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The seven yrs dude might have been trying to fix somethings in the background or maybe not.. one addict says; A cow does not value it tail until it's cut off... The oyibo guy don come wake am... the decision is the girl to make....

lmao

saintneo:
truth!

One time, I was with a girl, before I could plug-in she was moaning/screaming loudly that I felt embarassed. (person never grind beans but moi-moi don dey smell)

I stopped talking to her since that day.

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I'd prefer a girl that will respond in kind - wrapping her legs round me and not allowing my dickson any breathing space.

Screamers get tired easily.

very embarrassing... i prefer her holding me tight, touching me instead of the noise

i testify... we will have a peaceful chat

Some are faking it just to feel among# Wrong choice

Hmm my Topic.... my phone has no lock, but her own has password longer than html formula... if I misplace my phone, just to use her own to flash is war film.... claiming I might not understand what is there..... That's the reason I don't trust her......... I don't even have time going through her phone.. One day the small thing will ruin a big thing

What were you thinking

What are your intentions, biko tell us

To me is over between us... I CAN NEVER NEVER SHARE A ROOM WITH HER AGAIN

Abee79:
So true!
I still remember a girl I loved many years ago telling me after five (5) years of seeing each other:
"Abee, I really love you. You're a nice, gentle guy and you treat me with respect. What I like about you is that you always bring out the best in me and you are God-fearing. However, I can't marry you."
"Why na?"
"Just like that. Sorry."
"I will soon graduate and then I will marry you and make you the envy of every woman alive"
"Nah! I can't wait for you for that long."

She dumped me and started going after bad, bigger boys.
I got married in 2010 and experienced God's explosive favor. My fortunes changed and quadrupled.
She eventually got married in 2013 (out of desperation to a struggling guy) and they are still struggling . . .
I pray that God will wipe their tears and bless them too

Great comment

sigh

Barca

Tell us your experience before I can judge

You guys should be uploading the pics

Cholls:
My brother now i need the one for Men.

Same thing

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Okay so here’s the situation…as if you didn’t have enough to deal with already in this already turbulent and tempest time in your life, you’ve gone and got yourself a date with the girl of your dreams, or at least one who finally said yes to your offer! Chances are, assuming this is your first first date, you won’t have the slightest clue what to do, what to expect and possibly even consider the prospect of cancelling to save face. Well, don’t do it!! Frankly, there is no such thing as a textbook first date and everyone has to go through the learning process at some stage! With that a mind, a few basic considerations can make it far less painful if taken on board: 1 – Be Yourself
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Approaching any first date is fraught with as much chaos and worry as excitement and anticipation, often more so in the case of the fairer sex. Girls share all of the same doubts and worries regarding dating as boys, with the further issue of added vulnerability. As with any other first date tips, it is important to remember that your date will no doubt share the vast majority of your concerns, therefore you can at least be happy in the knowledge that you aren’t alone in your doubts. If there were any hard and fast rules to take away the worries and ensure a perfect date, I would indeed be rich person, but in the absence 1 – A Problem Shared…

It goes without saying that an endless speech about your problems, insecurities and generally bleak world outlook will not earn you a great deal of favour in the world of dating, quite the contrary in fact. However, if you limit your gripes and moans to the subject of the date itself, it may just surprise you how much common ground you already have with your partner without even realising it. Yes, it took you a week to choose your outfit, 48 hours in the bathroom to preen yourself and a further day and a half to get your hair to behave, but guess what? Exactly the same is true for him! The truth is, you already share a lot from the feelings, doubts and military-like regime you enforced to get ready for the date, so if you ’2 – Open Your Mind

You may be a picky eater by nature which, agreed is not necessarily your fault, but can be something of an annoying characteristic for those around you, I’m sure you won’t deny. If you fit into this category, there is nothing to say that you have to change your habits overnight, but it will certainly benefit your date in a huge way if you exercise a little control. Endless criticisms with regard to food and drink or generally being picky when it comes to selection could give the impression that you are a little on the high-maintenance side, even if this is far from the truth! Of course, nobody is expecting you to suddenly be fanatical about something you’ve frankly hated since birth, but steer clear of turning your nose up to many times, especially toward something you haven’t even tried yet.re uns3-Know How to Say No

Aside from the standard worries everyone has regarding first dates, any level of insecurity and vulnerability in a girl can escalate doubts to almost intolerable points. For example, what if he wants to go somewhere I don’t like? What if he want to do something I don’t? Furthermore, what if I simply hate the date in its entirety? All very real and common concerns, which is why the ability to say ‘no’ is one of the most important things to remember when approaching a date. You have to keep in mind that you do not ever have to agree to anything at any time just because you feel is the correct thing to do or say. If your brain says NO, your mouth says NO, it is as simple as that! Realising you have an easy alternative to untoward encounters and situations can help you to relax throughout the rest of the date instead of spending your time worrying about what might come. It is indeed a small word with a huge purpose. u're of something to talk about, try a subject you know he’ll understand! of such there are a few tips always worth remembering:

Guy make that decision yourself mbok before

Funny people... the Clay dude got me laughing and the yam leg

facts

Some things we think is little can escalate to something huge to contain.... She just plant a seed called "Doubt" in you.

