 Politics / Re: Fulanis Not Responsible For Herdsmen Attacks But Boko Haram - Lokpobiri by dare2differ: 10:45am On May 11, 2016 |
I agree. These attacks cannot be perpetrated by genuine Fulani herdsmen. |
| Family / Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by dare2differ: 3:07am On May 11, 2016 |
There he goes again, read what you wrote  It is none of your business who cooks in the family. It does not make the man a lesser being neither does ‘not cooking' increases the power of the woman. If she cannot cook, it will not kill you to FEED yourself and your family. [size=14pt]
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there she goes gain.so,women has turn lesser beings for carrying out one of their major responsibilities as wife abi.ok nah! |
| Romance / Re: Guys, Are Non-virgin Ladies Unworthy Of No-sex Relationship? by dare2differ: 9:12pm On May 10, 2016 |
What is ronald4lif without sex? ronald4ever:
There should be nothing as no sex relationship. If you don't want sex stay off dating. |
| Romance / Re: When A Guy Constantly Use Pidgin English During Conversations. by dare2differ: 8:53pm On May 10, 2016 |
People can complain sha |
| Family / Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by dare2differ: 8:46pm On May 10, 2016 |
This woman case is one in a million. Her reaction does not guarantee that he won't st ill abuse her neither does it mean that he would stop abusing her. I agree that we could do more to control our reactions but let's be practical, it is acceptable to lose it too. The victim is also human, even if she does no lose it, sooner or later she would lose it too. Doubleagent008:
I see your point and that's a nice view. Domestic Abuse is really a bad stuff esp when it fulfils all criteria of Abuse e.g it's repetitive.
seriously some of us (the men) do mess up big time. A family friend was discussing with my mom the other day about what the husband does to her and I was ashamed of and for the man. this abuse was both emotional, Financial( if it is really a thing), and some level of phyisico-spiritual. Believe me the man was immature and "not man enough" in all the sense there is. but this woman did a good job on him in letting him display his folly for all to see. she did not set him up to score cheap points he was just on the express way to Fvck up land. If it was another woman, she would get physical, ranting, cursing and stuff like that and it will be worse. so you see what I mean, A Lady should be calm and display her elegant wisdom while a useless "man" sets himself up for downfall. even his own family members castigate him on how he treats the wife.
We all can do better that's all I know.
Like how you address issues. you didn't lose your reasoning in a sea of Emotions |
| Family / Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by dare2differ: 8:38pm On May 10, 2016 |
I understand what you are trying to say but I don't quite agree that it is a mere contributive factor. nkemdi89:
I guess we are on a parallel side on these issue as you seem not to decipher the point I am trying to make, what concerns brother, father or an abusive home in all these I said? It can be a contributive factor, but that isn't my point. |
| Politics / Re: Who Within The PDP Has The Best Chances Of Wining The APC In 2019?- Opinion Poll by dare2differ: 8:16pm On May 10, 2016 |
Are you high? chikel2000:
For me Fayose, he has the entire support of the south east n south south, maybe 65% of those in south west, majority in north central. He just need to step up his game to suit dos in the north. My opinion though 3 Likes |
| Family / Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by dare2differ: 5:22pm On May 10, 2016 |
In other words, cooking is a chore meant for lesser human beings You don kolo huntax:
This is complete BS. Let me give an instance.
Assuming you live with your father(maybe ur mum lives abroad). You work, ur father also works... Would u come back from work and tell ur dad he also needs to join u in the kitchen to help out with washing plates?
Let me also remind you, once u get married, u will have to respect your husband like you respect your father.
I'm not saying u should kneel to greet him or anything like that, but really respect him.
The husband is always the head of the house, that is a gift from God. He will only help out in the kitchen if he wants to, but he doesn't HAVE to.
All that respect would only go out the window the day he raises his hand against u (as he has clearly disrespected you too). 2 Likes |
| Politics / Re: Fayose: I’m Qualified For Vice President Position In 2019 by dare2differ: 11:45am On May 10, 2016 |
Omo ale Yorubas know themselves Mufasa27:
I see a lot of yoruba folk talking trash about Ayodele osoko fayose, I won't blame u though, most you have been brainwashed and some of u are all blind to the facts....
