the colonialists and Arab invaders forced you to abandon your religion was because they were SCARED SHITLESS of its deep spirituality and power. And its capacity to free the human mind.

The whites today have all abandoned the Roman invented ''Jesus'' and are all chasing African-inspired religions from Buddhism to Hinduism to African religion itself - ancIent spiritual traditions which predate christianity by thousands of years, and hold the REAL TRUTHS of our existence.

Rest, oga.

If not for the very intervention of Christian missionaries, you had very abhorrent practices in Africa. The killing of twins/infants, human sacrifices to gods, mutilation of body parts for fortification, violent intolerance of other faiths, violent festivals (like the ancient practice of órò), etc. are only few of these. Christian missionaries literally stopped the killing of twins amongst other primitive, hostile practices.

There's a reason why historians described the precolonized Africa as brutish. Of course, they had their biases. They aren't always correct. But you know as well as I do that many ancient African religious practices were nothing short of abhorrent.

And the whites aren't chasing your religion o. Those in the pictures are from Brazil, Cuba and other people with very close affinity to Yoruba. They aren't even proper whites.

wwwkaycom:
5 to 6 hours depending on the day of the week.
Monday to Fridays: Average of 5 hours
Saturday: Average of 6 hours
Sundays: Average of 5 hours

Is that how your body system works or what your regular schedule demands?

Fuckingmallam45:

Oga rest abeg, even Baci no copy person ni, abi na she be the first to do am?

God bless you jare.

Even the guy wey dey complain sef copy the complaint wey him dey complain... Too much bad energy on top wetin?

Mogajunior:


If you have the means to relocate abroad, please do. You would thank yourself in the long run.

These generalizations are usually from either Nigerians who haven't travelled abroad yet or Nigerians who are still fresh abroad...

Not everyone travel and "thank themselves in the long run." Especially people doing well here before relocating... The "abroad" has its own challenges too. I mean social challenges, security challenges, economic challenges.

If you're doing well already in Nigeria, make your money and keep making your money here. In time, you'll prolly even be able to own properties or get citizenships in these countries (if you'd care to). I wish many know this!

This japa frenzy is all hype and naivety.

Draslo:
You're making $$$ in Nigeria. You should have no motive to japa. You should focus on getting dual citizenship while living here.
Thank me later

I love that dual citizenship idea.

Selfkontrol:
Good day Nairalanders. Pls I need some mature advice because I’ve been in a dilemma for a long time now concerning relocating abroad or staying back in Nigeria.
First of all I’m not a japa advocate. I believe if you’re doing well in Nigeria then there’s no point relocating abroad but I feel there’s so much uncertainty and I don’t know what the future holds for me in this country.

Now I’m a married man of 30 years. I will turn 31 by this September. We have no child yet but wife is preg now. I have a B.Eng in petroleum Engineering but have never worked in my life. My current business is crypto trading which I have been doing for years now. During the 2021 crypto bull run I made lot of money and acquired some properties that’s currently valued atleast 60-70m naira in total. bought my car same year and got married same year to my long time Gf, settled some family members etc . I don’t have any other investments or business aside my properties and crypto portfolio because crypto trading has taken all my time and I won’t complain because so far it has been good. Making money in dollars while in Nigeria is bliss. Even though we have been in bear season since 2022, I still make some money every now and then that’s sustainable for now until we hit another bull run which is likely to happen from next year 2024.

My fear lies here, on the long run crypto trading is not sustainable. If not for 2021 bull run I don’t think I would be in this position and even the projected bull run next year is not 100% certain

I plan on learning a programming skill which is very difficult, I tried learning it late last year but stopped along the line because it was distracting me from trading and missing some opportunities in crypto because making money is most important. Coding would probably take me a few years before I start earning even though it is sustainable long term but crypto trading can be life changing but not sustainable long term . It’s more like a gamble most times.

My plan A, is to gather enough money from now till 2025 which is the duration of the projected bull run if it happens and start investing in real estate development, Like building and selling and other businesses too but I don’t know how feasible that is in our present day Nigeria and if I don’t make my target amount, I might have to start with the available resources present.

plan B, gather some money, learn a skill then relocate to Canada with my family via study route since I don’t have any real work experience aside crypto trading but that would mean me going to study and starting afresh.

