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TheSourcerer:
I'm confused dannyyyy because its too early , is she naive or just bad at been manipulative

TheSourcerer I can't really say , I'm sorry
I don't really understand girls that do that

Okay my friend said she's just bad at being manipulative , but she's definitely trying to manipulate you , why didn't she get for herself if she wanted it so badly ? Just a week ?

TheSourcerer:
its well articulated thank you ....... We were to go to justrite on Saturday ...... Met Monday , dated Tuesday .... Had sex Wednesday , made Transfer i belived was for transport , but after I felt she thought it was not enough I rounded it to 10 ,, she is not wide eyed or into fancy things , but the the paying bit and claiming she loves me (been there so idk) making posts and all ....... Oh and she told me she's married but no kids , it's very immature to unable to make decisions like this I guess , but I'm dazed ...... Really am.

I'm sorry , I stopped reading when you said "she's married"
Anyways you're welcome

femijay8271:
Thank you sir.
Which cake naaaaaaaa Eh, see dis woman

No fight me , is ask I ask oh

TheSourcerer:
quick question , if I pay her every time we have sex , is she playing me ....? Is she really 'in love' with me ..? Or just the money .....

That's prostitution
That's what spoilt everything , a wife or a girlfriend getting money everytime they have sex with you , that is total rubbish and the word for it is manipulation

The real reason why women are encouraged to be with men with the ability to provide is because in the future , when everything happens you need a MAN that has proved himself to be a man , not just a man by his biological structure , you can't be up on your feet like you were when you were younger , unmarried , not pregnant and not a mom

And men are adviced to be with women with the ability to nurture for the sake of building a better family

So a relationship is like a draft of what marriage should look like , if you do too much or do what you're not comfortable with or if you find yourself compromising in the relationship , when you proceed with marriage you'll be expected to continue compromising and that's not going to last

So its not even about dating a rich man , some men were born rich , when they lose it they might not know how to get it again , so it's better to marry a generous man who is competent and has ambition ( keyword : GENEROUS)

Paying for sex is prostitution
But saying she has this issue or something that's causing distress and you want to help even just a little, and it's nothing to do with the sex , that's it , that's your cue
Men naturally love to provide for who they care about , there should be limits or boundaries to it
The giving thing shouldn't even be attached to sex

If in the relationship you were giving money everytime you had sex , that's going to continue even in marriage and you won't keep up with it , that's how you will find out that you're dealing with a business woman ( if you know what I mean)

I can't give you a straight answer , if that's your situation , you can use this to decide if it's your money or your love , and I really hate advicing people in love , dey no dey hear word
I know it's junked up but I hope it helps

tayo60:
U suppose chop better food today now

Na wa for you oh

femijay8271:
Hello Everyone....today is my birthday 5/5/2022.

I wasn't suppose to do this but am using this moment and medium to thank God Almighty for his love & care ever since wey my father don die since when I was 2yrs and some months old.

Hmmmm .... Am not suppose to be alive o for wetin my eyes don see for these world but dis baba God, prove to b a father to the fatherless.

Thanks to my stubborn lovely wife... I know sey u really wish to do more but dis one wey u do, i so much appreciate it. Ba kudi, no money.

Am typing this for future reference... God bless every one struggling out there.

Congratulations sir
Happy birthday , enjoy your meal
Sha come and share cake us oh

MaDaRa01:
Some just tell you, oya i want to bless you with 100k, send your account number....

How will you use it wisely?

Fejisglam advanced makeup training #90k
The 10k can be for tfare

Sisora:
your problem is laziness and pride.


Pride that you can't work for love. Well, no girl will walk right into your bedroom just because you want them to.

Everyone want to feel valued. Everyone wants someone to cherish them.

So until you are ready to come down from your high horse, get your hands dirty and really work to keep a girl, you'll continue to remain alone or possibly get a gold digger.

He's probably ugly too

Nyascobar1414:
When a girl shows me greenlight, I dont always give in to the feelings cos Love is a sign of weakness...

