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Sammy101111:
Am a guy and I go tell you truth .okay try date your boy friend . Friend for just 1 month lowkey if he will not demand for sex 😂

They just want to increase your body count 😂

The guy will knack you steady and later get tired of you because it a shameful thing to marry your friend ex girlfriend people your current bf go invite go know both of you na .use your sense. If a man know your paro that you’ve been a slut or knack someone they know it will always be in there mind 😂 any time they are with you ..
there are millions of guys outside . It is you that will look for a guy that suite your class
No go let two friends way they eat from the same table drink from the same cup knack you when you go them go discuss your matter oh
Na one use your puna count scores lol
The funniest thing is that your currency guy may have even tell he’s friend that you are good in bed 😂 and he’s friend had kept it in mind to have a piece of the cake lol.




And the only thing that can make you date your boy friend , friend is that if your current boy friend never knack you . You can date he’s friend it cool but if your Boy friend done knack you no go date the friend oh . Them go laugh you later

I think you're right , I explained to my bf about everything and I didn't accept his friends proposal , we were on the verge of breakup and I guess I was emotional about everything , I think my spirit wanted to get back at him and my body was not in support but at the end , I remembered promises I've made to myself , not to date someone in the same street , talk less of same circle.

I think the guy knew I was sad and depressed and almost used it against me , because he began to act shady , he started promising me things and calling me excess , even when I told him that I was settling with my current bf , until my bf saw his texts on my phone , which I stopped responding and now he's planning to confront him.

But in my defense , i really was over my bf , he broke my heart , he only realized once my heart was dead to him , it was a fight of 8 months , fighting the same fight , even typing it now makes me upset and even now sometimes I look at him and ask why?
He just rushed to go and pack his friends to come and beg , for something that was not supposed to be an issue , omo

At least now he feels very different , its been almost 2 months since the fight and begging started , I'm healing gradually , on the edge

I'm happy all of this happened , I believe it happened for a reason

eazzzy1:
‘I just want to be happy’ - every girl favourite words before making bad decisions. What makes you happy now will turn into don’t judge me by my past in a few years time.

A guy who’s thinking of getting with his friend’s girl isn’t trustworthy. The decision is ultimately yours to make, my advice is to use your head not your heart. Even if it works, will he trust you with his friends?

He will because I'm not sleeping with anybody nor am I just an unsatisfied person , I am someone that appreciates and gives and understands but I've never been inappropriate with him

This has happened twice now.
Gotten into a toxic relationship meets toxic persons friend and has instant regret but can't do anything about.

My current bf has done his best to ruin my life , but his best would never be enough because I survived .

He neglected me in all aspects except sex , at least I see Garri and soup in his house but he has never bought me anything or contributed to any of my business or even meatpie sef , in fact I have to ask for mineral and it will be like Christmas.

I broke up with my long distance ex to try and entre a relationship with someone close enough but I've seen shege like this , I dey package small so no one noticed but now I am speaking up

Rather than give he always takes , borrowed my savings of one year ,I don't know why but its all my fault , I felt he would do the same for me , still borrowed money from me to cover some expenses , borrowed from other people too , just debt debt everywhere.

To top it off he's always online chatting with anything that wears skirt , never thinking of skill or business.

With everything I met one of his friends that was the complete opposite and with all my complained I started becoming a little close with him , he had the same toxic relationship with a girl he loved , treated her well , provided for her and yet she cheated , everyone used to admire them but she got pregnant for her Ex and he confessed everything he did for her.

Meanwhile my own took me from up and dragged me down with full force.

Now this heart broken friend confessed that he wish he met me first , but I belong to his friend , I feel the same way.

I have no feelings for my bf , but now he us begging but its late , he had opportunities but he saw me like his mother and now I'm nurturing feelings for his friend , I feel like speaking up but people would paint both of us bad .

Even though I want to date I should date someone else right? But I already like this one , because he's so kind and its sad to see that he gets mistreated all the time .

I have told my friends , they think its bad for reputation but he's responsible , a good father too because he has a daughter .

I want to be happy , thats all.

I'm tired of being the man in this relationship

DelilahMakinde:
You're playing with your life.
Did you do a complete evacuation after the miscarriage?