Whether you like it or not this man (fayose) is going places and there is nothing nobody can do about it..
You might be wondering what tribe I represent??
I'm full blooded yoruba guy but I'm not a zombie and I havnt been brainwashed like most of y'all. 3 Likes |
| Literature / Re: 7 Must Read Books By African Authors by dare2differ: 7:39am On May 10, 2016 |
I miss my African books. Time to start reading again
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| Family / Re: Woman Shares Her Own Sad Tale Of Domestic Violence by dare2differ: 3:58am On May 10, 2016 |
 Domestic abuse is kind of a process. Most times, the perpetrators make the victims financially handicap to lessen their power and make it harder for them to leave. Also, they would rather endure it than have their kids suffer. It is a complicated matter. ronald4lif:
The problem with most victims of domestic abuse is that they are usually financially handicapped and have no source of personal income. They depend on their hubby for everything, even things as little as maggi cubes and tampons. Every woman must learn to be self-reliant so they don't have to stay tight in an abusive affair. It's obvious that the only reason this lady is still in this affair is coz she doesn't have any other source of livelihood.
It's debasing and beats common sense why anyone, regardless of their sex, would depend on another for their every individual needs. I have no pity for her and women of her ilks who hides under the umbrella of marriage to abdicate their life goals and quest for personal development while becoming a liability to their partner cum modernised vassals. |
| Family / Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by dare2differ: 3:44am On May 10, 2016 |
makavel7:
From this your rant I dont need to be guru maraji to know that your woman wears the pants in your house. You definitely must be a jobless house husband to have enough time to cook, wash your wife's pants and diligently keep the house clean waiting for your emperor to come back from work. Pathetic!!! You said you have boys, I pray they dont end up like their father. Are you trying to tell is that not cooking makes you a man? People getting dumber these days sha |
| Family / Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by dare2differ: 3:32am On May 10, 2016 |
Thanks. Seun:
I am so sorry about this topic. We have dropped it from the home page. Victim blaming is something that should never be condoned. It's not bad to say, 'here are the things you can do to protect yourself', but to say that the people who have been abused are the "main cause" is evil. |
| Family / Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by dare2differ: 6:18pm On May 09, 2016 |
I am not saying the action of that woman is wise, but you can't tell me that im her own rational way, it is her right. what she wanted is either to stop him or make him sweat before he leaves, she doesn't care if he beats her up but she does have a genuine reason. Domestic abuse in its ordinary form has little or nothing to do with wisdom. Victims are often fearful to act or speak in a certain way. For some victims, they no longer care. They are still fearful but it won't stop them from defending themselves through words or actions in any situation. An example is the present scenario, I know the woman very well. she is not educated though and she has done her very best including calling several family meetings. He beats her on a normal day. Whether or not he beats her again before squandering their resources no longer matters to her. GANJAFARMER:
Lol , I'm not making any excuse for any form of abuse that goes on in every home and I do not also agree that for every verbal abuse a man gets from his wife is entirely his fault .
If a man squanders the little resources left for the house upkeep there are better ways to call such men to order by reminding them of their duty but physically trying to stop him from going out from his own house at his own will is the silliest thing any woman would do to restrain a man from squandering their limited resources if he's a spendthrift by nature. In fact it is a disaster trying to stop him when his plan to spend has been already hatched awaiting harvest. What if he's even drunk at the moment ? You've not stopped his drinking habit but you want to cage him with the use of force? Lmao 
Finally, if the force is applied and the woman is still hell bent on dragging on as far as you're willing to go , then you'll reacess your position and if there is nothing , then people like me will call it quit. Lest the beating becomes a habit. I'm not blaming victims of domestic abuse here but I'm simply saying that women with wisdom do not even give you that opportunity to go bananas on them , only the dumb ones does that. |
| Family / Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by dare2differ: 6:09pm On May 09, 2016 |
So you chose your brothers and your father? . If you grow up in an abusive home where you have been made to understand that abuse is the only way to solve issues. You can't fully blame them unless you have tried to get them help nkemdi89:
No one is to be blamed fully for that, they make themselves the victim by choosing that type of life, behavioural pattern and disorder of an individual are mostly voluntary. These type of people derives pleasure in pain, a situation when a woman confesses she can't enjoy sex unless she is subjected to pain, in order to achieve that she will have to infuriate her partner so that it will lead to physical infliction of pain on her as long as she achieves the end result. |
| Family / Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by dare2differ: 5:59pm On May 09, 2016 |
We shouldn't make domestic abuse a gender thing. It can also be financial, emotional, verbal and psychological. For every promise a man makes not to hit a woman, a woman must also make the same promise and vice versa. What about we encourage people not to control others with any means of coercion? Doubleagent008:
Amen thank you for the prayer. we all need it.