For my wife, she also has a degree in Human Resources with just nysc as working experience. She learnt wig making and installation and has been doing her online biz selling wigs etc.

Abroad folks, what are my chances abroad considering my current profile. Is it worth it coming over there to start afresh
And build? I have heard so many things how it’s hard getting a job and you have to rely on survival jobs for the first few years expecially for someone without any work experience.

I really don’t like joining the bandwagon cos everyone seems to be leaving, I love to weigh my options and hate taking unnecessary risk that might lead to regrets, at the same time don’t want to regret not leaving since I’m still young and have the opportunity that’s why I’m here asking these questions to learn from experienced and matured family men home and abroad the action they would take. We learn everyday,

For my unborn kids, if everything checks out, my plan is to give birth to them in either Canada or US for the passport and raise them in Nigeria and when they are grown, send them to study there and that is only if I’m not relocating. And if I’m relocating, what are the in-demand skills and professions I have to take since it’s clear I might be going to school because I hate survival jobs. What is your advice pls.
Mature advice pls. Thank you 🙏
@justwise @Disguy

Guy. On this forum, you'll get lots of conflicting advice from people who are no where near you are...

But, reasonably, if you have amassed a worth of tens of millions for yourself at this age, I honestly think you've done well for yourself. I understand that your crypto trading business is not stable, but you know as much as I do that you can establish yourself and your wife with what you have now...

There are much advantages in relocating to Canada too. You could acquire sellable skills and relocate to get a job there. However, the cons of that are that it's a new terrain. It's like a leap into the unknown. From my observation, most of those who have japa to Canada prolly wouldn't have if they had half of what you have...

All in all, I think you should pray about it all. What worked for another person may ruin you. And what didn't work for another person could prolly be your fort. The best is to pray about it. The God who made you had your story. He knows the way you ought to go than you ever would.

My few cents.

SangoOlukosoOba:


You are same person that mention natures perfection, and same time mentioned natures imperfection.

What exactly are you driving at? That the imperfection of natures are disallowed and should not be welcomed, after accepting that it’s born out of nature.

It appears you don't read long posts. Why are you so quick to reply without carefully reading replies ?

First of, I never used the phrase "nature's perfection" or "nature's imperfections."

Nature is precise. Not fluid. You can't change that. Imperfections may OCCUR. What we do to imperfections is TO FIX THEM and make them better. (I think there was a typo there).

We conform imperfections that occur (abnormalities) to nature. It's not the other way around! That's what medicine and teraphy generally exists for. We don't try to embrace some kind of abnormality when we can fix it.

Rareoil:


You asked a question on a public forum

🤣 Na you I quote

Na wa o

SangoOlukosoOba:


Nature is not precise, it comes with different pluses, errors and defects ranging from high IQ, body part duplicates or shortages. Let me say the imperfections of nature is marvels.

You are obviously not a scientist. Your reasoning is so drab man, honestly...

I'll try and help. The reason why we can scientifically bank on the results of our scientific experiences always is because nature is not fluid. It's is precise always. Its not fluid! The precision of nature is why we can count on laws of nature like gravity, laws of electric charge, planting and harvesting, etc.

Sure, imperfections may occur here and there for some reasons. But what we do to imperfections is to fix them or make them better. We don't celebrate them above perfection.

Rareoil:


Christianity, Western education, western fashion(suit, tie), western language(English language), western form of government (democracy)

Lol. How do you reasonably jump into someone else's argument?

Ah! People dey o...

SangoOlukosoOba:



Can same psychological therapy make someone a gay? In the quest that humans cannot find the root cause of the mental state, we try to blame it on a disorder.

Nature is precise. Any trait that's at variance with nature is to be examined. No one is "blaming it on disorder." It's just against the order of nature. That's literally what "dis-order" means.

If we start the listing of the most ruthless murderers on Earth, I don’t think we would find one gay.

Crime has nothing to do with sexual orientation. Anyone can be a criminal.

You obviously didn't get that analogy. This is tiring.

Crime surely has nothing with sexual orientation. But many "unreasonable" crimes are functions of some mental unhealth. But people who commit these crimes appear in the society to be healthy, fine persons... But, alas, they aren't...

The fact that a human being would be sexually attracted to a bird, for instance, is crazy! And you know that.