A lot of couples these days find love through their own personal choice, by meeting people with shared interests, beliefs, and values either at work, at school, or at play. Along the line, they date, court and then decide if they are right for each other and if they can agree to live together and maybe get married.

Arranged marriage on the other hand involves the parents and relatives of those involved. Most times, there's marriage on the cards from the get go and it often happens within a short time after meeting. I want to think that these days, arranged marriages may involve some coercion and pressure but not force.

I have found that younger people are more gung-ho about making their own personal choice, but the older a man or a woman gets, especially if they have made the rounds of their social and dating circle with no luck, the more likely they are to be open to an arrangement by their parents or older relatives to meet new people and get married quickly.

What do you think? Which has more pros in your opinion?

I'm sure most of you are familiar with the concept of soul mates - two people who, across the vast expanses of space and time, meet, fall in love and spend the rest of their lives together. They are united in love especially because for each one, the other is the most special person in the universe.

It's a very captivating idea, especially because most people want to feel that they are the most important person to someone else. So it's no surprise that it's an idea that has sold a ton of songs, books and movies.

Now I think it would be great if the only couples who ever got together were soul mates. But in reality, not everyone gets to meet someone who thinks they are that most special person. Sometimes, they're in the wrong place, or they're searching at the wrong time. Sometimes, they're just too different from anyone else to find the person who will love them right back.

But sometimes, they will meet a person who thinks they're special all right, and who is ready to spend their life with the soul-mate seeker. The problem is that this person *doesn't* think that the soul mate seeker is the most special person in the universe, because there's someone else they are carrying a torch for.

I can imagine that most people would be repelled at the thought of being together with such a person. How secure would you feel, not knowing whether they would throw you over once the obstacle that was stopping them hooking up with their real soul-mate was out of the way? Even if their real soul mate was out of the picture, it wouldn't be very flattering to be the subject of comparison.

But personally, I don't think it's as bad as it sounds. Maybe it's because in the first place, I'm not a paid up believer in the 'soul-mate' theory that says that there's just this one special person for you, and nobody else. I think that the extent to which we love someone can grow, depending how much effort we're prepared to invest in the relationship.

So even if the person may not *presently* love you as much as they loves someone else, if you are assured that they *do* love you, and they love you enough to want to spend the rest of their life with you, then it's possible that in the fullness of time, both of you will come to be the number one person in each other's lives. (Hint: if the person is constantly making comparisons between you and their soul-mate, that's a big clue that they probably don't love you anyway.)

But I'd be interested in to hear what you think. Would you consider being with someone if you *knew* that there was someone else they loved more than you, even if they never made any mention of it, and even if you were strongly attracted to them?

true but rare

After watching a Nollywood movie recently, I was wondering about Nigerians and kissing. Is kissing part of Nigerian or African culture? I didn't have to think too far to know the partial answer to that. After writing "you may kiss the bride" into our wedding program - and getting the approval of the officiating priest - the Bishop who handled the vows refused to say it. He was using the booklet o, but when he got to that part, he said "not on his watch" and skipped the lines. I was so mad. Can you feel that I'm still beefing? LOL...

Anyway, no one needs to tell me that some Nigerians, and not just the older ones, are not cool with kissing. I remember also when I had to meet Atala at the Lagos airport once and jumped into his arms for a kiss when he came out. Most people were like hey, stop, what is that, move on. And no, we were not blocking anyone. But there is the question, is it the kissing that they aren't used to, or the public nature of it?

I decided to make Google search my friend, thinking of a little debate after Kiru Taye's first historical romance was published and a Nigerian reviewer felt the love scenes were probably unrealistic. But the question remains, who really knows? These things were not documented as far as I know.



Imagine my pleasurable surprise in finding that someone is documenting what is happening contemporaneously, by asking questions. Questions such as, How do Africans Kiss, Do Africans Kiss, Do you see Africans kiss, what about your parents?"Personally, I don't think Africans consider kissing as a cultural performance of love. I have not ever seen my parents kiss until their 25th wedding anniversary when my dad gave my mum a peck on the cheek in front of a packed church. Talk about PDA, yes, I learnt from the best.

OK, what I think is this. Younger people are kissing. I think those of us born in the seventies, eighties and nineties have seen kissing on TV so much as a part of expressing romantic love that we've imbibed it and use it in our own relationships. Seriously though, I can count on one hand the number of both-African couples older than 30 - I have seen kissing. So, I'm still not sure.

What has been your experience? Do Africans kiss? Do you kiss, will you kiss, how many people have you seen kiss recently? Is it part of our culture? Let's discuss.

halfrica:
Excuse me??

Who doesnt av issues in marriage??
They are not lieing bou their marital issues they just dnt let that bother them wen there are a lot of things life has got to offer !!!!!!!!!!!!!


feminists are mostly d ones dat condole men stuiipidity in marriage bt stil stand on their point nd value

you sound bitter.. and its feminists

Obviously they tried it with you and ......

will not click

Depend on what you wan to prepare it with... Tilapia