Get that your boyfriend to ferry you to a hospital

Yes I've already been to the hospital

Bimpe29:
God will make a way out for you, Dannnny.

I believe so

Tohsynetita1:
I know but that statement she put might show something like “ responsibility” for having such. We view things differently, some people might think na sex them they do for that relationship and that’s what’s making her unserious with her life.

It’s like a man that has a phone worth of 2 million and begging for 50k school fees, some people might think , if he’s serious he should go and sell that phone. But if he didn’t mention phone at all, it’s.

Unserious ke? He provides food for us , he pays the rent of this apartment , he provides for my health , he is seeking work for me too , paying people to inform us of any vacancy , he gifts me things I need once in awhile , I've not seen a person as kind as him , apart from this , he helps around the house a lot , he's even a better cook than me , he only has Sundays off , so its not about sex , its the fact that I want to marry him one day and I want to work to reduce the weight .

We're fine if we don't see from now till December but at least , in case of anything I know that my home is not faraway , and if possible he should see where I would be working .

dierich:
Can't u help her just like Ur sister. Shey because she has a bf now, Una no wan help. Is it until u sleep with someone b4 u can render help? Nawa for you people o

Apparently

CriminalTinubu:
So other people's bfs should provide for you then your irresponsible bf will Bleep & sleep?

Mr man did I drop my account number for anyone , did I ask for 2k to eat or water to drink , did I ask for a place to sleep or clothes to wear ?

I asked for work , just because your sisters are into hookup and your gf denies you everyday on her WhatsApp status doesn't mean every woman is like that

Tohsynetita1:
That’s her problem but if she continue presenting her case like this, she might not see helper. It’s not everyone that want to have sex with her. Presenting such case with partners shows she’s not serious to some people. She didn’t need to add partner at all. Even if a woman want to help her and heard such, they might not help her anymore. You have partner that you cannot leave to go and hustle probably for a while? That shows you might not be serious. Even sometimes, married people leave their zone to hustle.

If I were to be a house help earning above 50k asked to relocate to Lagos I would do it , but many jobs pay very little and they want you to throw your whole life away , for my safety and security , I would rather work close to home,

Am I not human? Can I not have a preference ?

I worked at a popular restaurant in my town , leaving my house by 6am and arriving a few minutes after 10 by night , my salary was 10k and my work was heavy .
It didn't matter how far my house was , I was expected to be at work by 6:30

People often take advantage of anybody starting from scratch , just like this thread.

I want to be close to home for my safety , not for sex or intimacy .

He won't mind not seeing me till December if it means I'll be making something for my self and i'lol be safe.

Would it also be wrong ? If u lied and said I want to work close to home because I have a mother that I don't want to be too far away .from

sunshineV:
na man dey do man. she's in a relationship as she started but you want her to leave her bf before u can help her. "it's not about sex o" foolish goat

You can imagine , I don't know where I was begging for food to eat or place to sleep or clothes to wear , I'm in desperate need of work not that I am dying of hunger , in times like this leaving all the burden on one person feels like a crime

CriminalTinubu:
Wanted to help until I saw this
Let him provide for you then!

Lol so because I have a bf , I should not find work , I should just be eating his money , even people with jobs are complaining of the economy , he provides for me but I need my own money , and I know that God will give me my own

HerrDamilord:
Can someone recommend a good tutorial center, a car wash or a bricklaying site where I can earn daily pay in Ibadan?

I'm a graduate btw.

Omo naija

Hi , call me Danyyyy , I know people to advertise on this forum but I'm just going to try my luck and hope it works.

I'm desperately in need of work , I graduated last year and I have an outstanding fee of 350k to clear before service , nowhere to see the money for now.

I live at Ogu/bolo L.G.A , rivers state , close to Onne trailer park , Nonwa and Eteo, I have worked as a cleaner , a bet king cashier , a teacher , a computer operator , a waittress and an online page handler.

I am available for all of the above and also interested in home tutoring , nanny and baby sitting and even sales girl , on a fair salary.

I have also hawked snacks but due to sickness in early June , my ingredients got spoiled , I spent money on drugs and my flour became family flour , so I'm going to have to start from square one.