Even if that human being is a professor, b ING sexually attracted to a tree would very lucidly mean something is wrong. Why? It's a mental, psychological malady! This is the case with people sexually attracted to people of the same gender...

And in my years of experience of dinning with gays, I have never thought of it being a mental disorder. I always marvel and appreciate their being.

Do you know the wiring it takes to have emotions towards the same sex, treating your same sex like a lady, checking up on him, planning vacations and all that?

These people are just wired differently.

The "different wiring" is exactly the issue. It's just a spectrum of mental illness.

There are cases of adults who just hate to see babies. Some adults (called extreme recluses) hate to be in the midst of other human beings at all. Some humans are sexually attracted to inanimate objects. Some are sexually attracted to babies and toddlers.

All these are different forms and spectrums of mental illnesses. All are treatable via therapy or psychiatry. Homosexual traits (sexual attraction to person of one's own sex is just one of such). There are verifiable records of such cases treated.

But all those facilitating these things are in it for a purpose. It's all an aganda

SangoOlukosoOba:


For someone of that caliber to have achieved such height of brilliance, happily married, and a government official, and you talking about mental health?

I have seen loads of gays, I have attended party’s, dinners and vacations with them, this are just normal people wired in a different way.

It’s not a mental health issue, it’s just how they perceive the world. People who have more happier family than most?

How many gays have divorced compared to their counterparts.


These are wonders of nature we must appreciate.

Do a study on some of the most violent moderous shooters in recent times. They were people who had what you'd call a normal life. Some of them had families and business, but they were scarred by some trauma or plagued by some mental health.

Sexual attraction to inanimate objects or animal, for instance, can't be a normal people "wired in a different way." That's not a social outlook. That's a biological and physiological hitch in human flesh.

Attraction to a person of the same sex with you has no lucid root in biology or physiology. It's absurd, as far as biological and psychological wholeness is concerned.

No matter who the persons involved are, they either need help or they are amongst those covertly facilitating your perversion for their agenda.

There is a reason why psychological help and therapy exists... Natural, physiological, and psychological norm exists. Nature is not fluid. It's precise!

SangoOlukosoOba:


Mental cases from birth?

I almost can't believe I'm having this argument. Every post from you is a new revelation.

If someone like Pete needs a psychiatrist, I am sorry to say, 95% of Nigerians will need visit same psychiatrist.

Dude is a box of knowledge

Wow!

I guess the academia has the most mentally healthiest people in the world then. Professors are the mentally healthiest people. Non-educated folks are lunatics. That's how mental health works? Right?

At least, read up!

SangoOlukosoOba:


So you want some one like Pete Buttigieg, Christian Dior and Cristobal Balenciaga to visit a psychiatrist 🤣🤣🤣

These are just normal people wired to be that way. You cannot alter the course of nature.

What a schoolboy fallacy! I expected better!

So, their popularity, wealth, or celebrity status is automatically equals mental health? Tons of celebrity depression and suicide should be enviable in your books then... Such a straw!!

No man is wired to be sexually attracted to another man. It's either a mental case or an unclean influence... Nothing in nature allows for homosexualism.

SangoOlukosoOba:


Ladies could not wear trousers in Nigeria at a time.

The indecent dressing of today was a taboo Nigeria before.

Marijuana was smoked in rare odd places, that you need hide to indulge in act.

But today, they have become norms. It’s just time.

Nothing in African culture alienated any of these. Trouser or skirt is not peculiar to African culture... In some cultures, both men and women tie rapper. In some, they wore gowns.

What you call indecent dressing is not indecent in primitive Africa. In some African settings (even in Nigeria today), the women don't cover their busts...

The only point you have here is marijuana. But, just like stealing in the streets, corruption, prostitution, etc., these are moral hitches peculiar to all men irrespective of culture. These ones are things that even good people can be tempted to do out of lust or lack.

Homosexualism is different. It's not just a moral. It's a desecration of what is conveniently natural which is what Africa is for. Even the regular prostitute or marijuana smoker would take it on themself to attack an homosexual. It's alien to their sense of biological nature. It's not a difference. It's alien!

SangoOlukosoOba:



Oh! So you agree it’s nature. Why then are you rebuking it?

Is it their fault that they re wired that way?

Since you know so much, what then is your problem with homosexuals?

