₦airaland Forum

Cowbell521:
Sorry to say, you be Mumu. The fact that yours isn't so sweet as hers doesn't mean you should pound your frustration on her beautiful post. Go sit down jare.

Belafonte:
Only men with low self esteem think they have to have a certain amount of money to be deserving of marriage.

As for me, the more zeros I add to my bank balance, the more the likelihood of never marrying.

Belafonte:
I’m intrigued when I read comments like this. So, if I have 20m in cash & investments, what value is the woman bringing to the table?

Do note, that I don’t think I’ll be ready for marriage if I don’t have 50m in cash & investments, but whoever I’m marrying has to be worth that 50m

pmoye:
This is advice is really for Nigerian ladies. Please and please do not marry a man that is not rich. Your very life will depend on it. You heard me... How long you live as a woman may well depend on how rich your husband is. This may seem like an over-generalization, but a very needful one. Quite a troubling percentage of Nigerian men can not handle a woman who is more financially buoyant.

Ideally it shouldn't matter how much each person earns, because I believe that the husband and the wife should be one financially. That the home should be planned like a company with budgets, financial planning, sound auditing and all... But from the much we have seen around the average Nigerian family is far from this ideal. We often have what increasingly looks like a union that appears more to serve a cultural/societal expectation, a union that is sustained just so that the society can think you are happily married, while between the man and the wife it is more like between US and China, between Northern and Southern Nigeria, a perpetual cold war and bitter jostling for resource allocation and control.

I have seen women who have died because the husbands couldn't afford antenatal care and used ego-motivated argument to keep the women from accessing timely medical care... And of course, few years or even months after that those wicked men would later bring in other wives into the house.

The poorer the man, the more wicked, the more angry, and the more deadly he generally is in Nigeria. Do not let any man or any woman convince you to marry for love. There is no such thing as that, just a queer surge of hormones that makes you think you are in love. If you marry a poor man for love, hunger and suffering will soon reset your thinking, and by then most women feel too culturally compelled to remain with the toxin of a husband they have. Take a cue from evolutionary development in animal kingdom generally where females select the most suitable male for mating.

Do not simply believe in a man's future plans and dreams. If he doesn't have money now, he is not ready to be a husband. No matter how much you think you love him, treat him like the case of AS genotype (yours) marrying an SS genotype (his). And this is something I respect some Igbo men for. They will never think of marrying a woman unless they are economically ready.

If he is earning N30,000, or N40,000 or N90,000 per month he is not ready to marry. These are just examples from posts I have seen around here. Do not be fooled, the amount on the payslip is not always available for taking care of the home. But that's the talk for another day.

Some of us are probably never going to get married, I personally find it very scary to read about how men because of poverty increasingly turn against their wives in marriage... I may be too traditional though, because I do not fvcking care the money the wife is bringing into the house. Her role as a mother and a wife is already supremely more than you need to compensate for as a man. If you are a man, do not get close to a man when you are still poor. It is wickedness. It is dishonesty. It is crime against humanity. Do not sell her a future hope of becoming a pastor and other popular silliness.

Marrying a lady when you cannot completely and single-handedly take care of her is gender violence. Stop it.

flyingpig:
Because they perceive Oshiomole will pave way for Presidency to return to South in 2023 for their caretaker Tinubu to clinch.

ladyGKilaBCrueD:
It's so funny how airforce went from being an upcoming musician to a struggling musician to a failed musician and now a hungry blogger.

icebird25:
Eya

Don't tell me men are still falling for this cheap scam called marriage o...
Spits

Joshmodest:
I can never understand them my broda ...if someone can give me one benefit of marriage aside sex that opebi girls are selling hot hot for 5k ...I would concur !!!

ijedeikorodu:
There's no difference between Hitler and Trump...using military force and gassing people...both of whom are propagandists

ijedeikorodu:
1. Trump inspecting the bunker according to him during a call to Fox radio

2. History always shows there's nothing new under sun, it always repeats itself...Hitler v Trump

Lightangel64:
Shut up you don't have sense, yes she was raped its her fault for being in such place at the wrong time, and if a guy was the one that gets raped they would just forget. The matter had ended she is either in heaven or hell so its not your business

Darkzayn:
says someone who wear same pant for three days

Sweetheart do yourself a favor go get some brain

Justbehave:
But you were also insulting men too?

Justbehave:
So from his comment you couldn't even comprehend that he is against rape? Why are you like this? Most everything be about gender war for you?

Darkzayn:
you are mad did u hear me right since you did not see what I wrote up there before you quote me

Darkzayn:
them don see wetin to talk about

Justbehave:
Bros no just mind her abeg. Let her go deal with her frustration.

Lostz:
you just did

Tozic:
Na the same work.
it's Just that I haven't been seeing your posts lately.


You work in car garage or you're into white collar job?

Tozic:
Where did you go nd hide?

Davash222:
See as Ike Ekweremadu resemble one heavy thug from Ogbomoso.

Michael004:
Dont other people pay tax in your region? why do you collect their tax?

Michael004:
The second time, you still not have option. Cos your votes can't bring in anyone. Ask Jonathan.

Michael004:
So why do you foolishly take any appointments in the same Nigeria. If you hate something, anything concerning that thing should get to you. So why do you hypocrite that care about your separation accept something from people you want to separate from. Is it not sign of weakness and unseriousness.

Michael004:
Twisted, why not answer me. Do you have option that year. If you can't answer me.Keep quite.

Michael004:
Oponu hypocrite.


We will always throw this at your face.

Michael004:
I hate it when you make mention of Obasanjo. Can you tell me the option you had then. Can you tell me who yorubas wanted then.

Oga, you only voted obj because that what your masters up north wanted.