I ain't gonna stoop so low for a female that defecate,urinate and even menstruate... The thought alone pisses me off...

another gay dude is coming out of his shell
Good for you
Bleep females mehn
Men are bae and guess what they only sweat , release sperm and do no1 and no2 ,
Good option , I like men too actually

Faber:
On top the whole wahala way full the universe, your own problem is a mensurating, stinking, stingy, selfish, manipulative, dog - prone, ingrate of a being to come and stress your life..

Okay na. No come here much later stress us with heartbreak story. Na your type girls dey do shege

Awwwwwwwwn how cute
Gay dudes are finally speaking
So proud of you

danielinyang:
The word " Homework" spelled backward is " krowemoh" which many rumors has spread in the internet that krowemoh is a Latin word for child abuse.
Learn more here
https://naijarev.com/what-is-homework-spelled-backward/

False sir
Krowemoh does not mean anything in Latin

Opera101:
She Is Proactively Interested In You, One of the clearest signs she is developing feelings for you is that she’s proactively interested in you. She is curious, asks questions, and wants to learn more about your life e.g. your friends, your job, your family, your experiences growing up. She actively participates in your life e.g. she picks up some of your interests and hobbies, so she can enjoy them with you.

1. She might ask about your pictures. She wants to know your family background, where you are from and your educational level and what your plans for the future.

2. What are the things you don’t like about me?

This is another question she’ll ask you when she’s starting to develop feelings for you; she’ll want to know what you don’t like about her and what you’d like her to improve or change.You should be aware that if a girl starts asking you these questions, she is developing feelings for you.

3. Are You Married/Do You Have A Girlfriend?

The efficacy of subtle checking should not be underestimated. You might not have a clue that she’s interested in you, but if you’re asked this question, think about the situation carefully. She might be into you if she isn’t in charge of collecting RSVPs for your ‘s Christmas party.

4. She Repeatedly Asks Where You Are

girl in question asks you where you are at a party, dance, or even a sporting event, she’s probably into you. Whether you stated you’d be there or she’s just hoping you’ll show up, she likes you and wants to know whether you’ll be there.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8BFTFrve2L0

5. The type of girl that you like

If she likes you, she may inquire about the type of girl you prefer. She may be asking because she is unclear whether or not you are interested in her, and she wants to see whether you are.

What Do You think, Drop Your Comment

The one I know is that if she likes she'll stalk you first ,

she knows when you're online , responds to your WhatsApp status , picks your call without allowing her phone to ring ,

she'll call and greet you and listen to hear a girl's voice in the background ,

she'll give you more than 1 missed call ( if she calls 3 times she really wants you because she's willing to use her airtime instead of waiting for you to call back )

if she flash you that first time , forget it , abort mission!!!!!

She'll send message and then delete it

She'll change her dp like 3 times a week

Lots and lots and lots of emojis , take note

She uploads nice pics almost everyday ( ps she knows when you view it too ) sometimes she fit ....lemme not expose myself
That's enough info
You're welcome

SeekerOfPekus:
Which African country can I get free sex easily.
I am tired of always paying these girls , small thing hook up .

A little narration will help

Cotonou
Ghana ( cheap aunties ) I schooled there every now and then someone is aborting something , even jss2 follow abort
Nigeria girls have hometraining abeg at least they do it for money
The other ones can be for free but don't try northeners oh , those ones are put together and always disciplined , northeners in Ghana fine like Fulani I can always spot them , they have this baby face look
Most of my friends were northeners

Africa had alot of problems before racism , if you remove racism totally they will still have problems
We sold our brothers and sisters and we are angry that they made them slaves
We sent them far from home to strange land and we are angry that they were over powered and oppressed
African people were too broken to believe that freedom was possible , it was still some white people that strengthened them , some of these same white people turned against their own so that our people could gain freedom
It was still white people that stopped the murder of twins here in Nigeria