You probably didn't read that response well (perhaps, it was too long for you).

I'll add this to it: people with mental issues should be attended to psychiatrically or psychologically. They shouldn't have their mental unhealth or psychological confusion held to be a standard.

What used to be gender dysphoria (a mental/psychological condition), for instance, is now being categorised as "gender fluid." It's all part of the leftist agenda for pervasness. That's what they want to enforce on all. But Africa and Asia are too rooted in nature to be vulnerable.

SangoOlukosoOba:


Be patient!

Many things you rebuked 40 years ago are already playing out today. It’s just a matter of time.

Things like what, in Africa? List one.

SangoOlukosoOba:


How about its existence in nature? How about those animals that exhibit the traits?

Homosexuality is a wonder of nature.

SangoOlukosoOba:


Homosexuality is embedded in nature.

The rams you eat exhibit homosexual behaviors, have you stopped eating it?

How about giraffes that mount and cum on their male partners, should they be banned too?

Do you know how many animals exhibit behaviors?

Don’t tell me they are of the devil. My point only reaffirms that homosexuality is embedded in nature and you cannot take it away.

These samples you citing aren't rooted in nature. It's a very deceptive narrative.

They are extremely rare in these heterosexual animals. It's a biological abnormality. It's just the same level of rarity with humans exhibiting mental health conditions like being sexually attracted to inanimate objects.

Even with their low mental make-up, healthy heterosexual animals are never naturally sexually drawn towards same sex and not opposite sex. It's so rare that it's be strange to most people who rare animals.

Nature is wired towards the continuity of a race. That's why there are more than enough cattle, birds, etc. for human use... That's why human populations has flourished over the years.

Homosexualism is logically, scientifically, and historically at variance with nature. Nothing in human anatomy or physiological make-up facilitates homosexualism.

SangoOlukosoOba:



Easier said than done!

You know you don't have a place in the African society... You know, except you're living in denial or being deluded.

You can test this.

SangoOlukosoOba:


Those are lies!

No one is forcing students to digger from gender. They only accept and respect their choices.

Homosexuality is as old as Africa. Homosexuality was in Africa before colonization. They White man told us it was evil and we abolished it, and now, same people advocating for it!

Moreover, homosexuality has been traced back to Egypt, which reaffirms that, it’s not new to Africa.

You miss the point.

Nothing is new on earth. No kind of pervasion is alien to the earth. Recall that there was once a Sodom and Gomorrah in the 4000 to 5000 BCs.

However, such perversions have never had a world acclaim. They existed amongst sects, cults, challets, etc They've never had people trying to institutionalise them in a global society context... The USA, no thanks to the devilish Leftists agenda, pushed for this momentum. But it would fizzle out!

SangoOlukosoOba:


You have to be referred. We are abiding by the present laws and only inducting people through referrals

Lol. You have to.

Cuz if we get a hold of men/boys physically advocating for homosexualism anywhere in Lagos, we will change their lives forever.

SangoOlukosoOba:


I have been publicly advocating around the country, meeting with the LGBTQ community and also with important stakeholders.

Why I said you should be patient.

Hello...

If you are in Lagos, can you please state time and venue?

manoflove22:
we have been dating up to 2 months now, b4 she accepted she told me NO SEX in the relationship, i actually thought it all scheme girl use not to look cheap


I visit her house sometimes we kissed and i even sucked her breast but it reach sex she told me she is a virgin and she will keep it

it get to a time last 3 days, i told her no sex no money she sound disappointed and worried, i told her what else she have to offer than sex, but she assure me she will give me sex but not now


Please advise is 2 months too early or too late to ask sex from ur girlfriend, make i know before i spend and invest like a mumu

help a brother man

Dear friend, why not spend your time and money on something more productive. You should be in school or somewhere seriously engaged with building your future.

All your threads on NL are all about sex, girlfriend, etc. Don't you have something concrete to borther your head about?

All this sex sex obsession would ruin you and the girl. The both of you should be thinking about and planning for the future, now that you are young and have time...

Jakumo:


Not long ago a Nairaland writer described seeing as a little girl a gigantic SILENTLY floating light in the sky over her home in Port Harcourt Nigeria. Scared the bejeebers out of her and I was absolutely convinced that her recollection was honest and accurate.