like I have stated, I'm in no support of it. thanks for presenting those statistics. then I think definition of terms would come in handy here so that we aren't lumping different things together as one.
domestic Violence on one side hitting a woman on another.
I as a man I would eternally be ashamed should I hit my wife ( my personal principle) - this I believe is what qualifies as domestic Abuse right? I won't hit my wife. I made vows to love and protect my LADY( first step to prevent myself from such shame would be to get myself a LADY). that is a promise I have to keep beating her up at any provocation invalidates those vows. Keeping to your word is the principle of a man. please get me right. I have not supported domestic violence ( he is your wife - your pride and trouble you signed the contract deal with it). but what I am talking about is the erroneous belief that every woman can do as she please even to the state of being physical with a man and get away with it ( simply because she is a woman). the first rule is protect yourself first. you don't go rubbing petrol on your body and hoping that the fire would be nice and considerate enough not to burn you. A woman should behave like a Lady. my reference here is to the instance the guy I quoted gave as regards the situation in the banking hall... what the lady did was uncalled for. Kudos to the guy that he exercise restraint. Bravo!! but for a guy who didn't I won't join the band wagon that will shout " send him to the gallows" because the said woman or girl could have behaved as a lady and talk to the guy about her displeasure at his remarks...
Like someone said, Dead men don't explain ( something like that).
I have got a mom and I love her and it would kill me to see someone physically abuse my mother outside. But as have also not heard of it that my mother put herself in a risky situation of unladylike behavior. that's all I am saying. 1 Like |
| Family / Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by dare2differ: 5:55pm On May 09, 2016 |
I know but you can only blame their brothers, fathers and mothers nkemdi89:
Yes it mostly for those perverts who are into fetishism, although it's not normal because it can be attributed to a psychological disorder. |
| Family / Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by dare2differ: 5:54pm On May 09, 2016 |
You'll need to be a woman to understand the pains married women go through. Don't tell me I don't know what i am saying. What on earth would make a man attack his wife's disabled painful leg? You sincerely do not want to listen to that excuse. I know a woman who restricts her husband whenever he is going out because she knows that his going out means wasting the limited resources they hav. What about a woman who lost her left ear? What about the one that had acid thrown on her...and so many more. What I understand is...we are all humans, we face pressures and I am going to disagree with you if you tell me that your reality is more serious than mine. It isn't. What is not wrong is wrong. No further explanation. The reason I am not going to agree with your 'fact' is because I can also argue that for every time a woman initiated abuse usually verbal, it is a man's fault. It could be due to certain actions of his etc. However I am not going to go into that argument with you because it is exactly what I am trying to avoid...the blame argument. I don't subscribe to it because it never ends and it does not solve anything. It has never helped to straighten perpetrators. BTW I have nothing against the man's action. What if the woman continued her madness after the little force? It won't be the best to raise kids in such environment. Personally, I think the limit should be the second time if the first one was not severe. However I was hoping you would think otherwise based on your earlier submissions  . GANJAFARMER:
You'll need to be a man first to understand the enormous pressure that comes with our nature.
Last year someone I know divorced his wife simply because she held him hostage against his will and bruised his face.
What I'm saying is that if he had applied a little force, the woman would have understood that there are curtain line you don't cross and expect not to see the demon you're trying to wake up. Now he's divorced against her own wish even with all the begging from relations from both side of the divide. If he as a man had set the record straight they would have created an avenue to discuss over it and ultimatum passed without resorting to divorce because he felt his ego was bruised and he's afraid that it will repeat again.