The relationship between white and black is like a relationship between friends , if you don't set boundaries , if you don't correct them , they will violate you and that's when it gets toxic
If the black people weren't so naive , they would have tried to learn from the white while keeping them at Bay but they were easily seduced by all the glitter and gold , they'll give you sugar and take sugarcane and you're happy

They'll give you clothes and take a full human being and you think you made a fortune
It was greed that made some people kidnap and sell their own brothers and the result was slavery

I also have a resentment for the ancestors of the white people but they only get half the blame , in every transaction there's a buyer and there's a seller , the seller is from here , the seller is our ancestors, they took part in this , let's stop overlooking that part , and why do you think it's not dying?
We have traitors in our midst , whining and dining with us , they look like us but they are not us , and they will keep poking little holes in our tent so that no matter how hard we try to block them , they keep finding a way to invade us

I heard of the ones that collect eggs from women who are willing to donate , give them a maximum of hundred thousand naira and then their eggs are frozen and sold abroad for millions to experimental labs behind the backs of these women
Even the organ market is thriving uninterrupted , they ask hidiots to kill and bring kidney give you 50k and they will take it and sell it abroad to them for medical or experimental reasons or even here to our politicians
The culprit is here , we can only be free if we get all of them first and if I'm being realistic , that would be an impossible task

Haliraph:
She'll be on early 60s.
That to say, she'll be 64yrs.

She wasn't born 1958 that was when the picture was taken , it's late 60's or early 70s
Let's say she was 5 years old in that picture , she should be 69 years but the picture was taken 64 years ago

Znation:
Hello nairalanders; a very beautifull wednesday morning to you all.

One thing that can't and can never be forgotten in a relationship is the day you meet your spouse or partner. Oh yes! That first approach, and the joyful feedback, how she refused given you her number, and how you continued shooting your shot..

So, where did you meet your spouse or partner,

How long did it take before you both married,

If you were to wed where you meet, where will it be?

- Should incase you havn't met yours;

Where do you think you will meet him or her?

'Happy Good Time & Memories Nairaland Couples'

When I see him I'll let you know

ukaface:
I tire for this question.
I can't relate.
I never meet anybody, but I'm sure he is wherever he is forming redpiller, dude! Be ready to simp for me

It's just mouth they're making , no mind them

Dorwadora:
He came with my course mate looking for my roommate. But fortunately, they met me. He couldn't stop looking at me and I told my guy that "hawfa, why this your friend dey look like stupid person". Whenever he meet me, he'll always stare like a fool.

Anyways, I fell for his innocence and I snatched his heart from my roommate. Now we are 4 years together.

We had sex and the next morning he said "Dora, hope you're not pregnant?.... I could hear his heartbeat, beating strong". Lol....we were 18 then. We taught eachother everything we know about sex and love. Always clumsy when kissing eachother. We kiss like apes


Now, he's a badass that's always making my blood pressure to rise. His latest fancy is moving around with a condom in his wallet.