If its a live in house help around pH with accommodation and feeding , I can take it too on a fair salary.

I'm very literate , I'm 23 and I have a male partner that is working which is why I don't want to travel too far for work.

Whoever it is that can help out , please help me out

Hi , call me Danyyyy , I know people to advertise on this forum but I'm just going to try my luck and hope it works.

I'm desperately in need of work , I graduated last year and I have an outstanding fee of 350k to clear before service , nowhere to see the money for now.

I live at Ogu/bolo L.G.A , rivers state , close to Onne trailer park , Nonwa and Eteo, I have worked as a cleaner , a bet king cashier , a teacher , a computer operator , a waittress and an online page handler.

I am available for all of the above and also interested in home tutoring , nanny and baby sitting and even sales girl , on a fair salary.

I have also hawked snacks but due to sickness in early June , my ingredients got spoiled , I spent money on drugs and my flour became family flour , so I'm going to have to start from square one.

If its a live in house help around pH with accommodation and feeding , I can take it too on a fair salary.

I'm very literate , I'm 23 and I have a male partner that is working which is why I don't want to travel too far for work.

Whoever it is that can help out , please help me out

Sapasenator:
Abeg see a doctor and run a better scan as you don't want your blood level to go below the required threshold.

Omo

Sapasenator:
You need to see a doctor. Any history of fibroid in your family?

No history of fibroids oh , abeg oh I can't afford it ,I have enough problems already

After a close call , a miscarriage around early June , I decided to get a birth control shot 6 weeks ago , I started bleeding 3 weeks ago and my blood is still flowing , I thought it would stop but it seems to be getting heavier.

I live with my bf and its embarrassing , and if you're a woman you know that when you're seeing your period , your sweat has a stronger odour and thats why deodorant is a must.

I lost my job and I've been depending on my bf for a while , I have an interview tomorrow morning at a secondary school.

I have my bath at least 3 times a day but its as if I'm dirty , even because of cold I can bath more with hot water , its not helping.

I don't have pad or deodorant , anytime I ask him he's always complaining about food and he always has to provide food for both of us , and then if he accidentally spots a drop of blood on my underwear , like when I'm peeing , he starts to lecture me about my cleanliness making me feel dirty.

The other day he was tickling me and it came out again , he was so disgusted , I felt like sinking , I told him to stop but he didn't listen because he plays a lot , it smells like old blood and its thicker than normal period blood , start and stop .

I can change my underwear up to 3 times and still feel very dirty .

I'm going to the clinic to complain again tomorrow

Its like I'm bleeding deliberately , I'm very pale and weak right now but he makes me feel like I'm just acting pitiful

if at least I was always on pad , the stress would be less but I don't even have my own money , if I complain its like I'm ungrateful about other things

I'm tired , I just want my body back to normal

Fryx:
I once fell in love with a green snake. I was passing through a construction site and there it was, staring at me with the most beautiful eyes I ever seen - and ho, such a beauty.

We are in such close proximity I was tempted to reach out and caress it, but it slowly slither away.

My heart longed to see it once more, but, it’s a dream that may never come true.

The green snake I saw was very bright and beautiful , it passed under my feet I was a child then

Curious345:
If you caught it alive, I could show you where you can sell it for $35,000

Where ?

Medipharm:
Wise decision....We expected this decision earlier but better late than never. If possible sef the family should relocate to another country.
South Africans are evil, never seen a worse African country eviler than them. Their envy and hatred against fellow Africanz knows no bounds.

Is Libya a joke to you?

[quote author=Diamond1605 post=131217011][/quote]I have a friend just like you , she's 21 and married at 18 by her own will , she was not forced , or begged by her family , she's tall and beautiful , light skinned and well endowed but not fat , a little closer to slim than fat, before she married she was glowing , I admired her from far , girl to girl.

She married a drunkard in his 40s , he's old , ugly and broke , got pregnant , gave birth , lost the child , people rejoiced including me , we believed she was with him because of the pregnancy but even after the death of her child , she refused to let him go.

He insults , disgraces her , beats her , blames her for his drunkenness , blames her for the death of their son , he doesn't give her money , she's still depending on her elder brother who is younger than her husband with more than a decade , common phone this husband won't get for her.