A lot of times women initiate the cycle of violence by going on the offensive strongly or subtly and you need to do what is necessary to bring her back into line else you'll remain miserable and helpless before her and this is what all women want .  |
| Family / Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by dare2differ: 5:39pm On May 09, 2016 |
You live your life in illusion. Women that wants a beating to end in a hot steamy love session are obviously into BDSM. nkemdi89:
Most women live their lives in illusion, some believe by slapping or hitting their man first it will always end in hot steamy love session according to what they view in most foreign movies, some always keep bad companies that gives them negative advice on the way to handle their man. |
| Family / Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by dare2differ: 5:37pm On May 09, 2016 |
If you can refrain from beating your children, why should it be harder to refrain from hitting the person you lay ? omooba969:
@bolded,
Must you even hit your child?
What a warped post ! |
| Family / Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by dare2differ: 5:33pm On May 09, 2016 |
Some men act like possessed beings. And wicked women and men are both deadly. Start thinking like someone with sense tonquendo4u:
Just pray to continue meeting good women.Dont judge others until you've BN in their shoes.What do u do when ur wife tears d original documents to d only landed property u toiled ur ass to possess?Guy some women can act like possessed people.i don't support domestic violence but I don't judge them till I hear from both parties.Wicked women are deadlier that wicked meb 1 Like |
| Family / Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by dare2differ: 5:27pm On May 09, 2016 |
I don't know the statistics in Nigeria but I am familiar with UK statistics. At least two women die every week from domestic abuse that mean domestic abuse from those close to them, most especially their male partners. I ams ure it would be worse in Nigeria because it is some kind of an unwritten rule that a man is allowed to hit his wife but not too much. So continue to analyse every situation, may it not be your turn! Doubleagent008:
I am more of the school of thought that believe that the original saying was " don't lay your hands on a LADY". Some women practically beg for it. e.g getting physical with a man, locking up his shirt almost strangling him, slapping and kicking him and his only way of escape is to send one or two brain resetting slaps to the woman. So now u are going to blame him?
A lady should be a Lady and a man should be a Man by appreciating and respecting a lady.
I personally don't beat a lady never have I done that since I have come of age. I try to avoid the situation totally.
I Like what you have up there. Those screaming never beat a lady are just singing a popular mantra. I personally analyse every situation before I crucify a guy for beating a lady. 3 Likes |
| Family / Re: 6 ways women can avoid domestic violence. by dare2differ: 5:25pm On May 09, 2016 |
I do not care about gender but I do care about human. Blaming victims of domestic abuse is na insult on humanity. Unless you understand their psychology, it is insane to think for them., Therefore your number is null and void. Verbal and physical abuse are the same although one tends to be more severe than the other. SO I will undertsand a man who slaps his wife because she was 'verbally abusive' and i mean verbal abuse in its ordinary meaning noty some philosophical BS. I can also understand a man who hits his wife [b]WHEN [/b]he caught her cheating (I mean immediate not some abuse that took time to plan). Those reactions are normal and human. I understand that humans have emotions and are capable of reacting to provocation. God bless you if it result to grievous bodily harm or death  . However I also understand that any abuse beyond those normal human reaction is madness. Any one acting with outside normal human reaction deserve to be in jail for the rest of their lives. If I asked you to go and cook your food and you raised your hand, na then you know say I be confam omo oko. My great grandfather cannot help your case neither will my dad. Toks2008, whenever you write, you do nothing but further your misogynistic views. Keep destroying our mor.onic youths, I pray none of them come close to me or someone I know because by the time I am through with them. They will search for you and ask you why you led astray. 5 Likes |
| Family / Re: Woman Celebrates Her Marriage Breakup With Cake by dare2differ: 4:06pm On May 09, 2016 |
May God grant you sense! Useless thing! marlockj:
Jst Lik mo.ron is in d dictionary so are ugly ppl...
The truth is we Hv good or bad....
Pass or failure
Man or woman...
Boy or girl...
Tall or short...
Beautiful or ugly
You can't deny this and Ppl Mst fall under them...
I Hv ugly relations and I tell them Dat they are....