God please bring back the old times

You're married

Good morning
I thought this story would be helpful to some people or at least motivational
So around 200 level my dad's company was hit with recession, it was a huge gap from the life we were all used to
My siblings changed school to reduce the finances and since I was the first uni student in the family , my dad swore that he would make sure I finished
Before gaining admission I was only a Christian by mouth , I no dey pray , I no dey read Bible but I was one of the lead singers in church ( it was by force , coz they found out I could sing) but I still never sang from my heart , I sang because I could
Eventually the person that dragged me to church graduated and I stopped going for 3 years I went like 5 or 6 times
Around 300 level I found out I had 3 carryovers all because of my poor attendance , I didn't care , all I kept saying was " it's not my fault"
I wasn't eating , I was always sick , I lost weight ( no be say I get weight to lose oh) I also lost money , na so I vex , I left home to my friends place , I lied to her that I'd stay for just a week and I ended up staying for a month plus ,this was after 300 level exam , I was depressed , I felt like a failure , the worse was that in my first year I actually made first class so I want from the best to the worst , I was hiding from everyone
I used to answer questions in class , I stopped , gossip flies fast in my school , they will be like after all the overdo see her GPA
That's how my dad begged me to go back and try , that he won't force me to be the best , I should just finish what I started so that all his efforts don't go to waste
I went back home , got ready and left for school , I didn't want to go back, everyone believed I wasn't coming back so what would they say if I came back , I was just having anxiety , mixed feelings fear , I don't know when I picked up my Bible , I didn't feel like complaining to anyone again , I started praying , I was allowed in my hostel and promised to pay my fees by month end
One day I couldn't reach my dad, I was broke and hungry and i called my siblings , they said that daddy was sick and there's nothing at home , I was so sad , and then that same day another friend said something so small on a normal day I for just laugh , I went to my room , I started crying from my chest , it was like someone stabbed me in my chest and I started quarrelling with God " I'm a good person , why do you keep allowing this people to look down on me ? I don't steal , I've not killed anyone, I'm trying to be okay but I'm hurt and I know I should be happy that I'm living but I'm still sad because I don't feel like I'm living "

I Sha quarrelled with him like I was quarrelling a person and the tears were just pouring and I could barely breath , someone will think that they beat me
The next Monday I heard my HOD requested for me , on my way there my shoe spoilt boom I started crying again , I called my bestie , I told her I'm not sure why I'm crying but I just want her to tell me something anything , she started saying it's okay , calm down , my roommates came in " D why are you crying ? " I don't know oh , I thought something bad has happened again, or maybe my HOD wanted to scold me and I was like
" if this people know how I torment myself and how disappointed I am in me , they won't bother "
When I met him he informed me that God spoke to him and he has decided to pay fees everything , my lecturers had informed him of my situation but my case was still better than some people's case , so I was shocked " why me ? For what reason ? " I forgot that I prayed on Sunday that this would happen and it's happening and I was thinking it would take a while for God to even answer my prayers
That wasn't all I got some extra money for provision and then food money for a month
Both from my lecturers and my HOD , I had already finished my tears for that week so I couldn't even cry, I just sat there looking, I was saying thank you
When I called dad he was shocked , he was even saying that I shouldn't worry he'll pay by month end coz the line was breaking and he was just hearing " fees , fees ,fees "
So he assumed they were disturbing me because of my fees , I had to send a text so he can understand me coz I couldn't keep the news for too long
He immediately called my HOD, told him thank you and blessed him
He had been running around to his friends and family and was even trying to sell his land to meet up , not to mention the debt he was already in ,I was happy that he could relax a little at least fees for this year , this last year was settled

I started believing that this was not a thing of luck nor was it just a coincidence
I started going to church , praying on my own
, Reading my Bible and following some online sermons ( Apostle Joshua Selman )
I leave it on speaker when I'm doing somethings
I just became mindful of everything I was saying or doing
I can confidently say that for this year I've achieved at least 3 of my biggest goals and I'm not going to take credit for it , I don't think I did it by myself
My friends became so supportive , always calling to know if I'm okay, dragging me out sometimes coz I hardly left my room , my dad calls now and then to give me advice and gist me , I think somebody told him that I was having some emotional crisis , because he calls more frequently than normal
I went closer to God and I feel much safer now
I know I still have alot of learning and growing to do and I still have flaws of my own
That doesn't mean I'm too new or unqualified to share my own story
I hope this helps someone have a little faith in God
He's always listening

Check out overcoming daily on YouTube , it really helped me

dauntless15:
She might be the one needing the psychiatrist in real life, she might not be fit to even advice anyone in real life but it's nairaland where anyone can claim to be what they are not.

it's mad people that know mad people
She just exposed herself

dauntless15:
How do you know he's broken, or you're just assuming like her? You're part of the problem too.