He couldn't afford to pay for an attire she needed for her brother's wedding , he chases me away because he doesn't want her to have friends .

She sold the phone her brother gifted her to pay for a prayer work for him but her money has gone in vain .

She has refused to let him go , she believes that she means everything to him and that he loves her , he just doesn't know how to show her , I act like I can accept it , every time I give my advice it falls on deaf ears .

I don't know why its happening but I do hope she realizes herself on her own before its too late.

Her whole family is begging her to come back , promising to help her further her studies but she says she wants to be with him whilst going to school , he said she should get pregnant instead and now she's trying to get pregnant again

Double0h7:
Be very clean, stay quiet, wear red pant and bra to bed and satisfy him very well! You have a good man and good men are scarce nowadays so hold on tight to your good man. Continue to endure and one day you will be rewarded with a long marriage, your own family and the glorious title of Mrs so and so! Just hold on!

Zonefree:
Men should try and learn how to cook. Don't allow any woman hold you hostage because of food.

If she refuse cooking, enter kitchen, make your meal, eat and bounce. Then, deprive her of things she normally gets from you.

I hate to see men complain about food every time. Cooking is a basic survival instinct not gender based.

My partner loves to cook , in fact today my aunt paid an unexpected visit and caught him in the act , she praised him endlessly , I used to deliver my soup when I cook now she's doubting I'm the one that made those too

House chores are divided too , he's in charge of washing bathroom , he tends the compound from weeds and he washes the heavy stuff like sheets , towels and blankets .

I don't have a job for now but I'm hoping for a miracle to locate so that we can work hand in hand financially.

I do the laundry , the dishes and I go to the market , he does all this when he sees I'm tired , I make sure he doesn't come home to dirty dishes , an un mopped floor or a pile of dirty clothes.

His work is active , so I don't let him repeat clothes because he sweats a lot , people look at me like I'm suffering when they see me washing his things but they don't know he's my family and my baby.

When I don't eat , he feels so awful and some days he has so little and still gives me all because he believes I'm in a better position to use his money wisely , I can price ehn

My man is one of a kind , I've been with kind men but he's an angel and I hope he knows this , we're planning to open a business before officiating anything but in the mean time we do everything together.
We have sex like rabbits but I'm on birth control , no unwanted pregnancy welcomed for now .
I promise to keep improving , if he continues to adore me like this.
P.s he's 25 and I'm 23

I graduated since last year from a very expensive private uni and I'm yet to do my clearance , I arrived home 1st October 2023 and I've been in my hometown ever since .

My dad with all the influence and power he has , refused to let me work in his company after all his big promises , I came back home and met him sick and I forfeited my chances to travel to Choba where I had someone willing to accommodate me and would've found work sooner than here , I left my cashier work because of school and now I'm done and it feels like , I have been standing at a place.

I got a teaching work for 15k per month and was owed 3 months salary after being paid the very first salary 3 weeks late, I was alone and I needed money , how can I keep working with a small salary that is still not being paid online.
That is a bad work environment.
I stopped and started hawking pancakes , the sun almost finished me , when I kept it at a place sometimes it goes to waste because most people only patronize me by morning , men who have nothing better to do will act like they want to buy and call me and start blabbing , if you ignore them they will act as if they wanted to buy something and you're not serious , its very discouraging.

I have work experience as a computer operator , cashier for a bet business , I was the only cashier in the most populated bet shop in Maryland street Choba , I've managed online page of a hair brand as its social media manager , interacting with customer , organizing ads and doing basic research on what favors the business.

I no get big eye , even if its 15k I'm earning as salary let me at least see it , how can I be going to work everyday and still depending on my bf to survive for so long , a particular week I went to teach for the whole week eating only once because I don't live with my bf and he was broke that period , I only eat when I come back and go to his house , my sister too was broke , I was so depressed but everyone is saying I should have endured , if my school covered my feeding I won't quit , my highschool covered feeding for its teachers .

Now I'm jobless and at home and I need a job but I don't know where to start , I really don't want to teach now because of my experience .
I have a BS.c but I feel like I have nothing since I can't even clear my fees on my own 300k plus tfare from rivers to Ogun state and accommodation .