If am ugly am ugly and There is no need to deceive oneself.....
Jst as u call me immature, it was in the dictionary for Ppl to use, Jst as u Hv used it....
So wen u see someone Dat is immature call them immature, Jst as I do to ugly ppl....
Because he can't create herself, Dats a more reason the word ugly shuld b directed to ugly ppl...
Ask urself if the word is not use,What is it essence in d dictionary?
if u Hv mre words to call me,u are free afterall it was not in dictionary for fun
Are u Okk nw? |
| Celebrities / Re: "Why Teebillz Tested Negative To Cocaine’ – Medical Expert by dare2differ: 5:39am On May 09, 2016 |
This shows that ypu are not very smart. Stephrocks:
This shows how Nigerian universities have failed to produce Good Laboratory Technicians or whatever they call it.
If you are a drug addict that is someone that uses drugs even if you don't use it for 4days it is still going to show in your body by blood,urine tests. If teebillz tested negative for drugs two things can be said here it is either tiwa is lying or he bribed the Lab.
Why do you think athletes cheat during drug tests?. |
| Family / Re: Woman Celebrates Her Marriage Breakup With Cake by dare2differ: 10:15pm On May 08, 2016 |
 Mindfulness:
Very well said. 
Take it easy hun, shallow people feel empty inside. 
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| Family / Re: Woman Celebrates Her Marriage Breakup With Cake by dare2differ: 6:53pm On May 08, 2016 |
Can't you see that she created herself? In fact she designed the way she wanted to look You are a mor..on for insulting others for what they have no control over. Most of you that do this usually have uglier family members and relatives. You do not call people ‘ugly' because it is the truth. You don't do it because it is the mature and intelligent thing to do. Saying truth at all times does not make you intelligent or straightforward, it makes you daf.t. Whether she is ugly or not, she is attractive to someone out there. Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. Keep your fingers off his thread if you have got nothing good to say. Yes, I am ugly but you are a waste of space and an immature little thing! marlockj:
Guy Dat girl is ugly period!!!
Ugly was not in dictionary for funny......they knew that definitely There Mst b ugly things and this is one of them......
Ur defending her Cuz ur one!!!!!haha.....
Unfortunately am one of those who speak the truth....you fine I tell u...u no fine I tell u.....afterall u will Nt beat me....
If am ugly tell me simple 1 Like |
| Family / Re: Woman Celebrates Her Marriage Breakup With Cake by dare2differ: 6:19pm On May 08, 2016 |
That must be some ****** assumption. VitaminB12:
The import of my statement is that her looks is like that of a fighter and if and only if, there were cases of abuse or domestic violence, she can't be completely innocent.
Am not bipolar |
| Family / Re: Woman Celebrates Her Marriage Breakup With Cake by dare2differ: 6:10pm On May 08, 2016 |
Sunseeker:
Im sure the x husband has also endured !
See her ugly face and shapleless waist....Im sure she has no children, plus she has NO RESPECT for any her inlaws.. UNCLASSY.. rejected fool.
Your mum sounds awful |
| Family / Re: Woman Celebrates Her Marriage Breakup With Cake by dare2differ: 5:54pm On May 08, 2016 |
I was beginning to agree with you until I read that last part. Are you bipolar? VitaminB12:
All of you saying abuse are being presumptious. Was the reason for the divorce stated? Who filed the divorce? Husband or wifey? If abuse was the reason, who was the victim? Forget...that party could be a face saving theatrics because to me, she looks like the abuser with such manliness written all over her okporoko body. |
| Family / Re: Woman Celebrates Her Marriage Breakup With Cake by dare2differ: 5:52pm On May 08, 2016 |
Let's see a picture of your mama and your sisters Make you create human being Na Oloshi! marlockj:
Bt this girl is ugly Na.....why will a man refuse to divorce this one....
Some men are crazy ohh 1 Like |
| Family / Re: Woman Celebrates Her Marriage Breakup With Cake by dare2differ: 5:50pm On May 08, 2016 |
Shame on your mother chiefolododo:
Shame on her, she cannot endure.she is still going to miss all those beatings of her life she received from her dear boo |