I don't even know the guy , I don't know what she noticed to come to the conclusion , and I'm advising her not him , if she wants to make a suggestion especially with just the opinions he posts here , psychiatry is too extreme and I felt that one statement she made about psychiatry made her advice look like an insult , someone she has never seen , abi does she plan on going around NL gathering people and taking them to a psychiatrist

TheWolfen:
I will agree there are some irresponsible men that are too lazy to work in Africa society. That is why African society frown at such. The society doest encourage it and look down on such men. You are an Africa and I believe you know that too.

However western society has the most lazy men. I mean it is more common over there especially among the black folks. Sleeping with women just to pass the night at their house. They don't wanna work. They expect the woman who work to provide for their lazy ass. All they do is sit home, satisfy the woman on bed and when things fall apart they gets kicked out of house lol. Instead of them to go work they would rather hook up with the next available single mother.
So u see over there it is a lot worse.
African/Nigerian men dey try abeg.
Just some few irresponsible ones when compared to western society.
I believe in gender role. Husband and wife should take care of their responsibilities.
It is not nice when those few irresponsible ones in African society leave everything to the woman

God bless you sir

TheWolfen:
This can't even happen in western world. They introduced the 50/50 thing, chores, kids everything is shared. . their men are already use to the system so they will agree to all her questions.

But in Africa most men iare okay to be 100% provider even though his wife works and earn her own money but because that is what society, culture and religion tells the man to do. But would want the wife to take care of the kids and chores or employ a maid for chores.
So you see the scenario you painted also can't happen in Africa too

You'd be surprised dear
Some women are even confessing that they paid their bride price , that's not a scenario we planned for but it is happening
They know in their hearts that it is unacceptable but they go around looking for a sugar mummy that they're older than , put a baby in her and leave her to do all the work and the kids are still beating their surnames
Some even ship and encourage the feminism talk so that you can feel like they respect women
They'll verbally agree to do everything equally but then when they do it , they're so sloppy , they drag their feets you have no choice to just stop bothering them and do it yourself
I'm happy that there are still good men out there or at least men that believe the same thing you believe

virginprincess:
All this grammar just to justify forunication , the girls you are getting inbetween their legs you aren't going to marry them,so why decieve them just to sleep with them in the name of women are meant for men not dogs.

That one is a brolosho
Very cheap

ikorodureporta:
Is it a crime to love somebody??

We are TAYAD
una too dey lie
Some don't understand the word love , they just sing it like national anthem
I loff you , I loff you , I loff you
Then you'll hear
" If you love me you'll have sex with me " the bomb has just dropped

MARRIAGE CONTRACT
Woman : so when we get married who does the chores?
Millennial man : when I was a child my mom did all the chores and she never complained
Woman : okay I'll do that , what about kids?
Millennial man : i mean I'm a man I can't breastfeed nor can I get pregnant , it's a woman's job to be a mother , my mother had 30 children and she took good care of all of us
Woman : okay I'll do the chores and the kids , but you'll have to pay all the bills
Millennial man : that's not fair , we share the bills 50/50 , is it not your mates that are raising children and still working ?
Woman : that's not fair , after all the work I'll be very tired
Millennial man : why would you be tired when you're not doing anything
Woman : " stares in utter disbelief "you know what ? I'll get back to you

Kriss216:
June, I want to understand something, please clear me...so, your issue with Mariah is cos she refused to hate me just as you do? Isn't that witchcraft?

Well, I observed you're not as bad as others. At least you got a pure soul unlike others.

She's a hypocrite that's all

JovialJune:
If you truly have wisdom, you will caution the mumu you are fighting for, I have never seen you castigate any evil here, instead you edge them on, you are the opposite of wisdom dear, that's the bitter truth

FYI I have happiness, a whole family with kids full of happiness, same cannot be said of you it's obvious,

I have no issues with you Maria sincerely, the little period I was introduced to this forum I have noticed monikers and their thought process, which is expected, and if you notice, na everybody I dey face, whether male or female, I don't do preferences or my person or follow bandwagon and say this and that are in my group, I can never be caught in something like that even offline, but this is me telling you what I noticed, of course I can't force you to change or listen to me, all I'm saying is, it is not cool, at all.