I have my dads old Sim and he has the numbers of influential people in our town who don't know me , I feel like sending them messages to plead for a job but I'm tired of the questions , people asking me "why didn't you ask your dad?"

My dads wife is behind all his decisions , he keeps saying after service I'll get a job in council that pays me 100k and above but I've been home since October , school was hell for me , I thought by now I would be at peace , I'm just disorganized and its eating me.

I am lucky but it doesn't mean I should be comfortable depending on one person for everything , even as his leg is not strong he's doing a lot , if I were to get a job it would be better for both of us

LenaJon:
Washing on the floor makes it easier for me. And in that way I'll get to every corner. After that I wash the floor to remove the pieces of blood.

Me too , I like to wash properly and the WC can't do it for me

Freelancerboy:
Anyone who's Interested here should Send a message to my WhatsApp my number is on .y signature.

I'll teach anyone here how to read your cheating partner WhatsApp messages directly on your phone .

It's not free.
Hold your #1000
Before you message me

Lol when you can just ask them to open it for you , without pre informing them , if they throw a fit then your relationship is probably just for ducking

Auxtan:
I need an AA & O+ in my life. You have a sister?

Lol they're too young for you and my second is in a serious relationship as well , so no

Auxtan:
Love can make you say a lot more good things about him. But if you are right in all you said now, then he might just be that guy for you. Go and check your genotype and other medicals. You can as well take in again for him to make things easier since your mum is being too stubborn. Happy married life in advance!

When the time is right I will do just that , as for the genotype , I'm AA and O+ , I did my test before gaining admission.

Auxtan:
You just have to think more and be careful. People can be who you didn't fathom them to be. And your boyfriend could be acting very understanding because he wants to tie you down first as you're of a different status. If not he would be more interested in marrying you the right way and not getting you pregnant first. THINK!

When we met I was selling pancakes as an hair dressers apprentice , using a damaged button phone (giving damsels in distress)

He didn't know anything about me , he's not from here , he moved to my town last year , even with how he was acting at first I knew he knew nothing about me , he used to talk to me like I was unexposed and local , it was people that knew me that would tell him who I was but even still , if he had grown up here , I would never even give him a chance , the men here have approached for that status thing and its always so obvious.

If I tell the other men I'm hungry , they'll give me a history lesson about my dad , thats why i only date outside ,but with him its as if I'm his child, he sees me as his innocent and sweet person, he's always thinking and making provision with the little he has , most times I don't eat till he's back from work so that we can eat together , even if there's food , I'll wait so that we can eat everything together , it feels good sha.

I met my current boyfriend last year still here in my hometown , but I didn't accept him until march because I needed time to move on from my ex (we broke up because of distance).

I love this new guy and he loves me too we've been together since march and although it started off rocky , its become more stable and its getting serious.

He's been itching to meet my family officially but from where I'm standing that's a bad idea..... My mom is materialistic and artificial , she doesn't believe in humble beginnings and I don't want her to get involved and make him feel bad.

He's orphaned and fends for himself and me , he's very kind and understanding and he cherishes me , other men that came want me for stupid reasons and most of the men here are not single , you'll be a side chick to a man that can't give his wife money to make her hair (waste of sin) ,

But my bf is like my best friend he's my type and I'm his type, young , handsome , hardworking and caring , I love that we both look very good and I usually imagine having a baby with him, that will look just like him

I recently got pregnant without realizing it on time but whilst treating a suspected infection I put myself and my pregnancy at risk and we were adviced to terminate it , it was life threatening and I was bed ridden ,I had him with me from start to finish , helping me go through this hard time ,both of us were emotionally ready for the baby but God knows best(maybe next year)

My mom says he's a nobody because he's orphaned , didn't further his studies after waec , does hard labour and he's not from our town .

My father also had no opportunity to further on time and I wasn't born with a silver spoon , it was after I had grown a bit that we became highly privileged , and got wealthy.

I didn't earn my life , I was blessed and lucky to be the first graduate in my family but none of this is his fault , but my mother thinks I should bring home some big guy that drives a car and has a degree.

if he didn't care about my family ,I won't be bothered yet, but he said he's tired of hiding and wants to reach out but I'm scared it would go wrong because I know my parents.

What can I do ?