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Two interesting point of views. I'll go with Grace's view.

Missy B:
Who do you want to ask??
Guy meets gurl in a mall and gurl is thrilled and exchange of
number takes place . . . .Should Gurl ask the gateman in the mall/salesgurl/customers
about Guy??

lol you meet with the dude. He's probably gon' introduce you to some friends and voila the questions begin. The questions do not even have to that personal. You just don't want to waste time finding something about him when you have found it months ago and moved on with your life.

~Sissy~:
yeah but u know it will be much harder for us women to form that type of alliance cox most of the times, most women are too jeaslous especially when it comes to the issue of men/relationships unlike men that have much of an open mined. it is no big deal to them unlike us women especially those who doesnt have one or had a bad one, they will try to make u be like them in their bad situation

You're right.

~Sauron~:
How do u intend to know my exes. . . . . . .I have not met any of ma exes in the last 36 months.
I don't call em, i don't have their contact details.
As far as i am concerned, i have no physical evidence connecting me to ma previous relationships.
Everything has been 'Ctrl + Delete'.

Nice clean up lol.

Well if you're clean, your friends (term used loosely) would definitely not hesitate to say good things about you. But if I ask and they sniffing or doing something awkward and they are like "yeah. . . he's alright" I'd instinctively know something is wrong somewhere.

~Sissy~:
but the question now is how do one know the real folks especially when it comes to asking women cox some of them are really devils in disguise (jealousy also plays a part) and instead of helping they will try to even tear the person down.

That is another part we need to work on ourselves. Cuz men would straight up tell another man, look that girl has been around the block, don't date her. We need to form that kind of alliance too.

~Sissy~:
well u made some interesting and good points, but then one has to be careful who they ask just like sauron said u might ask the wrong folks (wrong cox they will always cover him) and get the wrong answer.

i also think that "self discovery" while  it is good sometimes isnt the best. cox u no matter how investigating one does on their own there will always some things only outsiders know and can tell u about the person. so i think it is a combiantion of both. self discovery and asking some outsiders

Exactly what I am driving at. . . couldn't quite get there lol.

Missy B:
I have never and never will . . . .It's just not in my blood.
Why?? . . . I have no right to judge him (or any1) from people's notion.
           . . .What's the guarantee that I'm guhhna be fed with the right informations?
          . . .Being nosy isn't something your man or people around him will admire.Etcetera
The truth is . . . Most times, we don't even make use of the informations we've gathered.
I see it as time wastage!!

Of course you are not going to listen to everything the women say, you just weigh the opinions with what you've seen and judge if he's for you. I'm just saying that we should try to ask around in the beginning of the relationship because once you are in, asking isn’t as effective because your emotions cloud better judgment. Also, if you ask around in the beginning of the relationship, he knows you’re playing it safe, but if you ask during the relationship, it can be seen as you and sillyboy pointed out as distrust.

Missy B:
Well . . . I'm not really the 'asking-people-about -him' type
and I don't buy the idea. I'D rather look closely and discover things myself.

Is there a reason why or you just don't want to?

~Sauron~:
All the ladies that surround me(friends, colleagues, church-goers, etc) all have me back.
U are putting urself into a bigger pit if u seek their opinion about me.
I say. . . . . . .Do the observation yourself and find me out.

How about your exes? I'm sure if I build some form of alliance with some of those females you mentioned they will tell me a thing or two about your past and what I should look out for.

“Don’t believe what you hear about me”

That’s one of the few warning signs a woman should listen out for when contemplating entering into a relationship. It’s easy to believe that the rest of the world is out to hate and come between you and that “special guy” but rumors rarely start out of nowhere, and a repetitive story is more than likely to be true. Isn’t the best policy, better safe than distraught? Once all that begin to happen, you have to make inquiries of him and I don’t mean asking his close friends because their loyalty will be cemented to the man in question. Ask other women. You will be amazed at what you can find out with a simple conversation with a familiar face.

It’s quite simple, after going on a couple of dates, if he still seems like a good catch, find out his circle of friends and then look for the women nearby. Don’t be a stranger to them, introduce yourself and always keep it cordial whenever you see them, so that it isn’t a nerve racking experience when things seem to be getting serious with him and it comes time to ask. You need to get rid of the notion that any woman you don’t know is either out to steal your man or just wants to “get in your business”. Men get away with so much just because we refuse to talk to one another. You can find out so much in 48 hours of asking around, than you can find out in a year of guessing and doubting. Be brave, if you really want to know if he is a waste of your time or the greatest thing in your life . . . ask that girl that works with him, or goes to his school, or that hangs out with his brother or friend. Ask about him and then make the final decision if he is worth your love, time and affection or the bottom of your shoes. Because your heart is better safe than broken.

~Sauron~:
All these questions for me?? Am i under interrogation??
Christ!!!!

Relax, I'm sure she isn't going to ask all of them on the same day.

I think that that is one decision the parents should allow the kids to make for themselves. They are adults and they have the right to show who they are going to spend the rest of the life with and when. Of course they are exceptions such as the likes of Britney Spears.

onyinye2:
Jeez. . . . . . my accent ain't that country. I mean it is understandable but sometimes my mom is like "What? What are you talking about?". Hehehehe. . . . so yeah. But if you ever meet someone fro New Orleans, ask them to say baby. Trust you would just  melt.

lol I'll keep that in mind

onyinye2:
I love deep southern accents. Idk why because I have a country accent but it aint nothing compared to those from Mississippi.
Anyways-------> Accents are oka as long as it aint nasaly and Steve Erkel crap.

Southern accents are weird. Half of the time, I'm just reading their lips because I cannot understand they be saying lol.

Wait, what kind of things do you guys deem as respectful? Kneeing to serve you your food or what? I need examples.

sillyboy:
@ Topic.

It depends on the girl in question for me. . . .
Some girls like the "akata-ish" flavor. . . .
while some love "tiwa ntiwa". . . .
so I think its left for the guy to determine what type of girl he's about to start her project.
Less i forget. . .the British accent kills the American girls like nukes!

That accent is sexy.

@topic, I don't mind the accent as long as it isn't obvious that you are faking it.

calmosas:
@ DaPhoenix

SHUT UP!! U TALK LIKE COW

Ok bitch it’s time for me to drag you around this thread so that you can be tamed. The poster just said he raped a woman and as expected of teenagers with IQs as high as their ages you gave your bullshit response. I ignored you and when on my business and responded to the poster and you felt the need to take his dick outta your mouth and throw shade at me. I’m at a loss of words as to how a ghetto Nigerian piece of trash would think he can come foul at me and walk out unharmed. I don’t think you have love for yourself because if you did, you would sit your ugly ass down in your little corner over there while I am posting. This is only the beginning but not to worry, I will soon put you out of your misery, fucking tranny.

calmosas:
@ DaPhoenix

SHUT UP!! U TALK LIKE COW

I know you want me to grace your stupidity with my response but can you not be an attention LovePeddler right now? Stand in line and wait for your turn. When I am done with the original poster and less busy, I come to you.

~Sauron~:
There's a Yoruba man on ma street who married this woman from Thailand.
OMG!!!! Their baby is the cutest baby on this planet. Everybody i know wants to play with him.

I guess I'm marrying an Asian super model or a really cute Igbo guy. I can't risk my baby's cuteness for love lmao