It's how you think everyone else has a problem except you , that's irritating , I hate finger pointers and that's you
Pluck the firewood from your eye before you blow the dust in others

JovialJune:
It is this mind your business mentality that made Nigeria the way it is today

Are you saying you are pained because someone try to advice another person on his wrong doing? A person that is known for his toxic negativity on this forum?

Mother Theresa
Did you not see orphanages
There are many mad people just go outside and start gathering them , let's know that you're serious , no be just to dey give person advice
As you dey give advice try to supplement it with credit alert , so that they can listen to you
Imagine telling someone to go to a psychiatric hospital and saying it is an advice
And then I give you my own advice and your body is doing you somehow
Hypocrite

Slynation:
well, you may be right on this one afterall, but lemme focus on your intro... Perhaps let say I'm used to women dishing out sex like palliatives within a week of knowing eachother, lemme also say I'm used to women calling me a weak man/not man enough because I didn't fancy/initiated sex with them apart from loving there company and this is just the unapologetically and raw truth about me before I transformed.....

You won't believe throughout my diploma, I had about 6 GF's in total, but I didn't had sex with neither of them (just romance and kisses) I thought I was doing them a favour by preserving and reserving that promise they made to their mama, I thought having sex with a girl then means taking advantage of their naivety and vulnerabilities, until I was done with my ND and started hearing stories that touches deeply...e.g

-He's not man enough...

-He doesn't have the balls to make a woman happy

-And the most annoying comment one of them said "Maybe, he's even gay who knows" damn this one got to me down to my bone marrow, because it was the same girl that thanked me for not taking advantage of her when she took just one sip of McDowells, got tipsy and slept almost naked on my bed...

I was very mad, but in my mad state I smiled because they just awoken the other side of me and I only had one mission on my mind, I pledged to scatter and dismantle any kpekus I deemed fit for my propeller which my propeller nodded in affirmative and congratulate my wokeness...well I started with some of them during I.T and they confessed Egbe and Egbe has the same spelling but different meanings...!!

I got into the University and it was business as usual, damn....!! I made sure I recovered my lost time missed during my diploma days and quickly accelerated from 19th to 3rd position on top of the kpekus chain among my peers before I became a graduate

But will you blame me? NooO...!! Was it my fault? No...There is one thing with you ladies, they never loved that nice and good guys, but prefers the bad guys just like you picked the perceived ruthless Henry during your sec school days even when your instincts was saying otherwise...

Ladies are even breaking up with guys on the basis of "He's too nice for my liking" it may seem as though nature is rigged against the goods guys, that's more reason I hardly take any lady seriously when they start typing some imaginary stories just to attract sympthatic likes, comments and possibly favours especially from Simps...!!

So forgive my manners if I conclude whatever and however because I have seen things, I have experience things and I've heard things...!!

You're forgiven
But I believe that everyone should accept 100% responsibility for his or her actions
Saying that because of what women said that's why you want to have sex with every lady to prove a point
Or saying that because of what men said or did that's why I want to have sex with every man is playing the blame game

But I've heard of someone that his ex felt bad that she stayed with him for two nights and he didn't touch her and she was like " are you really attracted to me?" Confused person

I'm more attracted to good guys but the bad ones just keep coming
That guy that I was talking about was an active church member and a long term church staff and he was a very famous brother
I sent his photo to my friends so that I can know if I should be scared , everyone was like
Oh he's quiet
Oh he's a calm guy
Na my church boy oh
Awwwwwwwwn he's gone sef
He's always alone

Bad market he was the exact opposite , werey dey disguise

ofala:
Those who calls the present Saraki saga "witch- hunt" , abi hunchback; are yet to ask him IF he (Bukola Saraki) actually committed the offences he is being prosecuted for.

'till they ask him this simple question, their defences, are delusional

Hi you sent an email to me through nairaland, I can't log in to my old email account , so I won't be able to respond to it