That could have been a man-made object though...

But Africans see non-human beings and classify them as other things other than UFO...

ednut1:
Ufo sighting rarely occurs in africa and asia why 🤣

They do. Africans are more connected with these things. They know what they are. They know that they aren't "UFO."

Angels? Yes.

Supernatural beings making themselves visible? Yes.

Aliens? No

No such thing as alien... Every being on earth is not an alien to earth...

wwwihy:
Just In...

At The Presidential Tribunal Atiku’s Witness From Abia State Tells The Court That Tinubu Won In His Polling Unit But He Was Surprised When The Final Results Was Manipulated.

https://twitter.com/ComradeIyk2022/status/1666793290560163842

Lol. See the source of the news.

Man is a self-transcendent being. He is more than just the physical body. He's got a soul... There is more to him than the earth as we know it.

Almiron:
You'll know the truth too, abi you no go leave this world someday. He's not seeking answer, he don already figure out on earth, na you wey never sure dey look for answers.

Lol. A little bit of reasoning should rid you of this knot.

The ideal student wants to "graduate" from school upon the completion of his degree... Not before... Isn't it?

childofdoom1:
Sardonic, gloomy, melancholic, despondent, pessimistic........... I can use different adjectives to describe how I feel at the moment. Nothing gives a man much joy than knowing his pweek can stand in the mornings or when being aroused. Though while clocking adolescence, it was kind of weird. Growing to be a man, it became a thing of pride.



Observations of my body these past few days show I have lost my erection. Watching blue films do not give me a standing pweek as it should have, no matter if it's my favourite type



I do not wake in the mornings to a hard pweek as before. Even if I had a naughty dream, it stands for a while and drops quick.



Sensations from a lady don't even charge it for long again. My experience with a gorgeous new babe at the Olosho house three days ago confirms this (read all about my romp with her on r i b d o . c o m. Search for this topic in their romance section or my name there is loquacioussinner).



Also during soapy from sexting, I don't get that aroused as before.



Should I be worried? Is this a sign of anxiety, illness, sugar intake or not giving my pweek enough time to rest and recover?

How old are you?

Can you take your mind off sex for a while?

Like get busy with your life generally. Make money. Build a career, a business, and platonic relationships with men and women...

yolada:
I reflected stupidity by dropping out of school? Honestly you're one one the most foolish things I've ever come across on this forum. You no know why person drop out, just just dey vomit trash like a blind 1D1OT.

You are a naive 22 year old, confused, needing help... But the tirades you're throwing around like this speak a lot about you. You apparently aren't ticking the good boxes around you. Else, you and your money would soon be disillusioned.

I advice you shelve belligerence. While some people on this forum can be ridiculous, some of those replies you're insulting are words to honestly open up to and reflect on... Many here have your age mates as sons...

shagasha:


Oga you are wrong here.
Was he trained to go after theives? He was just trying to be a hero. Chasing a thief in the night. Even policemen with guns don't even do that. They wait and come for arrest later when their guards are down.
Anybody that buys that phone would still be tracked and arrested so why stick your neck out?
Me will willingly submit mine in some circumstances not to talk of someone else's phone. Use your head o

Oga. A thief is different from an armed robbery.

These scenarios are only reasonable in a robbery circumstance.

What the guy saw was a thief that snatched away another person's phone. The reasonable thing any brave youth would do is to try salvage the situation while calling for help. It's just unfortunate for the guy that there was an armed hoodlum lurking around...

People chase and catch thief's everyday in Lagos. If everyone choose to "mind their business," thief's would have the leeway to do and undo. In fact, there'd be more robbers than they are now...

These things call for a balance. No one is saying you should be forming Bruce Lee. But, guy, if all of us just bone dey mind our business for this country, things go sup o...

Khallicopyro:

Achebe once said " it is good to be brave but often times we stand in the house of a coward and point to the ruins where a brave man once lived"

It calls for a balance. Two extremes aren't good.

The Yorubas sages, in their wisdom, say "maja masa l'afin mo akinkanju l'oju ogun." It's translated "the bravest warriors in war are those that know how to fight and run."

You can't always mind your business. And you can't always interfere in what's not your business.

The healthiest societies are built on communal structures. If you would not help put out the fire in your neighbour's house, yours is at risk too.